What do all of you in sexless marriages do for sex? What alternatives?

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I am in a similar situation and masturbate a lot, often to videos on the internet. I once belonged to Zoig where one could participate in a group cam or pair of with a guy or woman, who ever your choose and who is agreeable. I left Zoig as it’s a pay site and didn’t want my wife to see the purchase. Do you have any free cam sites that your could relate?
 
Silverdaddies.com is free but limited on video cam time. Whereby is free but you need another person to cam on it together but it's free. Then there is skypes also but I prefer whereby
 
An interesting notion.

I remember how after the horror on 9/11, my wife was surprised that two nights later, I wanted to have sex. Although we were both equally devastated by what took place, I wanted sex to help distract from the oppressive sadness and she found sex impossible because of it. It took several weeks before we were back on track sexually.
Sorry that caused a problem, but take comfort in knowing that sex is a common relief for tragedy. My therapist told me another client got a phone call in the middle of the night telling him his mother had just died. After a few tears, and his wife comforting him, they fell into foreplay, then sex, and they fucked each other harder than either of them could remember. My therapist (a woman) told me it's much more common than most people would guess. Fingers crossed for the reconciliation.
 
Different from what?

You know this one person who didn't marry but asexuals do marry.

Many of them don't realize they're asexual until after they're married - or maybe they become asexual after they're married. A lot of these spouses we read about are functionally asexual even if they don't identify that way or would deny it. I don't see the difference (as far as the partner is concerned) between a spouse identifying as asexual and explaining one's lack of interest in sex that way, or, lacking interest in sex anyway but not identifying as asexual.

So I don't know if you mean "different" because you think asexuals don't marry, or, if you think someone married to an asexual is in a different situation than someone who is married to someone who doesn't want sex for some other reason.

I don't really see them as different. One person wants sex, the other person doesn't, it sucks either way.
I think asexuality might be the least understood aspect of human behavior in our times. The wide availability of sexual stimulus (online, and sites like this) has some of us thinking, exploring, writing and expressing ourselves like never before; yet there people among us who look at it all and either ignore or question, b/c they don’t comprehend our sentiment.

A year or so ago, I read a first hand narrative by a woman whose mental health professional had suggested she was asexual and helped her understand the meaning. She then recounted her life with that new information; listening to her teenage, hormonal friends fantasize about sex and not comprehending the desire, or participating in sexual experiences not because she desired them, but because the expected behaviors told her she should.

For me, it all made so much more sense then; That our Sexual appetite, or libido, is wired into us. It’s not a choice.
 
InJO quite often and love eating a handful of my cum. Before she lost her desire I would lick and suck my cum out of here or off her tits. Sometimes when she would jack me off onto her nipples she would finger fuck my mouth as I sucked them clean before cleaning her tits….. I miss those times so I take it in hand and satisfy my cravings.
 
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InJO quite often and love eating a handful of my cum. Before she lost her desire I would lick and suck my cum out of here or off her tits. Sometimes when she would jack me off onto her nipples she would finger fuck my mouth as I ducked them clean before cleaning her tits….. I miss those times so I take it in hand and satisfy my cravings.
Thank god jacking off feels so good!!!
 
An interesting notion.

I remember how after the horror on 9/11, my wife was surprised that two nights later, I wanted to have sex. Although we were both equally devastated by what took place, I wanted sex to help distract from the oppressive sadness and she found sex impossible because of it. It took several weeks before we were back on track sexually.
I remember when my wife's mother died suddenly, my wife was grief stricken, as we all were, but my wife was especially affected. That first night a comfort cuddle turned to hard vigorous even rough sex and ,or her, an intense orgasm. She said latter that the sex we had that night somehow relieved the intense sadness she was feeling.
 
I remember when my wife's mother died suddenly, my wife was grief stricken, as we all were, but my wife was especially affected. That first night a comfort cuddle turned to hard vigorous even rough sex and ,or her, an intense orgasm. She said latter that the sex we had that night somehow relieved the intense sadness she was feeling.
When I was in active ministry I usually wanted to fuck after funerals. My wife used to have the same reaction. On some level it was a way of kicking death in the teeth.
 
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