Women - What (not who) turns you on?

[LargoKitt]

I am seeking some insight for future stories on what turns you on. You, being people who identify as women. There are plenty of articles titled "What Turns Her On", by they are all about the sexy moves a partner can lay on a lady to get her juices flowing. So first insight is that women most often get turned on by people paying attention to them; or fantasizing about people paying attention to them. Okay. There's that little thing he does. But I want to do deeper (he said). I'm challenging you to think about why 'that' gets you hot. Silk pulling across your nipple. Which setting on the vibe? Why that setting? But before that, what flips the switch from, "I need a new pair of kicks" to "Whoa, if only someone would put their hand just ...?

 

[EStaccato]

I don't know if this is deeper, but it's different... Body painting makes me drip. The feeling of the paint going on, especially over my nipples (duh), and all the other girls in the room looking at me, looking at the other girls having their paint done, us looking at each other. I'm not a natural exhibitionist, so the two times I've done it, I was nervous as hell. The artist, who was only a friend of a friend (I was friends with the photographer, well... I guess I got to know the artist so the second time was easier), was so assuring and comforting. And like, a curvy cute nerdy girl, which I love. The way she made me feel comfortable, and then the way she touched me on top of that, plus all the naked hotness, I just got crazy turned on. I would have gone down on anyone in that room.

The photography, too. I didn't feel naked but kind of felt naked... and this was a friend who had only seen me in like, sweaters and jeans. He's not unattractive, either.

I think the deeper part, I realize, is that the tension made it hot. None of us would do anything. But if I was the only person there thinking about a mouth on my crotch, I'll eat glass.

 

[Lady2020]

The sense he has the time and availability to be present. For me. His mind isn't on checking off his kink list or on the next woman he has on his list.

 

[MissMandy86]

Very over confident men
Cocky, aggressive. Acts like he owns everything

 

[ShaneoD]

Very over confident men
Cock, aggressive. Acts like he owns everything

My brain right now: "There's the key to the mint, but you're never going to meet that vault door"

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

So first insight is that women most often get turned on by people paying attention to them; or fantasizing about people paying attention to them.

I think you’re on to something here. Yes, being the focus of male attention is very arousing. Being exposed, knowing that I’ve made him hard—huge turn ons.

Also, being overpowered and “taken”. Being stripped naked. Having my arms pinned over my head. Feeling him opening my thighs. Being down on my knees to suck his cock. Being down on all fours and raising my ass to “present” my pussy to him. Feeling his hands on my hips when he mounts me from behind.

All of these things get me wet when I think about them

 

[sterculius]

Interesting thread! I'm no psychologist, but I suspect that things that turn women on are indirectly related to the biological imperative to reproduce, the subconscious need to be impregnated. A woman's body is a beautiful machine. A walking, talking incubator/food factory

 

[sterculius]

The basic, biological, bare bones reproductive scenario requires penetration and ejaculation, female orgasm or cooperation not required. Man's larger and stronger body facilitates rape The conscious motivation is for copulation, not reproduction but what does the woman get out of it? We're basically the same stone age animals we've been since before civilization.

 

[drobert44]

I think manners, money, generosity, and the ability to travel.........

 

[Justfantasies]

I don't know if this is deeper, but it's different... Body painting makes me drip. The feeling of the paint going on, especially over my nipples (duh), and all the other girls in the room looking at me, looking at the other girls having their paint done, us looking at each other. I'm not a natural exhibitionist, so the two times I've done it, I was nervous as hell. The artist, who was only a friend of a friend (I was friends with the photographer, well... I guess I got to know the artist so the second time was easier), was so assuring and comforting. And like, a curvy cute nerdy girl, which I love. The way she made me feel comfortable, and then the way she touched me on top of that, plus all the naked hotness, I just got crazy turned on. I would have gone down on anyone in that room.

The photography, too. I didn't feel naked but kind of felt naked... and this was a friend who had only seen me in like, sweaters and jeans. He's not unattractive, either.

I think the deeper part, I realize, is that the tension made it hot. None of us would do anything. But if I was the only person there thinking about a mouth on my crotch, I'll eat glass.

I don't know if this is deeper, but it's different... Body painting makes me drip. The feeling of the paint going on, especially over my nipples (duh), and all the other girls in the room looking at me, looking at the other girls having their paint done, us looking at each other. I'm not a natural exhibitionist, so the two times I've done it, I was nervous as hell. The artist, who was only a friend of a friend (I was friends with the photographer, well... I guess I got to know the artist so the second time was easier), was so assuring and comforting. And like, a curvy cute nerdy girl, which I love. The way she made me feel comfortable, and then the way she touched me on top of that, plus all the naked hotness, I just got crazy turned on. I would have gone down on anyone in that room.

The photography, too. I didn't feel naked but kind of felt naked... and this was a friend who had only seen me in like, sweaters and jeans. He's not unattractive, either.

I think the deeper part, I realize, is that the tension made it hot. None of us would do anything. But if I was the only person there thinking about a mouth on my crotch, I'll eat glass.

When I was i my 20s and 30s I dated several women who were models for photoshoots. Not all the shoots were sexual at all, but some of them definitely were and I was told by two of them essentially that sex seemed like a very natural thing to do in such circumstances

 

[tonyp]

My biggest turn ons are a gentle and reassuring voice that goes along with touch and not being rushed, showing patience and flirting heavily before diving in.

Why? I'm still figuring that out. But there's this comfort that goes along with the reassurance and patience combo. It exudes care and a willingness to hold their own arousal until mine can catch up. That's sexy to me.

I like that thought ...

 

[Drinkmein]

Ahhh. In that insatiable few days of ovulation. Is sex ever as good as when the pregnancy risk is elevated? The thought of a rough hard bareback fuck makes me wet!!!

 

[Wonderer67]

Just asked my wife, here is her answer.

“A hand on my waist.” Was here quick answer.

Then she thought about it…

“im very touch centric - holding hands, rubbing up against me in bed, your hands on my body.

That’s why I don’t like porn much, it’s too visual.

“I like when you fuck me from behind in bed and you wrap your feet around me and hold me with your hand and feet while your fucking me.

Touch does it for me.

I also like it when you touch me with your bald head.”

Where?

“When your fucking me, I like it when you put your head, nice and smooth, on my body and head. I also like it when you place your head on my pussy and rub it really gently with your baldness.”

 

[Strixaluco]

Now I will concentrate on what gets me even started, not what happens later.

Nearness of the right guy. Yes, merely being close, at best. He might not even know. It's a question of pheromones and genetic matching, so very much to do with reproduction.

Anticipation. Usually built with touch, a patient, right kind of touch. (A hand on my waist is one of the things I love. Plenty of erotics to be found on the back!) Looks, making me feel wanted. Could be voice and words, too - I've met a couple of guys who can make me wet (or even cum!) with just their voices.
The situation does matter. There are touches that don't feel more than nice in a public setting, when I know nothing more can follow that night, but in some other situation may build up the anticipation. Even the hand on my waist - it's always nice, but different when going for a lunch with relatives than going for dinner with possibility of something else happening later.

Him taking the lead. Now this, like all of the above, has everything to do with who does it. Even though I am a sub and a little, I won't submit to just anyone. I may just as well turn my defenses on! There must be trust (which may sometimes build very fast, instinctively), but even then some I may trust to follow but they won't turn me on... There are also those who may turn me on by being close but I would not trust to give them the power over me. But if there is trust and the guy is right... Well then the power transfer switches me into a waiting mode where all my senses are directed at him, and I will basically just be waiting for what happens next. And then there are things like him putting his hand on my throat... I know he could squeeze it too much, but I know he won't , and that combination of threat and trust is intoxicating. The same goes with taking me with force - I need to be able to trust that he will not actually hurt me in any way. (This in a BDSM setting, after discussing limits.) It is a very intimate kind of trust. It is goes beyond thinking the man is trustworthy, it includes trust in him being able to know what I need and to do it. (I've known trustworthy men who think I am ready when I am not, or who just can't touch me right, no matter how much I try to show the right way.)

Just knowing what to do is never enough. It is very closely connected to who it is.

 

[Ingenue844]

I love being Bratty. Mouthing off, talking back, pouting, etc. and I love men who not only tolerate my BS but actually want to fuck me because of it. But I have no desire to be “punished.” I find sexual violence extremely traumatizing.

As for finding a partner. It does start with Attention. Especially if he notices me before I noticed him. I don’t pursue guys. Guys will pursue what they want, and toy with girls who pursue them.

It’s always obvious if I’m into a guy because I allow more touching just in general. I don’t keep as much of a personal bubble. I give access to them that I wouldn’t to anyone else.

I’m a nurturer. I like guys who are aggressive. I think we strike a balance in that way. Obviously an underlying breeding kink.

 

[Strixaluco]

It’s always obvious if I’m into a guy because I allow more touching just in general. I don’t keep as much of a personal bubble. I give access to them that I wouldn’t to anyone else

I'm not sure it would be obvious in my case, because as a dancer my personal bubble isn't on/off, there's a very much sliding scale. But there is definitely a great difference in what men at opposite ends of the scale get allowed!

For example while dancing in closed position (think tango, foxtrot etc), there are men who, if trying to slide their handle down my back, immediatly get corrected. On the 2nd time even annoyedly.
Another man can slide his hand close to my waist before I friendly remind him that it's not really appropriate.
A third man can, eventually, put his hand wherever he wants and dares on a public place. (Though being too bold and progressing too fast might make me turn my defenses back on.)

 

[the_single_gal_unconfidential]

being around men, feeling their skin like their shoulders, back and chest.
even just quiet talking.
everyday type chance encounters w guys.
knowing they have a cock that I would like.

 

[Lakeprincess1]

Now I will concentrate on what gets me even started, not what happens later.

Nearness of the right guy. Yes, merely being close, at best. He might not even know. It's a question of pheromones and genetic matching, so very much to do with reproduction.

Anticipation. Usually built with touch, a patient, right kind of touch. (A hand on my waist is one of the things I love. Plenty of erotics to be found on the back!) Looks, making me feel wanted. Could be voice and words, too - I've met a couple of guys who can make me wet (or even cum!) with just their voices.
The situation does matter. There are touches that don't feel more than nice in a public setting, when I know nothing more can follow that night, but in some other situation may build up the anticipation. Even the hand on my waist - it's always nice, but different when going for a lunch with relatives than going for dinner with possibility of something else happening later.

Him taking the lead. Now this, like all of the above, has everything to do with who does it. Even though I am a sub and a little, I won't submit to just anyone. I may just as well turn my defenses on! There must be trust (which may sometimes build very fast, instinctively), but even then some I may trust to follow but they won't turn me on... There are also those who may turn me on by being close but I would not trust to give them the power over me. But if there is trust and the guy is right... Well then the power transfer switches me into a waiting mode where all my senses are directed at him, and I will basically just be waiting for what happens next. And then there are things like him putting his hand on my throat... I know he could squeeze it too much, but I know he won't , and that combination of threat and trust is intoxicating. The same goes with taking me with force - I need to be able to trust that he will not actually hurt me in any way. (This in a BDSM setting, after discussing limits.) It is a very intimate kind of trust. It is goes beyond thinking the man is trustworthy, it includes trust in him being able to know what I need and to do it. (I've known trustworthy men who think I am ready when I am not, or who just can't touch me right, no matter how much I try to show the right way.)

Just knowing what to do is never enough. It is very closely connected to who it is.

This!!

 

[jsmiam]

I’ll say this once and stop.

Dear fellow males. Shoosh. Stop talking in this thread. Listen. Limit replies to likes and thanks.

I realize this looks and sounds like a transparent reverse psychology attempt at sucking up. It’s not. I just want to suggest, “this would be a good time to just listen.“

 

[the_single_gal_unconfidential]

and being on here
posting a pic now and then.
notes from desirable guys.
brings up urges and thoughts of cock going in. a hole, any hole

 

[Drinkmein]

Humor and wit and intelligence

 

[FarmGirlJill]

For me a photoshoot sometimes or just spur of the moment photos of me naked out in nature/outdoors. But for a long time now I've had at the top of my list to have sex with a beautiful, large cocked transsexual. I can't get over the thought of playing with her tits, kissing and sucking them while she's filling my pussy with her big cock.

 

[BongoGal]

Having my arms pinned over my head.

I swear, the first time a guy did that to me while fucking, I gasped and had an orgasm seconds later.

 

[Mypssypls]

Dirty talk

 

[cathyk1980]

intelligence, a nice hard body, and large cock. Sort of unbeatable. Throw in a little kink.....
And a man so turned on he can hardly control himself...thats kind of nice too...
O, and dirty talk...

I guess a lot of things turn me.... I will get back to you on that.