Breakup advice/confidence needed
I'm dating a guy and we're engaging in a lot of choking, hitting, pain, and bruise play. Both of us are really getting off on it, but emotionally we're in different places. Since I also get off on the control and trust that I give him, my emotional reaction is much more intimate than his seems to be. He is not very forthcoming on his emotions.
He has also joked that he doesn't intend to date me for a long period of time. He laughs when I look upset at this and I don't know if he's just being a jerk or if he's laughing because he's uncomfortable.
I'm already pretty attached so I'm having a hard time telling myself to disconnect from our relationship. I also am afraid that I'll never meet someone who will actually like the same sexual intimacies as I do.
I would love to hear from other people who have successfully disengaged from situations like mine. Encouragement is appreciated!!
Edit to add: There are times when he's very tender. And times when he does open up a bit and comes across as being somewhat insecure as to why I like him so much. These moments make it extra hard, balancing out his sometimes caustic nature/humor. Re-reading my post makes it sound like it should be so very easy...
I'm dating a guy and we're engaging in a lot of choking, hitting, pain, and bruise play. Both of us are really getting off on it, but emotionally we're in different places. Since I also get off on the control and trust that I give him, my emotional reaction is much more intimate than his seems to be. He is not very forthcoming on his emotions.
He has also joked that he doesn't intend to date me for a long period of time. He laughs when I look upset at this and I don't know if he's just being a jerk or if he's laughing because he's uncomfortable.
I'm already pretty attached so I'm having a hard time telling myself to disconnect from our relationship. I also am afraid that I'll never meet someone who will actually like the same sexual intimacies as I do.
I would love to hear from other people who have successfully disengaged from situations like mine. Encouragement is appreciated!!
Edit to add: There are times when he's very tender. And times when he does open up a bit and comes across as being somewhat insecure as to why I like him so much. These moments make it extra hard, balancing out his sometimes caustic nature/humor. Re-reading my post makes it sound like it should be so very easy...
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