Women— is the mainstream media depiction of “Size Queens” accurate?

[whenagain]

Men can answer too, but I’m not interested in generic “I wish my wife were a size queen” or “it’s pretty hot”— I want to know if the jokes and reactions in movies and shows are exaggerated or understated? Are way more women size queens? Way less?

If you don’t feel comfortable posting you can dm.

 

[WestCoastBBW]

I prefer ones that don't make me gag I can make the noise if hearing it is a turn on.

 

[policywank]

It depends what extent we are talking about. Most women are curious about larger than average men and will talk about it with other women. Most will sample a well-endowed man given the chance and will see it as something worth experiencing. But larger means something different to each woman. Most mean larger than average, but not gigantic and perhaps only for certain sex acts. And most don't make it a priority. In that sense it probably isn't too different from guys - you will talk about what you find sexually attractive in a woman, but that doesn't drive all of your dating and relationship choices.

 

[whenagain]

It depends what extent we are talking about. Most women are curious about larger than average men and will talk about it with other women. Most will sample a well-endowed man given the chance and will see it as something worth experiencing. But larger means something different to each woman. Most mean larger than average, but not gigantic and perhaps only for certain sex acts. And most don't make it a priority. In that sense it probably isn't too different from guys - you will talk about what you find sexually attractive in a woman, but that doesn't drive all of your dating and relationship choices.

Well said. . .

 

[LMWM321]

(I'm a guy.... so move on to the next post if you find that disqualifying.)

There is nothing wrong with women preferring a big dick, with being a "size queen". After all, many men do little to disguise their preference for women with huge breasts, or big butts, or small waists, etc.. and so on.

That said, I don't know a single man who EVER lost interest in an otherwise perfectly compatible partner because her breasts were merely DD’s (the US average) and not the G-cups he fantasizes about. And likewise, it's hard to imagine any woman saying to a friend, "He is everything I want in a man, but his dick is only of average length and girth, so I'll keep looking..."

Are there THAT MANY otherwise perfect men out there that a woman will disqualify one because his dick isn't huge?

Besides, since it seems to be the norm these days to more or less disembody the dick from the person it's attached to, why wouldn't a "Size Queen" be satisfied with a guy who checks every OTHER box, then ask him to use a 12-inch long, coke-can thick dildo on her those nights when she wants that extra length and girth?

Honestly, the whole size thing is so boring at this point. Mind you, this is from a guy whose dick is huge and has always found it to be more of a hinderance to sexual enjoyment - for my partner and myself - than any kind of advantage.

 

[MrRetro]

In my experience there are less size queens in society than our media portrays. I’ve certainly been with women that have openly admitted their preference for a well endowed man, but I’ve equally been with women that have had a well endowed man and didn’t enjoy it. I think it’s far more complex than just size. I’m sure most people know this though.

 

[Michael_Keaton]

In my experience there are less size queens in society than our media portrays. I’ve certainly been with women that have openly admitted their preference for a well endowed man, but I’ve equally been with women that have had a well endowed man and didn’t enjoy it. I think it’s far more complex than just size. I’m sure most people know this though.

 

[policywank]

Unfortunately, I think that for some women it is simply a way of belittling men because they can get away with it. It comes from the strain of feminism that villainizes men simply for existing and uses that perspective to portray gender relations in a way that would be roundly condemned if the roles were reversed.

 

[MrRetro]

Unfortunately, I think that for some women it is simply a way of belittling men because they can get away with it. It comes from the strain of feminism that villainizes men simply for existing and uses that perspective to portray gender relations in a way that would be roundly condemned if the roles were reversed.

Unfortunately I feel you’re right here.

 

[KatieDoes]

I have never known a woman who cared about dick size as much as men do. Ever.

 

[Nicefella]

I have never known a woman who cared about dick size as much as men do. Ever.

But but but then what will all the men who have abnormally large penises have to talk about!??? (Pensive sigh)

 

[LMWM321]

I have never known a woman who cared about dick size as much as men do. Ever.

Weirdly, there's a surprisingly large number of men here on Lit who seem obsessed with casting their wives as Big Dick Champions with posts like, "My wife want's to experience a guy with a huge cock, how do I make it happen?" And of course, it's later followed up with posts like, "It finally happened - she had her fist huge-cock experience and she loved it! She's now a certified Size Queen!" ...Yeah, right.

I suppose It's their way of garnering some reflected glory by elevating their wife's attractiveness (ie., she can attract a guy with a huge dick) and her sexual adventurousness (ie., she can TAKE a huge dick.). Of course, believing it does either of those things is totally ridiculous. But so it goes with Literotica.

The whole thing really is stupid. If so many women really prefer a huge dick, then why isn't there a 10" long 7" girth dildo in every one of their bed stands? Well.. maybe because they're NOT that interested in a huge dick. As one of the biggest on-line toy retailers reports, when women order dildos it's usually one very close to just average. ..It's the men who are buying the donkey sized ones expecting/ hoping their wife will love it. It’s a shame those retailers don’t offer 30 day money-back satisfaction guarantees. Actually, scratch that. No one wants to buy a re-stocked dildo - even if it is 10" x 7" and not likely to see much, if any, use.

 

[KatieDoes]

And, weirdly, there's a surprisingly large number of men here on Lit who seem obsessed with casting their wives as "Big Dick Champions" with posts like, "My wife want's to experience a guy with a huge cock, how do I make it happen?" And of course, its later followed up with posts like, "It finally happened - and she loved it! She's now a certified Size Queen?!" ...Yeah, right.

I suppose It's their way of garnering some reflected glory by elevating their wife's attractiveness (she can attract a guy with a huge dick!) and her sexual adventurousness (hey, she can TAKE a huge dick..). Of course the ridiculousness of the premise that this does any of those things notwithstanding.

The whole thing really is stupid. If so many women really prefer a huge dick, then why isn't there a 10" long 7" girth dildo in every one of their bed stands? Well.. maybe because they're not that interested in one. As one of the biggest on-line toy retailers reports, when women order dildos it's usually one very close to just average. ..It's the men who are buying the donkey sized ones expecting/ hoping their wife will love will love it. It’s a shame those retailers don’t offer 30 day money-back satisfaction guarantees. Actually, scratch that. No one wants to buy a re-stocked dildo - even if it is 10" x 7" and not likely to see much, if any, use.

Women buy WAY MORE vibrators than dildos. Read any article reviewing sex toys that was written by a woman, and it’s all about the vibes, and faux dicks barely get a mention, regardless of their size. I know dudes think dicks are magical, but a dick alone isn’t enough to bring most women to orgasm.

 

[LMWM321]

Women buy WAY MORE vibrators than dildos. Read any article reviewing sex toys that was written by a woman, and it’s all about the vibes, and faux dicks barely get a mention, regardless of their size. I know dudes think dicks are magical, but a dick alone isn’t enough to bring most women to orgasm.

That's very interesting.

Certainly true of my wife - and yes, she's fine w/ my mentioning stuff like this. Her best chance of orgasming these days is to use a clitoral suction toy. And if she wants any simultaneous penetration, it's with a very average sized softish dildo. Why not my own penis? Because since menopause my large girth is too distracting a sensation for having an orgasm. It wasn't when we were younger, but it is now, and that's totally fine of course. So I'm happy to do my part by shallowly and slowly animating the dildo as she positions her vibrating suction toy.

It's also worth mentioning that when you read a list of Women's Top 10 or 20 Sexual Fantasies on Oprah's or Cosmo's website... You NEVER see Big Penis, or the clearly racist BBC anywhere on the list! Yet, if you believe what you read here on Lit you would think they are the ONLY fantasies women have.

Of course, we need to remember that probably 75% of the Thread Starters and Posters who claim to be women are probably from men trying to stoke, then get-off, on these sorts of stupid tropes. So, I'll post on any thread - even those that are "intended" for women.

 

[Glassnslate]

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[apom]

I haven't cum in years and for many reasons am not capable of emotional connection with the members of my own species, but I am a pleaser and find satisfaction in others using me to make themselves feel good. I don't seek size but do enjoy the feeling of big things inside me. I'm a small female and there's just something about a big body on top of me and a fence post spreading my legs, stretching my jaws or distending the sphincter of my asshole, the little ache as I'm being pounded and opened wide. Domination can come in many forms and is a mind fuck in my dizzy little head, but the raw physical subjugation of my tiny body being invaded by a huge phallus is undeniably amazing to me.

 

[BongoGal]

Women buy WAY MORE vibrators than dildos. Read any article reviewing sex toys that was written by a woman, and it’s all about the vibes, and faux dicks barely get a mention, regardless of their size.

I'd argue that the reason that WAY MORE vibrators are sold and written about than dildos is that people are generally satisfied with having one dildo that they like. They don't really break or wear out, and they all do pretty much the same thing, so there's not much of a market for new ones. On the other hand, vibrators come in all sorts of varieties. There are tiny ones for your purse, ones you can wear, ones with remote controls, ones that are industrial strength corded models, and so on. There is always something new in the world of vibes.

 

[policywank]

For women who do have a preference for larger dicks it isn't always strictly about the physical sensations. There may also be a psychological aspect to it, including how we respond to potential discomfort. So, for a woman who wants to be filled and stretched past her normal comfort zone, it can be a little bit analogous to the physical discomfort of certain BDSM activities. It is a physical sensation, but the appeal is in the psychological aspects of it in a way that is hard to describe if you aren't into it.

I do empathize with men who are very well endowed. I have often described the experience as analogous to an exotic vacation or decadent dessert - an occasional indulgence not suitable for every day. That serves my interest and it may serve his interest at certain points in life, but not if he is looking for a more meaningful connection.

 

[DoctorMan]

The relevance of dick/penetration to women's sexuality in general is a fraught one, and it only gets more so once you add size into it. I poked around the FemaleDatingStrategy reddit, which for all its myriad faults at least has a fairly low chance of male infiltration, and the thoughts on this topic were equally split between 'I dunno - big ones don't do much for me, and/or PIV in general is blah' and 'YES - fuck tiny dicked men's feelings and polite society, gimme that monster'.

In general, I think women who prefer internal stimulation and are capable of orgasming through penetration prefer larger ones, and those who prefer external and aren't prefer smaller or are neutral - and of course, that leaves aside the skill of the particular man with the big dick in particular (is he making sure he's ready for him, through foreplay and prior orgasms, before he plunges in? does he know how to use it?)

 

[DoctorMan]

Also worth clarifying - there's a big difference in what men often seem to hear from 'size matters' (a woman is perpetually on the lookout for a foot-long coke can) and what women mostly mean it as (6-8 inches long, 4-5 inches around, please)

 

[LMWM321]

The relevance of dick/penetration to women's sexuality in general is a fraught one, and it only gets more so once you add size into it. I poked around the FemaleDatingStrategy reddit, which for all its myriad faults at least has a fairly low chance of male infiltration, and the thoughts on this topic were equally split between 'I dunno - big ones don't do much for me, and/or PIV in general is blah' and 'YES - fuck tiny dicked men's feelings and polite society, gimme that monster'.

In general, I think women who prefer internal stimulation and are capable of orgasming through penetration prefer larger ones, and those who prefer external and aren't prefer smaller or are neutral - and of course, that leaves aside the skill of the particular man with the big dick in particular (is he making sure he's ready for him, through foreplay and prior orgasms, before he plunges in? does he know how to use it?)

Hmmm...

Well, I'm still waiting for someone to explain to me, then, why "Big Penis" is never listed among Top Female Fantasies on any such list I've ever seen - including those from Oprah, Cosmo, Glamour, Psychology Today, etc. And some of these lists rank as many 25 fantasies and still - no "Big Penis" fantasy, not even near the bottom. And I'm pretty sure that if the women will admit to having anal sex, fellatio, and group sex fantasies, they'd be quite comfortable admitting to having a Big Penis fantasy. Yet, it seems they don't. So…

And I'm betting these surveys have even less "male infiltration" than dating reddits.

 

[DoctorMan]

Hmmm...

Well, I'm still waiting for someone to explain to me, then, why "Big Penis" is never listed among Top Female Fantasies on any such list I've ever seen - including those from Oprah, Cosmo, Glamour, Psychology Today, etc. And some of these lists rank as many 25 fantasies and still - no "Big Penis" fantasy, not even near the bottom. And I'm pretty sure that if the women will admit to having anal sex, fellatio, and group sex fantasies, they'd be quite comfortable admitting to having a Big Penis fantasy. Yet, it seems they don't. So, can anyone explain this?

And I'm betting these surveys have even less "male infiltration" than dating reddits.

Because it's not so much a fantasy in and of itself (which usually centers around an act - women don't tend to imagine man's hands in isolation, but imagine what they could do) so much as it is either an prerequisite/assumption, a happy bonus, or irrelevant/unwanted

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

Men can answer too, but I’m not interested in generic “I wish my wife were a size queen” or “it’s pretty hot”— I want to know if the jokes and reactions in movies and shows are exaggerated or understated? Are way more women size queens? Way less?

If you don’t feel comfortable posting you can dm.

I think it’s worth bearing in mind that a majority of screenwriters are still men. As of 2022, only 27.7% were women, according to Writers Guild of America.
Men have always been much more obsessed with penis size than women. Honestly, in most cases, we don’t even want to see your penis until we know you’re a decent person. After that, sure, a little bigger than average can be nice, but at a certain point, too big can be painful. Most of us just want someone who is emotionally mature, treats us right and knows how to make us cum with whatever equipment they have!

 

[LMWM321]

Because it's not so much a fantasy in and of itself (which usually centers around an act - women don't tend to imagine man's hands in isolation, but imagine what they could do) so much as it is either an prerequisite/assumption, a happy bonus, or irrelevant/unwanted

Um... no, I don't think that's it. If you were correct then many of the other "fantasies" on those lists wouldn't be there.

Also... explain why the vast majority of dildos purchased by women are near average in size (according to a leading internet retailer)?

Again, I think many men love the idea of their partner being a "hyper-sexual penis super-heroine who can take a huge cock and love it!" ..But that's a male fantasy, not likely a woman’s

 

[LMWM321]

An interesting question just came to mind:

I wonder how many of the these idiot men who keep pushing their wive's into admitting to a "huge dick" interest will later slut shame them for it if an argument about sex or suspicion of infidelity arises? It's like a no-win for women.