When did you stop thinking...

[BustyTheClown]

that everything your parents did -- or whatever parent it was with whom you had the most conflict/tension -- was somehow in an effort to make your life a living hell?

I'm ashamed to admit I still think that way about my mother.

 

[Weevil]

I'll stop thinking that the second it stops being true.

 

[Wiggles]

Right around the time I stopped trying to make her life a living hell.

I love my mommy.

 

[BustyTheClown]

I love my mommy.

<sigh> It's so hard for me to imagine a time when I can say that without any reservations or snide thoughts or comments... It's so unfortunate how words can hurt a person so much more than physical wounds, scarring them in places that don't heal nearly as quickly as exterior cuts and scrapes.

 

[Ice Cold]

When that day gets here, I'll let you know... I think she exists just to thwart my every move, even from afar...

 

[xMorganx]

I thik it was after my dad's heart attack.for my mom. B/c i saw thru all her nagging and bitching she was just trying to look out for us. But at times she can still act very bitchy.
though my dad has always been a cool guy.

 

[Texan]

every poster in this thread should put their age in their post.

That way maybe I could figure out if the angst between parent and child is a holdover from youth, or is the parent just a jerk.

just a thought....

 

[Weevil]

I'm 22 but it applies in both categories.

 

[Laurel]

I'll stop thinking that the second it stops being true.

Weevil once again took the words right out of my mouth.

My parents are actual jerks.

 

[lavender]

 

[seXieleXie]

i don't think they want me to ge unhappy, i just think they can't understand that i can't be happy living the life they want me to live.

 

[Wiggles]

every poster in this thread should put their age in their post.

That way maybe I could figure out if the angst between parent and child is a holdover from youth, or is the parent just a jerk.

just a thought....

19 here, I think I'm just lucky that I have a really cool mom. Really, she's one of my best-friends.

I think one reason we're so close is because I moved out shortly after the mother/daughter rivalry began. That shit sucks.

 

[AzureAngel]

I stopped probably around 18. Not that I don't have some serious problesm with my parents, still.... but I don't think they're out to screw me over. They're just... yeah. It's a long story.

For me, it was a matter of first being happy with myself and just being more positive. then realizing that they're human. They're trying to do the best things for you, a lot of times... just they're not sure how so they're guessin. And sometimes messing up.

 

[SilverVeil]

I'm 38.
And I will stop thinking that about my mom when the first shovel full of dirt hits her coffin lid.

 

[heterotic]

22, and my parents really don't hate me, they just want more control over every part of my life than I want them to have. I still think that the way they incorrigibly went everywhere 15 minutes late was for the specific purpose of tormenting me, though.

 

[Texan]

I'm 47. My parents both died in 1995. They were wonderful people. I counted them among my very best friends.

Sure, I had a little trouble with them when I was a teenager, but after I grew up, I realized that I caused my own problems. They were actually very patient with me.

I have four sons. I hope I manage to be half the father my own father was.

 

[stargazer]

growing up

I'm 44. My mom still "suggests" what I could do in my life that would make me a better person. Those suggestions usually are right in line with what she does and how she thinks. She lives 1800 miles away. I do think, though, that my parents want me to be happy; it's just hard to give up control and realize that I'm a different person than they are.

 

[dreamer]

I am SOOOOO glad I don't have this problem. Never did. But I sure know a couple that suffer terribly from this affliction.

It just makes me realize that parents are people too, and they're as stupid and suck as much as the rest of us!!

 

[freakygirl]

I'm 33.. and still live with my mother. I moved back home after my brother and father died. I love my mom.. and I dislike my mom.

We have our problems (as most of you have read about here on this message board). But I love her with all my heart.. and fear I don't have much longer with her. I treasure the good times.. I forget the bad times..

 

[april-wine]

My mom can drive me insane in about 30 seconds...........But I love her.....She only wants whats best for me.......

 

[Georgia Girl]

35 here.

My mom is my best friend and has been for my whole life, she drives me absolutely insane at times but thats because we are so alike she knows exactly where my buttons are and how to push them.

When my ex and I split I moved next door to my parents. I knew that my son needed a strong and positive male role model and there was none that I knew who would be a better one than my father.

Behind all of the misunderstandings and such has always been a deep and abiding love.

Dawn

 

[T.H. Oughts]

It's so unfortunate how words can hurt a person so much more than physical wounds, scarring them in places that don't heal nearly as quickly as exterior cuts and scrapes.

So so very true...... but at 18 I realised my Father was the way he was because his mother had treated him the exact way.... I learnt that I had to break the cycle that had been happening in the generations.....

My Mother kept me level until I had sorted out that I was not the problem my Father was.....

At 38 now his words do not effect me, I am just sad that he does not know how to respond to love because he was not shown any while growing up.....

Even though I show him the love now that I can, I see he is taking it in but does not know how to respond to it.... so very very sad......

 

[PrincessSalome]

The most annoying thing about my mother. . . she's usually right.

 

[shynsexy]

Right around the time I stopped trying to make her life a living hell.

I love my mommy.

exactly

 

[bored1]

that everything your parents did -- or whatever parent it was with whom you had the most conflict/tension -- was somehow in an effort to make your life a living hell?

I'm ashamed to admit I still think that way about my mother.

When I finally realized that my parents were just people who sacrificed many of their goals and dreams for their children and when I had children of my own.