virgins?

[Svenskaflicka]

Sure it will. He can just wait until he's dead, then get laid in the coffin.

*snickers, ducks n runs*

[insert favourite "atleast then he'll be stiff!" - joke here]

 

[BlackShanglan]

They have no "bite" to them, as severusmax said in another thread...

I don't agree. I suppose that in some places they lack bite, if they're handed out for free like cookies, but most of my rites of passage were earned ones and meant a great deal to me.

I can see that you feel they've been lacking in your life, or perhaps in the lives of other people you've met. Possibly they may be lacking in the wider scope, but I'm not wholly convinced. I've never lacked them myself, nor noted anything that suggested a lack of them in people I know. Looks like we're at a standstill of personal observation that is difficult to support with any broader evidence.

Shanglan

 

[Huckleman2000]

Hmmm. I'm not so sure that our culture lacks rites of passage. Certainly mine had both educational ones (graduating middle and high school) and social ones (18th birthday, religious ceremonies of first Eucharist and confirmation)...

Well, I knew you might have had an ancestor in the Roman Senate, but First Holy Communion and Confirmation!!??

The Catholic Church is more depraved than I recall!

Please don't take that personally, Equus.

 

[Pure]

norajane said,

yes, but he wants to get laid....that can't happen if he never leaves the house

that's naive

he simply picks up the phone....

 

[Norajane]

norajane said,

yes, but he wants to get laid....that can't happen if he never leaves the house

that's naive

he simply picks up the phone....

A little Risky Business, huh?

I'm sure mom and grandmom will be thrilled to discover all their furniture has been taken as payment...

...erm, this has the makings of a Lit story.

 

[Pure]

A little Risky Business, huh?

I'm sure mom and grandmom will be thrilled to discover all their furniture has been taken as payment...

Yes, a fine movie. IIRC, though, the 'lay' only cost about $300. Only after he lured the girl from her pimp, and allowed other girls to 'work' his house party (i.e., set up competition), and take some of their money (i.e., became a pimp) did the already established pimps take his furniture.

So, hilarious, but furniture loss is not a common danger.

I might add that the internet lists escorts of all types and in all cities and states.

What seems to be forgotten is that the original desire was for a virgin to 'bone.' Hence the above suggestion (simply ask for young looking and 'school girl' attire).

 

[gamer9643]

okay okay i get it first off i dont sit on my ass all day. second off i dont care so much as getting laid as i do meeting somebody, problem is everytime i aproach a girl i literaly go stiff my self esteem is ZERO. and all your little joke aint helping ********. only when nobody can see me or around somebody i've known my whole life do i feel comfortable enogh to be myself. thats why the only time i even try to meet girls is when my best friend comes down to visit since i've known him since 2nd grade. so hence you see my problem, i dont have enough courage to go out on my own and my friend comes down once every three to six months. if you got any advice on how to get more self confidence i'll listen but stop putting me down i dont need it.

 

[zeb1094]

First of all you need to change your attitude. You will have to realize that in order to be yourself around strangers is not going to make them all hate you. Or think you're a geek. There will be some of that form people you wouldn't want to be friends with anyway, but the majority of people you will meet will only care that you are being yourself.

You need to go out into the world and shout to that world "This is me, if you don't like it FUCK you. 'Cuz this is who I am and this is who I will be for the rest of my life."

You would be surprized how many people will really enjoy your company when you just be yourself.

Just pretend that everyone you meet is a long lost friend who you have known for ever. Then just be yourself.

 

[gamer9643]

thanks

all through school i was always trying to be what everyone else thought was cool and before long i didnt even know who i was any more. the last few years id go into public and that fake me would pop up trying to "BE THE MAN" and id always get looks not knowing any better. then i just shut up and stopped talking. i figured if i didnt talk people couldnt judge me. i was wrong again. i never though i personally had anything to offer. maybe your right maybe i should be myself and tell those who dont like it to fuck off.

oh and Svenskaflicka in regard to your little joke deal, FUCK YOU

 

[zeb1094]

Well it appears you have a problem with being judged by people you don't even know?

90% of the people you meet won't judge you, at least not so that you will know it and possibly they won't even know they have, the will either not want to hang with you or they will. For the ones who don't, their lose. For those that do, they will just want you to be yourself, not some fantasy of yourself.

None of us can be that fantasy person, those that try are usually sitting around telling stories that they never experiences to a crowd of people just like themselves.

So it's up to you to pick what you want out of life. No one on this board or anyother can give the confidence you want. It has to come from within yourself.

 

[gamer9643]

thanks

i know what i want out of life and have for a couple moths but i never had the spine to try and get it. this little chat back and fourth helped me to make up my mind. im going for it. who cares what people think of me it matters what i think of myself. thanks to all of you. except you Svenskaflicka from your an asshole.

 

[Pure]

get yourself a counsellor, gamer, IF you want to get past all this shit-- touchiness, negativity, and hostility; for pay, people will put up with it and try to help. new (possible) friends are not going to want to deal with it.

get involved in a group activity not dependent on advanced social skills, like, say, the volunteers who go out along a highway and clean it up, or an environmental group cleaning up the local river.

 

[gamer9643]

fine pure you need to know so bad i have a freaking thearpist. happy? i have a right to get mad at Svenskaflicka for cracking jokes at my expese.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Looks like we're at a standstill of personal observation that is difficult to support with any broader evidence.

Probably not the best place to do it

besides, it's such a cold and blustery day, I feel like stretching out on the warm couch an purring and basking the day away anyway...

hope your head is better, horsie...

 

[MichelleLovesTo]

fine pure you need to know so bad i have a freaking thearpist. happy? i have a right to get mad at Svenskaflicka for cracking jokes at my expese.

Why would anyone be happy that you have a therapist? We're not getting a piece of the action. All people have done is try to help you, and all you can do is take everything is an insult of a judgement. You even restarted the poll in another thread.

You say you're open to suggestions, but you really aren't. People, friends, joke in threads -- nobody is trying to persecute you, and you've recieved good advice. The rest is up to you.

 

[gamer9643]

[insert favourite "atleast then he'll be stiff!" - joke here]

yeah real good advice here. i take all your advice to heart. i personally dont care what all of your oppinions of me are. i've made up my mind to live my life my way and not regret it. to go after what i want and not second guess myself.

 

[entitled]

Mission accomplished.

Next!

 

[BlackShanglan]

Well, I knew you might have had an ancestor in the Roman Senate, but First Holy Communion and Confirmation!!??

The Catholic Church is more depraved than I recall!

Please don't take that personally, Equus.

*chuckle*

All in good jest, and a good one it is.

Should've seen the look on the bishop's face ...

 

[BlackShanglan]

hope your head is better, horsie...

Many thanks, Kittyn. It's finally better today, ever so much better. The good wishes are much appreciated.

Shanglan