Why do older men become bi-curious?

[CuriousTxGuy]

Gay porn is more often hotter than straight porn, so it drives the curiosity meter way up.

One has to go for the hottest porn and the hottest sex.

Man to man can be very hot.

 

[Dreamer110]

One has to go for the hottest porn and the hottest sex.

Man to man can be very hot.

Not sure why but I seem to gravitate towards these more and more.

 

[pualcr2112]

Gay porn is more often hotter than straight porn, so it drives the curiosity meter way up.

it really is

 

[flexi42]

yes its a particularly frustrating brand of disappointment ! ... DOH!

Just before I left home, I got a message saying he couldn't make it before 3.15 because of meetings. I had to be on the way home by then, so fuck all suck. Jesus, I could almost taste him, t was so close to happening. Feeling rather deflated right now.

 

[osodown]

Because in the END, we all want it in the END.

 

[SexyLitForAll]

Because in the END, we all want it in the END.

...and we are also finding ourselves getting ever closer to THE END...

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I've experienced this attraction, fascination whatever you call it. I'm straight in the sense that I do not experience any attraction to men in a romantic sense. I started out thinking about this over a long period of time and then recently started giving guy's I met on the internet prostate massage and JO. Giving pleasure seems to be a big part of it. My most intimate experience came when I met an asian guy for prostate massage. The first time I gave it to him, he was bent over and I reached around to finish him off. As I watched his petite, hairless behind tensing up with my finger in him and finally his involuntary pumping as he ejaculated I was surprised at how attracted I was. He had a small, cut, very hard penis and he came rapidly in a few spurts. I found myself thinking that I wanted to suck him. Wasn't sure I could but couldn't shake the feeling. We met a second time and I ended up giving him a prostate massage, finishing him with my mouth. It was my first time I had ever had a man's penis in my mouth. When he came I actually swallowed. I was surprise and euphoric at the same time to know that I could do it and enjoy it. I sucked him off one more time before he stopped emailing me. Probably guilt issues. He's the only guy I've ever sucked. Seems like some kind of chemistry has to be in place for me to want to do it. Wouldn't mind finding someone to do that again.

Getting sexually pleased during a massage is a definite fantasy.

 

[Mqoi]

One thing I've noticed in the past couple of years since my interest in men has rekindled. My night time dreams of sex no longer have women in them. The dreams are all of men and my having sex with them. I hate to wake up and find that the cock I had my hands on was just mine.

 

[Bigspurt]

I think its about getting your cock sucked and returning the favor. I have yet to cross this line but I believe it is much easier to find a guy who wants to suck my cock than a woman. In college a friend of mine opened a "bath house" which was frequented mostly by gay men. It was a place for convenient, promiscuous sex. Some of them are dead now. HIV was just beginning to spread then.

If I knew where I could find a woman who would like to share oral delight, I would be there in a minute. No questions asked.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

One thing I've noticed in the past couple of years since my interest in men has rekindled. My night time dreams of sex no longer have women in them. The dreams are all of men and my having sex with them. I hate to wake up and find that the cock I had my hands on was just mine.

I completely know where you are at with those dreams. Glad to know there are others who are in the same boat, or dream.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Most of my fantasies are MMF threesomes, some MM, but with much younger, college guys. Given I only recently opened up to being bi and my first experience was with a married couple, I still seem to be drawn to that fantasy. Being married with a wife who would not appreciate my inclinations, makes it all that much more difficult...

 

[rfhh1959]

My thought

I think for some it easier to say curious rather than admit they are. I will say I dropped the curious about a decade ago. I enjoy sex with both women and men. It is different in how I approach the act also

 

[Mqoi]

Most of my fantasies are MMF threesomes, some MM, but with much younger, college guys. Given I only recently opened up to being bi and my first experience was with a married couple, I still seem to be drawn to that fantasy. Being married with a wife who would not appreciate my inclinations, makes it all that much more difficult...

When it comes to threesomes, when I was last actively bi and married to my first wife, I quickly discovered I much preferred MMF over FFM. Provided the other guy was up to my fondling his junk and giving him a blow job. Most liked fucking my wife doggy style while she and I were 69ing.

My current wife is the same way as yours. Just doesn't want sex anymore and doesn't want me to step outside of the marriage for my sexual needs.

 

[Mqoi]

I think for some it easier to say curious rather than admit they are. I will say I dropped the curious about a decade ago. I enjoy sex with both women and men. It is different in how I approach the act also

The only thing curious about my being bi is I'm curious about how much of his cock I can handle and how his cum tastes.

 

[LoftyCraig]

One thing I've noticed in the past couple of years since my interest in men has rekindled. My night time dreams of sex no longer have women in them. The dreams are all of men and my having sex with them. I hate to wake up and find that the cock I had my hands on was just mine.

yes its a recurring for me

 

[SexyLitForAll]

yes its a recurring for me

,,,same here. And on business trips, in the hotel. I notice attractive men at least as much as I notice women.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

The older I get, the more I'm interested.

 

[shirleycd]

I can't believe how much this thread echos my feelings. Every

day the urge to lie with a man gets stronger and stronger, and my fear

of not being able to carry through with this fantasy gets weaker. I am

at the point where I am actually dreaming about it. The surprising

thing is that I wake up aroused like a teenager, something that

hasn't happened in a while.

As to what do I attribute my present sexual confusion, being in my

late sixties is one among many possibilities. Another likely one is

the fact that as a teenager my masturbatory releases were always tied

to the Sears or JC Penny catalog, hence my later fascination with

women's underwear and crossdressing (wow do I love to wear panties).

When the internet came into my life, I explored mainly staight porn

whenever I had some alone time. My crossdressing was restricted to

business trips, of course when my wife didn't go. I soon found

shemale/crossdresser porn and it slowly took hold of me. I only wanted

to see shemale/crossdresser porn, nothing else. Then I found tumblr

with Sissys and Fembois and a whole new dimension to crossdressers.

Some of the tumblr sites I follow have no nudity just classy

crossdressers and are very exciting. Tumblr has been a huge influence

on my new fascination with male male sex. Enough for now I am drained.

Hopefully this will not be my only post.

 

[yukonnights]

I can't believe how much this thread echos my feelings. Every

day the urge to lie with a man gets stronger and stronger, and my fear

of not being able to carry through with this fantasy gets weaker. I am

at the point where I am actually dreaming about it. The surprising

thing is that I wake up aroused like a teenager, something that

hasn't happened in a while.

As to what do I attribute my present sexual confusion, being in my

late sixties is one among many possibilities. Another likely one is

the fact that as a teenager my masturbatory releases were always tied

to the Sears or JC Penny catalog, hence my later fascination with

women's underwear and crossdressing (wow do I love to wear panties).

When the internet came into my life, I explored mainly staight porn

whenever I had some alone time. My crossdressing was restricted to

business trips, of course when my wife didn't go. I soon found

shemale/crossdresser porn and it slowly took hold of me. I only wanted

to see shemale/crossdresser porn, nothing else. Then I found tumblr

with Sissys and Fembois and a whole new dimension to crossdressers.

Some of the tumblr sites I follow have no nudity just classy

crossdressers and are very exciting. Tumblr has been a huge influence

on my new fascination with male male sex. Enough for now I am drained.

Hopefully this will not be my only post.

Shirley, A member since 2006! I sure hope this isn't your only post, that was well said and insightful. It seems that Tumblr is either going to save the country or destroy it...because it sure does seem to be a strong influence. Personally, I like the way it is opening the real interests/desires so many have hidden for so long. You sound like a classy "lady"

 

[Carloprove]

I would be very surprised a wife would be interested in watching their husband have gay sex. We might want that, but unlikely. I have always been intrigued by the male body since I saw Tarzan tied up when I was very young. That version he was massive, sweaty, and confined. I was aroused.

Now I find myself checking out cute guys as much as women.
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[Dbaggins417]

Nothing here

 

[CNYCarol]

If some wives know their husbands engage in bi activities, do you (they) enjoy watching them? Can any wives share their experiences here if they watched them?

I always was totally into watching hubby with his suck buddy, actually I suspect he was bi more for my entertainment.

You would be amazed at the number of women that wish their husbands were bi.

We talk about a lot more than recipes.

 

[writermanbrit]

Original Question

Getting back to the original question of why older men become bi curious, I think it has a lot to do with the fact that as we get older, we are more relaxed about life in general and not so worried about what society thinks.
We have probably done most of the straight sex that we think we might be into, so the only thing left is the weird and unusual.

There will be many of you, especially younger people, who think bi/gay sex is normal and ordinary, but remember that for us older ones, unless we lived in a city which was more tolerant, there were problems associated with it, and it would have been almost impossible to tell friends or workmates you wanted to try both sexes.

Society has mostly changed and with the internet as well, it is almost obligatory now to try everything out there and see what you like the most, so I think that helps explain why us older men start to become more curious and want to experiment a bit more with everything previously considered taboo or off limits.

 

[mtsnowrider]

Getting back to the original question of why older men become bi curious, I think it has a lot to do with the fact that as we get older, we are more relaxed about life in general and not so worried about what society thinks.
We have probably done most of the straight sex that we think we might be into, so the only thing left is the weird and unusual.

There will be many of you, especially younger people, who think bi/gay sex is normal and ordinary, but remember that for us older ones, unless we lived in a city which was more tolerant, there were problems associated with it, and it would have been almost impossible to tell friends or workmates you wanted to try both sexes.

Society has mostly changed and with the internet as well, it is almost obligatory now to try everything out there and see what you like the most, so I think that helps explain why us older men start to become more curious and want to experiment a bit more with everything previously considered taboo or off limits.

Well put. In addition, I think wives become less interested in sex while men become more willing to investigate long suppressed curiosity. Sex with non-spousal women can be complicated while experimenting with another man can be part of a simple, friendly relationship. Personally I am a disaster at casual hook-ups but have very much enjoyed one long term "friendship" and would like to find another. But it's not an easy thing to find.

 

[Mqoi]

I'd be more into finding a mature bi man for a long term friends with benefits situation.