michaelinteas
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I think it's great the you and your husband have found common ground on his bisexuallity.malachiteink said:It can be hard for a woman to accept bisexuality in her husband. In part, it is because women are taught that exclusivity is the sole expression of true love. In part, it's because women especially are often limited in what they are ALLOWED to find sexually arousing. I know I often have great reluctance to reveal how attractive I find m/m sex, and on those occasions where my husband has revealed his bi-nature in a social group, I'm embarrassed and I feel exposed.
At the worst of times, I feel like I'm in competition with not just other women, but men as well (and just freaking out numbered). That's a lot for anyone to take when they feel shaky and insecure, when the relationship is not going well, or when there are trust issues. Of course, all of this can be true of ANY relationship, gay, straight, bi or with kangaroos.
At the best of times, it's completely hot. I would be concerned if my husband wanted an encounter with a gay male, since the gay male would not be into me, and my husband and I have agreed that solo encounters are not good for our relationship . We've tried letting him "go play". He had fun, I thought I was fine but found out it ate me up inside, and he decided that the fun wasn't equal to my sanity and the damage to our relationship. Also, I don't feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with someone not my husband (at least, if he isn't participating).
I won't say that lovin a bi man isn't complicated. Like any loving relationship, it can be. But for me, my husband's bisexuality is just one more thing about him I love and we work to make everything right for us.
I also can understand all of the points you make about being secure. I belive that is one of the issues with my wife and me (and just not for my bi side). but the biggest issue is the fact that it just plain ol turns her off for whatever reason. I would love to here more of your feeling's on the subject.