tenyari
Naked Fool
- Joined
- Aug 13, 2002
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Simply the adage that no means no - what we tell our kids so that they hopefully don't end up on rape charges. Everything I've read is 'no but...' We write erotica, so it's a given it will include sex. I don't expect authors here to beat the drum for social education, just surprised it hasn't been raised.
I've never used 'no actually eventually means yes' in any of my stories. I've never understood that line of thinking.
There is the game of seduction which can involve a lot of "I'm not sure" and "maybe not yet" or even "but we're just friends" and "I'm not comfortable with the relationship going there now".
- But are these an actual no? I see them as conditionals in a game of back and forth as the border is mapped out. I've had people who've pursued me, and people I've pursued, but it was always a game of tentative maybes and conditional negatives that either eventually moved the maybe to a yes or the negative to a no (or vice versa).
Once a solid 'no', a very clear negative, clear rejection, appears, the wall has come up and that's where the border stands. With the note that relationships evolve over time - but for that 'chapter' the end has come.
I've done breakups on my writing, I've done rejections, and I've probably got some nos in there. But I don't think I've ever done the 'no, but yes'.