It looks like it's been several years since the last thread devoted to anal sex and anal play (I found one in 2011). It's a really interesting topic to me: I enjoy it and my SO really really enjoys it. It's become about half of our sex and I'd really like to hear others' experiences. I'll post some more about our experiences in a little while.
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Dickstroker81
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Just about all we do is anal and oral and we both do others male and female. We only have vaginal sex with each other and even that rarely as we both enjoy anal and oral more and we believe that vaginal sex with anyone other than ones spouse or SO is cheating.
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I have enjoyed self anal stimulation for years, but my wife won't touch either or herself there. It is quite frustrating to know that she is missing out on some great sensations - and, of course, depriving me of the same. However, when she is out for the day then it is time for lingerie and anal playing.
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I'm with you on that.
Goodboy.
Thank you
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My husband and I both love anal, giving and receiving!
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I wish my wife did!
I'd give it a shot
You might look at some of the free material available at http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/sextips. The site is generally female-oriented and maybe some of their material would convince her to go for some variety. (My only connection to them is as an occasional customer.)
We had very satisfactory vaginal and oral sex for years and then my SO decided she wanted to try anal sex. It turned out to be her favorite flavor of sex, and mine, and it's been about half of our sex life ever since. We've also explored pegging and anal toys and I've experimented with prostate stimulators. (I've posted a little in some strapon and prostate forums.) The change has definitely broadened our sex life and made it even more pleasurable.
I'll make a few posts here describing our anal sex life in more detail. I'd really like to know other people's experience, especially women who have a strong positive reaction like my SO's. I'm amazed at the strength of her orgasms (and how her anus clenches during them!); I never expected anything like that.
Cleanliness: I realize the discussion of cleanliness is jarring and disrupts the erotic mood. I'll just get this out of the way and not refer to it down the pike. We try to be as clean as we can. We use condoms and finger cots (little one-finger condoms) and always keep clean towels handy. When I'm playing with my own ass I sometimes prep with a disposable enema (replacing the fluid it contains with tepid tap water); it usually takes two or three applications to get clean. (Playing in the shower is an alternative.) How my SO preps is a mystery I'm not privy to; whatever she does seems to work well. We also use plenty of lube.
Some sex-toy websites have faqs and other collections of useful information about anal sex (and other topics). See Literotica's site, Babeland, etc.
I'll make a few posts here describing our anal sex life in more detail. I'd really like to know other people's experience, especially women who have a strong positive reaction like my SO's. I'm amazed at the strength of her orgasms (and how her anus clenches during them!); I never expected anything like that.
Cleanliness: I realize the discussion of cleanliness is jarring and disrupts the erotic mood. I'll just get this out of the way and not refer to it down the pike. We try to be as clean as we can. We use condoms and finger cots (little one-finger condoms) and always keep clean towels handy. When I'm playing with my own ass I sometimes prep with a disposable enema (replacing the fluid it contains with tepid tap water); it usually takes two or three applications to get clean. (Playing in the shower is an alternative.) How my SO preps is a mystery I'm not privy to; whatever she does seems to work well. We also use plenty of lube.
Some sex-toy websites have faqs and other collections of useful information about anal sex (and other topics). See Literotica's site, Babeland, etc.
Anal sex is liberating
Accessing anal sex has had a number of positive effects on our sex life. For one thing we're much more abandoned with each other during sex. We touch each other everywhere - no off-limits zones - and freely play with ourselves in front of the other. We fantasize freely about group encounters and homosexual contacts; much less tiptoeing around our real desires. In the past I would never have considered MMF sex with a homosexual component (his cock in my ass, for example) but now that I know it excites my SO I'd consider anything. We buy sex toys. We do pegging. I dress her up in clothes that excite me. We watch online MMF anal porn like http://www.pornerbros.com/94828/amateur-sex-movie-with-a-horny-babe-with-two-big-cock-in-a-outdoor-sex.html?wmid=324&sid=0.
I feel free to play with my own ass. I've discovered I enjoy things like butt plugs and prostate stimulators. They don't get me off but they're exciting and pleasurable. I feel free to use them openly (it's just the two of us at home).
We also feel freer about initiating sex. Sometimes I'll find her in her panties reading anal text porn and stroking her labia with a long index finger; she knows that makes me nuts. Sometimes I'll approach her from the rear and start kissing her neck and running my hands down between her butt cheeks and over her anus and pussy, knowing that in a little while she'll start pushing back against my roving hands.
If we ever have a threesome or a foursome it will be because of the liberating effects of anal sex.
Accessing anal sex has had a number of positive effects on our sex life. For one thing we're much more abandoned with each other during sex. We touch each other everywhere - no off-limits zones - and freely play with ourselves in front of the other. We fantasize freely about group encounters and homosexual contacts; much less tiptoeing around our real desires. In the past I would never have considered MMF sex with a homosexual component (his cock in my ass, for example) but now that I know it excites my SO I'd consider anything. We buy sex toys. We do pegging. I dress her up in clothes that excite me. We watch online MMF anal porn like http://www.pornerbros.com/94828/amateur-sex-movie-with-a-horny-babe-with-two-big-cock-in-a-outdoor-sex.html?wmid=324&sid=0.
I feel free to play with my own ass. I've discovered I enjoy things like butt plugs and prostate stimulators. They don't get me off but they're exciting and pleasurable. I feel free to use them openly (it's just the two of us at home).
We also feel freer about initiating sex. Sometimes I'll find her in her panties reading anal text porn and stroking her labia with a long index finger; she knows that makes me nuts. Sometimes I'll approach her from the rear and start kissing her neck and running my hands down between her butt cheeks and over her anus and pussy, knowing that in a little while she'll start pushing back against my roving hands.
If we ever have a threesome or a foursome it will be because of the liberating effects of anal sex.
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Tip. Eat the pussy while you put anal beads in. Then build her up but don't let her cum till she begs for release. At that point attack that clit and as she is screaming and cumming pull out the beads slowly but steady. Works every time.
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That sounds amazing I love playing with the ass and pussy at the same time I have to get some beads.
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your posts on this are amazing. thanks for sharing
Doing It
This is what anal sex is like for us. I've recorded all this because (a) it's fun for me and (b) it might help people with some ideas.
We spend a fair bit of time building up to an anal encounter; any quickies we have are strictly pussy and mouth. My SO puts on some see-through panties and a light top, and lies in bed for a while reading some MM or MMF anal porn. Stories of male butt-fucking really lights her fire and what lights her fire, lights mine. Sometimes she'll play with her pussy by rubbing the outside of her panties. More often I'll play with her pussy and her ass through the panties, sliding my fingers lightly back and forth from one to the other, occasionally slipping under her panties into her cunt. She'll often tell me about the action in the porn she's reading. describing what especially excites her. I keep stroking her pussy and her anus, and playing with her lovely breasts, until she eventually starts pushing against my roving finger and making little gasps while she's talking. All through this I'm getting rock-hard. I love the feeling that I can do whatever I want with her.
Eventually I can't stand it any more and I'll drag her panties off and pull her to the edge of the bed, usually ass up. I'll lick her pussy for a while and then slowly, slowly slip in. I try to make this take as long as I can (but I'm only human). When I'm partway in I slip a finger into her ass. I love to feel my cock through her inner wall and it starts to shift our focus to her anus, though the position is a little awkward. Often she keeps talking to me about what she's reading. We have vaginal sex for a while: it's great in itself and it helps loosen her up. I love to pump in and out of her pussy but it's a challenge not to lose it at this early stage. By this point she's having some trouble reading.
I withdraw from her holes and we slide a large dildo into her pussy. It's one that stays in well by itself, no hands needed. I don't just stick it in; I spend some time fucking her with it and enjoying how her hips lift up to receive it. I tell her our story about DP and how what she feels is another man's cock in her pussy. I ask her what she wants in her ass and she says my cock. She's really not ready at this point so I slip a vibrator into her ass and fuck it slowly in and out. (I really get off on doing this.) I'm not unusually large but her ass is pretty tight and we have to pay attention to opening her up. Using a butt plug beforehand works, too, but we usually go with the vibrator.
When we reach the point where she's freely fucking the vibrator back with her anus, we're ready for the main event. I (slowly) pull the vibrator out and get ready to enter her ass. It's important to be as erect as possible because it takes a fair bit of pressure on your cock. It's also important to pay close attention to targeting: even a stretched anus is pretty small and you'll often have your hands full of butt cheek. She can help but you'll have to do most of the grabbing yourself. Going in is <AWESOME>. Do it as slowly as you possibly can. The entrance is so tight that you'll want to prolong the moment you slip past her sphincter ring. It's much different from pussy sex: in addition to the opening, it's tight and hot the whole way. Just writing about this is making me hard.
By this point my SO has taken a vibrator to her pussy and is starting to lose it. I have to grip her really hard so I can stroke: she pushes back constantly to get more cock in her ass. I try to pace her a little but it's mostly out of my control: "having a tiger by the tail" is apt in more ways than one. She occasionally misses her peak but we can usually recover if I tell her a story about the third man in the room who is feeding his cock into <my> ass. I tell her how big and hard it is, and how it fills me up, and she goes right over the wall. (Rarely she'll finish way ahead of me and be too sensitive to continue anally. I'll withdraw and finish in her pussy.)
Our orgasms are generally so intense that we're left speechless and I, standing up, am dizzy. It takes us a few minutes (really) to get it together and separate. We do this two or three times a month. I don't think we could handle it twice as often.
This is what anal sex is like for us. I've recorded all this because (a) it's fun for me and (b) it might help people with some ideas.
We spend a fair bit of time building up to an anal encounter; any quickies we have are strictly pussy and mouth. My SO puts on some see-through panties and a light top, and lies in bed for a while reading some MM or MMF anal porn. Stories of male butt-fucking really lights her fire and what lights her fire, lights mine. Sometimes she'll play with her pussy by rubbing the outside of her panties. More often I'll play with her pussy and her ass through the panties, sliding my fingers lightly back and forth from one to the other, occasionally slipping under her panties into her cunt. She'll often tell me about the action in the porn she's reading. describing what especially excites her. I keep stroking her pussy and her anus, and playing with her lovely breasts, until she eventually starts pushing against my roving finger and making little gasps while she's talking. All through this I'm getting rock-hard. I love the feeling that I can do whatever I want with her.
Eventually I can't stand it any more and I'll drag her panties off and pull her to the edge of the bed, usually ass up. I'll lick her pussy for a while and then slowly, slowly slip in. I try to make this take as long as I can (but I'm only human). When I'm partway in I slip a finger into her ass. I love to feel my cock through her inner wall and it starts to shift our focus to her anus, though the position is a little awkward. Often she keeps talking to me about what she's reading. We have vaginal sex for a while: it's great in itself and it helps loosen her up. I love to pump in and out of her pussy but it's a challenge not to lose it at this early stage. By this point she's having some trouble reading.
I withdraw from her holes and we slide a large dildo into her pussy. It's one that stays in well by itself, no hands needed. I don't just stick it in; I spend some time fucking her with it and enjoying how her hips lift up to receive it. I tell her our story about DP and how what she feels is another man's cock in her pussy. I ask her what she wants in her ass and she says my cock. She's really not ready at this point so I slip a vibrator into her ass and fuck it slowly in and out. (I really get off on doing this.) I'm not unusually large but her ass is pretty tight and we have to pay attention to opening her up. Using a butt plug beforehand works, too, but we usually go with the vibrator.
When we reach the point where she's freely fucking the vibrator back with her anus, we're ready for the main event. I (slowly) pull the vibrator out and get ready to enter her ass. It's important to be as erect as possible because it takes a fair bit of pressure on your cock. It's also important to pay close attention to targeting: even a stretched anus is pretty small and you'll often have your hands full of butt cheek. She can help but you'll have to do most of the grabbing yourself. Going in is <AWESOME>. Do it as slowly as you possibly can. The entrance is so tight that you'll want to prolong the moment you slip past her sphincter ring. It's much different from pussy sex: in addition to the opening, it's tight and hot the whole way. Just writing about this is making me hard.
By this point my SO has taken a vibrator to her pussy and is starting to lose it. I have to grip her really hard so I can stroke: she pushes back constantly to get more cock in her ass. I try to pace her a little but it's mostly out of my control: "having a tiger by the tail" is apt in more ways than one. She occasionally misses her peak but we can usually recover if I tell her a story about the third man in the room who is feeding his cock into <my> ass. I tell her how big and hard it is, and how it fills me up, and she goes right over the wall. (Rarely she'll finish way ahead of me and be too sensitive to continue anally. I'll withdraw and finish in her pussy.)
Our orgasms are generally so intense that we're left speechless and I, standing up, am dizzy. It takes us a few minutes (really) to get it together and separate. We do this two or three times a month. I don't think we could handle it twice as often.
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Just reading that is making me wet...
As most of my posts tend to demonstrate I love everything anal. More than normal sex. I love watching anal porn - and generally don't watch something unless it has some kind of anal element in it. More often than not I find myself cumming at an anal point in a story or film.
But its not simply a question of switching holes half way through. It is all about the build up. Talking about it, fingers, tongue, toys, being teased, told to wait, being offered just the tip but having it taken away, having to beg....
It feels amazing going in but I have to stop for a few seconds immediately after he enters me...and gather my breath, get used to the pain. One time he simply ignored my pleas to wait and said, 'No, I'm not going to' and although it hurt a little at the time, now I remember that moment and it turns me on thinking about his inability to contain himself.
I love being so controlled and getting the chance to feel so naughty. I have never cum from anal....but its quite new for me and I've come REALLY close (damn him for not being able to hold out just a little longer) so I'm hoping it's just a matter of time....
Mmmm. Might need to go and watch porn now.
Wow.
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I love anal play and sex. Because of my size, there has to be a lot of prep and seduction, but if done right, it is bliss!
Boyshorts
I have to tell this to someone.
My SO mostly wears plain old panties, even on the run-up to sex. I ordered some boyshort style ones from Frederic's and they arrived yesterday. This morning while getting ready for work she stopped and asked me if I wanted her to try a pair of the boyshorts on, "for size." Abso-fucking-lutely, I said, and she slipped her nude body into a pair. I love them or, more accurately, I love them with her in them. They're soft and thin. In the front they dip toward her pussy so it's easy to pull them down and slip my cock between the panties and her lips (because I tried!). In the back they slide down into the crease of her butt in such a way that when I slide my fingers down the back of the panties I slide right over her rosebud (because I tried!). How have we lived so long without these?
After I spent some Happy Time fondling her body she kissed me and said it was time to go to work, and shortly after that some workmen arrived to work on the house. Goddamn. All I can think about is her butt in those boyshorts. I don't want to jack off, because I have high hopes for this evening, but that's long hours away and I've had half a hardon for three hours now. Maybe writing this will help me hang on (or actually <not> hang on) until this evening.
I have to tell this to someone.
My SO mostly wears plain old panties, even on the run-up to sex. I ordered some boyshort style ones from Frederic's and they arrived yesterday. This morning while getting ready for work she stopped and asked me if I wanted her to try a pair of the boyshorts on, "for size." Abso-fucking-lutely, I said, and she slipped her nude body into a pair. I love them or, more accurately, I love them with her in them. They're soft and thin. In the front they dip toward her pussy so it's easy to pull them down and slip my cock between the panties and her lips (because I tried!). In the back they slide down into the crease of her butt in such a way that when I slide my fingers down the back of the panties I slide right over her rosebud (because I tried!). How have we lived so long without these?
After I spent some Happy Time fondling her body she kissed me and said it was time to go to work, and shortly after that some workmen arrived to work on the house. Goddamn. All I can think about is her butt in those boyshorts. I don't want to jack off, because I have high hopes for this evening, but that's long hours away and I've had half a hardon for three hours now. Maybe writing this will help me hang on (or actually <not> hang on) until this evening.
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i was never really into anal. tried it once and it wasn't really a success until i met the guy I'm dating now. we'd make jokes about it but now he's really into playing with my ass and i'm more into anal than i ever was. but we prefer vaginal sex over anal any day. just anal when we're in the mood
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