What constitutes being bi?

[Jaded Eyes]

I just want to get your opinion on what you think being bi means? Personally I consider my self straight because I just love the ladies like crazy...but at the same time I wouldn't have a problem sleeping with guys. Now the reason that I wouldn't say that I'm bi is because I could never have any kind of a relationship with a guy, I would just never be interested. So my theory is that you can be sexually adventerous, and open to sleeping with the same sex while not being bi. Whats your opinion on the subject? Does this seem completely stupid, does it make some sense, or do you have your own views on the subject?

 

[Nicole]

I guess it makes sense, but I always thought that being Bi meant you as one sex are attracted to both sex's, sexually or otherwise.

I dunno, just my thoughts really.

Which looking back on your response is actually the same thoughts as you, so YES it makes sense to me.

*wandering off, thinking, now why did you answer that then*

 

[cymbidia]

the "scientific" answer

Many people are 100% gay or lesbian, and are drawn sexually and emotionally only to partners of the same sex. Others are completely heterosexual, bonding in sexual and intimate relationships only with people of another sex.

What about everybody else? A significant number of us don't fit neatly into either of these categories, because we experience sexual and emotional attractions and feelings for people of both genders at some point during our lives. For lack of a better term, we are called bisexuals.

The Kinsey scale of zero to six was developed by sex researchers to describe sexual orientation as a continuum. Heterosexual people are at zero on the scale, gay and Lesbian people are at six at the other end of the scale, and everyone in between, from one to five, is bisexual.

People who fall at one or two on the scale have primarily heterosexual relationships and desires but have some attractions and experiences with same-sex partners as well.

People at three on the scale are approximately equally attracted to both men and women.

People at four and five on the Kinsey scale choose primarily same-sex partners, but are not completely gay or lesbian and continue to have some heterosexual tendencies and relationships as well.

As you can see, there is no simple definition of bisexuality, and bisexual people are a very diverse group.

 

[cymbidia]

more on "who is bisexual?"

While literally millions of people are bisexual, most keep their sexual orientation secret, so bisexual people as a group are nearly invisible in society. Sex researchers have identified at least 13 types of bisexuality, as defined by sexual desires and experiences. They are:

Alternating bisexuals:
may have a relationship with a man, and then after that relationship ends, may choose a female partner for a subsequent relationship, and many go back to a male partner next.

Circumstantial bisexuals:
primarily heterosexual, but will choose same sex partners only in situations where they have no access to other-sex partners, such as when in jail, in the military, or in a gender-segregated school.

Concurrent relationship bisexuals:
have primary relationship with one gender only but have other casual or secondary relationships with people of another gender at the same time.

Conditional bisexuals:
either straight or gay/lesbian, but will switch to a relationship with another gender for financial or career gain or for a specific purpose, such as young straight males who become gay prostitutes or lesbians who get married to men in order to gain acceptance from family members or to have children.

Emotional bisexuals:
have intimate emotional relationships with both men and women, but only have sexual relationships with one gender.

Integrated bisexuals:
have more than one primary relationship at the same time, one with a man and one with a woman.

Exploratory bisexuals:
either straight or gay/lesbian, but have sex with another gender just to satisfy curiosity or "see what it's like."

Hedonistic bisexuals:
primarily straight or gay/lesbian but will sometimes have sex with another gender primarily for fun or purely sexual satisfaction.

Recreational bisexuals:
primarily heterosexual but engage in gay or lesbian sex only when under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol.

Isolated bisexuals:
100% straight or gay/lesbian now but has had at one or more sexual experience with another gender in the past.

Latent bisexuals:
completely straight or gay lesbian in behavior but have strong desire for sex with another gender, but have never acted on it.

Motivational bisexuals:
straight women who have sex with other women only because a male partner insists on it to titillate him.

Transitional bisexuals:
temporarily identify as bisexual while in the process of moving from being straight to being gay or lesbian, or going from being gay or lesbian to being heterosexual.

 

[nasty]

What qualifies

A bisexual is someone who sleeps with both sexes, whether your attracted to them or not.

 

[Scruffy]

A bi-sexual is someone who votes their conscious on legislative issues, not holding to strict party guidelines.

 

[Valdimer]

Work on that 100th Scruffy! Work!

As far as the topic goes, I would say you are a Hedonistic Bi. If ya want the deffinition, look above, its there somewhere. I also think you would be more curious than anything, not so much Bi. Hey, if you wanna suck some mean cock, do it. If ya wanna get yer noodle wet in some snatch, do it. It all boils down to what you like sexually, and what you wanna do.

Have fun...........just dont get to drunk when ya do it........

 

[Cheyenne]

Personally I consider my self straight because I just love the ladies like crazy...

You're male? Sorry, I had assumed female. Most of the "Jades" that have been at Lit are female. All of them, until you, I think.

 

[Never]

Forget all that, you're all wrong.
Here now I've drawn a simple graph that expresses human sexuality...

But I've been fiddling with the text on this computer for awhile and can't get it to work, so I suppose you'll get no enlightenment for today. Sorry.
Needless to say, you can be 100% bi, 100% hetero, 100% homo, or 100% a - most people are someplace in between. I know a person who I'd call 70% hetero and 30% bi. Bisexuality is not the middle space between two opposites because hetero and homosexuality aren't opposites, bisexuality is its own category.

I wish I has that little doodle I made, that would explain things.

 

[cymbidia]

bisexuality is its own category.

This is what i said, too, in too many words.

 

[His Whimsicality]

My impression is that the majority of bi-sexuals prefer the opposite gender (i.e. grade 1 or 2 according to cym)

 

[Jaded Eyes]

Those are all really good answers and actually have cleared up some things that I wasn't completely aware of before.

I'm not sure if this makes any difference or not to the whole issue, but I'm not even attracted to guys. Sure I can look at a guy and tell if he's cute or not, but everyone can do that whether they admit to it or not. But I never look at a guy and think about how much I want to be with him...hes just another guy. If I were to sleep with another guy I would do it just for the hell of it and to try something new with sex that I haven't done before.

 

[Jaded Eyes]

Re: Re: What constitutes being bi?

You're male? Sorry, I had assumed female. Most of the "Jades" that have been at Lit are female. All of them, until you, I think.

Don't worry about it...