Do men really care if their partner cums?

[KimGordon67]

In spite of my earlier post ... I think it's important to remember (as PW tangentially pointed out) that orgasms aren't the only good bit of sex, and shouldn't necessarily always be the final goal. I do expect some attention being given to my pleasure and enjoyment ... but that doesn't always mean I have to cum.

 

[Dreamliner]

I am a romantic at heart. Basic instincts come out to the fore.

You have to love the Flinstones, the subtle sarcasm in that series was hilarious in hindsight.

 

[tw63]

I feel cheated and a little hurt if my partner doesn't cum. However, the demands of life occasionally win and make it too difficult for her. In those times I've come to understand I'll do more harm than good if I keep trying. I let her guide me and my efforts for the best outcome for her.

 

[cassjenner]

I always take care of my woman first. For me sex is a fail unless she enjoys herself. There have been a couple of occasions when I was younger and had cum too soon, but I always remedied the situation with good oral until she was satisfied.
At least half of the pleasure is in the giving.

 

[*professorx*]

always

unless the goal to to indulge in orgasm denial

 

[Intoanythin]

I always take care of my woman first. For me sex is a fail unless she enjoys herself. There have been a couple of occasions when I was younger and had cum too soon, but I always remedied the situation with good oral until she was satisfied.
At least half of the pleasure is in the giving.

I totally agree. I can't remember a time she didn't cum first, i make sure of it, I could stay down there for hours before I cum.

 

[GBPFan1975]

I do hope that my partner cums from the pleasures that I am giving her. I try my best to make sure she cums first, second, third, fourth or more............I think it's a huge turn-on when I am able to make her cum and listen to her moan or scream in pleasure and watch her body shake/tremble from the joy of her orgasm. I will eventually cum, but I try to make it all about my partner first.

 

[l777]

I'm not satisfied until she is. Ladies first... and second...

Yes - that is how I feel also

 

[gabriel16]

No need for detail

Yes of course I care, really care, if she cums.
And I am attentive to her orgasm. Yes yes yes.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

I am the opposite of your recent lovers. I expect to be responsible for your orgasm.

 

[PaulieJay]

I appreciate your response and I'm intrigued as to why you question the veracity of my post? It's a question reasonably asked and qualified by an admitted sense of recent frustration however it's surely as valid as any other comment or question on this site.

I dont mean any disrespect its just as I said in this time its hard for me to see a grown man (past his 20s) not caring that a woman cums. & to find multiple men that are like that is just odd or damn unlucky. I hope you dont take my skepticism the wrong way but I guess it just seems weird to me because a womans orgasm is so fuckin sexy so its hard for me to imagine someone not wanting their partner to have multiple orgasms. Hell its why we watch the solo women category in porn LOL

 

[PaulieJay]

always

unless the goal to to indulge in orgasm denial

Damn good point now this is something I luv to do but still the reward is giving the that much begged for orgasm

 

[cosmic_peach]

My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

Unacceptable and asinine in my opinion. This does not happen (nor will it ever happen) on my watch with my lovers and I am going back 35 years. They don't always orgasm with penetration every time but always orally or manually stimulated. I also like to strive for a 2 or 3:1 ratio minimum as well per session. At my age, I can't cum all night like I used to and my refractory time is abysmal, consequently having a high "her orgasm" to "mine" ratio is easy to obtain. However, even in the heady days of my youth the orgasm ratio was always higher in my lover's favor.

My kink has always been seduction and driving lovers wild with anticipation, so this means we may not have actual sex for a long time even once things have started to simmer and / or boil. My suggestion to you is to find guys who understand seduction, understand a woman's body, want to please you and are talented. This can all be ascertained and gleaned through conversation and erotic moments with your prospective lovers.

Inability to sexually please a lover would leave me feeling very low and I would never feel fine about it. I think this is a core reason why I have never had a one-night stand. I have wanted them, I fantasize about them and even have had a few chances over the years but my fear is can I make this work with a stranger whose body and desires I do not yet know or understand?

I am noting a sharp rise in this issue with women whom I am in a relationship deep enough to talk of such matters. I honestly feel the proliferation of male centered porn and unrealistic scenarios in these short videos is partially to blame. There are 1000's of guys running around thinking women are half cumming just by taking their clothes off or being "jizzed in the face" within 2 minutes of meeting each other. The outcomes and expectations in these clips are not real life and it seems many guys are simply, and astonishingly, not aware of that.

There is nothing finer sexually than to have a woman driven to the edge with lust and then to enjoy the cresting releases over the course of an entire evening, afternoon or weekend. If you are just "dumping your load" in her you have no idea what you are missing.

 

[Polonium84]

I care. Always have.

 

[Bigspurt]

I always see to it that the woman I am with cums first. To do so it asserts a pleasure "power trip" which I find exciting and hopefully will enhance her return favor.

 

[JA068]

I dont mean any disrespect its just as I said in this time its hard for me to see a grown man (past his 20s) not caring that a woman cums. & to find multiple men that are like that is just odd or damn unlucky. I hope you dont take my skepticism the wrong way but I guess it just seems weird to me because a womans orgasm is so fuckin sexy so its hard for me to imagine someone not wanting their partner to have multiple orgasms. Hell its why we watch the solo women category in porn LOL

Many kisses to you PaulieJay for your considered thoughts. It's fair to say that a couple if the guys were in their mid 20's. Furthermore it's been really lovely to see the consistency of response this thread has generated.

 

[The_Ghost_Man]

Furthermore it's been really lovely to see the consistency of response this thread has generated.

That might be true, but surely a practical demonstration would be a more positive affirmation?

Just saying'

 

[PaulieJay]

Many kisses to you PaulieJay for your considered thoughts. It's fair to say that a couple if the guys were in their mid 20's. Furthermore it's been really lovely to see the consistency of response this thread has generated.

Yvw & Ty for the kisses & like I said orgasms are aawesom I gotta give them before I receive & I like give over & over again. Either live or via other means

 

[tazboy]

I enjoy sex MUCH more when I can give a couple of orgasms to my Lady friend, I am fascinated at how women can orgasm multiple times and with little time in-between.

 

[TerryJames69]

I'd be fascinated to know whether men honestly care if the woman they're having sex with cums or not. My experience, and perhaps I'm a little jaded by several partners in the last couple of weeks, is that as long as the man with whom I'm fucking climaxes it's of little concern to him whether I am satisfied or not.

I should clarify that I certainly don't expect my lover to take responsibility for my orgasm, ultimately that's up to me but I do expect him to know at least in general terms what women enjoy. A rudimentary understanding of foreplay and clitoral stimulation is not too much to expect surely?

I think a good male lover will always focus on pleasuring his partner before himself. After all in a world dominated by taking is the biggest reward not in giving? My two cents worth.

 

[policywank]

And what if the woman you are with says that what she really wants is another man? She appreciates all the attention but a MMF would be that much better. If you truly care about her optimum pleasure you must accept that you can't be the only source.

 

[vibes]

Would the same apply to the woman in your book?

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I can't enjoy myself unless she is. I get off of making her Cummings. The more she's enjoyed, the more I will.

 

[sexyblonde2015]

The men I play with, including my husband, always put my pleasure before theirs. We are in the older age range so, it's actually easier for them to hold off mentally and physically. In fact, some of my playmates don't cum at all. Also, my husband had prostate cancer so orgasms for him are not easy. When he does orgasm, they are dry.

Yes, I always orgasm during sex. I may not always cum from intercourse, but I will from hands, mouth or vibrator. I will cum usually between 3-5 times.

Another reason is I get bioidentical hormone pellets inserted under the skin of my rear. They are made up of either Estradiol or Testosterone. After not having any libido for 16 years and not having one orgasm in that time, my libido is now sky high and orgasms are so easy! Takes no time at all!

 

[30bandits]

The men I play with, including my husband, always put my pleasure before theirs. We are in the older age range so, it's actually easier for them to hold off mentally and physically. In fact, some of my playmates don't cum at all. Also, my husband had prostate cancer so orgasms for him are not easy. When he does orgasm, they are dry.

Yes, I always orgasm during sex. I may not always cum from intercourse, but I will from hands, mouth or vibrator. I will cum usually between 3-5 times.

Another reason is I get bioidentical hormone pellets inserted under the skin of my rear. They are made up of either Estradiol or Testosterone. After not having any libido for 16 years and not having one orgasm in that time, my libido is now sky high and orgasms are so easy! Takes no time at all!

that's outstanding. wish you were my neighbor.