What's your greatest insecurity?

[Qky75]

That I’m not intelligent at all and have just been faking it and some day everyone will discover this.

I feel this

 

[Qky75]

I'm almost fully recovered from a brain injury but I still have a stutter when I get upset and I get upset really easy now. I used to be a singer in college and now I'm afraid someone will talk to me and force me to converse. I script what I'm going to say verbally. Random small talk is a personal hell.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I don't have emotional insecurities really..
I'm insecure about my physical scars.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I’d say my biggest insecurity is feeling like I’m not in control.

Here is the angle I am at. I am incredibly shy. (Don't laugh, it takes a lot for me to get past that part, but when I do, I am all in). For me to want to reach out to someone is hard enough. I am --to my chagrin-- still bleeding from recently being rejected and discarded. It is foolish, but there I am. The thought of reaching out and being rejected again may be a bridge I cannot pass.

That’s brutal.

 

[orangecurious]

I don't have emotional insecurities really..
I'm insecure about my physical scars.

"You should wear with pride the scars on your skin
They're a map of the adventures and the places you've been"

From a song by Poi Dog Pondering called U Li La Lu.
Always loved the lines

 

[Hodes101]

I am always insecure about my penis. As a tall gentleman, it just isn't in scale. There I said it.

 

[jason28053]

Not fitting in

 

[StillRain]

I'm almost fully recovered from a brain injury but I still have a stutter when I get upset and I get upset really easy now. I used to be a singer in college and now I'm afraid someone will talk to me and force me to converse. I script what I'm going to say verbally. Random small talk is a personal hell.

I’m sorry you have these lingering effects. I still sometimes struggle with word finding and a few other things that are mostly invisible. I empathise wholly with your struggles.

Honestly though, small talk is hell anyway. Always was. Fuck that.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I’d say my biggest insecurity is feeling like I’m not in control.

You must be feeling pretty insecure this week then!

Too soon?

 

[crazychemgirl]

I'm almost fully recovered from a brain injury but I still have a stutter when I get upset and I get upset really easy now. I used to be a singer in college and now I'm afraid someone will talk to me and force me to converse. I script what I'm going to say verbally. Random small talk is a personal hell.

I’m sorry … that’s rough.

I find myself rehearsing conversations or things I might say ahead of any social interaction because I get so nervous.

Small talk sucks … let’s talk about the universe and consciousness and the evolution of the self … that’s way more fun anyway.
I’d rather someone talk my ear off about some new fact or thing they learned or have been googling lately than like… how their day at work was

 

[Wand3rlust]

That I’m not intelligent at all and have just been faking it and some day everyone will discover this.

I'll be all dumb an earnest and say that I am always assuming that I'm dull and bothering someone.

Being vulnerable and someone taking advantage of that.

Not being enough. Never being enough...

All of the above.

 

[Qky75]

I’m sorry … that’s rough.

I find myself rehearsing conversations or things I might say ahead of any social interaction because I get so nervous.

Small talk sucks … let’s talk about the universe and consciousness and the evolution of the self … that’s way more fun anyway.
I’d rather someone talk my ear off about some new fact or thing they learned or have been googling lately than like… how their day at work was

Deep subjects like Goofy or pulp aside, if I have to make the effort to communicate with them be aware I'm spending effort on them....you learn to hold precious things like say what you mean and say what's important.

 

[Qky75]

Not fitting in

Welcome. We have cake and beer but I recommend not at the same time

 

[dawn_of_night]

I'm almost fully recovered from a brain injury

Bro. Congratulations that's a lot to overcome and you're obviously killing it, because you're here to share it. And I love that

but I still have a stutter when I get upset

This is more common than you think. Don't let it get you down.

and I get upset really easy now.

I used to be a singer in college and now I'm afraid someone will talk to me and force me to converse. I script what I'm going to say verbally. Random small talk is a personal hell.

Don't let them, the random ass people being nosey and chit chatting... I have a friend, who responds with "I'm not sure" "I don't know" "I can't decide" when he doesn't want to talk about things. Maybe it's worth a try?
And finally....
I just want to say, I was going to love this post, until I saw all the sadness and I decided to post a comment and then I'm going back to place my love reaction.

 

[Photog1rl]

An unserious thread but I'll give a serious answer. I grew up extremely poor. But now I am a millionaire and when somebody tells me to wait to go up to a buffet line at a conference or wedding, I get PTSD because underneath I am still that poor kid who had to wait in line to get a meal and worried that I would do something wrong and they would yell at me and not let me eat.

Class jumping, while what the American dream is based on, is extremely hard in reality. The impacts of poverty do not simply disappear with having money. While not a millionaire, I still hold my breath when paying for a full cart off groceries and that has not been an acutual issue since I moved out of my childhood home. I know the money is there but I will still feel like a fraud.

Being vulnerable and someone taking advantage of that.

So much of this.

Not being enough. Never being enough...

This and being too much of what folks don't want all at the same time.

I resonate with so much of what’s been said here. A major insecurity I have is with how my body is changing. I started a medication about 5 years ago and it causes weight gain. I have been slowly gaining weight (over 75 pounds) and it is more and more something I notice. I have always been confident and am very body positive but I am now becoming increasingly insecure of how my body looks and what is able to do.

 

[Qky75]

Bro. Congratulations that's a lot to overcome and you're obviously killing it, because you're here to share it. And I love that

This is more common than you think. Don't let it get you down.



Don't let them, the random ass people being nosey and chit chatting... I have a friend, who responds with "I'm not sure" "I don't know" "I can't decide" when he doesn't want to talk about things. Maybe it's worth a try?
And finally....
I just want to say, I was going to love this post, until I saw all the sadness and I decided to post a comment and then I'm going back to place my love reaction.

Thank you for the encouragement. I actually may incorporate some of those responses!

 

[Qky75]

That I’m not intelligent at all and have just been faking it and some day everyone will discover this.

You're a thinker. Thinking is a double edged sword. Your self criticism reminds me of similar talks with musician friends. Often, the cliche answer was, "you're going to notice your mistakes so much more than your audience" Your out of the box humor is the direct result of a sharp whit. You are definitely enough.

 

[dawn_of_night]

Not fitting in

I'm sorry.... I took this way to literally....
And then realized you meant socially....
Don't hate me,

 

[Lord Pmann]

You must be feeling pretty insecure this week then!

Too soon?

Haha. It takes much more to make me feel out of control.

Never too soon!

 

[dawn_of_night]

Thank you for the encouragement. I actually may incorporate some of those responses!

Dude. I've seen it shut people down before.... And he's totally unbothered by it....

Ive learned to initiate a conversation with him visually, I show him what I want to talk about first, and he's more verbally responsive to me....
I get different responses. Like he's had time to process his answer....

I hope it works Bro.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

Bazooka.

I'm also pretty modest. And mature. It's what makes me better than the rest of you fuckfaces.

 

[StillRain]

I'm also pretty modest. And mature. It's what makes me better than the rest of you fuckfaces.

Okay bazooka boy.

 

[ALovelyNudist]

Honestly, just proving I’m enough and wanting to do more. Wether that’s work or a personal matter, I have to go the extra mile with favours, tasks, deadlines etc

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

Okay bazooka boy.

New nickname? I approve.

 

[ToTaboo]

That I’m not intelligent at all and have just been faking it and some day everyone will discover this.

That sounds genuinely really hard. I know people who suffer with imposter syndrome and they feel like they have no right to claim their accomplishments. If people around you do think you're intelligent, you probably actually are! Thank you for sharing!