what would it be like to know what your partner is thinking and feeling?

[dastribaldraco]

There have been many times when I have often wondered what it would be like to know exactly what my partner was thinking or feeling at the times when they just don't want to say. Is it frustrating to anyone else when your partner won't tell you how they feel or what they are thinking when you are talking or doing something serious?

 

[dastribaldraco]

I can't be the ONLY person!

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

I think it's natural...

I think everyone has experienced a relationship full of less than perfect communication. It can become emotionally draining to always have to try and guess your partners wants and needs.
Some people just don't understand the importance of communicating such things. They just don't realize what kind of difference it actually makes.


For me, communication was something I really had a problem with. I didn't really know HOW to communicate. Luckily, someone came along and took the time to teach me and help me see how important it is. I know I tried his patience to the max sometimes, but now I thank him every opportunity I have because, learning to communicate has made a big difference in how I go about dealing with problems in a relationship....

 

[dastribaldraco]

Thank you and you are a very lucky person but tell me how did you go about learning and what steps did he take with you?

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

It wasn't like he could just hand me a book and say..learn this. It was a long drawn out process. I had to realize that I really had a problem communicating. There were several arguments about it, but he always took the time to try and show me how we could have saved a lot of time and energy if I had just came out and said what I was really feeling. He really had to be patient with me and ask...Do you see where maybe we could have avoided this problem with a little more communication?

Also, I should point out...I wasn't a very good student. I almost rebelled against everything he was showing me. Then, I started to really listen and try sharing my feelings. Go figure, it really did make a difference.

 

[dastribaldraco]

Thanks this will help me help my g/f and i's communication problems

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

well..for what it is worth...I am glad that I could help...

 

[dastribaldraco]

Thanks

 

[Manhunter]

That could be dangerous

 

[dreamer]

I've been in relationships with less than stellar communication and those with really good communication. In both cases I've wished for this on multiple occasions.

I think true understanding of someone and their understanding of me is something I will always hope for.

I do feel confident about the future though