Wife and Adultery

[Reshal2]

A simple question;
Why would a married woman have sex with someone other than her husband? Being male I understand it from the male point of view. Are the reasons always negative for a married woman to have extramarital sex? Can there be positive extramarital sex? Any examples out there.

Today I was into cooking eggs.

 

[AzureAngel]

As a married woman, I have to confess that your cooking eggs turns me on and I would have an affair with you if only to get some of those eggs. That's a positive affair, because I'm getting eggs out of it.

 

[Weevil]

Her husband doesn't have the, er, goods and he supports her in looking elsewhere but loves her too much to divorce her?

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Listen to country and western music. It's all explained there.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

A simple question;
Why would a married woman have sex with someone other than her husband? Being male I understand it from the male point of view. Are the reasons always negative for a married woman to have extramarital sex? Can there be positive extramarital sex? Any examples out there.
Today I was into cooking eggs.

"Being male I understand it from the male point of view." and what point would you be viewing? Are you implying "guys will be guys" and that kind of non respectful behaivor is to be not only expected but tolerated? I am merely curious about your comment, and why it is understandable. As for me, I have always 100% been faithful to my wife so I cannot see any positives to cheating.

 

[Reshal2]

As a married woman, I have to confess that your cooking eggs turns me on and I would have an affair with you if only to get some of those eggs. That's a positive affair, because I'm getting eggs out of it.

Ho Ho, I'm a cook and I can do more than eggies, love. And yes, I'm not married only curious about my question. Why's that dude (above) getting up tight about a my question? Naa, not intersted I'm not into arguments here anymore. Think I did that I while back asking about trolls. New leaf. ha ha.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

upon futher review, yeah I suppose I did sound a little uptight there, not sure what overcame me. For that I do apologize

 

[morninggirl5]

Adultery is adultery and it is always wrong.

There are no positives for anyone involved. Ever.

 

[Reshal2]

upon futher review, yeah I suppose I did sound a little uptight there, not sure what overcame me. For that I do apologize

Hey no problem. Let cook up a couple of lobster tails and a few beer. After that we can chat about anything. Friends. Done.

 

[OpposingBalance]

Adultery is adultery and it is always wrong.

There are no positives for anyone involved. Ever.

Yeah, what she said.

 

[Reshal2]

Adultery is adultery and it is always wrong.

There are no positives for anyone involved. Ever.

No argument, but I wonder if that is true. Ever? There can be no situation that it has a benefit?

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Your question contains givens that are not accepted by everyone as fact, just so ya know!

Basically, women cheat for all the same reasons men do. I'm guessing that you haven't had much experience even TALKING to women if you don't know that.

VBG

 

[morninggirl5]

No argument, but I wonder if that is true. Ever? There can be no situation that it has a benefit?

Dishonesty in a relationship can never have any benefits. Even if you come up with some short term gain, the long term result will be a breakdown of the relationship.

Adultery is the ultimate in dishonesty and betrayal. That can never be beneficial.

 

[AzureAngel]

No argument, but I wonder if that is true. Ever? There can be no situation that it has a benefit?

"I am holding a Whoop-Laser 2000 to your SO's head. If you do not have sex with me right now I will destroy them."

 

[morninggirl5]

"I am holding a Whoop-Laser 2000 to your SO's head. If you do not have sex with me right now I will destroy them."

That's rape, not adultery.

 

[Reshal2]

Your question contains givens that are not accepted by everyone as fact, just so ya know!

Basically, women cheat for all the same reasons men do. I'm guessing that you haven't had much experience even TALKING to women if you don't know that.

VBG

My starting post had four sentences, three with (?). One statment about myself. How can my question contain facts that are given? Wow, this not discussion. I guess not everyone here is to secure about their spouse. And I do talk with many women. Hey did mean to get you all worked up.

 

[AzureAngel]

That's rape, not adultery.

I've been on tech support hold for a long while and terms got a little mixed. Adultery went to cheating went to "extramarital sex." And thus the scenario.

Edited because I'm just a knob right now.

 

[Reshal2]

Basically, women cheat for all the same reasons men do.
VBG

I disagree with that statement, after thinking about it.

Some woman sex therapist was saying on tv the day that it can be good to fool around. Not my idea.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

My starting post had four sentences, three with (?). One statment about myself. How can my question contain facts that are given? Wow, this not discussion. I guess not everyone here is to secure about their spouse. And I do talk with many women. Hey did mean to get you all worked up.

Do you know what emoticons mean?

Now, read the first sentence I wrote - it was followed by a SMILIE - read it as if I was smiling, happy and liking you as I wrote it. Now, read my 2nd sentence the same way.

Your sentences said (to me) that you understood why men would have affairs, but that you don't understand why women do. This seems very silly to me. It made me think that you are ignorant about women. It didn't make me mad - it just made me think you are ignorant.

My third sentence said that I'm assuming you don't know what most women think, perhaps because you haven't talked with many. I "rolled my eyes." This meant "how can you not know that women and men have the same reasons for cheating on their spouses?"

How do you get that I'm "worked up?" I'm honestly amused!

*I* think *you're* worked up - did the eggs give you some painful gas or something? <laughing>

 

[VeryBadGirl]

I disagree with that statement, after thinking about it.

Some woman sex therapist was saying on tv the day that it can be good to fool around. Not my idea.

Well, hey, if you heard it on TV, it MUST be true!

 

[Rubyfruit]

Adultery is adultery and it is always wrong.

There are no positives for anyone involved. Ever.

Stated as fact. Interesting.

I don't know how you think you can speak for every human alive on the planet like that.

 

[AzureAngel]

Stated as fact. Interesting.

I don't know how you think you can speak for every human alive on the planet like that.

As much as my upbringing would have me disagree - I DO agree with Ruby on this point. You can't speak for everyone and all belief systems. I don't believe that it's right for me considering what I hold important in my life, but I could fathom belief systems where it's considered a positive or mindsets in which it would be.

Simply, whether a reason for extramarital sex is positive or negative depends entirely on the perspective of the person considering it. "I wanted variety that (s)he wouldn't provide," might be a horribly negative reason to one and a wonderfully positive reason to another.

It also depends on the circumstances.

 

[Reshal2]

it just made me think you are ignorant.

*I* think *you're* worked up - did the eggs give you some painful gas or something? <laughing>

Well yes, I am ignorant, at least we can agree on this. No gas though... laughing.

Hey let's do some cooking together. And good one about the TV. Your right, watch out what you think is true.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

I'm baking brownies as we speak - the nice cheap box kind. The first time I made them, I was shocked that it called for a whole cup of oil - but after I slurped one down, I understood.

Yesterday I made my first strawberry-rhubarb pie, better than my mom's! I also made an Italian-herb bread in the machine - it was great. Also some really awesome spaghetti sauce - have you ever used an habenero pepper in spaghetti sauce? My husband and I slapped each other's legs while we ate it, it was so hot.

So.....how were the eggs? any cheese in there?

VBG

 

[naudiz]

I guess it depends on how we're defining the terms. I have friends who are married. It's an open marriage. Occasionally there are extramarital flings. They keep an open line of communication about it, and no one's feelings are getting hurt. In that case, I say what consenting adults do in the privacy of their own home is no one's business but their own.

It's the non-consenting adult part that gets tricky. If the marriage arrangement is assumed to be exclusive, as most are, then no, there is no good reason for destroying that bond of trust. If things aren't working out in bed, it's one of the responsibilities of marriage to discuss this with one's spouse. If one isn't even willing to do that much, then the marriage has more problems then someone not performing adequately.