Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[Crystal_Dust]

Well, I suppose that after almost two years, this thread was bound to start collecting dust! Welcome.

But very sparkly dust!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

But I look so professional today!

Oh we are all just talented amateurs here.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

But very sparkly dust!

https://www.getyarn.io/yarn-clip/0b3df287-3d90-45ba-8096-dd5ce0ae2276

 

[AngieGZC]

https://www.getyarn.io/yarn-clip/0b3df287-3d90-45ba-8096-dd5ce0ae2276

Hmmmm

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Hmmmm

It’s the Ted Lasso clip for “fucking glitter”

I suppose just sitting there it looks suspect

 

[AngieGZC]

It’s the Ted Lasso clip for “fucking glitter”

I suppose just sitting there it looks suspect

It was just a black screen...never seen Ted

 

[JennyCapricorn]

It was just a black screen...never seen Ted

I remember when the internet worked.

It was a lovely thing

 

[AngieGZC]

I remember when the internet worked.

It was a lovely thing

Indeed it was....I miss those days...

 

[Crystal_Dust]

Nothing is more important than showing the ads

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I have a question for the group: you all saw my comment on getting an OkCupid account set up for ENM. I initially limited it to be shown only to non-straight profiles with an interest only in women and have had some OK responses. (A couple of really cute women who are at the very outside edge of my range but who strangely are in the same town with each other and haven’t met…) I made sure to write a note on every one of the likes I sent to make myself stand out and because it seemed polite.

Then as an experiment I expanded my preferences to men for 12 hours (still only non-straight profiles) and in that time got a comparative pile of looks and likes… and only one guy bothered to write a note.

Is this normal? Are they all really that low effort? At least all the profile pics were comparatively nice, well dressed, and none of them were holding a fish. Maybe because they all registered as queer somehow.

I’d love the groups feedbacks as a 52 year old on line dating newbie.

 

[Crystal_Dust]

I have a question for the group: you all saw my comment on getting an OkCupid account set up for ENM. I initially limited it to be shown only to non-straight profiles with an interest only in women and have had some OK responses. (A couple of really cute women who are at the very outside edge of my range but who strangely are in the same town with each other and haven’t met…) I made sure to write a note on every one of the likes I sent to make myself stand out and because it seemed polite.

Then as an experiment I expanded my preferences to men for 12 hours (still only non-straight profiles) and in that time got a comparative pile of looks and likes… and only one guy bothered to write a note.

Is this normal? Are they all really that low effort? At least all the profile pics were comparatively nice, well dressed, and none of them were holding a fish. Maybe because they all registered as queer somehow.

I’d love the groups feedbacks as a 52 year old on line dating newbie.

While I do not engage with men in that way, what you’ve described is the experience of literally every woman I’ve spoken to on the subject

 

[JennyCapricorn]

While I do not engage with men in that way, what you’ve described is the experience of literally every woman I’ve spoken to on the subject

that is really sad. And I know anecdotally that they complain about not getting enough responses from these sorts of sites

 

[Crystal_Dust]

that is really sad. And I know anecdotally that they complain about not getting enough responses from these sorts of sites

In fairness to them, the sites are god awful. The numbers are bad for men, and once guys took to the tactic of just spamming likes, it made it even worse.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

In fairness to them, the sites are god awful. The numbers are bad for men, and once guys took to the tactic of just spamming likes, it made it even worse.

I did hear from several women on there how they have all gotten worse lately, and learned that a few years back one of them - Match - just bought all the others so now there’s no concerns about competition.

Again, I remember when the internet worked.

But still, if you’re putting yourself out there, put in the effort.