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More people need to be like ... and Ted Nugent
You want more people to be hate filled assholes?
Really?
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More people need to be like ... and Ted Nugent
Just because you’re a “nice guy” doesn’t mean we are obligated to talk with you.
Yes you are. You just done know it yet.![]()
A lot of girls here (not all, but a lot) have ghosting down to an art form, probably for the reasons you mentioned.
Maybe because we don't want to put effort into something and end up ghosted. I'm not talking about personal details, just feelings, emotions. Making friends is time consuming, so it depends on how much one wants to invest. There's only so many hours on my day, and I can be friendly, but I have to limit that because of RL obligations.
But, honestly, you aren't alone, you aren't the only person interested in friendly banter and conversation. Keep looking. We're out there. Promise.
And a number of guys have mastered this art as well (spoken from someone who has experienced it more than once). Just saying.
You want more people to be hate filled assholes?
Really?
And a number of guys have mastered this art as well (spoken from someone who has experienced it more than once). Just saying.
But, Sassy, and BFG, just because a woman chooses not to reply or engage with a man who seeks her out, doesn’t mean she is a bitch.
She’s simply not interested, nor obligated, to respond. The man should then realize she isn’t interested and take it elsewhere. With no fanfare.
But, Sassy, and BFG, just because a woman chooses not to reply or engage with a man who seeks her out, doesn’t mean she is a bitch.
She’s simply not interested, nor obligated, to respond. The man should then realize she isn’t interested and take it elsewhere. With no fanfare.
first few messages, agree.
but after talking for a few weeks, yes she is a bitch for just disappearing.
This has been a long standing argument on Lit. First. Yes. No woman is obligated to talk to anyone. True. Second. If a man (goes both ways I guess) sends me a PM. If it is polite, it doesn't kill me to reply politely. So I almost always do. Now if that person or I, decide we don't want it to go any farther, it either fades off, or I will politely just say something. Being polite, hurts no one.
If that person sends me a rude, crude, mean etc PM (Like the one I showed you Fara) then I don't feel obligated at all to reply. However I usually still do. I told you (Fara) my replies and you told me to basically just tell him to fuck off. Which in some form I did and he moved on to the next "Slut"
A lot of the time, I have my PMs off because when I post pictures, it never fails to get some jack ass to comment and tell me all the things he thinks he has to right to do to me if he could. (Case in point, my AV got me the Cumslut PM) I am not his cumslut. So he did not earn the right to call me that.
I also know myself well enough to know that I am too kind most times. So keeping my PMs off gets me in less trouble. Less likely that someone will come along and take advantage of that kindness and then leave when someone new and shiny comes along.
Yes. Which upsets me. For you. Being nice to others when they don’t deserve it does hurt you at times. I don’t like that.
It's not about whether you can talk to a stranger. It's about whether or not you can be sincere in your interest and then use that to create something bigger.
I despise small talk. I don't want to talk about how it's snowing out unless it's relevant to life....nor do I want to rehash some stupid show on television. I'm too busy living life for that.
BUT.. you learn after time, especially online to be guarded. Investing in people emotionally takes something out of you and not everyone is worth that time. Not everyone values it.
"these kind of problems"
You mean the kind that occur when they are hurt by someone?
When they invest and either betrayed or discarded?
We don't do the damage to ourselves you know...
To quote a popular tv show character, "Everybody lies"
I've found that to be true.
Fortunately, I'm involved with someone who values transparency as much as I do, but in the past, every man I met here lied. They either hid a major detail, flat out lied about something and then often lied about lying. Is there any question why I would struggle to believe the words that come out of people's mouths (or keyboards?)
People really struggle with communication in general though. It's easier to not talk sometimes and it's hard to find the words that aren't triggers to people when you do try to communicate.
Additionally there are direct communicators and passive communicators and the two will find worlds of miscommunication in attempting to converse.
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This has the potential to be ugly. This thread.
What Tink said. And hotwords.
I personally don’t care if a nice guy feels left out because I’m too cautious. That’s his problem.
Not interested is just that.
That’s different when there is an established friendship.
OP is taking about making friends.
Interesting thread. If there's one thing I learned the hard way while being on Lit is NEVER, EVER get emotionally attached with anyone on here. I made that mistake once and I will never do it again. I do love my friends on here, but they're Lit friends and for the most part, we only communicate through the threads; although there are a few who I talk with talk privately. But as far as getting really personal with someone, that will never happen again. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Why the fuck would anybody be so desperate as to get attached to pixels on a screen?
Why the fuck would anybody be so desperate as to get attached to pixels on a screen?
You don't. You get attached to the person typing the words that you see there. You get a glimpse of their heart and mind. And that's what attracts you. And until it happens to you, please stfu and don't judge.
You don't. You get attached to the person typing the words that you see there. You get a glimpse of their heart and mind. And that's what attracts you.