Why Are Men Threatened By Ambitious Women

[StarGazer58]

I believe that his comment was directed at men or perhaps people in general. Regardless he is pointing to irrational behavior. He is suggesting believing women are bad at math is also irrational. Or at least that’s how took it. Stargazer?

OMG, it was just a joke people. It was not a political commentary column in a newspaper. I am better at Jeopardy than my wife and she is far better than me in vocabulary games like playing scrabble and Wheel of Fortune. Quite frankly I have never held a math competition with my wife so I don't really know who is better at math. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses but it seems a sense of humor is seriously lacking in some people.

 

[StarGazer58]

Stop being a dick and people will lighten up.

I will stop being a dick when you stop being an asshole

 

[LadyJS]

You are exactly why there is so much political hate going on right now because nobody can take a joke and get offended at the slightest thing. Lighten up. I can certainly laugh when people make off handed jokes about men like when they make men look totally incompetent as fathers on TV shows. Get over yourself.

Booboobear84 asked a legitimate question and your response, as a joke, is to throw out an outdated stereotype. Well, I hope you got a good laugh out of it. By the way, 1970 wants its humor back.

 

[Booboobear84]

OMG, it was just a joke people. It was not a political commentary column in a newspaper. I am better at Jeopardy than my wife and she is far better than me in vocabulary games like playing scrabble and Wheel of Fortune. Quite frankly I have never held a math competition with my wife so I don't really know who is better at math. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses but it seems a sense of humor is seriously lacking in some people.

Clearly I’m obtuse. Sigh.

 

[daddycontrols4u]

Your over reacting

I for one love an accomplished and strong woman in the work place. I want her to be successful.

I think you are wither choosing the wrong men ,men that are insecure or you just plane insecure and over reacting yourself

Wish you the best of luck in being a best seller . They say those that do do so just go out and do it.

 

[Dribble]

Odd....the OP makes an over-generalization and that is ok. Guess it all depends on how thin skinned people are.

 

[kentuckymtnman]

It wasn’t

A joke... it wasn’t funny. Women are trivialized on a daily basis and told to shut up and take it. It is those who continue to do it in 2019 who are assholes, not those who point it out.

 

[Dribble]

Lol. Sure.

 

[Nubbin2Declare]

Asking anyone to generalize about men is a red flag. Your generalizing about men in this posting is a related red flag. If you are unsatisfied by the quality of your personal relationships, look first at your own behaviors for the cause and solution to the problem you perceive. Refine your understanding of the problem. Don't generalize about men, women, or children. There are 7+ billion people on this planet and just as you are a unique individual, so too is everyone else.

Many a person finding fault in others for being rubbed the wrong way avoids the painful truth that he or she is simply intentionally abrasive and obnoxious in personal style. A firm handshake is a good thing, but you also have to know when to stop pumping and let go.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

It's a typical misogynistic response, and it answers Booboobear84 question as to why people still think that. Men by and large still think themselves superior to women as evidenced by such a flippant response. It's sad that, being this far in the 21st century, we still deal with bullshit like this.

That's a bit of a generalization about men.
I think you only get that kind of comment from men who have little or no actual dealings with women as human beings.

 

[waratah]

Generalisation i know, but "normal" is a women marrying up, or "equal".
If you're at the top of your field, then that limits the pool to equal.

 

[Beachaged]

Hey good luck to you and all of that but I like the term ‘slam piece’ more than ‘side piece.’ I know I am splitting hairs.

Also why does it matter what state men are from? I assume you are in NY but want dudes in SC/GA to weigh in. This seems pretty fucking bizarre to me. I will note I live in FL where everyone is pretty grounded and well balanced.

Alright I am off to the liquor store. Peace out and cheers and all that shit. P

I doubt very much she is in NY. I am in NY and know plenty of guys who are married to very successful women. None of these guys feel the least bit threatened by a woman’s success.

 

[unsetreality]

I find drive toward life sexy. Keep it up! You'll find him.

 

[Jacques_Corbin]

Yeah, I absolutely love how ambitious my wife is. That coupled with her being 10 years younger than I, and she is my retirement plan. Lol

 

[UhlBWett]

It's pretty simple.

I am fed up with men who are cowards because of my drive and desire. I don't want to be just a housewife (although I have great respect for housewives). I want to be a #1 NY Best Seller, I want to earn my whole merchandise business, and I want to dominate my field. Yes, I have a firm handshake but there shouldn't be a problem with that. You should be able to see me as a partner and a lover, not just a side piece. Why is that so hard to understand? Please tell me men. Especially those in SC/GA.

Real men aren't threatened, only boys are. I find both the notion and the reality of a woman being driven to be the best that she can be, very seductive and refreshing. Being driven is who you are, while striving to be the best is what you do. Men don't have a monopoly on that behavioral trait! You go girl. Dreams are merely unachieved goals. A job well done should be respected no matter what the vocation or task. Stay focused and continue to challenge yourself when others won't challenge you.

You will succeed, if it's truly what you desire!

UBW

 

[Northward]

For some absurd reason I feel like chiming in here. A few thoughts:

1) The premise is suspect. Most guys don't feel threatened by women with drive. Not in the social circles I run in, and not in the nation writ large, in my estimation. Maybe in some subcultures.

2) speaking of subcultures, you're asking about South Carolina and Georgia specifically. Right smack in the middle of the Bible belt. Try moving if you don't like the median male attitudes there.

3) Please don't take this the wrong way, but claiming you want to write a New York Times best seller, launch a merchandise business, and "dominate your field" makes your aspirations sound a bit grandiose and ungrounded. If there is a guy in your life who isn't being the perfect cheerleader, is it possible he's actually just trying to temper your expectations and you're misinterpreting?

Anyhow, you've posted all this in the personals of a site that caters primarily to the sex starved. It's kind of an odd forum choice, but I wish you luck regardless.

I am fed up with men who are cowards because of my drive and desire. I don't want to be just a housewife (although I have great respect for housewives). I want to be a #1 NY Best Seller, I want to earn my whole merchandise business, and I want to dominate my field. Yes, I have a firm handshake but there shouldn't be a problem with that. You should be able to see me as a partner and a lover, not just a side piece. Why is that so hard to understand? Please tell me men. Especially those in SC/GA.

 

[UhlBWett]

Hmmmmmmm

I guess this is a "Glass half full or half empty" kind of thread...……….

 

[Chris_Michael]

If a man is threatened by a strong woman, then he’s not a man, he just happens to have a dick. The two are not synonymous.

So if a man is threatened by a strong man, does that also make him “not a man”?

Also, what’s wrong with being threatened by a strong woman? Why does it make a person with a penis “not a man”? Doesn’t that line of logic discredit strong women - as if to say “A woman, no matter how strong, should never be intimidating to any men”?

Also, can’t some strong women threaten some men while others don’t? Are we really going to blanket statement men and women’s roles in society in 20-fucking-19?

 

[WynnCrown]

Shall we have a conversation?

Why do all strong women think the intimidate men..please stop with the generalizations

 

[quietlylooking]

Why do all strong women think the intimidate men..please stop with the generalizations

I am a woman with certain qualities that might qualify me as a "strong woman", but I am not, outwardly, a strong woman. I probably should be more assertive and have been told in professional settings that I am too sensitive. I'm too concerned over keeping people happy and having people like me.

I do still wonder whether some of the relationships from my younger days didn't work out because I had certain academic or professional qualities that made some of the men I dated a bit uncomfortable. Or perhaps that is just my rationalization/wishful thinking.

 

[Beachaged]

I am a woman with certain qualities that might qualify me as a "strong woman", but I am not, outwardly, a strong woman. I probably should be more assertive and have been told in professional settings that I am too sensitive. I'm too concerned over keeping people happy and having people like me.

I do still wonder whether some of the relationships from my younger days didn't work out because I had certain academic or professional qualities that made some of the men I dated a bit uncomfortable. Or perhaps that is just my rationalization/wishful thinking.

I don’t think being a strong woman and trying to make people happy are mutually exclusive. Each has its place in working with people. If those men were uncomfortable that was their own doing. They probably weren’t right for you anyway.

 

[Booboobear84]

can we do a minor reframe

I think we should stop using the strong women term in this discussion because strong tends to be a loaded term. Further I would say that strong applied to either men or women is not a large a number 5% - 10%

As observed both sexes tend have issues dealing with either strong sex, though those issues might be different.

I think the question is how different men react to capable competent women. I consider this a more neutral term, and suggestive of a large number of women (or men). Having trouble with that kind of women I would consider sexist (also dumb and probably indicates a lack of self confidence on the part of the doubter).

 

[Mister_Discreet]

I don't know about SC/GA, and I don't know that all guys are threatened by ambitious women; I would suspect there is a correlation with self-assurance. For example, the whole 'alpha male' thing, with mostly younger guys but iccasionally an older male, cracks me up. In an attempt to show how strong and silent they are, they instead come off as afraid to converse or have any contact with another person, not 'strong' or 'alpha'. Maybe 'alpha asshole'.

That's great that you want to pursue something ambitious. Why would someone begrudge you that? As much as I love the female form, it's the brain that is intrinsically mesmerizing. I could never understand why my friends wanted a 'dumb chick' when there is so much more to explore and discover and be challenged by with someone who pushes you. Einstein had me beat in the grey matter and there are plenty of women who are bound to be similarly situated. It's a numbers game.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Question: Is this a man?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMqVoxVnnxU

 

[AlliaPotestas]

Question: Is this a man?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMqVoxVnnxU

Chris! Long time no see - how the fuck are you?

I assume that’s a man - difficult to be 100% with clothes on though... you really never know for sure...

I don’t like the hidden camera vid, not all disabilities are visible and he may have good reason for needing the step - filmed by a couple of privileged little cunts I would guess (huge generalisation I know...)

Back to the original topic, I don’t like the real men spin, any more than I like the real women memes that clog up the internet - confident, self assured people are generally not threatened by other confident, self assured people... they know someone else’s success does not diminish them..