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MRSassySheDevil

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Didn't know where to post this but figured she was well known here so figured this was the place.
Yesterday was one of the hardest days I have had to deal with, her remains were ready to be picked up and brought home.
I took her Mini that I bought her a couple years ago to replace her Mazda3 that I totaled when a truck pulled out in front of us.
Had the top down and I even used one of the baby buckles she always used. Once I picked her up I sat there for I don't know how long, I could hardly see as I sat there balling like a baby--something I am not used to.

I know some of you have gone thru this, even gotten a few pm's (and thank you) of those who have gone thru this. Besides the hole left its also like starting your life over. Sassy did allot for me, for us--more than she would ever admit.
One thing I did not think about, was the fact its like starting over in life. One thing we used to do was go to Costco--something simple right. Today I went to costco by myself for the first time and I didn't like the feel of it, didn't like being alone but I trucked on. I know there are many more things I will have to do and will try my best to tackle them as I go onward in life.

The letter she wrote me that we found after her passing I have read numerous times because it reminds me she truly loved me, even though my heart hurts badly by some things.

To those who she helped--she so loved doing that. Years ago I had told her she really needed to go to school to be a therapist--she had a knack for it as many of you know..
I know she has built some good friendships here to the point one of them is here now (and has many times) and considered a part of our family.

I was also going to let it out on the negative aspects of her and this place because I am really hurting over it but a smart person had gave me some good advice.

But I sat and read her letter again and it still reminds me she did love me--thats what I want to stay in my heart--not the other stuff that happened...

So today as family and friends come over to mourn her and remember her--hope I don't break down too many times...
 
Death is a bitch!!
Sorry about the aching pit in your soul!
It will heal over time
As long as you go there to experience her, she will be in Heaven. That’s why we really keep memories.
 
Hello,
She was a good friend to me.
We never met in person although we always talked about just getting coffee.
One of the best qualities about her was how down to Earth she was.
She always spoke plainly to me, something I treasured.
I remember her telling me about being in Puyallup for some kid activity years ago when I still lived in South Hill.
She is....amazing. Always had been. And her presence will be felt.
I think the one quality about her that was always amazing was her loyalty.
She was always kind to me.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
I have lost a few friends on here due to their spirits going onward and to be honest it takes a bit.
One day at a time, sir. Just take your time to process everything.
💐💐💐💐💐
 
Didn't know where to post this but figured she was well known here so figured this was the place.
Yesterday was one of the hardest days I have had to deal with, her remains were ready to be picked up and brought home.
I took her Mini that I bought her a couple years ago to replace her Mazda3 that I totaled when a truck pulled out in front of us.
Had the top down and I even used one of the baby buckles she always used. Once I picked her up I sat there for I don't know how long, I could hardly see as I sat there balling like a baby--something I am not used to.

I know some of you have gone thru this, even gotten a few pm's (and thank you) of those who have gone thru this. Besides the hole left its also like starting your life over. Sassy did allot for me, for us--more than she would ever admit.
One thing I did not think about, was the fact its like starting over in life. One thing we used to do was go to Costco--something simple right. Today I went to costco by myself for the first time and I didn't like the feel of it, didn't like being alone but I trucked on. I know there are many more things I will have to do and will try my best to tackle them as I go onward in life.

The letter she wrote me that we found after her passing I have read numerous times because it reminds me she truly loved me, even though my heart hurts badly by some things.

To those who she helped--she so loved doing that. Years ago I had told her she really needed to go to school to be a therapist--she had a knack for it as many of you know..
I know she has built some good friendships here to the point one of them is here now (and has many times) and considered a part of our family.

I was also going to let it out on the negative aspects of her and this place because I am really hurting over it but a smart person had gave me some good advice.

But I sat and read her letter again and it still reminds me she did love me--thats what I want to stay in my heart--not the other stuff that happened...

So today as family and friends come over to mourn her and remember her--hope I don't break down too many times...
You will break down every time you think of her. That is what love does to you. 😥
 
There has to be more positive stories about here here..
I'm not sure that everyone who was following the "Dicknations for Sassy" thread has seen this thread yet. I didn't find it until a few days after it had been started. You might want to post a link to this thread in the other thread. I think that might help more people to see your request for their positive stories and memories of Sassy. If I remember correctly, there are several stories and memories that were posted in the other thread as well.

I know that, at least for myself, it can be a challenging subject to write about. Sassy and I weren't close friends, so I don't have interesting and detailed stories to tell about her. She and I both posted in AmPics, so that is how I first got to know her. She felt like a kindred spirit in many ways there. We often rolled our eyes at the same posts and called out similar types of bad/annoying behavior. She helped me, as someone who is on the older and curvier side of the spectrum, to feel more confident about myself and that my photos were just as welcome there as anyone else's pics. I know that I am not the only person she helped to feel this way. Her annual posts in her "October breast cancer awareness" thread reminded me more than once to schedule my mammogram. Her posts of the penis collection and the goats always made me smile. Any time she talked about you, the kids, and the grandbaby, it was clear that you all were the center and love of her life. 🌹
 
Sassy was a champion for women and defended us tooth and nail. She had no issues with calling people out for bad behavior, male or female. She also created so much breast cancer awareness, posting pictures and encouraging others to beware and to love their bodies no matter how they look.

We had our issues but she came back and apologized and that made me respect the hell out of her. It would have been much easier to ignore and keep going. But that wasn't her, she didn't let herself off that easily. This place can be toxic, but she rose above it. I'll miss her!
 
There has to be more positive stories about here here..
From my post on the other thread, I have told how Sassy would often put me in my place but when she sent me the long email and we had our chat after that, she made me look at my own behaviour here and realise that I didn’t need to get involved in the drama just because it involved my friends. Her words calmed me down a lot and has made my experience here so much better.

I am not lonely but I live alone and sometimes real life events can bring me down a little. Sassy always seemed to notice this in my posts or if I wasn’t posting at all. She would often be the first to reach out and would tell me things that would make me laugh. When you start to go down the dark pathway, it is important to get pulled out of it quickly. Sassy was the tow rope that would pull me out. She would talk about how Squidge was doing and funny things he was doing, about you and the rest of the family, general things from being out and about, funny things that had happened at her chemo sessions. Everything she would talk to me about at these times, were always positive and she knew she was making me laugh and smile.

When I needed to talk about my son, she would listen to me rattle on. She knew she didn’t need to say anything but would just listen. She would remind me that grief crops up at anytime and to do whatever I needed to do to ease the feelings but to embrace them and never stop feeling them.

It is difficult to define specific things that Sassy helped with because I think she often helped people (some that she had never ever spoken to) with what and how she posted. She probably didn’t even know how her words had helped. She was always very straight up but with tact, diplomacy and care. There are people out there in the world that have probably made small changes in their life because of something Sassy said here.
 
Sassy helped more people than she let on. She didn't talk about others problems unless they had a conversation that didn't have the need for privacy.

She talked to anyone who wasn't an ass or insulting, and if you were, she and a few others let you know it.

Sassy shouldered a lot and didn't flinch at keeping with being herself.

She will be missed by a lot of people, loved by just a many, touched more peoples lives than anyone will ever know.

I can picture the Lit community down on one knee, in front of a headstone that reads Sassy, as she sits on it in angel form.
 
There has to be more positive stories about here here..
I had a chance to meet Sassy when I took my daughter to Seattle for her 18th birthday. It was great meeting her and having lunch together. The best part was the mall she suggested for the meeting. My kid had never seen such a huge mall and it was the highlight of the trip for her.

There was also the time you helped Sassy ship a Baby Yoda Squasmallow to my daughter. We laughed about Sassy sitting on the box while you taped it up. The mess ya’ll went through for my kid meant the world to me.

We had a rough friendship but these two memories always stick out to me. She could be the sweetest, kindest, most generous person and those are the memories to hang on to.
 
Me and Sassy did most of our interacting in the Hockey thread,an interest we both had.

She always had time for me,or found time for me there with a reply or a comment which I greatly appreciated.And of course she was a big Kraken fan I'm glad she was able to attend a few games and enjoyed herself. :)
 
I had a chance to meet Sassy when I took my daughter to Seattle for her 18th birthday. It was great meeting her and having lunch together. The best part was the mall she suggested for the meeting. My kid had never seen such a huge mall and it was the highlight of the trip for her.

There was also the time you helped Sassy ship a Baby Yoda Squasmallow to my daughter. We laughed about Sassy sitting on the box while you taped it up. The mess ya’ll went through for my kid meant the world to me.

We had a rough friendship but these two memories always stick out to me. She could be the sweetest, kindest, most generous person and those are the memories to hang on to.
I remember that--along with the candy you sent....
 
Me and Sassy did most of our interacting in the Hockey thread,an interest we both had.

She always had time for me,or found time for me there with a reply or a comment which I greatly appreciated.And of course she was a big Kraken fan I'm glad she was able to attend a few games and enjoyed herself. :)
Thats one thing I am going to miss greatly. She got me into hockey and we would go to games here and there. I still remember when I surprised her with her first hockey game....
 
I've been a member here a long time, not active the whole time, but when I first joined, I spent most of the time in the Playground, where I first saw Sassy. You notice the people who stand out and her way of talking to folks, good or bad, stood out to me. Never really spoke to her at that time though, sadly. I was too intimidated by the popular people and I just sat back and watched, posted here and there, but not a lot.
Then my father got sick and passed, I forgot about Lit for about 6 years or so, then Lit just popped into my head one day, came back to see what was going on here. I didn't know that many people anymore, but Sassy and a few others were still here, so I pretty much just followed her around, lol.

AM pics always intimidated me, but it seemed more welcoming to me than any other forum in here and I followed the threads that Sassy posted in, just commenting at that time.

But, wasn't really feeling Lit that much, so what's the use in staying? Who cares if I'm here or not, no one would even notice if I'm gone type feelings was going on in my head, so the day I logged in was going to be my last day here..............and there was a PM from Sassy waiting for me. :oops:

I looked at it for a long time, afraid to open it, as it was titled, 'Your posts....' OMG what have I done wrong was my first thought because Sassy didn't hold back when you were acting a fool, lol. I did eventually open it and she basically said that she loved my posts and thought that I was sweet and not a 'ho', lol. She used about a million words to say that and I wish that I still had that PM, but with the new format, it's gone, ugh.

The fact that she even noticed me made me feel good as she was a respected member of Lit. So I stayed around, got to know more people, started posting pictures as well and here we are..........

Sassy had left for a bit some years ago, but she came back on Halloween to see what I had done that year as she loved the Halloween pictures that I do, it's my favorite holiday for sure and she stayed posting after that, so I guess we both sort of kept each other around Lit, don't know if that's why she stayed, but she's sure the reason I'm still here today.

That's my Sassy story, I loved her and always will and I only wish that I could have thanked her in person! 💗
 
Thank you for all for sharing. I need to hear the good stuff to outweigh the bad here.
These stories help put me at ease..
I am so lost without her...
 
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