Are women over 50 invisible?

[MetalRabbit51]

What happened to him at 50?

It's a remarkably selective kind of astigmatism Mr. Moix has regarding women over 50. Too old to love? In my experience, that's simply untrue. Everyone is different of course, but most women I know who are older than 50 are attractive, intelligent and know what works for them. Including relationships, love and lovemaking. Older women may not court "visibility" in the same way a younger woman might. And many are perfectly happy with the relationships they already have established. So the dating pool of over-50 women is smaller than that of younger age groups. That said, older women are real treasures! Maybe Mr. Moix just gave up; it happens. But his proclamation doesn't match up with my experience.

 

[MetalRabbit51]

Not scary at all

Don't scare me I am close to 50 then 30.

Nothing to be scared about-! It makes you more attractive to those of us who appreciate maturity..

 

[Lonelywife1205]

No way! I get as much as attention now as I ever have. I certainly wasn’t looking forward to that recent milestone birthday, but I have been pleasantly surprised by the number of men who are actually attracted to confident, mature women who know what they want.

 

[Cherry_Brandy]

I seem visible enough - though it's difficult to be invisible with purple hair and it does give people an easy way into a conversation.

Nothing's changed apart from, when fun random men (and women) start to chat, they tend to hang about and chat for a long time rather than a minute or two. Walking the dog can take double the normal time some days and when the cafe is open there's often a coffee involved.

 

[Migo_201]

Not to me they're not.

 

[Rockymtnman]

Yes and no. My wife is over 50 and is still very attractive. She stays fit and takes care of herself. So she isn’t invisible to me in the least. But I never look at woman on the street or in porn that are older than say 40. Nor have any of my extra-curriculars been with women even approaching 50.

Mostly it’s due to being extremely particular about fitness and most women I know that are 50 or older are out of shape. So maybe more to do with that than any specific age.

 

[Anastasia1999]

Mature?

I’m the most immature 50 year old I know. Always up for a giggle.

In my head, I’m still a girl.

Invisible? Absolutely not.

 

[Toylovr]

Mature women are the BEST! The sexiness of their mind and bodies, they just scream Look at Me! I've loved mature women all my life. Don't get me wrong younger ladies, you are great, no two ways about it. But when you mature, you get even better!

 

[Onlyfantasy84]

Women over 50 are absolutely not invisible, at least not to me. I think it's sad that any woman would be made to feel that way. We all age. We are all beautiful in our own way, in my opinion.

To speak personally, my wife is 48 and quite a few years older than I. She has thyroid issues that make losing weight not impossible but really difficult so she is above average in that department. I think she is gorgeous. I don't think my opinion will change of her in 2 years or more.

I guess I just didn't inherit the gene that many have where they perceive young to be beautiful and older is not. I don't know if my perceptions are in the majority of people, however. In the end, to sum up this question, I think it's different strokes for different folks.

It's the same reason you may find one man attractive versus another. You might able to substantiate as to why such as, the first man is in better shape, or, better hair, darker eyes...whatever your preferences might be. Really though, it's a feeling. Some people get you going and others not so much.

There might be people that don't pay any notice to you. Then, without your notice, might be a person that can't keep their eyes off you and are fantasizing about what it's like to be with you.

 

[Islander55]

I am over 60 and am not finding that I am invisible. Now I am not going to walk into a bar and expect young men to be flocking around me. I think the key is to be interesting. Do things you enjoy and are passionate about and you will find other people who share your interest and are interested in you. As we get older, we no longer have the perfect body, if we ever did, so the mental connection becomes more important. Now this pandemic has a tendency to turn us all invisible if we are not careful.

 

[LLCox]

I started having an affair with a woman when I was 35 and she was 49... for several years. Extra hot...she was as much of a sex addict as me

 

[Crownvic]

Absolutely not! Mature women are beautiful. Some know that they are sexy, some have lost their self confidence, and others have hit a rut in life. Nothing is sexier than a self confident woman that walks like she knows every eye in the room is on her. Know your sexy and strut your stuff.

Well said...love the strut...

 

[Polranny]

I seem visible enough - though it's difficult to be invisible with purple hair and it does give people an easy way into a conversation.

Nothing's changed apart from, when fun random men (and women) start to chat, they tend to hang about and chat for a long time rather than a minute or two. Walking the dog can take double the normal time some days and when the cafe is open there's often a coffee involved.

Since i got my dog i have noticed a lot of formerly invisible ladies are talking to me/us, even when the dog lets me off the leash

 

[maturesthrncple]

I didn't get with Mrs Sthrn until she was in her 50's...

 

[Cherry_Brandy]

Since i got my dog i have noticed a lot of formerly invisible ladies are talking to me/us, even when the dog lets me off the leash

The dog walkers are usually a friendly bunch and there's lot of people live on canal boats on a couple of my walks. I do say hello to everyone I pass though. It's highly amusing how many people, who struggled to walk normally pre Covid, have now acquired the agility of an Olympic athletes and can long jump sideways on a narrow path.

 

[Trixxii]

Since i got my dog i have noticed a lot of formerly invisible ladies are talking to me/us, even when the dog lets me off the leash

Chick magnets. Something about a guy and his dog(s).

In my head, I’m still a girl.

Always.

Haven't reached the 50 mark but old enough to appreciate the thoughts and feelings posted here. Love the positivity. Eases the mind a bit.

 

[ShandyLeer]

This ones easy.....

.....there’s plenty of supposedly “hot” girls in their 20s who plain and simple haven’t worked out how to be, rather than just look, sexy. And plenty of women, 50 and beyond, who can blow them out of the water. Brains, experience and confidence are a lot to do with it imo.

 

[AlexanderBly]

"French author, 50, says women over 50 are too old to love
Yann Moix, a prize-winning novelist, says women of same age are ‘invisible’ to him."

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Much of this depends, of course, on the man. If a couple have been married for a long time and have developed a deep, rich love for one another...age is not necessarily an issue. If, however, a man of 50 divorces a woman close to his age, he will usually seek out someone younger...often a lot younger. I personally prefer women in their 30's. But that's just me. I have a female friend who is a successful dentist of 66 who dates men in their 40's. It just depends on the person. There is the ages old stereotype of the fat ol,d rich guy with a 20-something on his arms...and I have seen this on many occasions. But it has been my experience that these "relationships" are more about an exchange of commodities.

 

[carterford63]

I think the original comment about women of a certain age being invisible is completely wrong. Women, be they young or mature, can be just as sexy as they want to be. Women aren't just a body, they are many other things, and ALL those things can make them sexy. A great laugh, a quick wit, whatever. Sexy women are sexy because they have a certain attitude.

 

[ShandyLeer]

Much of this depends, of course, on the man. If a couple have been married for a long time and have developed a deep, rich love for one another...age is not necessarily an issue. If, however, a man of 50 divorces a woman close to his age, he will usually seek out someone younger...often a lot younger. I personally prefer women in their 30's. But that's just me. I have a female friend who is a successful dentist of 66 who dates men in their 40's. It just depends on the person. There is the ages old stereotype of the fat ol,d rich guy with a 20-something on his arms...and I have seen this on many occasions. But it has been my experience that these "relationships" are more about an exchange of commodities.

Probably the original source for the quote disregarding women over 50 comes from a bloke who’s a bit of a wanker himself......possibly only comfortable in the presence of women young enough to be his daughter ?

 

[Uneklensane]

Straight Forward

NO. 50... over 50 doesn't... and shouldn't matter. In my over 50 opinion... women of experienced years are more independent, confidant, and are worthy of any extra attention that is bestowed upon them by greatful, and very willing men. Men who desire mature women. And if the mature woman has a lush and curvy body then that man considered her a Goddess and pays homage to her... in any and every way she desires.

 

[SevMax2]

I’m 44. My wife is 50. Nuff said.

 

[Mtnmike]

I didn't get with Mrs Sthrn until she was in her 50's...

She's a Beautiful Hottt 50 something to, lucky man

 

[cruzn2u2]

Very Hot over 50

Would not kick any of them out of bed for eating crackers

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I can't believe

this thread is still going. The answer, definitively, is NO. End of discussion.