You can now call me the bionic single Dom
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Face slapping
I have not been doing great
but OK .....till..........
The thread on face slapping came back up
It has taken me down memory lane
and it has not felt good
Should submissives release there Dom
without making sure the Dom has sufficent support?
I have not been doing great
but OK .....till..........
The thread on face slapping came back up
It has taken me down memory lane
and it has not felt good
Should submissives release there Dom
without making sure the Dom has sufficent support?
lady-kat
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Re: Re: Re: Face slapping
Richard, my apology. I should never fire up this computer when I'm tired. My "no clue" comment should have been more "I've read the thread and haven't an opinion either way" I've not experienced face slapping in any kind of erotic setting. On the occassions I have experienced it as a teenager, and an adult, I learned to simply show no response, other than take it in silence. I can easily be humiliated (sp?) by words (stupid comes to mind) but pain like a face slap in anger, doesn't throw me all that much. Stubborn creature that I am, I like to deny victories to someone intent on hurting me.
Your description of face slapping as a type of sexual forplay, and some of the other posts as well, was very intriguing......It's a very intimate type of pain, yes? Both in the giving and receiving of it?
And so very taboo in our society. Perhaps that's why I found it so intriguing in a sexual setting. OK, I admit it. I'm a "tad" strange. lol.
I had a particularly busy evening at work last night, and was so beat (and no, not in a good way ;-) that I could not put two sentences together in a way that made sense.
(And I'll learn not to post when I have nothing to contribute)
I logged on last night simply to see how your day had been, and just wanted to say hi......
OK, hijack over. I hope your day is going better. No word from Rachel? I hoped when she communicated with you a few days ago, that things might be looking up for you and her.
Richard49 said:
Richard, my apology. I should never fire up this computer when I'm tired. My "no clue" comment should have been more "I've read the thread and haven't an opinion either way" I've not experienced face slapping in any kind of erotic setting. On the occassions I have experienced it as a teenager, and an adult, I learned to simply show no response, other than take it in silence. I can easily be humiliated (sp?) by words (stupid comes to mind) but pain like a face slap in anger, doesn't throw me all that much. Stubborn creature that I am, I like to deny victories to someone intent on hurting me.
Your description of face slapping as a type of sexual forplay, and some of the other posts as well, was very intriguing......It's a very intimate type of pain, yes? Both in the giving and receiving of it?
And so very taboo in our society. Perhaps that's why I found it so intriguing in a sexual setting. OK, I admit it. I'm a "tad" strange. lol.
I had a particularly busy evening at work last night, and was so beat (and no, not in a good way ;-) that I could not put two sentences together in a way that made sense.
(And I'll learn not to post when I have nothing to contribute)
I logged on last night simply to see how your day had been, and just wanted to say hi......
OK, hijack over. I hope your day is going better. No word from Rachel? I hoped when she communicated with you a few days ago, that things might be looking up for you and her.
Richard49
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Friday night and Rachel
She showed up at the recovery meeting
Ignored me
When it was over I asked for a hug
What I got was like I had a disease
Such a contast from last Sunday and Monday
Even the email I got Wednesday
I shared at last nights meeting how lonely/alone I felt
Wednesday
To get more bad health news and NO ONE was there for me
Yes I did let Rachel and some others know Wednesday
I got no responds
She showed up at the recovery meeting
Ignored me
When it was over I asked for a hug
What I got was like I had a disease
Such a contast from last Sunday and Monday
Even the email I got Wednesday
I shared at last nights meeting how lonely/alone I felt
Wednesday
To get more bad health news and NO ONE was there for me
Yes I did let Rachel and some others know Wednesday
I got no responds
Richard49
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Face slapping
Just saying Hi is goodlady-kat said:
I had a particularly busy evening at work last night, and was so beat (and no, not in a good way ;-) that I could not put two sentences together in a way that made sense.
(And I'll learn not to post when I have nothing to contribute)
I logged on last night simply to see how your day had been, and just wanted to say hi......
Richard49
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Face slapping
All I can tell you is that I had never done it before seeing the thread here and trying it with Rachel ....
Damn ... jsut typing about it I get hot, nostialgic, and lonely/sad.
I would grab her hiar and slapp her face ... sometimes in public we would slip in corner and I would slapp sort of soft ... where ever/however she would go into sub space
lady-kat said:
Your description of face slapping as a type of sexual forplay, and some of the other posts as well, was very intriguing......It's a very intimate type of pain, yes? Both in the giving and receiving of it?
And so very taboo in our society. Perhaps that's why I found it so intriguing in a sexual setting. OK, I admit it. I'm a "tad" strange. lol.
All I can tell you is that I had never done it before seeing the thread here and trying it with Rachel ....
Damn ... jsut typing about it I get hot, nostialgic, and lonely/sad.
I would grab her hiar and slapp her face ... sometimes in public we would slip in corner and I would slapp sort of soft ... where ever/however she would go into sub space
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Re: Friday night and Rachel
I am sorry to hear this.......
Not sure why, even if she no longer wanted to be a lover, she could not remain a friend. It is so puzzling to me.
RE: Women as the gentler sex....
I guess that theory is bull s**t after all. damn, the whole thing you have described is just so cold.
Richard49 said:
I am sorry to hear this.......
Not sure why, even if she no longer wanted to be a lover, she could not remain a friend. It is so puzzling to me.
RE: Women as the gentler sex....
I guess that theory is bull s**t after all. damn, the whole thing you have described is just so cold.
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Re: Re: Friday night and Rachel
She claim(ed) that maintaining friendship is important to her
As I have said I have gotten lots of mixed messages.
She looked so tired and not well last night. I wanted to take her in my arms and hold her in saftey till she was rested .....
oh well...........
lady-kat said:
She claim(ed) that maintaining friendship is important to her
As I have said I have gotten lots of mixed messages.
She looked so tired and not well last night. I wanted to take her in my arms and hold her in saftey till she was rested .....
oh well...........
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Face slapping
damn indeed.....
I'll take that damn and raise it to a double damn.....
as in "I have to go to work again today" & "I need to be able to concentrate on my job damnit!" lol What you describe is very hot.
Thank you for sharing Richard.
I am very ignorant about so many things that my curiosity runs away with my mouth (typing fingers) I am sorry that my questions made for hurtful memories. I had not intended to intrude.
Richard49 said:
damn indeed.....
I'll take that damn and raise it to a double damn.....
as in "I have to go to work again today" & "I need to be able to concentrate on my job damnit!" lol What you describe is very hot.
Thank you for sharing Richard.
I am very ignorant about so many things that my curiosity runs away with my mouth (typing fingers) I am sorry that my questions made for hurtful memories. I had not intended to intrude.
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Re: Re: Re: Friday night and Rachel
I truly don't know what to say.....
This has got to be the worst kind of torture for you. To have to see her, and not know how to approach her. Never knowing what the response will be......
Richard49 said:
I truly don't know what to say.....
This has got to be the worst kind of torture for you. To have to see her, and not know how to approach her. Never knowing what the response will be......
Richard49
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Face slapping
What kind of work do you do?
Does not your Dom take care of things like this?
YOu did not bring up hurtful memeroies
It is the thread starting to go again that has done it
lady-kat said:damn indeed.....
I'll take that damn and raise it to a double damn.....
as in "I have to go to work again today" & "I need to be able to concentrate on my job damnit!" lol What you describe is very hot.
Thank you for sharing Richard.
I am very ignorant about so many things that my curiosity runs away with my mouth (typing fingers) I am sorry that my questions made for hurtful memories. I had not intended to intrude.
What kind of work do you do?
Does not your Dom take care of things like this?
YOu did not bring up hurtful memeroies
It is the thread starting to go again that has done it
Richard49
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Should a submissive
Should a submissive made sure that a Dom has support when she leaves him ?
I have always heard that we Doms have that obligation to submissives. I can tell you .. you cn read it in this thread ...
that I as a Dom am very lost without my Submissive.
Very lost and other things
Should a submissive made sure that a Dom has support when she leaves him ?
I have always heard that we Doms have that obligation to submissives. I can tell you .. you cn read it in this thread ...
that I as a Dom am very lost without my Submissive.
Very lost and other things
kayte
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Re: Should a submissive
Good morning Richard.
and a gentle hug. I have given that post of yours some hard thought for the last day or two since I first saw it.
I think that is part of the 'bargain' if you will that was struck by the two of them when the submission was given and accepted. It is not something discussed though very often if at all in the life.
The relationship that evolves between a Dom and a sub/slave is so intense that it would be wrong to think only the sub would require support if it ended.
I think is shows your strength as a Dom to bring up such a difficult question, and to do it in reference to yourself.
In my own relationship. I can't imagine it ending, by either one of us. Of course we all think that until it does. If it did, I don't know who it would be harder for. It would be equally painful I think. Typing this is caused my stomach to clench, to feel ill.
It is a poly relationship. That is a wonderful way to be. That has its own challenges as well. I don't know what would happen. If I left. I am hoping my sisters would be there for Him. I don't know what I would do.
Richard you are always in my thoughts and prayers my friend.
Richard49 said:
Good morning Richard.
and a gentle hug. I have given that post of yours some hard thought for the last day or two since I first saw it. I think that is part of the 'bargain' if you will that was struck by the two of them when the submission was given and accepted. It is not something discussed though very often if at all in the life.
The relationship that evolves between a Dom and a sub/slave is so intense that it would be wrong to think only the sub would require support if it ended.
I think is shows your strength as a Dom to bring up such a difficult question, and to do it in reference to yourself.
In my own relationship. I can't imagine it ending, by either one of us. Of course we all think that until it does. If it did, I don't know who it would be harder for. It would be equally painful I think. Typing this is caused my stomach to clench, to feel ill.
It is a poly relationship. That is a wonderful way to be. That has its own challenges as well. I don't know what would happen. If I left. I am hoping my sisters would be there for Him. I don't know what I would do.
Richard you are always in my thoughts and prayers my friend.
Richard49
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Re: Re: Should a submissive
Thank you for your prayers
I need all the influence withthe man upstairs or the unoiverse or whatever
that I can get
It is this "need" for support that added to me being poly.
There is a thread in playground ( I think) that I co started on poly.
Anyway in this situation with Rachel I agreed to mono
and ... well .. as they say.. the rest is history....
Now my mental committee is arguing over
1) ride this out she will be back
2) she kicked you to the curb .. all bets are off .. find a new ass to spank and ......
Here I am ...
1) caring deeply for her
2) no money to invest in the hunt
but
3) needing someone close
So what does a Dom do?
punt ?
kayte said:
It is a poly relationship. That is a wonderful way to be. That has its own challenges as well. I don't know what would happen. If I left. I am hoping my sisters would be there for Him. I don't know what I would do.
Richard you are always in my thoughts and prayers my friend.
Thank you for your prayers
I need all the influence withthe man upstairs or the unoiverse or whatever
that I can get
It is this "need" for support that added to me being poly.
There is a thread in playground ( I think) that I co started on poly.
Anyway in this situation with Rachel I agreed to mono
and ... well .. as they say.. the rest is history....
Now my mental committee is arguing over
1) ride this out she will be back
2) she kicked you to the curb .. all bets are off .. find a new ass to spank and ......
Here I am ...
1) caring deeply for her
2) no money to invest in the hunt
but
3) needing someone close
So what does a Dom do?
punt ?
