What is LOVING WIVES supposed to be?

[Rapierwit24601]

I’ve been occasionally reading here for about 10 years, but my focus has been on several other topics. Occasionally, I’ve looked at some of the loving wives stories, and I don’t understand what it’s supposed to be.
Some are about open relationships. Some more about the guys who want to be cuckolded.
Some are about wives messing around on the side.
But no matter what story I read, there are plenty of negative reviews that it isn’t what this subject is about.

So: what IS the ideal Loving Wives story supposed to embody?

 

[Rob_Royale]

Any sort of non-monogamy among married people, whether they know they are involved in it or not. It's not a well-named category, frankly. But the description below the category title should clear things up. The & more part is as wide as the sea.
Loving Wives
Married extra-marital fun: swinging, sharing & more. [42.3k]

 

[FL30]

Wives that love everybody, not just their spouse

 

[Rapierwit24601]

Any sort of non-monogamy among married people, whether they know they are involved in it or not. It's not a well-named category, frankly. But the description below the category title should clear things up. The & more part is as wide as the sea.
Loving Wives
Married extra-marital fun: swinging, sharing & more. [42.3k]

No help at all, but thanks for an attempt.

I can fucking read!

I’m trying to determine if there is an ideal story.
It’s a war zone in there! At least 10-15 stories posted daily and every one has particularly negative comments.
I did a review of the past week’s submissions and there was not even one ranked as HOT. I doubt you’ll find that in any other category.

Maybe the question is too esoteric.

 

[OlderFitterWiser]

Lotta fear and jealousy out there. You write a Loving Wives story, Expect some hatred. But it's their hatred, not yours.

 

[rjhsteel]

Why is there hatred with these stories?

 

[Rob_Royale]

I’m trying to determine if there is an ideal story.

I see your point. I did one recently about an open marriage couple that eventually finds their way back to monogamy. It was treated pretty gently by the readers and is rated around 4.4 or so. In that category I'll take a 4.4 as a 6.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Why is there hatred with these stories?

Everyone who's every had their heart stomped on by a cheating SO, takes their anger out on the writers.

 

[OlderFitterWiser]

The anonymous users mostly, like to complain about everything from wives being sluts to husbands being weak fools, and of course the people who never wrote a story themselves telling you how bad your story was.

 

[lc69hunter]

Of course I just like to torment the BTBers and those who think anything outside the bounds of marriage is an ultimate sin, as well as disgusting. And, with a very limited vocabulary, consisting of cuck, slut, or some variation thereof.

But my thoughts are as follows. I saw a survey probably 15-20 years ago (and the numbers probably haven't changed that much) that found that 72% of married men have their second biggest fantasy is watching their wife with another man, the first being watching their wife with another woman. So, those haters are all part of that 28% minority (not likely), or their ranting and raving are just a projection of their self hatred for being part of that 72%.

And this comment will also piss some folks off.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

I think the problem is misogyny. A lot of guys don’t like stories where a woman has her own sexual agency. In their world a wife’s primary purpose is serve her husband in the bedroom. If she deviates from that mission she deserves to be punished—either by him personally, or society at large.

Cuckoldry is fine as long as he gets to watch and experience his repressed homosexual urges vicariously.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I think the problem is misogyny. A lot of guys don’t like stories where a woman has her own sexual agency. In their world a wife’s primary purpose is serve her husband in the bedroom. If she deviates from that mission she deserves to be punished—either by him personally, or society at large.
Cuckoldry is fine as long as he gets to watch and experience his repressed homosexual urges vicariously.

This is a kind of 1950s image of gender-roles, I do think that we've collectively evolved considerably since this was true.

 

[patient1]

HAve you asked this question on the author's forum?

 

[tristantrotsky]

Very few males have changed, run into every freaking day. Lisa

Are we talking Europe here... or just the USA?
We all have our own retards, sure. But to deny a change in attitudes is short-sighted.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I am talking in the US. I will concede that point but at the same time don’t be fooled into thinking that the majority of men have changed. It will take generations

I enjoy the new consensus, where mutual and consensual are the keywords.
But yes, where men may claim to be 'just friends' with a woman, when she leans forward, he will always steal a glance down the front of her cleavage.
That erotic frisson between the sexes is a vital ingredient. It's only bad when its distorted into Glass Ceilings and repressive legislations...

 

[davion2308]

It's such a broad spectrum of stories and the trouble is the wide audience you get.

Some want a relationship between husband and wife and a bond that's strengthened through sexual experiences with others. They'll vote high for stories that highlight that and criticize stories about slutty wives who just want to fuck.

The other group wants wives who want to fuck and don't care about relationships. They want cumsluts and if you don't provide that, they'll attack you and vote low.

It's like posting in Exhib/Voy and half the group wants exhibitionists and hates voyeurs while the other half of the audience wants voyeurs, not exhibitionists.

It's an emotionally-charged forum and you'll get plenty of views and action and arguments in the comments. Buckle your chin strap when you post and have fun!

 

[LIDiver]

I my opinion, LW is home to some of most talented writers on lit.
AND by far the most judgmental and narrow-minded of commenters.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

There are three groups trying to make Loving Wives fit their definition of what it should be...

There are the the few and the brave that try to follow the description of the category.

Then there are those who hate the definition of the category and are trying to force the writers to leave or change there stories.

Then there are the writers like me who write both sides of the fence.

The fence...

On one side, the 'be true to your husband and your marriage vows no matter what'.

On the other, the cuckold wanabees and the women who want some on the side. There is another type of couple, those that like to share each other or the husband wants to share his wife without all that cuckold humiliations shit. He's the one who decided who she will fuck.

You may hear these thing thrown around...

BTB, RAAC.

BTB = Burn the bitch
RAAC = Reconciliation at all costs.

Referring to a cheating wife and what the husband wants to do with her.

Hope this helps. I'm sure someone will come along and tell me I'm wrong somewhere.

 

[Aqua317]

I’ve been occasionally reading here for about 10 years, but my focus has been on several other topics. Occasionally, I’ve looked at some of the loving wives stories, and I don’t understand what it’s supposed to be.
Some are about open relationships. Some more about the guys who want to be cuckolded.
Some are about wives messing around on the side.
But no matter what story I read, there are plenty of negative reviews that it isn’t what this subject is about.

So: what IS the ideal Loving Wives story supposed to embody?

I’ve been wondering the same thing myself. It seems like it has become the ‘Cheating Wives’ category and the only stories that get rated highly are about revenge for the poor wronged husband...like men are the only ones who get cheated on. I don’t see a category for wounded women to vent their pain.