Cuckoldry and humiliation: a thread for women as well as men

[TryingTooHard]

There seems to be a very lively interest in many threads about cuckoldry & cheating, and all their various ass-pects. So I thought I'd post my own question. I’d love to hear from both women with step out on their own, and the men who love them for it.

My question is about humiliation. I myself have had a lifelong kink for humiliation, and I think the humiliation that I've experienced in cuckold-type situations is what first turned me on to it. There are other things about it that also turn me on, but humiliation is by far the biggest factor. How about you?
Does humiliating him, or being humiliated by her, turn you on?
Or is it just the general sexiness and freedom from constraints that does it for you? Or somet

Being cuckolded and often made to watch your wife being fucked by another man or men conjures up so may intense and mixed emotions. Everything from sexual arousal to complete humiliation and sometimes intimidation. The man or men using your wife can humiliate you. Your wife can. They both can. Once you have shown yourself even as a little bit submissive, the humiliation will increase. A more dominant man will exploit this fully, even if your wife doesn't want to it to happen to you.

 

[TryingTooHard]

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[TryingTooHard]

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[liqueur]

Once you have shown yourself even as a little bit submissive, the humiliation will increase. A more dominant man will exploit this fully, even if your wife doesn't want to it to happen to you.

I remember reading stories from women in Nancy Friday's work (So, back before this was a well-known kink. And I do mean women. Not just one or two. There was a pattern there.) who had no idea that their husband had a submissive streak, or that seeing that would turn them on. And these same women got incredibly aroused seeing their lover humiliate their husband.

 

[TryingTooHard]

I remember reading stories from women in Nancy Friday's work (So, back before this was a well-known kink. And I do mean women. Not just one or two. There was a pattern there.) who had no idea that their husband had a submissive streak, or that seeing that would turn them on. And these same women got incredibly aroused seeing their lover humiliate their husband.

Exactly right. My wife looses all inhibition whenever her former boyfriend visits. He is a naturally "take-charge" sort of man and he figured out, from the onset, that I had a submissive streak. He now exploits that. My wife was initially shocked that I was being willingly (?) humiliated but has now recognized that this is an inherent part of my sexuality.

 

[TryingTooHard]

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[AEPoe]

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Don’t knock it till you try it!

 

[TryingTooHard]

Don’t knock it till you try it!

I don't knock it. I have learnt to accept it.

 

[nutoseen]

There seems to be a very lively interest in many threads about cuckoldry & cheating, and all their various ass-pects. So I thought I'd post my own question. I’d love to hear from both women with step out on their own, and the men who love them for it.

My question is about humiliation. I myself have had a lifelong kink for humiliation, and I think the humiliation that I've experienced in cuckold-type situations is what first turned me on to it. There are other things about it that also turn me on, but humiliation is by far the biggest factor. How about you?
Does humiliating him, or being humiliated by her, turn you on?
Or is it just the general sexiness and freedom from constraints that does it for you? Or something else?

so yesterday i was at acupuncturist getting that and cupping for lower sore back and sore hamstrings. i was on my stomach and she needed to pull towel down exposing top part of my bottom and move it up to get to my upper hamstrings. i was pretty exposed. as she was moving the cupping around i became more so. my tiny wiener jostled out due to my legs being partially spread and her moving cupping around. it felt so good when she said "oh, we cant have that" and placed a small tissue over my ball sac and tiny penis head that was peeking out. i said sorry. she said "it's okay, now that little guy is tucked away". so hot. there was precum on tissue when she moved it and also the sheet covering the table. i jacked off twice since then thinking about being seen and the comments she made. next week i go back to work on my shoulder, she made appointment with me as i was leaving. ... she only saw the tissue, i wonder she noticed the sheets after i left.

 

[CliimaxForYou]

Any suggestion of humiliation would have killed it for me. I just love watching live sex. My wife was the only woman who would let me watch her fucking without calling the cops. So I encouraged her to have sex with other men while I watched, or joined in. Absolutely no humiliation.

This. Exactly this. No humiliation for me either. Wouldn’t take well to that. But I want my partner to feel pleasure. And sharing something as intimate as that with a partner can only build a relationship if managed properly and respectfully.

 

[TryingTooHard]

I don't knock it. I have learnt to accept it.

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[TryingTooHard]

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[liqueur]

...I was on my stomach and she needed to pull towel down exposing top part of my bottom and move it up to get to my upper hamstrings. i was pretty exposed. as she was moving the cupping around i became more so...

Your experience reminds me of one I had with a massage therapist once. I don't want to pull this thread further off-topic by writing about it here. But feel free to PM me if you'd like to hear about it.

 

[cuck72]

For me it's all about the humiliation and embarrassment. It's such a "high" to think of some people I know, family, some friends finding out I was cuckolded by my wife, and I think of being a cum eating cleanup cock sucker too. WOW! the turn-on if guys I worked with knew I have sissy fem fantasies along with my niece's and sister-n-law.

 

[liqueur]

For me it's all about the humiliation and embarrassment. It's such a "high" to think of some people I know, family, some friends finding out I was cuckolded

My ex told both my sister-in-law and my adult step-daughter about her lover— in particular about how big his cock was— in my presence. It was very humiliating, and the humiliation was intensely hot.

 

[liqueur]

I want to give this thread a bump, so I'm going to restate my OP:

1. Women: is the potential humiliation factor an important part of what makes cuckoldry attractive to you? (Guys, please don't jump in and answer for the women. That's not attractive.)
2. Guys (and queerfolk like me): does the cuckold experience cause you to feel humiliated? If so, does that add to the experience for you?

And then there's cheating, which has been described as nonconsensual cuckoldry. Except that it's clear from these threads that a lot of men are turned on when they find out. And it also seems that at least some women want their partner to find out. So:

3. Cheaters and cheatees: does the potential humiliation factor intensify this experience for you?​

 

[calmlikeabomb]

The Mrs has often suggested the idea of cuckqueening and hot husbanding, to the point she almost booked an escort a few times. For some reason, I just haven't been able to get my head around doing it. I have been a bull in the past to couples who happily engaged in cuckolding, so I'm not stranger to it, but that 0.1% chance it actually ends up hurting her is a bridge too far for me..

We have spoken about it often, and for her, it's a mix of humiliation and control. Sometimes, she sizzles at the idea of me cheating on her as a way to prove that I'm "the man", and sometimes, it's the idea of her controlling my orgasm (she relaxes with a glass of wine while a prostitute sucks me off, and I'm allowed to see, but I'm not allowed to touch).

 

[MiaBabe23]

Lol to the first guy answering after the OP’s clarification, again trying to answer for women

 

[LittleGreene]

I remember reading stories from women in Nancy Friday's work (So, back before this was a well-known kink. And I do mean women. Not just one or two. There was a pattern there.) who had no idea that their husband had a submissive streak, or that seeing that would turn them on. And these same women got incredibly aroused seeing their lover humiliate their husband.

Nancy Friday made me realise most of my fantasies were perfectly normal and wife spread

 

[LittleGreene]

I want to give this thread a bump, so I'm going to restate my OP:

1. Women: is the potential humiliation factor an important part of what makes cuckoldry attractive to you? (Guys, please don't jump in and answer for the women. That's not attractive.)
2. Guys (and queerfolk like me): does the cuckold experience cause you to feel humiliated? If so, does that add to the experience for you?

And then there's cheating, which has been described as nonconsensual cuckoldry. Except that it's clear from these threads that a lot of men are turned on when they find out. And it also seems that at least some women want their partner to find out. So:

3. Cheaters and cheatees: does the potential humiliation factor intensify this experience for you?​

Humiliation is the very last thing of want in this sort of situation. That’s just not my dna. But the idea of him having to watch my pleasure with exquisite frustration does excite me

 

[Wife84doc]

For me it would be only about being kinky, naughty, sexy.
Wouldn’t want my husband to be humiliated or degraded. That would be turn off for me

 

[EasyBrad59]

For me, the idea of seeing a partner sexually dominated and satisfied by other males is not so much about being humiliated (even if I was tied up while witnessing the acts), but mainly about being so turned on at her expression of lust and desire. This is a celebration of her sexuality.

 

[LexiSmiles92]

I think some of the stereotypical stuff applies to many couples ... but we're not all the same and when its truly done for both (as it should be) ... this kind of marriage can be beautiful. For us, there is something naturally "humbling" for my husband about me having sex with another man ... in front of, in ear shot of ... or away from. Its kind of part of it. For us. Anything that humbles him is done playfully and meant to increase the intensity of his enjoyment / pleasure .... and I guess mine, if I'm speaking honestly.

 

[EasyBrad59]

I think some of the stereotypical stuff applies to many couples ... but we're not all the same and when its truly done for both (as it should be) ... this kind of marriage can be beautiful. For us, there is something naturally "humbling" for my husband about me having sex with another man ... in front of, in ear shot of ... or away from. Its kind of part of it. For us. Anything that humbles him is done playfully and meant to increase the intensity of his enjoyment / pleasure .... and I guess mine, if I'm speaking honestly.

Do you both have a preference as to whether he is in the same room or not? It would seem to be more humbling and erotic for him to be in the same room watching another man give you intense pleasure.

 

[LexiSmiles92]

Do you both have a preference as to whether he is in the same room or not? It would seem to be more humbling and erotic for him to be in the same room watching another man give you intense pleasure.

It depends. I'm playful by nature ... and so not always doing the same thing is part of the fun of what we do. And, for my husband, keeping what we do from becoming routine adds fun and kind of increases the intensity for him. Its for both of us ...