Why do men ghost?

[Bigboobbabe]

I have been chatting with a guy for 10 weeks. He had a work injury and other surgery during that time.
He didn't want to meet in person until he was able to drive himself there.
So we kept chatting and learning about each other.
This week he his last test for discharge, so we scheduled for Thursday.
He was told results will be Nov 3.
Frustrated, he agreed to meet Thursday anyway.
And after that, nothing.
No location.
No change of plans.
And last night I saw he was on the message app and following another female user.

I guess he moved on, with no notice and no comments.

Is it so hard to tell someone you changed your mind or are no longer interested?
What is gained by dragging someone along?

 

[FataMorgana]

Lack of balls.

 

[Brains_N_Boobs]

He sounded friendly, by any chance was his name Casper?

 

[lovecraft68]

Probably talking to a half dozen other women the entire time seeing who is best option was once he could fuck again, because that's all its ever about for guys on those things.

 

[Lady2020]

I've heard ghosting is done by women as well.

 

[skin2win]

So for someone whose been on both sides of ghosting, I’ll share my perspective. This was on dating apps. Generally, I like to be a grown up and just say hey I’ve lost interest. Some handle that fine, others freak out and constantly message you after or even find your address and just show up. It’s damned if you do, damned if you don’t in my opinion. Some can’t handle the fact that we all, men and women, get to know someone and make a gut decision based on the information provided to us. Just some perspective.

 

[purvis2]

I have been chatting with a guy for 10 weeks. He had a work injury and other surgery during that time.
He didn't want to meet in person until he was able to drive himself there.
So we kept chatting and learning about each other.
This week he his last test for discharge, so we scheduled for Thursday.
He was told results will be Nov 3.
Frustrated, he agreed to meet Thursday anyway.
And after that, nothing.
No location.
No change of plans.
And last night I saw he was on the message app and following another female user.

I guess he moved on, with no notice and no comments.

Is it so hard to tell someone you changed your mind or are no longer interested?
What is gained by dragging someone along?

Might be a 12 year old boy who was catfishing you

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Might be a 12 year old boy who was catfishing you

I am pretty good at spotting scammers.
There were too many things only someone going through the medical concerns would know.

 

[Crankbait88]

Cowardice. Or he died.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I have been chatting with a guy for 10 weeks. He had a work injury and other surgery during that time.
He didn't want to meet in person until he was able to drive himself there.
So we kept chatting and learning about each other.
This week he his last test for discharge, so we scheduled for Thursday.
He was told results will be Nov 3.
Frustrated, he agreed to meet Thursday anyway.
And after that, nothing.
No location.
No change of plans.
And last night I saw he was on the message app and following another female user.

I guess he moved on, with no notice and no comments.

Is it so hard to tell someone you changed your mind or are no longer interested?
What is gained by dragging someone along?

Guys are confrontation-averse.
They don't have the guts to end things with dignity.
And there's just the possibility of keeping an ex on the back-burner... just in case...

 

[Bigboobbabe]

So for someone whose been on both sides of ghosting, I’ll share my perspective. This was on dating apps. Generally, I like to be a grown up and just say hey I’ve lost interest. Some handle that fine, others freak out and constantly message you after or even find your address and just show up. It’s damned if you do, damned if you don’t in my opinion. Some can’t handle the fact that we all, men and women, get to know someone and make a gut decision based on the information provided to us. Just some perspective.

My biggest question is why be so positive on Tuesday? Telling me his last name. Asking for mine?
And then not another word?
The last message I sent, and the last I will, was one word. Why?

 

[hulmule]

Maybe something came up if you went that far ? I'm thinking he 's not telling all and couldnt get free??

 

[LavenderIncense]

I just always go into it having fun with no long term expectations.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Maybe something came up if you went that far ? I'm thinking he 's not telling all and couldnt get free??

Says he's single. Long story about ex girlfriends death. Etc.
Just so many stories.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I just always go into it having fun with no long term expectations.

Same here until they start to make plans. Their plans, not mine.

 

[CarlyAnn]

People suck….get a dog

 

[colorfulnayyy]

It’s sad how people tend to treat you but ultimately seeing your own self worth is important. Getting to a point where that isn’t even a shock. I highly doubt any one individual on here is solely communicating to just you. Yes, it’s nice to think so but that isn’t the reality. Sending you positive vibes!

 

[Bigboobbabe]

People suck….get a dog

I have the most loyal 8 yr old beagle

 

[nudeguy76]

I have the most loyal 8 yr old beagle

i have a beagle too. generally it seems people just dont care anymore

 

[CarlyAnn]

I have the most loyal 8 yr old beagle

I bet he/she has never ghosted you.

 

[RachelWalsh]

People can be shitty. It seems more common that it used to be, but was always regular before.

Being flaky is one way to be shitty.

I am sorry hun.

 

[bbcbarry9033]

Lit guys are older, uglier and marrieder but we don’t ghost.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I have met a few Lit guys IRL. All great. I chat with a few I met more than 2 years ago.

I have been ghosted after giving BJ or even sex, but this length of talking is so odd.

 

[baseballGeek]

I’ve never ghosted anyone but I’ve been ghosted more times than I can count. It’s not just guys that do it

 

[bbcbarry9033]

I’ve never ghosted anyone but I’ve been ghosted more times than I can count. It’s not just guys that do it

Well, we know why women do (see above)...