Do you hide your sexual needs from your significant other?

[Vitriolhack]

I'm strait but I admire and love to look at cocks. The bigger the better. She would freak

Looking at cocks as if they were a piece of art! Nice one!

 

[kribensis33]

More than that. I admire and want to touch them

 

[Vitriolhack]

I do have a green thumb..unless African violets are not as delicate as I've been led to believe?

No such luck..the youngest person of my housemate, our landlord, and myself is the one attempting to de-escalate tension between the other two (who at 61 and 80 something, respectively, are acting like overtired toddlers)

I don’t want to be seen as mansplaining but, I tend to ignore people like that.

I’ve had difficult family members, I guess we all have that sort of experience. What do you do during the holidays when you know you will attend same events?

Avoid and ignore, I say!

Sorry, this may be conjured as mean. It is not, it’s just mental survival.

 

[Vitriolhack]

can relate to that, my wife never wants to talk or explore anything sexual

Everyone has reasons for their attitude towards a situation.

Have you tried discovering hers?

 

[Vitriolhack]

More than that. I admire and want to touch them

At the very least, heteroflexible maybe?

 

[kribensis33]

More than that. I admire and want to touch them

And suck them

 

[Vitriolhack]

And suck them

Are you ou still hanging on to being straight?

There is nothing wrong with liking women a lot and liking sucking cock.

 

[Vitriolhack]

no she won’t open up about it

Has she tried talking to a professional?

 

[GoodBoy4Ever]

Some of them. I have discussed various interests and fetishes. Some things she is willing to maybe try. However some things I know she isn't into. For example, I enjoy fantasy stories and would love to role play some of those things. She likes LoTRs but she doesn't really care for D&D and other fantasy stories. I feel like something like roleplay you have to both be committed to to make it really hot.

 

[THoney269]

may be conjured as mean.

Not mean at all as far as I'm concerned..a little blunt perhaps, but not malicious

What do you do during the holidays when you know you will attend same events?

Hide my music player and headphones in my bag so I can indulge in audiosmut during the holiday get-togethers .. doesn't everybody?

 

[Vitriolhack]

Not mean at all as far as I'm concerned..a little blunt perhaps, but not malicious

Hide my music player and headphones in my bag so I can indulge in audiosmut during the holiday get-togethers .. doesn't everybody?

Audosmut during the holidays…now here’s a thought!

 

[Vitriolhack]

Some of them. I have discussed various interests and fetishes. Some things she is willing to maybe try. However some things I know she isn't into. For example, I enjoy fantasy stories and would love to role play some of those things. She likes LoTRs but she doesn't really care for D&D and other fantasy stories. I feel like something like roleplay you have to both be committed to to make it really hot.

Well, if she like LOTR, could that be a starting point?

I am not a fantasy world expert, but LOTR to D&D seem close, no? I don’t want to start a debate here.

Oh my precious!

 

[Vitriolhack]

no won’t go there

You can only help those that want to be helped.

 

[THoney269]

Audosmut during the holidays…now here’s a thought!

I listen to(& make) it the rest of the year, so why tf not listen to it during the holidays?

 

[Vitriolhack]

I listen to(& make) it the rest of the year, so why tf not listen to it during the holidays?

I am going to need to listen to your, I am sure, delicious words.

 

[One_ping_only]

My wife would freak out if she only knew how much I crave to suck on a hard cock ....... especially when it's been a long, long time since I've had one in my mouth ugh!!??

 

[Vitriolhack]

My wife would freak out if she only knew how much I crave to suck on a hard cock ....... especially when it's been a long, long time since I've had one in my mouth ugh!!??

Have you ever tried to broach the subject?

 

[Polranny]

She chooses to ignore all of my needs

 

[Vitriolhack]

She chooses to ignore all of my needs

All is a huge category, no intersection with your categories?

 

[Polranny]

All is a huge category, no intersection with your categories?

No. Its a long story, mea culpa for the most part

 

[sister jenny]

I’m open with pretty much everything except my incest fantasies. Not sure I will ever tell him about that.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I’m open with pretty much everything except my incest fantasies. Not sure I will ever tell him about that.

It’s great to have good communications. Fantasies are not always meant to be acted out.

Thank you for sharing

 

[One_ping_only]

Have you ever tried to broach the subject?

She knows I've done this in the past ...... before we had met though she's not aware of my recent cravings and probably best that she doesn't know!?

 

[Vitriolhack]

She knows I've done this in the past ...... before we had met though she's not aware of my recent cravings and probably best that she doesn't know!?

Well, I can’t answer that question, no one other than yourself can.

It takes a lot of courage to be open fully naked in front of someone else.

 

[GoodBoy4Ever]

Well, if she like LOTR, could that be a starting point?

I am not a fantasy world expert, but LOTR to D&D seem close, no? I don’t want to start a debate here.

Oh my precious!

That is what I thought way back when we started dating (2008).

Typically I get frustrated because although she will bring up things we have done in the past, it is the same 2 or 3 stories. And things that happened between 2008 and 2010 are distant memories.

But anyway I should be communicating better, but I can hardly get her to watch porn. It's not that she is a prude, she just doesn't care or get why they would do certain things.

It's not a bad marriage, just hasn't been very satisfying.