Fantasy

[Bighammerfucker]

How do you get aroused by sexual fantasy? I used to be really aroused by the fantasies I had, which I still enjoy. But after a traumatic time frame, I stopped being able to become aroused by fantasy. I still get aroused from sex dreams, and sometimes from a sexy situation in person, and on occasion a sexy post online.

But my own brain seems to have lost the ability to become aroused by a sexual fantasy. Sexual thoughts just don’t seem to trigger any arousal anymore. They’re just nice, and appealing, and I find them to be sexy, but don’t ever turn me on. They didn’t become less sexy to me, they just stopped being able to trigger arousal. I haven’t tried having sex since all of this happened either, I’m not sure how I would go about becoming aroused in terms of having sex with someone else.

Has anyone ever experienced this before? What did you do to help?

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Things change for sure but I haven't experienced what you seem to be going through. Lots of the time not thinking too much into anything is the best remedy and just being a blank slate, sometimes surprising things will happen. I definitely don't get as aroused by thinking as I used to, but definitely get as aroused as ever with things in plain sight. Cheers!! and good luck. Maybe this image of my wife, with my painting, will get you aroused! lol. much love.

 

[likitisplit]

i still have a fantasy i hope to get help with. a friend jo me and as i get close i position myself with my legs over my head and i'm pointed at my face. he reminds me not to swallow as i begin to shoot into my open mouth. when through i get on my knees and he uses his head to push my cum into my throat.

 

[SubmissiveSnowflake]

My fantasies work best if I build them up in my mind during the day and then the fantasy sex happens as the grand finale when I'm ready to play. If I don't have anything in mind, I might just watch porn but I prefer fantasy more.

 

[PeteyPP]

Things change for sure but I haven't experienced what you seem to be going through. Lots of the time not thinking too much into anything is the best remedy and just being a blank slate, sometimes surprising things will happen. I definitely don't get as aroused by thinking as I used to, but definitely get as aroused as ever with things in plain sight. Cheers!! and good luck. Maybe this image of my wife, with my painting, will get you aroused! lol. much love.

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She sext as fuck Shag. That cream pie is making my mouth water.
Do me a favor and send her this fantasy I created for another lister it definitely got me hard typing it for her.



I came home from cards the other night. I had a
beers and was feeling pretty good.
Walking pass your room I heard something almost like you were whimpering a bit .I was just loud enough to pique my curiosity. And stop me in my tracks.
I stood outside your door I heard the wimpers get louder turning into moans. It only took a second or two to surmise what was going on in there. I knew I should probably just go to my room and try to get some sleep but my dick wouldn't let my feet move. I looked down and saw the door wasn't closed all the way . That's probably why I was able to hear you in the first place.
I pushed on the door just a little bit. I felt my dick getting harder as I did . I only needed to push the door open a few inches to be able to see you in the big mirror on your bureau.
My God you looked so sexy girl . Your ebony skin glistening from the slight sheen of sweat.
Your naked breast swaying . My ass clenched as I felt a rush of blood of followed by several more pulsed into my cock which was and is getting harder by the second.
Gathering in the scene before I realized you were grinding your face into Mr Giggles the giant bear I won you on the boardwalk when you were younger.
I knew it was wrong and I should just get walking down the hall but I was spellbound.My hand went instinctively to my dick as your beauty overtook me.
You began moaning louder .and quicken your pace. Grinding your pussy into that bears face.Damn this is so hot. You start to shake . By this point I'm stroking my dick through my shorts.
At this point I notice your laptop is open your watching a sweet little chocolate goddess getting spit roasted. An olde white guy is pounding you doing style while this young Jamaican guy with one of the biggest Carmel cocks I've ever seen is face fucking her.
I wonder what you would think if you knew I was watching. Then the thought came to me that maybe just maybe you knew I would be coming home soon. You had purposely left the door just slightly ajar so you would be able to hear me walking by and that my footsteps hitting the floor was your que to start the show.
And what a show it was.
The two guys in the video switched positions.. The young buck hi dick wet from the blow job began rubbing his head on her rosebud while the old man Mauled her tits with one hand while he smacked his pussy soaked dick across her face leaving trails of precum and girl juice across her pretty black face. He pushes his dick into her mouth so she could taste her own juices on him. This motion pushes her back and opens her ass for the young bulls member
Your in a frenzy now you cunt soaking wet. You feel the.vears face getting wetter and wetter as your juices flow
The old man pulls his dick out of mouth and begins stroking it violently the girl lifts one hand and begins to play with his balls as the other dick is invading her until then virgin ass. She brings her hand to her face and licks her finger and the reaches back up between the old man's legs ashe violently beats his now swollen and purple meat.She teasingly circle.his anus before pushing it in , quickly finding his prostate and beginning to massage it . It's more then the old man can take and he begins to shoot rope after rope of hot sticky cume all over her angelic face.
I know you close your body begins to convulse as your orgasm over takes you I hear you scream out that's it Daddy cum for me and I happily obliged.
Damn it's getting hard to type. Thinking about you has got me so hard. I have to stop every few paragraphs to stroke myself. Brought myself to the edge twice now. My dick is twitching as I hump in the air to the weight of my blanket thinking about how nice it would be to have you riding me. Your tits bouncing in the air I reach up and squeeze your nipples. Then you lower your breast and graze your nipples all over my face then push it into my mouth I suck on it hard . The more I bite it the more frenzied you get . Your body pistoning up and and down on my shaft. I fell you explode your girl cum all over my dick.
Fuck I have to cum

 

[MeetMyNeeds_IWillMeetYours]

How do you get aroused by sexual fantasy? I used to be really aroused by the fantasies I had, which I still enjoy. But after a traumatic time frame, I stopped being able to become aroused by fantasy. I still get aroused from sex dreams, and sometimes from a sexy situation in person, and on occasion a sexy post online.

But my own brain seems to have lost the ability to become aroused by a sexual fantasy. Sexual thoughts just don’t seem to trigger any arousal anymore. They’re just nice, and appealing, and I find them to be sexy, but don’t ever turn me on. They didn’t become less sexy to me, they just stopped being able to trigger arousal. I haven’t tried having sex since all of this happened either, I’m not sure how I would go about becoming aroused in terms of having sex with someone else.

Has anyone ever experienced this before? What did you do to help?

Yes, actually. It bothers me that I can't get aroused anymore by pure sexual fantasy/mental scenarios. It's not like my imagination is less active. I just can't cum solely from my thoughts anymore. And I really enjoy "world building" in my head too. I can get kinda turned on, but that's about it.

Have you tried erotic audio? I just have to depend on erotica, audio, & porn (obviously not all at once) to make up for my fantasy deficits. But there really is an entire beautiful world of erotic audio out there & it can be so very sexy, fun, & thrilling.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Has anyone ever experienced this before? What did you do to help?

Yep. And I'm pretty sure it's from watching porn. Porn lights up your brain like almost nothing else. After a while the imagination just can't compete with the level of detail porn brings.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I think that arousal, and self-arousal, is somethings that changes over time. I used to masturbate every morning in the shower. I would think about an old girlfriend and get hard and stroke myself until I blew a load. I did that for a couple of years, I think.

Then, I found porn online and sex chatting, and my masturbation began to center on that. I also thought I had lost the ability to just think about something hot, get hard, and jerk off.

And now, I find I wake up with a hardon pretty often and have no trouble getting off with or without online assistance. Porn does not have to become an obsession. It can be an option.

 

[hulmule]

Try taking a break from it all. Sometimes i think that's the issues. Watching , reading to much porn just over stimulates. Kinda like getting a buzz, you new more and more to get that high.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

She sext as fuck Shag. That cream pie is making my mouth water.
Do me a favor and send her this fantasy I created for another lister it definitely got me hard typing it for her.



I came home from cards the other night. I had a
beers and was feeling pretty good.
Walking pass your room I heard something almost like you were whimpering a bit .I was just loud enough to pique my curiosity. And stop me in my tracks.
I stood outside your door I heard the wimpers get louder turning into moans. It only took a second or two to surmise what was going on in there. I knew I should probably just go to my room and try to get some sleep but my dick wouldn't let my feet move. I looked down and saw the door wasn't closed all the way . That's probably why I was able to hear you in the first place.
I pushed on the door just a little bit. I felt my dick getting harder as I did . I only needed to push the door open a few inches to be able to see you in the big mirror on your bureau.
My God you looked so sexy girl . Your ebony skin glistening from the slight sheen of sweat.
Your naked breast swaying . My ass clenched as I felt a rush of blood of followed by several more pulsed into my cock which was and is getting harder by the second.
Gathering in the scene before I realized you were grinding your face into Mr Giggles the giant bear I won you on the boardwalk when you were younger.
I knew it was wrong and I should just get walking down the hall but I was spellbound.My hand went instinctively to my dick as your beauty overtook me.
You began moaning louder .and quicken your pace. Grinding your pussy into that bears face.Damn this is so hot. You start to shake . By this point I'm stroking my dick through my shorts.
At this point I notice your laptop is open your watching a sweet little chocolate goddess getting spit roasted. An olde white guy is pounding you doing style while this young Jamaican guy with one of the biggest Carmel cocks I've ever seen is face fucking her.
I wonder what you would think if you knew I was watching. Then the thought came to me that maybe just maybe you knew I would be coming home soon. You had purposely left the door just slightly ajar so you would be able to hear me walking by and that my footsteps hitting the floor was your que to start the show.
And what a show it was.
The two guys in the video switched positions.. The young buck hi dick wet from the blow job began rubbing his head on her rosebud while the old man Mauled her tits with one hand while he smacked his pussy soaked dick across her face leaving trails of precum and girl juice across her pretty black face. He pushes his dick into her mouth so she could taste her own juices on him. This motion pushes her back and opens her ass for the young bulls member
Your in a frenzy now you cunt soaking wet. You feel the.vears face getting wetter and wetter as your juices flow
The old man pulls his dick out of mouth and begins stroking it violently the girl lifts one hand and begins to play with his balls as the other dick is invading her until then virgin ass. She brings her hand to her face and licks her finger and the reaches back up between the old man's legs ashe violently beats his now swollen and purple meat.She teasingly circle.his anus before pushing it in , quickly finding his prostate and beginning to massage it . It's more then the old man can take and he begins to shoot rope after rope of hot sticky cume all over her angelic face.
I know you close your body begins to convulse as your orgasm over takes you I hear you scream out that's it Daddy cum for me and I happily obliged.
Damn it's getting hard to type. Thinking about you has got me so hard. I have to stop every few paragraphs to stroke myself. Brought myself to the edge twice now. My dick is twitching as I hump in the air to the weight of my blanket thinking about how nice it would be to have you riding me. Your tits bouncing in the air I reach up and squeeze your nipples. Then you lower your breast and graze your nipples all over my face then push it into my mouth I suck on it hard . The more I bite it the more frenzied you get . Your body pistoning up and and down on my shaft. I fell you explode your girl cum all over my dick.
Fuck I have to cum

Epic. Cheers

 

[OlderFitterWiser]

Things change for sure but I haven't experienced what you seem to be going through. Lots of the time not thinking too much into anything is the best remedy and just being a blank slate, sometimes surprising things will happen. I definitely don't get as aroused by thinking as I used to, but definitely get as aroused as ever with things in plain sight. Cheers!! and good luck. Maybe this image of my wife, with my painting, will get you aroused! lol. much love.

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Works for me.

 

[OlderFitterWiser]

Works for me .

 

[Lingerie_Dreams]

Things change for sure but I haven't experienced what you seem to be going through. Lots of the time not thinking too much into anything is the best remedy and just being a blank slate, sometimes surprising things will happen. I definitely don't get as aroused by thinking as I used to, but definitely get as aroused as ever with things in plain sight. Cheers!! and good luck. Maybe this image of my wife, with my painting, will get you aroused! lol. much love.

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Fuckkkk mega gorgeous

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Fuckkkk mega gorgeous

Indeed!

 

[PeteyPP]

Indeed!

Shes so fuckin sexy had to cum back and take another look tonight

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Shes so fuckin sexy had to cum back and take another look tonight

She’ll be glad to know!!

 

[Bighammerfucker]

Yes, actually. It bothers me that I can't get aroused anymore by pure sexual fantasy/mental scenarios. It's not like my imagination is less active. I just can't cum solely from my thoughts anymore. And I really enjoy "world building" in my head too. I can get kinda turned on, but that's about it.

Have you tried erotic audio? I just have to depend on erotica, audio, & porn (obviously not all at once) to make up for my fantasy deficits. But there really is an entire beautiful world of erotic audio out there & it can be so very sexy, fun, & thrilling.

It sounds like we are in the same situation. Do you know what caused it for you?

 

[Bighammerfucker]

I think that arousal, and self-arousal, is somethings that changes over time. I used to masturbate every morning in the shower. I would think about an old girlfriend and get hard and stroke myself until I blew a load. I did that for a couple of years, I think.

Then, I found porn online and sex chatting, and my masturbation began to center on that. I also thought I had lost the ability to just think about something hot, get hard, and jerk off.

And now, I find I wake up with a hardon pretty often and have no trouble getting off with or without online assistance. Porn does not have to become an obsession. It can be an option.

I’ve never looked at porn much though I used to read a lot of erotica back in the day. I stopped reading years back though so I don’t think it’s relevant, but, I do think maybe going from times when I had experienced a lot of arousing situations irl back to a time when I’m not in as many arousing situations irl may play a factor? I think I had gotten bored of fantasy back when I was faced with arousing situations irl. After all, irl is always better. But when that tapered off, my fantasies never fully reset.

In this day and age, I’d say I mostly become aroused from my dreams. I tend to have sex dreams often on my days off, which can be very arousing. Fair, they involve fantasies that I fully know are not accessible to me irl. I wonder if it’s not that I find them less arousing, but that during waking I don’t mentally invest as much because I know they can’t be real. But during sleep, my subconscious is more apt to explore what it finds arousing and enjoy it more fully, maybe

 

[MeetMyNeeds_IWillMeetYours]

It sounds like we are in the same situation. Do you know what caused it for you?

I'm not 100% sure. But a lot of meds for depression and anxiety directly affect sexual function and sex drive. That's a fact that most seem to overlook when discussing women with low sex drive on this site; a topic for another day, though.

I know you mentioned a traumatic event for you. I don't think my trauma had anything to do with it, but I also recognize that of my mental health knowledge, I am deficient in recognizing what behaviors/lack thereof are the result of my trauma.
So, due to the meds, I went a long time there without orgasms. Perhaps, there is a practice-makes-perfect side of sexual fantasies that I missed out on during that time.

Is it annoying to not derive the same sexual arousal/fulfillment from my fantasies? Yes.
But do I also have other sexual victories that outweigh that? Yes.
For me, having orgasms again is huge. So, if you're unable to get to the root cause and/or find a direct solution, I do sincerely hope you are able to find more sexual pros that outweigh the cons .

 

[Bighammerfucker]

I'm not 100% sure. But a lot of meds for depression and anxiety directly affect sexual function and sex drive. That's a fact that most seem to overlook when discussing women with low sex drive on this site; a topic for another day, though.

I know you mentioned a traumatic event for you. I don't think my trauma had anything to do with it, but I also recognize that of my mental health knowledge, I am deficient in recognizing what behaviors/lack thereof are the result of my trauma.
So, due to the meds, I went a long time there without orgasms. Perhaps, there is a practice-makes-perfect side of sexual fantasies that I missed out on during that time.

Is it annoying to not derive the same sexual arousal/fulfillment from my fantasies? Yes.
But do I also have other sexual victories that outweigh that? Yes.
For me, having orgasms again is huge. So, if you're unable to get to the root cause and/or find a direct solution, I do sincerely hope you are able to find more sexual pros that outweigh the cons .

This is interesting, because I actually quite thought that this was related for me too, but came about in a different way. I did not take medication, but I had a very (very) high sex drive pre-2020, in which I would have orgasms quite a lot, fantasies quite a lot. In 2020 I entered a mental health crisis in which I developed body dysmorphic disorder and an eating disorder. I did later learn that eating disorder brings about physiological changes which can alter sex drive in women especially, due to a decrease in natural estrogen with abnormally low body weight (which described me at the time). However, my sex drive did not go back to the way it was before my ED when I was able to get my mental health back under control. It did go up, though, and I did notice upon gaining a healthy body weight again that it went up then as well. But I had theorized that perhaps something as simple as having less orgasms contributed to my brain “forgetting” a bit how to experience such extreme sexual fulfillment. I can still get aroused and have orgasm but it doesn’t feel like the brain pathways are as “well used”. I have also read before that orgasms are almost like a feedback loop and that having more will increase sex drive naturally. Perhaps there is more to this theory than I previously thought because potentially what you’ve said about medication, and my own experience with mental illness could have both triggered a decrease in sex drive simply by making orgasm less attainable.

I wish then there was a way to just simply have more orgasm and increase drive, but I personally am not someone who’s ever been able to just, have satisfying orgasms due to just deciding to masturbate. I need to achieve a state of arousal first and my range of what I found arousing even before the loss of drive wasn’t huge, so without it (and when you add in my worsened ability to concentrate, because my mental health crisis worsened my ADHD in ways I haven’t recovered from etc), it is hard to have any rewarding experience with masturbation without having to try quite hard to focus, and my drive is so low when it comes to others that I haven’t desire to have sex with anyone else in over 2 years.

Sorry that was a lot. But what you said really made me think, lol

 

[MeetMyNeeds_IWillMeetYours]

This is interesting, because I actually quite thought that this was related for me too, but came about in a different way. I did not take medication, but I had a very (very) high sex drive pre-2020, in which I would have orgasms quite a lot, fantasies quite a lot. In 2020 I entered a mental health crisis in which I developed body dysmorphic disorder and an eating disorder. I did later learn that eating disorder brings about physiological changes which can alter sex drive in women especially, due to a decrease in natural estrogen with abnormally low body weight (which described me at the time). However, my sex drive did not go back to the way it was before my ED when I was able to get my mental health back under control. It did go up, though, and I did notice upon gaining a healthy body weight again that it went up then as well. But I had theorized that perhaps something as simple as having less orgasms contributed to my brain “forgetting” a bit how to experience such extreme sexual fulfillment. I can still get aroused and have orgasm but it doesn’t feel like the brain pathways are as “well used”. I have also read before that orgasms are almost like a feedback loop and that having more will increase sex drive naturally. Perhaps there is more to this theory than I previously thought because potentially what you’ve said about medication, and my own experience with mental illness could have both triggered a decrease in sex drive simply by making orgasm less attainable.

I wish then there was a way to just simply have more orgasm and increase drive, but I personally am not someone who’s ever been able to just, have satisfying orgasms due to just deciding to masturbate. I need to achieve a state of arousal first and my range of what I found arousing even before the loss of drive wasn’t huge, so without it (and when you add in my worsened ability to concentrate, because my mental health crisis worsened my ADHD in ways I haven’t recovered from etc), it is hard to have any rewarding experience with masturbation without having to try quite hard to focus, and my drive is so low when it comes to others that I haven’t desire to have sex with anyone else in over 2 years.

Sorry that was a lot. But what you said really made me think, lol

Hey, you don't ever have to apologize for being a bit verbose when it comes to expressing your truth. These are real topics that matter but that often get looked down on by others who don't have to deal with it.
So, thank you for sharing. I'm glad your gears got turning.
Well, while there aren't many prescription sexual enhancement aids marketed for women (although, again, this is a very real, very rampant issue), there are various supplements made for women. Obviously, these utilize naturally occurring substances or a synthetic form thereof.

In regards to finding masturbation inspiration for you (and since you've always required more incentive than the next person), I will ask again if you've tried erotic audio? You know, there are a lot more avenues out there for initiating and maintaining arousal (from an inspiration sense). While porn is great, it is limiting. Erotica and audio allow for a more customizable experience. There's also hentai. There are more possibilities that you have to open yourself up to in order to meet your new needs. That's ultimately what you're experiencing. Your arousal needs have changed and now we gotta find new ways to meet those needs.

I'd be very remiss if I didn't say I'm happy that you overcame your ED battle and are healthy again. I know each day may present new battles, but you're facing things head on. So great for you!

 

[cuck72]

My fantasies always involve a person I know and it's usually a guy I know. Sometimes the guy may just say something sexually that will trigger a sexual fantasy thought. Or it can be a situation that I'll be involved in that I will turn into a sexual fantasy.

 

[Mike130]

Things change for sure but I haven't experienced what you seem to be going through. Lots of the time not thinking too much into anything is the best remedy and just being a blank slate, sometimes surprising things will happen. I definitely don't get as aroused by thinking as I used to, but definitely get as aroused as ever with things in plain sight. Cheers!! and good luck. Maybe this image of my wife, with my painting, will get you aroused! lol. much love.

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Beautiful hairy pussy and nice full load. Looks like fun to clean up!

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Beautiful hairy pussy and nice full load. Looks like fun to clean up!

Indeed. Will you do the honors?? Cheers!!

 

[Mike130]

Indeed. Will you do the honors?? Cheers!!

Man, I would love to. I would lick every drop of cum off her beautiful body, then flick her clit with my tongue until she cums in my mouth. Mmmm, what a tasty treat!