What's something you've always wanted to ask the opposite gender?

[Interested_Girl]

When after an hour of talking it seems like only ten minutes have passed.
When after that hour, you’re both comfortable asking and answering the uncomfortable.
When silence is not awkward, just a pause for mental digestion.
When you tell them the worst things you’ve ever done and they don’t care.
When eyes are not something looking at you but an opening into their soul.

You click. The switch is on, and you hope never to become unplugged.

Beauriful Love it.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

When after an hour of talking it seems like only ten minutes have passed.
When after that hour, you’re both comfortable asking and answering the uncomfortable.
When silence is not awkward, just a pause for mental digestion.
When you tell them the worst things you’ve ever done and they don’t care.
When eyes are not something looking at you but an opening into their soul.

You click. The switch is on, and you hope never to become unplugged.

And all this comes after an hour of chatting? Hmmm... I must be doing it all wrong.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

Trick Question:

Do you mean really innocently? Or seemingly innocently? Hmm???

Innocently...more than seemingly...not noticing others are watching innocently...

 

[Callmetim]

And all this comes after an hour of chatting? Hmmm... I must be doing it all wrong.

I’m not saying it is often or with any regularity.

You know when chemistry is there; they will too.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

men:

What are things women innocently do that attracts your attention?

fidget with the hem of their skirts when sitting...

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I’m not saying it is often or with any regularity.

You know when chemistry is there; they will too.

I’ll agree with that, for sure.
We all do Lit different, it’s all good in my book.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

Personality is pretty broad, what are some traits in their personality that attracts you?

Flexible Humor
Open Mindedness
Easy Going, but not to be walked on
Comfortable as a person

 

[Interested_Girl]

Flexible Humor
Open Mindedness
Easy Going, but not to be walked on
Comfortable as a person

Yeah, the third point is hard.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Food for thought...

What about...have you ever had unrequited feelings for someone on Lit? Or have they had them for you? How do you handle this without getting your/their heart broken?

 

[AbsintheFather]

What about...have you ever had unrequited feelings for someone on Lit? Or have they had them for you? How do you handle this without getting your/their heart broken?

Sure, unrequited feelings for someone are part of life. But, I'd never let it 'break my heart'. Say there was chemistry, say there were feelings there, maybe a ltr and then they ghosted you. Then you might be in broken heart territory, but over simple unrequited feelings, naw.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

And the unconventional physical trait is?

I mentioned earlier in this thread that, for example I am attracted to a shapely butt, regardless of size. I like boobs, but I prefer real ones (or, fake ones that aren't obvious, I suppose). Stilletoes are very sexy, but there's something about hiking boots, work boots and Docs.

men:

What are things women innocently do that attracts your attention?

Trying to hide an obvious physically attractive trait just emphasizes it. You know: an oversized sweater to hide big breasts or a long top over obviously tight jeans to cover your butt. Fashionable, but also teasing.

A woman in the office I work in has a thing for very high heels (she's five-foot nothing, and seems to be trying to overcome that). She keeps six pairs lined up like artillery in the bottom of her bookcase.

Wear your glasses.

Tell me a joke. It doesn't even have to be dirty; just show your sense of humour.

Dangling a shoe. Don't ask me to explain.

Produce something from your bra.(a credit card or cash).

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Breast implants and scars around the ariola?

This kind of got lost a bit.

I know that there are good ones and bad ones, obvious ones and ones where you can hardly tell. A picture on one of the threads in another forum of a very attractive older woman who seems to have had some work done,complete with very faint scars around the areolas has gotten loads of praise.

The point is: the boobs look real. Nobody wants hard volleyballs on a woman's chest!

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

When I was working, I rode the metro train to get to my destination. I did almost everything but speak to get males to acknowledge my existence. I smelled nice, not overpowering (Flowerbomb perfume), wore 3-5 inch heels, dresses to emphasize my ASSets. I was always well put together and my hair looked decent, it wasn't long but a little longer than it is now. When passing others to get to the first train, I would gently touch the side, back or arm of the male to get his attention to be able to slide past him. Mind you, the trains were ALWAYS crowded and we were packed like sardines in there, so I used what charms I could to spark conversation as I passed by each FINE individual, even saying hello and excuse me as I slid past by them. For some, I lingered on their specific train, since my stop was the next to the last stop. It got to a point where I stopped trying since men were in their own little world not acknowledging my attempts. They were preparing for their day, focused on other things. I would stand instead of sitting down. I'm 5'2". I carry my weight well, I'm curvy. Unconsciously, those things became habit where I did them without thinking. I began to lose interest and began reading the paper, doing the Sudoku puzzle, word games or crossword in the daily express newspaper.

What is it I could have done to encourage more than just a stare back?

 

[Stevew0073]

When I was working, I rode the metro train to get to my destination. I did almost everything but speak to get males to acknowledge my existence. I smelled nice, not overpowering (Flowerbomb perfume), wore 3-5 inch heels, dresses to emphasize my ASSets. I was always well put together and my hair looked decent, it wasn't long but a little longer than it is now. When passing others to get to the first train, I would gently touch the side, back or arm of the male to get his attention to be able to slide past him. Mind you, the trains were ALWAYS crowded and we were packed like sardines in there, so I used what charms I could to spark conversation as I passed by each FINE individual, even saying hello and excuse me as I slid past by them. For some, I lingered on their specific train, since my stop was the next to the last stop. It got to a point where I stopped trying since men were in their own little world not acknowledging my attempts. They were preparing for their day, focused on other things. I would stand instead of sitting down. I'm 5'2". I carry my weight well, I'm curvy. Unconsciously, those things became habit where I did them without thinking. I began to lose interest and began reading the paper, doing the Sudoku puzzle, word games or crossword in the daily express newspaper.

What is it I could have done to encourage more than just a stare back?

I think men notice they just don’t want to be caught looking.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

When I was working, I rode the metro train to get to my destination. I did almost everything but speak to get males to acknowledge my existence. I smelled nice, not overpowering (Flowerbomb perfume), wore 3-5 inch heels, dresses to emphasize my ASSets. I was always well put together and my hair looked decent, it wasn't long but a little longer than it is now. When passing others to get to the first train, I would gently touch the side, back or arm of the male to get his attention to be able to slide past him. Mind you, the trains were ALWAYS crowded and we were packed like sardines in there, so I used what charms I could to spark conversation as I passed by each FINE individual, even saying hello and excuse me as I slid past by them. For some, I lingered on their specific train, since my stop was the next to the last stop. It got to a point where I stopped trying since men were in their own little world not acknowledging my attempts. They were preparing for their day, focused on other things. I would stand instead of sitting down. I'm 5'2". I carry my weight well, I'm curvy. Unconsciously, those things became habit where I did them without thinking. I began to lose interest and began reading the paper, doing the Sudoku puzzle, word games or crossword in the daily express newspaper.

What is it I could have done to encourage more than just a stare back?

I don’t know what is wrong with these men! I would have noticed you. Most likely, I wouldn’t have been able to take my eyes off of you. If by chance,you were to physically touch me as you brushed past, I would no doubt be extremely aroused. I love a woman who understands her sexuality and knows how to highlight her physical assets. Very attractive quality to me!

 

[KamaKamaSutra]

What is it I could have done to encourage more than just a stare back?

I think some people just are two transfixed in their own lives. Also I feel that society still has a stigma on sexuality, even in progressive areas. On top of that, I think some men worry about coming on "too" strong. Like or not men do have to worry about that. I've been accused of inappropriate activity before and I'm sure many men have been too. It can cause you to ignore even blatant sexual innuendo.

But that is a shame, I have a feeling your gorgeous, you just have to remember that men sometimes are just dumb.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

I don’t know what is wrong with these men! I would have noticed you. Most likely, I wouldn’t have been able to take my eyes off of you. If by chance,you were to physically touch me as you brushed past, I would no doubt be extremely aroused. I love a woman who understands her sexuality and knows how to highlight her physical assets. Very attractive quality to me!

Why thank you. *Blushing*

 

[Stevew0073]

men:

What are things women innocently do that attracts your attention?

Dangle her shoe off her foot with legs crossed.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

I think some people just are two transfixed in their own lives. Also I feel that society still has a stigma on sexuality, even in progressive areas. On top of that, I think some men worry about coming on "too" strong. Like or not men do have to worry about that. I've been accused of inappropriate activity before and I'm sure many men have been too. It can cause you to ignore even blatant sexual innuendo.

But that is a shame, I have a feeling your gorgeous, you just have to remember that men sometimes are just dumb.

This was well before the whole #metoo movement as well as when I would touch the males, it would not be in an aggressive manner, just enough to get their attention, especially if they were talking with someone else.

 

[Little_Sister]

What about...have you ever had unrequited feelings for someone on Lit? Or have they had them for you? How do you handle this without getting your/their heart broken?

I think we all have. Or maybe someone who you felt more drawn to that they did you. No hearts for lit tho. IMO that can only happen when you cross over to real life and I don't do that.

Sure, unrequited feelings for someone are part of life. But, I'd never let it 'break my heart'. Say there was chemistry, say there were feelings there, maybe a ltr and then they ghosted you. Then you might be in broken heart territory, but over simple unrequited feelings, naw.

This!

What is it I could have done to encourage more than just a stare back?

Men need more than an "excuse me" IMO. I am pretty approachable and I have had men in bars and such approach me but never on public transportation. I would assume most would consider it uncouth. I think you should initiate a real conversation. Open ended, non yes or no questions, we all like being noticed.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

Men need more than an "excuse me" IMO. I am pretty approachable and I have had men in bars and such approach me but never on public transportation. I would assume most would consider it uncouth. I think you should initiate a real conversation. Open ended, non yes or no questions, we all like being noticed. [/QUOTE]

Point taken. Here, I have initiated contact (reaching out in a PM) but I guess in real life I'm a bit shyer than most.

 

[Apisto42]

I don’t usually flirt while commuting. Lol. Plus, I don’t want to be the idiot that thinks just because a pretty woman touched my arm and said excuse me that you want to be flirted with.

Now, if we were in a bookstore and you touched my arm, said excuse me with a nice smile and reached for the same book I was perusing? I’d be friendly and flirt.

 

[Stevew0073]

Men need more than an "excuse me" IMO. I am pretty approachable and I have had men in bars and such approach me but never on public transportation. I would assume most would consider it uncouth. I think you should initiate a real conversation. Open ended, non yes or no questions, we all like being noticed.

Point taken. Here, I have initiated contact (reaching out in a PM) but I guess in real life I'm a bit shyer than most.[/QUOTE]

No need to be shy you are a lovely lady.

 

[cowslinger64]

What about...have you ever had unrequited feelings for someone on Lit? Or have they had them for you? How do you handle this without getting your/their heart broken?

Don't allow yourself to fall into the trap that is LIT. The number of people who have met and stayed together is ridiculously low. The number of bad breakups, good breakups, ghostings, catfishings and drama has got to be 99.9 percent of all lit "relationships".

This is not Match.com. Those people typically live nowhere near you. Typically all you see in their online persona, or sometimes talk to them on the phone. You cannot know what someone is like enough to have a relationship with them til you are in their space. LDRs are the most ridiculously difficult ones to have, and I know because I tried it.

So, IMO the short answer is don't. Get a real life outside of here.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Don't allow yourself to fall into the trap that is LIT. The number of people who have met and stayed together is ridiculously low. The number of bad breakups, good breakups, ghostings, catfishings and drama has got to be 99.9 percent of all lit "relationships".

This is not Match.com. Those people typically live nowhere near you. Typically all you see in their online persona, or sometimes talk to them on the phone. You cannot know what someone is like enough to have a relationship with them til you are in their space. LDRs are the most ridiculously difficult ones to have, and I know because I tried it.

So, IMO the short answer is don't. Get a real life outside of here.

Sounds like great advice.

One question though: What is this, "real life outside of here" of which you speak?