"Women Who Love Bi Men" Fan Club

malachiteink said:

It can be hard for a woman to accept bisexuality in her husband. In part, it is because women are taught that exclusivity is the sole expression of true love. In part, it's because women especially are often limited in what they are ALLOWED to find sexually arousing. I know I often have great reluctance to reveal how attractive I find m/m sex, and on those occasions where my husband has revealed his bi-nature in a social group, I'm embarrassed and I feel exposed.

At the worst of times, I feel like I'm in competition with not just other women, but men as well (and just freaking out numbered). That's a lot for anyone to take when they feel shaky and insecure, when the relationship is not going well, or when there are trust issues. Of course, all of this can be true of ANY relationship, gay, straight, bi or with kangaroos.

At the best of times, it's completely hot. I would be concerned if my husband wanted an encounter with a gay male, since the gay male would not be into me, and my husband and I have agreed that solo encounters are not good for our relationship . We've tried letting him "go play". He had fun, I thought I was fine but found out it ate me up inside, and he decided that the fun wasn't equal to my sanity and the damage to our relationship. Also, I don't feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with someone not my husband (at least, if he isn't participating).

I won't say that lovin a bi man isn't complicated. Like any loving relationship, it can be. But for me, my husband's bisexuality is just one more thing about him I love and we work to make everything right for us.

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I think it's great the you and your husband have found common ground on his bisexuallity.
I also can understand all of the points you make about being secure. I belive that is one of the issues with my wife and me (and just not for my bi side). but the biggest issue is the fact that it just plain ol turns her off for whatever reason. I would love to here more of your feeling's on the subject.

michaelinteas said:

I think it's great the you and your husband have found common ground on his bisexuallity.
I also can understand all of the points you make about being secure. I belive that is one of the issues with my wife and me (and just not for my bi side). but the biggest issue is the fact that it just plain ol turns her off for whatever reason. I would love to here more of your feeling's on the subject.

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It just might be a turn off for her. There are a few (dozen) activities that are universe turning for some and yet leave me cold (no blood, no urine or feces, and a few other things squick me fairly quick in real life. I can read about them, though, if the story is strong).

I guess the best way for you to understand what I find attractive would be for you to (here's the plug, wait for it!) read the two stories I have posted on Literotica. There are links in my signature below. I wrote about what turns me on, and both stories have m/m sex (with a woman watching, actually). I think they would explain things more entertainingly than I could here.

If you still want to know something, you can ask me or my husband (ArtisticBiGuy) who also posts in the forums and is a Literotica author.

Thanks for the links and I will read them today

Michael....

you've got a great ass

Fire Captain said:

Thanks to all for the great messages. I have been with a few guys over the past few years, but agree it would be so hot to involve as female. My wife is a total prude, no adventure, also she would kill me if she knew what I have done.

Maybe someday I will get to experience this here in good old Pennsylvania.

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You know, I used to think that my boyfriend was a total prude, until I discovered that he was bisexual. All of a sudden, my handsome, smart but sometimes dull bf was interesting and mysterious to me. It spiced up our sex life. We discussed sex more openly. Also, I love getting anally penetrated by him while he jokingly calls me his "boy". When we first met, my bf thought I was a straight woman. He thought all lesbians looked like truck drivers and bisexual women looked like Anne Heche. Well, I didn't look anything out of the ordinary, but I was an openly bi
female looking for love. I love him to death, even more strongly now that I know we're "same species". We walk around hand in hand, checking out both men and women together. We've discussed things we like doing sexually with other people and each other. It really changed our relationship, for the better. He shows up more often to show support for me at GLBT functions, even though he's closeted, and I show up all the time to support him at his athletic events. Sometimes, opening up can change things for the better.


Of course, you know your wife better than anyone, so if you think she's a close-minded homophobe, then dont tell her anything.

Just my one cent, as a bi guy. I absolutely love chatting with girls that find bi guys attractive. The openmindedness is a turn on, and the chat is usually hot as there is no limit or out-of-bounds taboos on the sex chat. However, in real life I do not find men attractive, I can realize when a man is good looking, but I am not attracted by them. However show me a close up of a hard dick and I get real excited. Are there any other guys that feel the same way as me, and has anyone been able to explain that successfully to their significant others.

lax_er_19 said:

Just my one cent, as a bi guy. I absolutely love chatting with girls that find bi guys attractive. The openmindedness is a turn on, and the chat is usually hot as there is no limit or out-of-bounds taboos on the sex chat. However, in real life I do not find men attractive, I can realize when a man is good looking, but I am not attracted by them. However show me a close up of a hard dick and I get real excited. Are there any other guys that feel the same way as me, and has anyone been able to explain that successfully to their significant others.

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I'm raising my hand in agreement. I don't look twice at another male because of any attraction. But a hard cock is a real turn on. I especially like to help my wife suck cock and I'm open to watching another guy fuck her only if I get to suck him. I think there's some Narcissicism involved; we can't suck our own beautiful cocks so we have to suck others.

rex_romeo said:

I'm raising my hand in agreement. I don't look twice at another male because of any attraction. But a hard cock is a real turn on. I especially like to help my wife suck cock and I'm open to watching another guy fuck her only if I get to suck him. I think there's some Narcissicism involved; we can't suck our own beautiful cocks so we have to suck others.

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COLOR=Magenta]Hubby is very much the same way. He never has any attraction to men or commented on someone being cute or handsome. I will never have to worry about him leaving me for cock because he won't even play with a guy if I'm not there to watch/participate. For him/us it's purely a sexual thing, spurred on by the heat of the moment. Pussy will always be his first love, but he can get turned on by reading chats I've had with some guys, and even bought me 2 bi movies for Christmas, lol. Sexually he'll give and receive sucking and fucking, but won't even consider kissing because that's just too "emotional" maybe.

On whatever level he's considered bi, I think it's wonderful and it works for us. I cannot tell you how much it turns me on to watch 2 (or more, lol) men sucking and fucking each other. OMG, it's HOT! [/COLOR][

lax_er_19 said:

Just my one cent, as a bi guy. I absolutely love chatting with girls that find bi guys attractive. The openmindedness is a turn on, and the chat is usually hot as there is no limit or out-of-bounds taboos on the sex chat. However, in real life I do not find men attractive, I can realize when a man is good looking, but I am not attracted by them. However show me a close up of a hard dick and I get real excited. Are there any other guys that feel the same way as me, and has anyone been able to explain that successfully to their significant others.

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Before I came out to myself, I used to feel very guilty for liking male porn. On a very rare occasion I would find another guy vaguely attractive. It took years after I decided I was bisexual, but now my sexual attraction is about even m/f and my emotional attraction is 2/3rds f and 1/3 male.

sseg said:

Before I came out to myself, I used to feel very guilty for liking male porn. On a very rare occasion I would find another guy vaguely attractive. It took years after I decided I was bisexual, but now my sexual attraction is about even m/f and my emotional attraction is 2/3rds f and 1/3 male.

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I can only envision other men for sex only........... I know I'll never fall in love with another man.... I definitely will end up with a woman....... hopefully one that likes threesomes..

mansome said:

I can only envision other men for sex only........... I know I'll never fall in love with another man.... I definitely will end up with a woman....... hopefully one that likes threesomes..

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What it works out for me is that I tend to fall in love with who someone is. Their gender is largely irrelevant. Since I tend to like women who are towards the middle when it comes to feminine/masculine, and I like men who are more towards the middle there too, gender doesn't play as much a role for me. When it comes to sex I like it all pretty much equally though! The crux of the matter is that it's more likely that the people I meet and will fall in love with are women since I'm pretty picky and the odds of meeting gay or bisexual men are much lower where I live. The potential dating pool is much lower.

There ya are, that and $5 will get you a double latte (well, not around here, they can't even pronounce "latte", but ya know what I mean).

Horndog...

That is me exactly. I only wish my wife understood!

She would just think I'm gay. I'm not -- NOT that there's anything wrong with that -- i.e. Seinfeld

horndognslutpup said:

On whatever level he's considered bi, I think it's wonderful and it works for us. I cannot tell you how much it turns me on to watch 2 (or more, lol) men sucking and fucking each other. OMG, it's HOT!

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I love watching two men, especially would like to see my husband with another man. That would be SOOO HOT!

jeri_lickwet said:

I love watching two men, especially would like to see my husband with another man. That would be SOOO HOT!

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I just read your story's and I have to say WOW.

They gave me an icredable hard on and left me wanting more.

Blushing

michaelinteas said:

I just read your story's and I have to say WOW.

They gave me an icredable hard on and left me wanting more.

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Thank you for the compliment

jeri_lickwet said:

Thank you for the compliment

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you are welcome,

The story's took me back to my younger days with my best friend. a time that makes me horny still to this day, mmmmmmmmmm

Yeah, it happens

I've been trying te bi thing recently, and I LOVE IT!!! Probably the best decision I've ever made. I think its a bit harder for guys though, with society. If i girl says she's bi, its all cool, if a guy does, he's labled a fag. We don't get that grey area. But yeah, there's my two cent, and if any ya'll want to chat or trade pics, I'm always willing.


Lata Playas
Matt

Welcome to the sacred brotherhood of bisexual men. Famous former members have been Abraham Lincoln, Alexander The Great and Oscar Wilde. Current members are fighting for the right to be who they are without discrimination.

Yeeha.

Woo hoo, I'm in the club. Alright!!! lol.

As if being bi oriented but not active isn't a challenge enough, being two spirited (crossdresser, transgendered etc..) makes it even more difficult. Ideally I would love to find a bi woman who would be close to my size (oh the clothes we could shop for and help each other in to or out of or borrow from each other *sigh*) who would be comfortable with me in my fem personae. It would also be very erotic to have her give me a total makeover ( makeup, hair, nails) to help me look my prettiest and most fem. We could go out as a couple of hot looking girls, holding hands and teasing the males. I, like some of the others who have posted here, am not attracted to other men per se. I have noticed a few 'cute' male types who would probably look good all femmed up but for the most part I am still attracted to the female image. It is one of the reasons I dress.

I would however not be averse to having a nice stiffie in my mouth so long as I could do so while en femme and have a pretty woman to share it with. Of course it would have to meet certain requrements. Balding, overweight, overly hairy (yeech) etc. would definitely be out. Veiny dicks are also not very attractive. I much prefer smooth, clean and of moderate size. Swimmers or athletic builds (not overly muscular) are a lot nicer as they have a more sleek look to them. Even better would be if I could meet a bi woman who would love to share another person like myself between us. We could have so much fun together.

I mostly would prefer a bi woman because she would be more likely to be open minded and/or accepting of this lifestyle. I have been out with a few straight women whom i have always been open and up front of my femme side and after a while they decided I was not what they wanted in a relationship. Very well, If I were to meet a bi woman who wanted to do a role reversal I would happily be her woman just so long as I would be allowed to service her orally on her original equipment. If she wanted to use accessories on me though I would not resist. Although she might make me beg for it just a little. (lol)

Anyway, Thats my input. Mallory

Two cents worth

lax_er_19 said:

Just my one cent, as a bi guy. I absolutely love chatting with girls that find bi guys attractive. The openmindedness is a turn on, and the chat is usually hot as there is no limit or out-of-bounds taboos on the sex chat. However, in real life I do not find men attractive, I can realize when a man is good looking, but I am not attracted by them. However show me a close up of a hard dick and I get real excited. Are there any other guys that feel the same way as me, and has anyone been able to explain that successfully to their significant others.

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I know how you feel. I generally don't find men attractive. But realllly enjoy looking at gay and Bi porn. I'm basically a virgin as a Bi. I'm out with my wife. We have a lot of fanasies about MMF and share interesting pics we find on the net. I've bought her stapons. But we have never involved another person. I believe I'm ready, but she's very apprehensive to involve another. Oh well, maybe someday....

SouthernAlberta said:

I know how you feel. I generally don't find men attractive. But realllly enjoy looking at gay and Bi porn. I'm basically a virgin as a Bi. I'm out with my wife. We have a lot of fanasies about MMF and share interesting pics we find on the net. I've bought her stapons. But we have never involved another person. I believe I'm ready, but she's very apprehensive to involve another. Oh well, maybe someday....

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Sent you a PM.

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trying to keep this thread alive!

Well worth the effort

hoselvr said:

trying to keep this thread alive!

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in my book. I love this thread.