What are you supposed to do after high school?

[Mike_Yates]

What do most people do after they graduate high school? Do they immediately start working? Or go onto college? I graduated high school in 2007, I have not gotten a job nor gone onto college. I also do not have any friends or personally know anyone in my state other than Six people, Four of them family.

Is it "normal" for someone to still live with their parents with no job, no friends, no car or license, at 23 years old?

When I was in high school, during lunch, I found an empty seat where nobody was around, sat there and did not converse with ANYONE. I did this every day for Four years. Everyone else hung out with friends after school, went on dates, did "normal" things that high schoolers did. I went home and did nothing. Or maybe an after school activity like grocery shopping.

I still do not have a drivers license or a car, out of fear of being a dangerous driver due to my spaciness and inattentiveness.

My job and academic options are very limited due to my having below average intelligence.

A university is completely out of the question (because of my intelligence) unlike Billions of other "normal" people whom would sell their soul to go to a big college. Although my family does, or at least will have quite a bit of money in the not too distant future. Not too many people are privileged with that.

I am a black sheep in society, I'm different, I always have been.

I cannot name a single 23 year old who is in my exact position. Anyone else my age would move out, get a job, find friends, and live "life". I am unable to do this because I never developed the vital social and living skills that this requires. This stems largely from my unusual and secluded upbringing and lifestyle.

Therefore, it is extremely unlikely that I will ever marry, or even get involved in a romantic relationship with ANYONE, at ANY point in my life.

I may never live a normal life. I have not lived a normal life up until this point, and I doubt things will ever change.

Even if I did have a job, a car, an apartment or house, I would not have a life beyond the realm of going to work every day, minimally interacting with co-workers, coming home, and doing nothing - what kind of living is that?

No safety net in case I lose my job and can't pay for my apartment, and have to live with someone. Nobody will be there for me. It's important to have good friends and people to "be there" for you in times of need. I have none.

 

[redheadedtxn]

Sorry about your bad luck, man.

 

[Frizzle_Fry]

Is it "normal" for someone to still live with their parents with no job, no friends, no car or license, at 23 years old?

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LMFAO

 

[Mike_Yates]

Most people have intelligence quotients above 100.

 

[SgtSpiderMan]

I have a hard time believing yours is that low.

 

[The Mutt]

Join the police force.

 

[Kremma]

What do most people do after they graduate high school? Do they immediately start working? Or go onto college? I graduated high school in 2007, I have not gotten a job nor gone onto college. I also do not have any friends or personally know anyone in my state other than Six people, Four of them family.

Is it "normal" for someone to still live with their parents with no job, no friends, no car or license, at 23 years old?

When I was in high school, during lunch, I found an empty seat where nobody was around, sat there and did not converse with ANYONE. I did this every day for Four years. Everyone else hung out with friends after school, went on dates, did "normal" things that high schoolers did. I went home and did nothing. Or maybe an after school activity like grocery shopping.

I still do not have a drivers license or a car, out of fear of being a dangerous driver due to my spaciness and inattentiveness.

My job and academic options are very limited due to my having below average intelligence.

A university is completely out of the question (because of my intelligence) unlike Billions of other "normal" people whom would sell their soul to go to a big college. Although my family does, or at least will have quite a bit of money in the not too distant future. Not too many people are privileged with that.

I am a black sheep in society, I'm different, I always have been.

I cannot name a single 23 year old who is in my exact position. Anyone else my age would move out, get a job, find friends, and live "life". I am unable to do this because I never developed the vital social and living skills that this requires. This stems largely from my unusual and secluded upbringing and lifestyle.

Therefore, it is extremely unlikely that I will ever marry, or even get involved in a romantic relationship with ANYONE, at ANY point in my life.

I may never live a normal life. I have not lived a normal life up until this point, and I doubt things will ever change.

Even if I did have a job, a car, an apartment or house, I would not have a life beyond the realm of going to work every day, minimally interacting with co-workers, coming home, and doing nothing - what kind of living is that?

No safety net in case I lose my job and can't pay for my apartment, and have to live with someone. Nobody will be there for me. It's important to have good friends and people to "be there" for you in times of need. I have none.

is that a joke? You sound pretty intelligent there, Mike. A stupid person wouldn't be able to write half of what you're pondering at.

You have your family, they are there for you and they're the most important support system in our society. There are people who doesn't have even that

 

[Songcatcher]

Oneness may not exist, but uniqueness does. However, uniqueness is not bestowed upon us externally. It is not attributed by someone or something else. It is a state of consciousness. If we truly come to understand the existential significance of our lives and Beingness, we can rightly say we live and experience life uniquely. But to justly proclaim uniqueness we must have a deep and reverent relationship with ourselves and the world. If that rapport is dulled or dampened, taken casually and flippantly, and if we merely function passively and carelessly, there can be no authentic declaration of personal uniqueness.

- Michael Tsarion

 

[Colonel Hogan]

What do most people do after they graduate high school? Do they immediately start working? Or go onto college? I graduated high school in 2007, I have not gotten a job nor gone onto college. I also do not have any friends or personally know anyone in my state other than Six people, Four of them family.

Is it "normal" for someone to still live with their parents with no job, no friends, no car or license, at 23 years old?

When I was in high school, during lunch, I found an empty seat where nobody was around, sat there and did not converse with ANYONE. I did this every day for Four years. Everyone else hung out with friends after school, went on dates, did "normal" things that high schoolers did. I went home and did nothing. Or maybe an after school activity like grocery shopping.

I still do not have a drivers license or a car, out of fear of being a dangerous driver due to my spaciness and inattentiveness.

My job and academic options are very limited due to my having below average intelligence.

A university is completely out of the question (because of my intelligence) unlike Billions of other "normal" people whom would sell their soul to go to a big college. Although my family does, or at least will have quite a bit of money in the not too distant future. Not too many people are privileged with that.

I am a black sheep in society, I'm different, I always have been.

I cannot name a single 23 year old who is in my exact position. Anyone else my age would move out, get a job, find friends, and live "life". I am unable to do this because I never developed the vital social and living skills that this requires. This stems largely from my unusual and secluded upbringing and lifestyle.

Therefore, it is extremely unlikely that I will ever marry, or even get involved in a romantic relationship with ANYONE, at ANY point in my life.

I may never live a normal life. I have not lived a normal life up until this point, and I doubt things will ever change.

Even if I did have a job, a car, an apartment or house, I would not have a life beyond the realm of going to work every day, minimally interacting with co-workers, coming home, and doing nothing - what kind of living is that?

No safety net in case I lose my job and can't pay for my apartment, and have to live with someone. Nobody will be there for me. It's important to have good friends and people to "be there" for you in times of need. I have none.

Haven't we already been down this road before?

 

[Songcatcher]

A man can be himself as he truly is; as he imagines himself to be; and as other people view him.

- Micheal Tsarion

 

[The Mutt]

If you spend your youth in the basement playing WoW and watching internet porn, you end up with no friends. And with no friends you have no parents of friends.

Those parents are the guys who give retards like you jobs. Mowing lawns. Sorting nails at the hardware store. Jerking sodas.

I think your best bet is either the Army or killing yourself.

 

[gotsnowgotslush]

You are young. That is in your favor. Going out into the world offers you something.
Another side of yourself that was not there, before you tried.
New experiences and sights to stimulate your mind and emotions.
There are safe ways for you to do this. Ask people who know you well,
about what might be possible.
Interacting with the world, on your own activates something good.
Even if everything that you experience, is not pleasant or exciting.

 

[Experiencedguy]

Colonel Hogan is correct. This is not the first thread started by this member asking the same thing. I gave a very intensive answer and serious suggestions before, and here we go again with the same question (and explanation) again.

I just think he wants to have people talk to him.

If I have offended the writer, I am only mildly sorry. I mean how many times can you ask the same question to the same group of readers?

 

[thør]

I believe there's some BS in this thread......

 

[infid3l]

I don't think it's as uncommon as you think. I am hearing from a lot of people in their early 20s in the same situation. Some are working their asses off trying to find work, others are wearing their asses out sitting on the couch playing vid games. Both with the same outcome.

Just keep getting out there in the real world and trying. Shoot, if I was you I'd just go volunteer somewhere at least part time with something near/related to a job I wanted... just for something + on my resume and to not go fucknutz from nothing "productive" to do.

No one's going to make it easy for you or come find you to make it better. No matter how much you pray to your darl lord Good luck.

 

[Songcatcher]

…the sick individual finds himself at home with all other similarly sick individuals. The whole culture is geared to this kind of pathology. The result is that the average individual does not experience the separateness and isolation the fully schizophrenic person feels. He feels at ease among those who suffer from the same deformation; in fact, it is the fully sane person who feels isolated in the insane society – and he may suffer so much from the incapacity to communicate that it is he who may become psychotic – Erich Fromm (Anatomy of Human Destructiveness)

 

[Mike_Yates]

I have no means of transportation other than the public bus. How am I supposed to get to work and back? As well as to the grocery store, doctor, etc...

Driving would be a death sentence.

 

[infid3l]

I used the public bus, with multiple changes BTW, for about 7 years straight. Pain in the ass, but it worked. I used the time to jam music, play handheld video games, read books and magazines, read stuff for work, and I even got good at taking timed naps though that bit me twice. It can be done. The hugest inconvenience was having to find somewhere to live on the bus routes... sucky sucky. Bad neighborhoods, but again, it was doable. Getting out of those areas was a big push to save cash and learn to drive.

Driving freaked me the fuck out for a very long time, it was really weird; I just kept practicing where / when I could, usually in the middle of the night with someone... then all of a sudden, it started feeling like I could do it, and then it was fine. I dunno why you say it would be a death sentence... what do you mean by that?

 

[Mike_Yates]

I used the public bus, with multiple changes BTW, for about 7 years straight. Pain in the ass, but it worked. I used the time to jam music, play handheld video games, read books and magazines, read stuff for work, and I even got good at taking timed naps though that bit me twice. It can be done. The hugest inconvenience was having to find somewhere to live on the bus routes... sucky sucky. Bad neighborhoods, but again, it was doable. Getting out of those areas was a big push to save cash and learn to drive.

Driving freaked me the fuck out for a very long time, it was really weird; I just kept practicing where / when I could, usually in the middle of the night with someone... then all of a sudden, it started feeling like I could do it, and then it was fine. I dunno why you say it would be a death sentence... what do you mean by that?

How old are you?

 

[philosophygirl]

I want a 'doom and gloom the sky is falling chicken little thread' where is the conspiracy? How do the masons fit in?

You are fine mike, just flip a coin, pick a path and go...don't second guess yourself.

 

[Shagly]

What do most people do after they graduate high school? Do they immediately start working? Or go onto college? I graduated high school in 2007, I have not gotten a job nor gone onto college. I also do not have any friends or personally know anyone in my state other than Six people, Four of them family.

Is it "normal" for someone to still live with their parents with no job, no friends, no car or license, at 23 years old?

When I was in high school, during lunch, I found an empty seat where nobody was around, sat there and did not converse with ANYONE. I did this every day for Four years. Everyone else hung out with friends after school, went on dates, did "normal" things that high schoolers did. I went home and did nothing. Or maybe an after school activity like grocery shopping.

I still do not have a drivers license or a car, out of fear of being a dangerous driver due to my spaciness and inattentiveness.

My job and academic options are very limited due to my having below average intelligence.

A university is completely out of the question (because of my intelligence) unlike Billions of other "normal" people whom would sell their soul to go to a big college. Although my family does, or at least will have quite a bit of money in the not too distant future. Not too many people are privileged with that.

I am a black sheep in society, I'm different, I always have been.

I cannot name a single 23 year old who is in my exact position. Anyone else my age would move out, get a job, find friends, and live "life". I am unable to do this because I never developed the vital social and living skills that this requires. This stems largely from my unusual and secluded upbringing and lifestyle.

Therefore, it is extremely unlikely that I will ever marry, or even get involved in a romantic relationship with ANYONE, at ANY point in my life.

I may never live a normal life. I have not lived a normal life up until this point, and I doubt things will ever change.

Even if I did have a job, a car, an apartment or house, I would not have a life beyond the realm of going to work every day, minimally interacting with co-workers, coming home, and doing nothing - what kind of living is that?

No safety net in case I lose my job and can't pay for my apartment, and have to live with someone. Nobody will be there for me. It's important to have good friends and people to "be there" for you in times of need. I have none.

They become professional college students then when they graduate they flip hamburgers at a McDonalds.

 

[GiaCat]

What do most people do after they graduate high school? Do they immediately start working? Or go onto college? I graduated high school in 2007, I have not gotten a job nor gone onto college. I also do not have any friends or personally know anyone in my state other than Six people, Four of them family.

Is it "normal" for someone to still live with their parents with no job, no friends, no car or license, at 23 years old?

When I was in high school, during lunch, I found an empty seat where nobody was around, sat there and did not converse with ANYONE. I did this every day for Four years. Everyone else hung out with friends after school, went on dates, did "normal" things that high schoolers did. I went home and did nothing. Or maybe an after school activity like grocery shopping.

I still do not have a drivers license or a car, out of fear of being a dangerous driver due to my spaciness and inattentiveness.

My job and academic options are very limited due to my having below average intelligence.

A university is completely out of the question (because of my intelligence) unlike Billions of other "normal" people whom would sell their soul to go to a big college. Although my family does, or at least will have quite a bit of money in the not too distant future. Not too many people are privileged with that.

I am a black sheep in society, I'm different, I always have been.

I cannot name a single 23 year old who is in my exact position. Anyone else my age would move out, get a job, find friends, and live "life". I am unable to do this because I never developed the vital social and living skills that this requires. This stems largely from my unusual and secluded upbringing and lifestyle.

Therefore, it is extremely unlikely that I will ever marry, or even get involved in a romantic relationship with ANYONE, at ANY point in my life.

I may never live a normal life. I have not lived a normal life up until this point, and I doubt things will ever change.

Even if I did have a job, a car, an apartment or house, I would not have a life beyond the realm of going to work every day, minimally interacting with co-workers, coming home, and doing nothing - what kind of living is that?

No safety net in case I lose my job and can't pay for my apartment, and have to live with someone. Nobody will be there for me. It's important to have good friends and people to "be there" for you in times of need. I have none.

When I was in high school I was a chronic underachiever, poor, massively depressed and alone. I joined the Air Force and it changed my life. I got a great job, my drivers license, and started college part time.

 

[Mike_Yates]

When I was in high school I was a chronic underachiever, poor, massively depressed and alone. I joined the Air Force and it changed my life. I got a great job, my drivers license, and started college part time.

A job doing what?

 

[Mike_Yates]

If I joined the military, the only thing I could be is a foot soldier to be sent off to war with Iran and/or North Korea, and probably killed in action. Not an engineer, physicist, or anything else.

Because of my intellectual disabilities, my ASVAB scores would not qualify me for anything else.

 

[GiaCat]

If I joined the military, the only thing I could be is a foot soldier to be sent off to war with Iran and/or North Korea, and probably killed in action. Not an engineer, physicist, or anything else.

Because of my intellectual disabilities, my ASVAB scores would not qualify me for anything else.

I had a job as a radar analyst. The Air Force does not have foot soldiers. You could perhaps become a mechanic of some kind. They have many jobs where you fix things. Or drive a truck or some kind of construction equipment. You need to contact a recruiter and find out what you qualify for.

It is possible you have good intelligence, but your emotions make it hard for you to concentrate. That was my problem. In fact, in second grade they thought I was stupid and put me in with all the 'special' kids. Today, I am getting a masters degree.