You can now call me the bionic single Dom

[lady-kat]

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You want me to make you bear?

I got your email address not your Yahoo im

I did not check your email link on your profile

My email addy, minus the @yahoo.com, is my yahoo IM (I think?) Pretty sure. You can tell how often I use this IM stuff, huh?

OK, and blonde moment here, so yes please bear with me....

 

[lady-kat]

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You want me to make you bear?

mmmmmmmmmmm.................................
so tempting an offer, and so nicely put.

 

[Richard49]

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mmmmmmmmmmm.................................
so tempting an offer, and so nicely put.

is that a yes or no?

 

[lady-kat]

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is that a yes or no?

such a dilema here......
lol.


Richard, I have to leave the site for a few hours. I need to list some auctions for my SO.

I got your PM. Thank you

With your permission, I will attempt the IM tomorrow? Thank you for adding my id. to your IM list. Hopefully, I will not have another blonde moment, and will be able to connect. Gads! Who would have thought being a blonde would be such a burden. lol.

Hope all goes good for you this evening. I'll be on line later to see how your night goes, OK?

Take care my friend....

 

[Richard49]

Rachel treated me much better tonight then she has been
however she also did not leave me with any hope
or a chance to talk

I did leave her a phone message thanking her for the specifc positive things that happened.

We shall see

 

[lady-kat]

Rachel treated me much better tonight then she has been
however she also did not leave me with any hope
or a chance to talk

Perhaps the distance is allowing her to reflect a bit (?)

I did leave her a phone message thanking her for the specifc positive things that happened.

We shall see

Still, a better evening than the last one, yes? Hopefully not so hurtful? I am glad for you.....


now...............
about that offer..........
lol.

 

[Richard49]

now...............
about that offer..........
lol.

yes ?

 

[lady-kat]

yes ?

mmmmmmmmmm.............................

 

[Richard49]

Another friend dies

Today another dear freind of mine died.
When I first joined the VFW three of the older guys took me under there wing .. now all three have passed on

 

[Richard49]

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Richard. I think one of the things I admire about you most is the thoughts you post here. You are honest in your feelings, not ashamed to say it like it is. I've never seen you post spiteful words towards any posters here. Granted, I have only been lurking this board for maybe 10 months or so, but I've read many of the old threads.

Also, the dignity you have dealing with the events that life has sent your way.

Interesting since on a current thread and through PMs I have been accused of not being any of this since I asked why a tone of "knowing it all" and "having all th answrs" had seemed to become a reality.

I have always believed I can only share my experence, strength and hope ... that I am not qualified to make rules for others or to give advice

 

[bunny bondage]

just sayin' hi and letting you know that i'm on board!

*waves to Richard*

 

[Richard49]

just sayin' hi and letting you know that i'm on board!

*waves to Richard*

Hi there

Give me words of wisdom for the rest of my day

 

[Richard49]

I had left word for Rachel about my freind dying
She returned my call

We chatted about lots of nothing things
It was good
and it did cheer me up

She did tell me that she was maintaing distance
and she had to do that for her

Distance?
why?

 

[bunny bondage]

is rachel the ex? (just trying to get the players straight here)

 

[lady-kat]

I had left word for Rachel about my freind dying
She returned my call

We chatted about lots of nothing things
It was good
and it did cheer me up

She did tell me that she was maintaing distance
and she had to do that for her

Distance?
why?

ah, Richard. I am glad she returned your call. Perhaps chatting about nothing things is good. Words that can't wound. And she did call.......

a very good thing.

As for the distance and the why......

 

[Richard49]

is rachel the ex? (just trying to get the players straight here)

My ex wife former collared submissive is Cyndi
Rachel is my lastest Ex So
At lest I think she is an Ex

 

[Richard49]

Just somethoughts that have crossed my mind
starting with waking this morning very angery at Rachel

I have no idea where it came from but

Maybe some of the women can help me here
maybe not

Rachel, like me is a recovering addict.
She has almost a year clean
I have almost 6 years
That means that her son lived with suing adicts for most the first 5 years of his life ......

She thinks she is and has been a great parent
Yet one of the first things I noticed about him was he abused his cat .... yesterday she told me he was doing it again/still
He controls his mother very well

Many have suggested to me that no matter how much she and I might want a relationship ...... that there relationship makes it impossible and I should walk away

??????????????

 

[Richard49]

Face slapping

There is a thread going on face slapping.
There seems to be concern that the slapper might hurt the other or be abusive .......

For Rachel and I it was a wonderful experence.
It could put her in sub space immediately

IMHO it all gets down to trust and the reason for the type of trust
If I were a submissive I would not let someone even spank me
if they had not earned my trust

So much caution on these boards comes from, IMHO, "playing" with people we have no reason to trust.

 

[lady-kat]

She thinks she is and has been a great parent
Yet one of the first things I noticed about him was he abused his cat .... yesterday she told me he was doing it again/still
He controls his mother very well

WTF!!!!????

sorry Richard. With that comment about the cat, it is apparent to me that any thoughts I have made in this thread are so far off base to be of any use....

I truly have no place posting an opinion about this. I'm never able to be objective when it involves misuse of an animal...

 

[Richard49]

Abuse

One the trends in the BDSM Community since the internet
has been for abusers to materilize as "DOMs"

Does anyone have any links of how ainmal abuse as children is a first sign of an abuser?

How about how "bulling" being any means to get what one wants when others do not want to give it to them?

 

[Richard49]

Iam old

I was talking to a mother and former teacher/princple that is a dear freind and big herb customer of mine. Her husband is a former Dr.

We were discussing what theings were like when growing up. How kids now feel like certain things she and I were brought up as manners is control issues.

You know things like calling if you are going to be late ... knowing where you are in case some one needs to get hold of you etc.

The conversation made me feel very old .. .very old in deed

However I refuse to die till I win at the VA ... than .. I proably will just lay down and give it up ... I just wish I had a wife and minor children to leave the spoils of the hard fought battle

 

[lady-kat]

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I
However I refuse to die till I win at the VA ... than .. I proably will just lay down and give it up ...

Damnit Richard!

Stop saying that! Better yet, stop thinking that!

Yes, yes, get as pissed off as it pleases you to get, but for Christ's sake.......

edited to add:
nothing more. I can't say anything else without being a total asshole.......

 

[Richard49]

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Damnit Richard!

Stop saying that! Better yet, stop thinking that!

Yes, yes, get as pissed off as it pleases you to get, but for Christ's sake.......

edited to add:
nothing more. I can't say anything else without being a total asshole.......

I apologze to you and anyone else that may misunderstand.
My life expectence is very short
In fact I should be dead

I keep myself going inspite of daily issues
like where am I going to live when the eviction is final
because after fighting VA all these years
having to take them to federal court on one claim
that took 8 years
I just refuse to die

When the last battle with them is fought
I want the rest available

 

[bunny bondage]

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You know things like calling if you are going to be late ... knowing where you are in case some one needs to get hold of you etc.

The conversation made me feel very old .. .very old in deed

having manners shouldn't make you feel old, Richard! i find rudeness unacceptable in people of any age, and practice good manners myself! i say "thank you" when someone holds the door open for me and "excuse me" when my path collides with that of someone else. i do call when i'm going to be late, and i offer to get guests something from the kitchen when they arrive. manners are the trademark of intelligence and respect for friends, not a sign of age!

 

[Richard49]

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having manners shouldn't make you feel old, Richard! i find rudeness unacceptable in people of any age, and practice good manners myself! i say "thank you" when someone holds the door open for me and "excuse me" when my path collides with that of someone else. i do call when i'm going to be late, and i offer to get guests something from the kitchen when they arrive. manners are the trademark of intelligence and respect for friends, not a sign of age!

Does not seem like many have manners these days.

Congratulations to you for having them and praticing them