Why do older men become bi-curious?

Always loved the ladies when I was younger and up to well into middle age. Not proud to say that I had a number of extra marital affairs. Now coming up on 20 years with my wife but being an active senior citizen we now have no action in the bedroom and I have become more and more curious about having a male friend with benefits........just saying ...... don't think it will happen though.
 
That’s interesting speculation and I wonder if that’s what happened with me. I was predominantly heterosexual when younger but the last few years, my gay side just got stronger and stronger. I’m to the point now where my sexual thoughts and urges are exclusively homosexual. Also, I don’t feel so manly anymore but more feminine and submissive. A lot of my fantasies involve surrendering to an alpha male and being used for his pleasure. Is it the hormones? I wonder.
Hi, glad to see your post! We have not talked to each other for a little while now, and I miss doing that. Would love to PM with you again, particularly about this post. We both are fascinated by the desire to perform fellatio and please men with our mouths. If you dream of doing this, or if you have made it become a reality in your sexual life, does not matter to me at all. If a man becomes curious, something in him mind (and or body) has happened. I'm glad it happened to me.
 
Obviously, every guy's reasons are different. In my case, I considered myself hetero for most of my adult life EXCEPT for the fact that I've always kinda been fascinated by cock. When I was young, could suck my own cock and loved cumming in my mouth. Also discovered my mom's nylons and garter belts. Never really gave a thought to being with another guy though.

When I was in my early twenties, I ran across she-male porn at an ABS. This was back in the seventies so the gurls were often flaccid but, still, I was in awe that these beautiful women could have cocks.

After getting married in my mid-twenties, I decided one day to wear my wife's panties when she wasn't home. Followed that up with wearing her lingerie.

For the last several years my wife's libido had decreased due to menopause. She still wants to fool around but only about once a week whereas I'm constantly horny. So, while she's at work, I'll spend time here on Lit and/or watching porn. For some reason, I've started to watch more bi and gay porn than straight porn. When I watch straight porn, I'll often imagine myself as the girl getting railed, especially if its in the ass.

So, while hormones may be affecting things somewhat, I attribute my newfound orientation more to being more open to possibilities and the entire gamut of human sexuality than anything else. If my wife were open to it, I'd leap at the chance to experience another guy. I love it when she pegs me and consider myself a definite bottom/cocksucker.
 
Obviously, every guy's reasons are different. In my case, I considered myself hetero for most of my adult life EXCEPT for the fact that I've always kinda been fascinated by cock. When I was young, could suck my own cock and loved cumming in my mouth. Also discovered my mom's nylons and garter belts. Never really gave a thought to being with another guy though.

When I was in my early twenties, I ran across she-male porn at an ABS. This was back in the seventies so the gurls were often flaccid but, still, I was in awe that these beautiful women could have cocks.

After getting married in my mid-twenties, I decided one day to wear my wife's panties when she wasn't home. Followed that up with wearing her lingerie.

For the last several years my wife's libido had decreased due to menopause. She still wants to fool around but only about once a week whereas I'm constantly horny. So, while she's at work, I'll spend time here on Lit and/or watching porn. For some reason, I've started to watch more bi and gay porn than straight porn. When I watch straight porn, I'll often imagine myself as the girl getting railed, especially if its in the ass.

So, while hormones may be affecting things somewhat, I attribute my newfound orientation more to being more open to possibilities and the entire gamut of human sexuality than anything else. If my wife were open to it, I'd leap at the chance to experience another guy. I love it when she pegs me and consider myself a definite bottom/cocksucker.
That is an awesome post. Love your honesty - that turns me on as much as a man's hard cock does. I respect guys who express their open minds and possible willingness to suck it and take it up the ass. I love both, am married and totally discreet. Please PM me anytime you might want to. We have a lot of things in common. In real life I have no chance of sharing my homosexuality with anyone, male or female. Always fun to meet another man you've never talked to before!
 
In recent days I have learned a lot about the male and female sex hormones and how the level of them changes in your body over time. For men, peak testosterone occurs at age nineteen, and diminishes for the rest of your life. Simultaneously, the level of the female sex hormone estrogen rises. It's no wonder so many older men become bi-curious or bi. Our very bodies have reprogrammed our sexual inclinations.
I'm pretty much horny as I have always been. I do notice if I maintain at or below 180LBs my erection is rock solid and at will. Over that he doesn't always show full staff at the party or is one and done.
As result of that, I determined viagra is for lazy people or those that have lost interest in what they have. I am thankful I remain able to stick it to her whenever the need arises or is wet-n-ready.
 
That is very interesting. Being male if peak testosterone kicks in at 19, personally mine remained very high until reaching my late 40's in age. I became tremendously bi-curious at the age of 55. My attraction to bi-sexual, then strictly gay porn only increased as I aged. I am one of the men whose body, or hidden sexual desires, gave my oral and anal virginity away on the same day. The fantasy's had overpowered me for 8 years. I knew they were real, I did sexual things I'd never dreamed of before in my entire life.

I gave a man my first blow job when I was 63. I was thrilled to do this, and felt delirious with sexual freedom as I swallowed his cum. Your post makes perfect sense in my personal experience. And I believe many men have homosexual thoughts as they age for the same reasons you have stated, and other's like a marriage desolving because of sexual loss of interest. I've no idea how many men have done what I have, but the temptation I believe is undeniable if your 50 or older.

I never even considered the hormones in my body could have possibly aided my sexual transformation to become a cock sucker. Now, I hope it just fueled the tremendous appeal that homosexuality gave to me later in life.

Much appreciate your post!
You maybe onto something here. I'm mid 50s and for the last 2 or 3 years I can't stop thinking about sucking cock. I just want to pleasure a man. I'm married with kids and consider myself straight. I'm too afraid to act on it but have considered befriending and older man, maybe mid 60s upward ideally straight and curious.
 
In the end it is less a matter of becoming bi-curious as it is slowly recognizing the physical beauty of a cock and gradually developing a curiosity that eventually grows into a craving for it.

To help with my own desires, I have assembled a large collection of close up pictures of cocks and placed them into a gallery online. I've also acquired two 7 inch realistic dildos with balls. Both have suction cups on the bottom. One I have marked with a 'T' on the underside of the suction cup and the other with a 'B' in the same spot. One for my 'top' (mouth) and one for my 'bottom'...

Like many older couples, my wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms. A matter of a mutual snoring problem more than any other reason. So late on many nights I'll lock the bedroom door and retrieve one of my 'toys' for a little late night fun.
Good for you, why not!
 
You maybe onto something here. I'm mid 50s and for the last 2 or 3 years I can't stop thinking about sucking cock. I just want to pleasure a man. I'm married with kids and consider myself straight. I'm too afraid to act on it but have considered befriending and older man, maybe mid 60s upward ideally straight and curious.
Hi, Please PM me if you want to talk about our mutual desire - it helps to talk to other men who share the craving we do. I have gay stories posted here on Lit (11 or 12) and my username is PG56E. Read some if you like. My current story is titled "A cure for Pain". All the rest you can access just by clicking on one of them. Thanks for being honest!
 
Hi, Please PM me if you want to talk about our mutual desire - it helps to talk to other men who share the craving we do. I have gay stories posted here on Lit (11 or 12) and my username is PG56E. Read some if you like. My current story is titled "A cure for Pain". All the rest you can access just by clicking on one of them. Thanks for being honest!
@SurreyGent , I can confirm... @PG564E 's stories are quite exciting 🔥💋
 
Hi, Please PM me if you want to talk about our mutual desire - it helps to talk to other men who share the craving we do. I have gay stories posted here on Lit (11 or 12) and my username is PG56E. Read some if you like. My current story is titled "A cure for Pain". All the rest you can access just by clicking on one of them. Thanks for being honest!
Thank you so much. I will do and will be in touch.
 
Hi Surrey Gent. I hope you are sexually aroused, and able to play with your cock. My wife went to bed and I'm downstairs at my desktop. I am naked, and my cock is swollen and extremely rigid. I love playing with myself. I am thinking about some of the men I have had great sex with. And would love to again. I have done such dirty things, and am a long way from being bicurious. Mine is a long story and I'd love to share it with you over time.

Can you tell me how long your mind has been turned on by fantasy's of male on male sex? Mine started at age 55, and only grew in intensity as I knew something had changed inside me sexually, and it was not a temporary thing where I might give one blowjob, and swallow the man's cum and stop doing that.

I find a man's cock so alluring, just a beautiful sex organ that gives thrills to other men - like me. I'm glad your following me, you will find me honest and willing to share my love of cock with you. Hope to hear from you soon.
 
Why, that’s simple: Sex… either lacking at home, and they know now that m/m ‘NSA’, is as easy as boiling water these days. theirs no shortage of apps, no commitment, don’t even need to exchange names. Show up or meet use him. Then leave.
But there are risks.
 
I wonder if for some it's something to do with lowering of testosterone, naw it's the panties lol for me it was just an escape dress up like a girl and suck a cock, when I am dressed the craving is crazy but has grown the older I get
 
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I would have described myself as straight until about 5 years ago when I started having m2m encounters. I'm 50 now.

I've also wondered why it is that so many guys start to get these urges in their '40s...could it be an evolutionary thing? - we still have a sex drive but the quality of our DNA is declining so nature turns our interests to other guys, leaving the young bucks to do the reproducing.
This sounds plausible to me. In fact makes a lot of sense. I too am haveing m2m cravings.
 
Hi, Please PM me if you want to talk about our mutual desire - it helps to talk to other men who share the craving we do. I have gay stories posted here on Lit (11 or 12) and my username is PG56E. Read some if you like. My current story is titled "A cure for Pain". All the rest you can access just by clicking on one of them. Thanks for being honest!
Great stories.
Hi Surrey Gent. I hope you are sexually aroused, and able to play with your cock. My wife went to bed and I'm downstairs at my desktop. I am naked, and my cock is swollen and extremely rigid. I love playing with myself. I am thinking about some of the men I have had great sex with. And would love to again. I have done such dirty things, and am a long way from being bicurious. Mine is a long story and I'd love to share it with you over time.

Can you tell me how long your mind has been turned on by fantasy's of male on male sex? Mine started at age 55, and only grew in intensity as I knew something had changed inside me sexually, and it was not a temporary thing where I might give one blowjob, and swallow the man's cum and stop doing that.

I find a man's cock so alluring, just a beautiful sex organ that gives thrills to other men - like me. I'm glad your following me, you will find me honest and willing to share my love of cock with you. Hope to hear from you soon.
give in to your cravings experience hearing a man tell you how good your mouth feels. Listening to him moan in pleasure as you suck him.
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