Why Are Men Threatened By Ambitious Women

[Zatana2017]

I am fed up with men who are cowards because of my drive and desire. I don't want to be just a housewife (although I have great respect for housewives). I want to be a #1 NY Best Seller, I want to earn my whole merchandise business, and I want to dominate my field. Yes, I have a firm handshake but there shouldn't be a problem with that. You should be able to see me as a partner and a lover, not just a side piece. Why is that so hard to understand? Please tell me men. Especially those in SC/GA.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I am fed up with men who are cowards because of my drive and desire. I don't want to be just a housewife (although I have great respect for housewives). I want to be a #1 NY Best Seller, I want to earn my whole merchandise business, and I want to dominate my field. Yes, I have a firm handshake but there shouldn't be a problem with that. You should be able to see me as a partner and a lover, not just a side piece. Why is that so hard to understand? Please tell me men. Especially those in SC/GA.

I love this! You go, lady!

 

[IntelligentDominantMan]

As a man, I don’t understand why I would view you any differently. I would want my partner to be a success, to have her own victories and stand on her own two feet. I find that sexy.

I think it comes down to a lack of confidence coupled with an embrace of toxic masculinity. Lots of men have low self-esteem in part because they embrace this culture of acting “tough” and stoic, the “alpha” who conquers. They’re pretending like things don’t hurt them. That transfers to a view of women as objects, there to be of use to men because women are “weak” due to showing emotion.

I’m a confident, strong man. My self-confidence is based upon my own positive view of myself, and I’d only want a partner to be my equal. This also means giving pleasure to her, and being an attentive lover. I’m naturally dominant and I love being rough, but only with a woman who actively chooses to submit. Her consent is key; it’s not because her vagina makes her weak.

If a guy can’t treat you as an equal, can’t support your success, then he won’t ever be happy with himself either, because he hasn’t addressed his own insecurities.

 

[lustingmoment]

I love ambitious women and love their drive and often their sex drive is very strong, some men are scared I think due to feeling of not equal

 

[MKvDeepSea]

I am fed up with men who are cowards because of my drive and desire. I don't want to be just a housewife (although I have great respect for housewives). I want to be a #1 NY Best Seller, I want to earn my whole merchandise business, and I want to dominate my field. Yes, I have a firm handshake but there shouldn't be a problem with that. You should be able to see me as a partner and a lover, not just a side piece. Why is that so hard to understand? Please tell me men. Especially those in SC/GA.

Hey Zantan2017,

I wish I had an easy answer. I was born here in SC but spent thirty years traveling all over the country before returning. From what I see, as a guy, it is the extreme male dominated Christian conservatives who are in power both in government and at the corporate level who still believe a woman's place is at home. Remember, there are still folks here fighting the Civil War, who want the Confederate Flag flown, celebrate Confederate Memorial Day and Robert E. Lee's birthday.

But I've seen this not only in SC/Ga but in California where we had a friend who was fighting the same fight in the computer engineering field. And there are some guys who would not be intimidated with your drive, goals or desires. Keep those in sight and as us older folks would say, "Keep On Trucking." I do wish you well and I wish I had a better answer.

 

[jp55665566]

Zatana, there's the culturally imposed sterotypes, but people in general are intimidated by anyone daring enough to assert themselves in an intelligent, coherent way. I learned something when you talked about a "black fetish" some people have . Wow, i can see a part of your dilemma.
I've been in sales a fair amount and worked with typeA women; it's cool john

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Threatened, no. Turned on by, yes.

 

[FunLi]

As a man, I don’t understand why I would view you any differently. I would want my partner to be a success, to have her own victories and stand on her own two feet. I find that sexy.

I think it comes down to a lack of confidence coupled with an embrace of toxic masculinity. Lots of men have low self-esteem in part because they embrace this culture of acting “tough” and stoic, the “alpha” who conquers. They’re pretending like things don’t hurt them. That transfers to a view of women as objects, there to be of use to men because women are “weak” due to showing emotion.

I’m a confident, strong man. My self-confidence is based upon my own positive view of myself, and I’d only want a partner to be my equal. This also means giving pleasure to her, and being an attentive lover. I’m naturally dominant and I love being rough, but only with a woman who actively chooses to submit. Her consent is key; it’s not because her vagina makes her weak.

If a guy can’t treat you as an equal, can’t support your success, then he won’t ever be happy with himself either, because he hasn’t addressed his own insecurities.

This. Love it.

As an ambitious woman myself, you will come across more men that are intimidated by you than those that aren’t. It’s unfortunate but true. Just know there are those few out there who won’t view you negatively because of what you’ve achieved and where you’re going.

 

[EctoJohn]

How about I be a house husband instead and you can be the successful bread winner?

 

[Chickelikemycock]

Let’s be blunt here. Men want to fuck you. We wonder what color panties you’re wearing, if you’re wearing panties... shaved or hairy? We wonder if you’re in to anal and if you can deep throat our dicks. We have. Little fantasy that if we’re perceived as being successful, more women will spread their legs for us. This fantasy dissolves into a feeling of animosity if we Percy you, an ambitious woman, as having the upper hand in the hunter gatherer game. Deep down we know it’s not true, and believe that the only women who want to sleep with us because we are powerful are gold digging sluts. Some men have evolved enough to realize that’s not the case and none of this matters. Hell. I like successful women! They’re the confident ones that know what they want and aren’t afraid to tell you. THAT is sexy!

 

[Lictologist]

It’s not the kind of man you want to be around, so why does it matter?

I was thinking about this a week and a half ago and wrote the following on June 14.

So I got to thinking about the women that get angry and snippy at men that are intimidated by strong woman. A man like that would have some problems with self-worth, deficient in maturity, so isn’t it something that a strong woman should show her character and handle with compassion, while retreating gracefully?

 

[Corbal]

If a man is threatened by a strong woman, then he’s not a man, he just happens to have a dick. The two are not synonymous.

 

[MacGuffinn]

I'm with you just for your chosen screen name.

 

[IdahoGuy73]

This one is simple. MEN aren't.

 

[Twistedkink]

Threatened, no. Turned on by, yes.

Could not agree more!

 

[Scot4U]

Threatened, no. Turned on by, yes.

AGREED!

 

[StarGazer58]

I am fed up with men who are cowards because of my drive and desire. I don't want to be just a housewife (although I have great respect for housewives). I want to be a #1 NY Best Seller, I want to earn my whole merchandise business, and I want to dominate my field. Yes, I have a firm handshake but there shouldn't be a problem with that. You should be able to see me as a partner and a lover, not just a side piece. Why is that so hard to understand? Please tell me men. Especially those in SC/GA.

I don't know you, your history with men or your perspective on life in general so all I can go on is what you wrote but I will give you some different perspectives from others here. Reading your post I sense anger so have your bad experiences with men made you bitter and angry towards men so that they are intimidated or turned off when they meet you? As I said, I don't know, just throwing ideas out there.

First, just like women, men come in all different shapes and sizes so maybe it is the type of men you are attracted too, the super ambitious, the ones that are just like you, want to dominate the world. That type of man is more likely looking for a wife that is going to supplement his career, stay one step behind, take care of all the child care duties leaving them free to pursue their work, the wife who can look pretty at a moments notice to attend a party or banquet that helps further the husbands career. That type of man might want a smart, strong woman but one who stands behind him not competes with him.

Or are you only attracted to the tall, really handsome men who are use to women fawning all over him. The type of guy who women compete to be with, someone who is use to women putting him and his needs first over hers.

Or are you attracted to the weaker guys, the ones with low self-confidence and no real self worth, that soon become intimidated by you. Maybe the softer side of you comes out thinking maybe you can help this type of guy.

As for me, I want a woman who has some ambition, who wants to do well in whatever career she has chosen but when I read you want to build your brand and dominate your field then I doubt you would be the type for me. Not that I am intimidated by you but I don't want to be married to a person who spends 16 hours a day, 7 days a week working. I don't want a spouse where the only conversations had are around work. I don't want a spouse who is never home and when she is home is not actually there mentally because she is on the conference calls or answering emails or working on the next big thing. Sure the money flowing in is nice but if it is just me there at home alone what good does it do me? I don't want a wife who is not there for the highs and lows of raising children just as many wives don't like that their husbands missed the recitals, sporting event and other kids activities for work. I don't want to go on vacation with a person who is really just shifting the location of her office to the beach or tells me to go ahead and tour the city by myself because she has to jump on conference calls. I get that a wife with a career is going to have work nights or weekends or maybe even on vacation occasionally just as I have to sometimes but I want that to be the exception not the rule.

Also, if I went on a date with you and all you talked about was work and what you wanted to achieve career wise I would probably not be too interested in a relationship. You may see that as me being cowardly or intimidated or that I felt threatened but it is really more about what I am looking for in a relationship. To me marriage is a partnership, a shared life together, enjoying each other's company but that means actually spending time together, not working 90% of the time which is probably what you are going to be doing if you want to be a best selling author, build your brand and dominate your field.

As I said earlier, I don't know you so maybe you can blend it all together, maybe you have just met the worst of men and have not been able to show how you can make a high power career and a relationship work. You will probably have to keep working through the lemons before you find the right guy for you. Good Luck.

 

[CL69cap]

A firm handshake from a woman always impresses me, shows confidence

 

[69Massagingman]

Sexiest woman I ever knew and loved was amazing strong and ambitious, Total turn on and when you can parallel your dreams and ambitions even better. Seemed to have the ability to make it happen,

I think when it comes to woman, I try and appreciate the good qualities and embrace individuality.

Having drive and ambition, is one quality but not necessarily a must have quality. I'm sure there are ambitious , driven woman for whatever reason I am not interested in at least from a relationship perspective.

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

We aren’t. I think you left out the word some.

 

[ReaperW]

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[jackburns]

Men aren't threatened by ambitious women. Because if one is threatened by an ambitious woman, that person isn't really a man.

I am fed up with men who are cowards because of my drive and desire. I don't want to be just a housewife (although I have great respect for housewives). I want to be a #1 NY Best Seller, I want to earn my whole merchandise business, and I want to dominate my field. Yes, I have a firm handshake but there shouldn't be a problem with that. You should be able to see me as a partner and a lover, not just a side piece. Why is that so hard to understand? Please tell me men. Especially those in SC/GA.

 

[Davapo2458]

Men...well....successful and well adjusted men....aren’t turned off by a successful and ambitious woman. However, we don’t Have romantic feelings for an overpowering woman either. If a woman gives me too firm of a handshake I don’t see them as a potential mate since it’s not a feminine trait.

 

[ConstantineIII]

If a man is threatened by a strong woman, then he’s not a man, he just happens to have a dick. The two are not synonymous.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[cliteatingman]

I love ambitious women who enjoy riding my face!