Why Are You Attracted to "Bad Boys" ?

[juicylips]

I have been thinking about this question as I have been reading different peoples responses to who they are attracted to.

I, personally, am not attracted to the bad boy image, unless they would happen to say something that catches me, so to speak

But I know there are women out there that seem to hook up with a "bad boy" all the time. Can't help it.

Let me hear why.

Cassidy

 

[Saturn Return]

For me..it's the utter confidence that they exude from their very essence.

I’ve never been attracted to assholes, though. I don’t equate the ‘bad boy’ thing with just plain mean spirited men...

 

[Calamity Jane]

absolutely.

actually, i'm attracted to intelligent, witty, articulate men. guys that a lot of women, or people in general, don't 'get'. a biker jacket and tats certainly don't hurt though

i wouldn't be attracted to a guy just because he seemed to be a bad boy. it's an easily cultivated image just like so many others. he needs the above qualities as well as the 'on the fringe' kind of attitude.

 

[EnchantedBeauty]

Before I met my husband, I always went out with "bad boys". Something about them just turned me on. Then I met my husband and that went out the window. Kinda weird to always be attracted to the bad boy and now am with a "goody goody"!

 

[KillerMuffin]

I've always been attracted to men who weren't afraid to go to sleep at night when they're with me and I let them. Bad boys, goody goodys, mixtures of both, they've all be the proverbial cowards before. *sighs*

 

[cymbidia]

Even only somewhat experienced Dominants, by their very natures, are confident of themselves sexually, assertive and a little brash in their daily lives, and are willing to take what others might might see as risks in all parts of their lives. They are the quintessential "bad boys".

I am sub. MS is, like (almost) every partner i've ever had has been, Dom. He's educated, articulate, intelligent, and creative. He's a teacher, like me. We both pass as nilla every day. But make no mistake, MS is a bad, bad boy - and i love it.

 

[bluntforcemama]

I'm not. But when I am, I'm usually worse than they are.

 

[Caretaker]

just a theory

I don't think all women are attracted to 'bad boys' by any means but for those that are...

Society has a way of shaming women who openly express sexual enthusiasm and act on thier desires--usually with the word 'slut'. Consorting with a 'bad boy' can be a way of deflecting this cultural judgement by attributing responsibility to the nasty boy who initiates naughty behavior. I don't blame women who want thier cake and eat it too.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

My definition of a bad boy is simply :

a man who when he walks into a room he owns it ...
a man who is confident
a man who is not afraid to approach a woman -knows how to get my attention without being obnixous
a man who has a mixture of sweetness , cockiness , and has an attitude that makes me swoon.
and a man who knows how to deal with a woman such as myself.


Mucho amor...

 

[Barb Dwyer]

I have no idea but I, too, have always been attracted to the bad boys.

They're exciting. And to echo everyone else here- the ones I have been drawn to have all been intelligent, witty, articulate and outgoing. Being aggressive is a very masculine trait. It just oozes sexuality and sensuality to me.

The bad boys are supremely confident and that also causes my pulse to race. I love a man who is sure of himself. It doesn't necessarily mean that he thinks he can do anything and get away with it (although, for the most part, he can!) It means that he can do anything he sets his mind to because he is successful. These types of men are usually hard working, determined and know what they want.

That is very intoxicating to me.

 

[juicylips]

I have no idea but I, too, have always been attracted to the bad boys.

They're exciting. And to echo everyone else here- the ones I have been drawn to have all been intelligent, witty, articulate and outgoing. Being aggressive is a very masculine trait. It just oozes sexuality and sensuality to me.

The bad boys are supremely confident and that also causes my pulse to race. I love a man who is sure of himself. It doesn't necessarily mean that he thinks he can do anything and get away with it (although, for the most part, he can!) It means that he can do anything he sets his mind to because he is successful. These types of men are usually hard working, determined and know what they want.

That is very intoxicating to me.

So we equate "bad boy" image with sexuality?

I think it has to do with wanting to make them behave also.
Wanting to tame them, perhaps?

Cassidy

 

[pabloback]

the phrase "treat em mean keep em keen" has more than a ring of truth to it
because of the way i look , i attract that kind of woman
it often pisses me off that some women are not interested in the real me, just the image

 

[cymbidia]

Ohhh, i don't want to tame them.
I just want that wild ride they promise.
I like to go fast and play hard...

 

[iann666]

I can do bad

So we equate "bad boy" image with sexuality?

I think it has to do with wanting to make them behave also.
Wanting to tame them, perhaps?

Cassidy

I can do bad

 

[juicylips]

Re: I can do bad

I can do bad

Show me

Cassidy

 

[iann666]

Re: Re: I can do bad

Show me

Cassidy

Don't forget you asked for this

 

[lillend]

I'm not attracted to "bad boys" at all, but I have known for a long time that my taste in men is different than most.

I like men that are tall, thin (NOT muscular), dark haired, and clean cut. I want them to be a gentleman and have a great sense of humor. Most importantly I want them to be sensitive, kind, and intelligent.

 

[Barb Dwyer]

Well, no, juicylips. I don't want to tame them or change them.

I want them just as they are. That is what attracted me to them in the first place. I wouldn't want to tamper with that. cym, you are scaring me- showing up and answering things the same way I do! LOL

 

[Sabineteas]

Bad boys

I have no idea but I, too, have always been attracted to the bad boys.

They're exciting. And to echo everyone else here- the ones I have been drawn to have all been intelligent, witty, articulate and outgoing. Being aggressive is a very masculine trait. It just oozes sexuality and sensuality to me.

The bad boys are supremely confident and that also causes my pulse to race. I love a man who is sure of himself. It doesn't necessarily mean that he thinks he can do anything and get away with it (although, for the most part, he can!) It means that he can do anything he sets his mind to because he is successful. These types of men are usually hard working, determined and know what they want.

That is very intoxicating to me.

Um, yes to the above, but also because I was told as I was growing up that they were forbidden<repressed childhood>. So, ya know, what I couldn't have always looked sweeter to me. I am trying to keep those childhood desires in check now...I don't want to have sex without a relationship anymore.<sigh>

 

[juicylips]

Re: Bad boys

. I am trying to keep those childhood desires in check now...I don't want to have sex without a relationship anymore.<sigh>

Oh, hon, don't know about keeping those desires in check.

Visiting lit definitely fuels desires

You think "bad boys" are love them and leave them kind of men?

Cassidy

 

[BITE_my_ASS]

_ Gee, I dunno, BUTT cunt it be that . . .

OPPOSITES ATTRACT!

or then again maybe it's . . .


The other way around!

 

[Lost Cause]

If you're not living on the edge, you're taking up way too much space.

 

[GuyJD]

What's that?
Someone's attracted to me? LOL
BB4L

 

[Sabineteas]

Re: Re: Bad boys

Oh, hon, don't know about keeping those desires in check.

Visiting lit definitely fuels desires

You think "bad boys" are love them and leave them kind of men?

Cassidy

Yeah I do think bad boys are love them and leave them since my experience with them was them leaving me to go to the next conquest<laughing>. The ones that I met seemed to want to put things in as many places as possible...kinda like putting notches on your gun. I am not saying that they did not try again with me, but like I said, the ones I knew tended to move on to the next girl.

 

[cymbidia]

Hmmm.. in my experience, bad boys have rather more tender hearts, once you get to them, then others might. They make wonderful and dependable partners cuz they value in you the traits they exhibit - intelligence, the ability to blend into any social sitation with ease, a good natured disdain for convention, the willingness to try anything at least once, an easy and infectious laugh, and a total disregard for sexual inhibitions. It's not easy for them to find good partners.

My experience with "bad boys" has been uniformly pleasureable and fun. I know the other kind must be out there but i haven't come across them so...

Yeh!
Bring on the bad boys!