What Do You Regret ?

[SilverVeil]

Is there something in a relationship that you regret not doing ? Or doing even ?

One thing I regret :

A man in my past who I care for deeply and who introduced me to the lifestyle of BDSM was married when we met. While we did everything else under the sun, I never knew the pleasure of having this man inside me, thrusting into me with passion, feeling his pleasure as he emptied himself into me.

This is a man who showed me things I never dreamed I could feel. A man I was able to be open and honest with about ANYTHING.

But .... on the other side of the double edge.... that one rule of no penetration we set when we first met .... was what made me respect him all the more. Because we never broke that rule.

He is no longer with his wife. And thinking back on it .... while I regret that we did not fuck .... what we shared will stay with me forever.

 

[lovetoread]

I regret so much in my previous relationship,but mostly not being strong enough to tell him no to marriage,and be an unmarried single mother.

 

[SweetCherry]

I regret so much in my previous relationship,but mostly not being strong enough to tell him no to marriage,and be an unmarried single mother.

Yup, that about says it all here, too. There's a reason for cold feet. Listen to it, people.

*sigh*

 

[Paendragon]

Too many to list here.

 

[Nicodemus]

Lovetoread,

Right there with you, I regret not being strong enough to standing my ground on the topic of marriage. I wanted to wait and allowed myself to be pulled into it and now have to deal with hurting her as I try to end things.

I regret not appreciating my X more....she would never say it, and even thinks she screwed up to a certain extent when she ended things with me. But I feel like I did not fully appreciate how truly wonderful our relationship was, we shared so much and were very open and honest with each other and able to explore so much sexually and I have not found that since her.

I regret not recognizing the opportunity to experience a ffm threesome until it was to late.

I regret not sleeping with Candy, she was obviouly interested (in retrospect) but I was still devasted by my break-up with the X so eveing thinking of another woman was still very alien at the time, but she was beautiful and kind and I know Candy and I could have shared a very passionate New Years but I was just not there emotionally at the time and still nursing a very broken heart.

Mostly I regret living my life in such a way that I have regrets...that is one thing that I am working to change. Making sure that I live life to the fullest and enjoying every moment I have left.

Silverveil, damn you for bring this up and reminding me of my hidden pains....and thank you for reminding me of the reasons I am taking the harder path which is lined with my true feelings and dreams.
Nic,

 

[BustyTheClown]

I'm sorry to hear the regrets that you all have. I was going to say that I have a couple of my own, but honestly, I don't. The reason is, I don't regret anything that's happened in my life because I don't want things to have happened in any other way than they have. There are many things I could regret, but I realize that I would not be who I am today if my life hadn't taken the exact course that it already has. Therefore, although there are things in my previous relationships that I was not very happy with (like not looking around me and recognizing what was going on, and then standing up for myself), I do not regret them one bit.

 

[Paendragon]

I'm sorry to hear the regrets that you all have. I was going to say that I have a couple of my own, but honestly, I don't. The reason is, I don't regret anything that's happened in my life because I don't want things to have happened in any other way than they have. There are many things I could regret, but I realize that I would not be who I am today if my life hadn't taken the exact course that it already has. Therefore, although there are things in my previous relationships that I was not very happy with (like not looking around me and recognizing what was going on, and then standing up for myself), I do not regret them one bit.

It's interesting. I take a different view. I think regrets help you to not make the same mistake twice. Those that don't regret their actions in the past, will always repeat the same mistakes in life, over and over. I don't view having regrets as weakness, I view it as strength.

 

[BustyTheClown]

It's interesting. I take a different view. I think regrets help you to not make the same mistake twice. Those that don't regret their actions in the past, will always repeat the same mistakes in life, over and over. I don't view having regrets as weakness, I view it as strength.

Good point. I just want to say that I don't view people who have regrets as weak, I just choose not to have any myself because I don't think they help me any. I just remind myself of my mistakes in other ways other than kicking myself in the ass about them. I guess I kind of see it as crying over spilt milk.

 

[Nicodemus]

I like to own my regrets....learn from them. I do not regret in the sense that I would change them. They make me me and help me be a better smarter person. But you are not going to hear me cryig about them either.

Nic,

 

[Dillinger]

I regret paths not taken... missed opportunities. Mistakes made because I didn't know my true self, what I really wanted.

I regret that I didn't know 10, 20 years ago what I know now.

I regret that I didn't take more risk.

I regret that I didn't carefully examine decisions that would affect my whole life.

I regret not taking the necessary steps sooner to make up for certain regrets, mistakes.

I regret the loss of love. I regret love not returned.

But mostly - I try and and not dwell on those regrets and make the best of where I am today, who I am. Mostly I try and live my life for today - and for the many tomorrows that will come and hope that I have learned from my past.

 

[Paendragon]

Good point. I just want to say that I don't view people who have regrets as weak, I just choose not to have any myself because I don't think they help me any. I just remind myself of my mistakes in other ways other than kicking myself in the ass about them. I guess I kind of see it as crying over spilt milk.

Interesting.

We actually view things pretty much the same way. It's just the semantics (I probably butchered that spelling) of what is regret?

 

[BustyTheClown]

Interesting.

We actually view things pretty much the same way. It's just the semantics (I probably butchered that spelling) of what is regret?

Lol, spelling was fine. Yeah, I guess it is just the semantics we view differently.

 

[wizbit9]

I regret the fact that i throw myself into relationships to heavily and end up fucking them up. And unfortunately the two relationships were with two very people who i got on with extremly well

 

[kotori]

. . .I regret that I didn't take more risk.

I regret that I didn't carefully examine decisions that would affect my whole life.

I regret not taking the necessary steps sooner to make up for certain regrets, mistakes.

I regret the loss of love. I regret love not returned . . .

All these for me too, Dill. And being too lazy.

 

[shynsexy]

i regret falling out of love.

 

[Nathon_88]

I regret losing the people that I cared for, due to a lack of time, and a lack of interest, after meeting them..........because I couldn't fit into their lifestyle.

 

[BrownEyes26]

I regret not taking more risks in my personal life. That is changing now.

I regret not confronting my father about the past.

I regret not staying with my grandmother when she was dying.

I regret leaving my friend at the club, from which she left and was subsequently raped.

I regret not doing more for me.

All of these things I regret, but I do not feel guilty about them. Everybody has regrets. Don't dwell on your regrets. They'll take over your life. Live for now. That's just my $0.02.

 

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[lobito]

I regret NOT keeping in contact with my now Wife, many many years ago. Maybe we'd have been married for MUCH longer by now. But then again, maybe we wouldn't be together anymore.

 

[AzureAngel]

It's my policy to not regret anything. Everything that has been has served to make me who I am. Anything terrible or bad that has happened, I've learned from... and I'm all the stronger and better a person for. Sure, it may have taken time and, in retrospect, wasted time that could've been better spent... but because of it, my time in the future will be that much more enriched since I know what to look out for, etc.

Rowr.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[AzureAngel]

I think I am starting to regret being born 20 years too soon.

*Laughs.* I'm too conceited to believe there can be another like me, so... you're free to regret THAT one.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[AzureAngel]

Okay, okay. There's another me, somewhere, 20 years older. Trust me. You just need to look harder.

 

[fallon2]

Never

Never do I dwell on regrets for it serves no purpose. Have I wished that certain relationships had lasted longer? Of course! Do I regret that I should have bought certain properties when they were available? You bet. But I am a FIRM believer that if something is meant to be then it will be. Otherwise we spend too much time feeling sorry for ourselves andI, my friends, will not do that!