virgins?

[BlackShanglan]

Of course, there's this as well. If what you're giving us is a list of things about you that you suspect women might not find appealing, you could always work to change that list. Decide what is inherently you, and what's just a habit you've fallen into. Work on the latter. It may even transform the former in ways that you like.

 

[entitled]

Of course, there's this as well. If what you're giving us is a list of things about you that you suspect women might not find appealing, you could always work to change that list. Decide what is inherently you, and what's just a habit you've fallen into. Work on the latter. It may even transform the former in ways that you like.

That's very much true.

Women tend to be attracted to the optimistic folk. At least most women. Instead of looking at things in a negative light, turn it around. i'm actually kind of awed that you know all that computer stuff. It's an advantage you've got over a LOT of people. This is a good thing.

What else do you have going for you? Not the accident - that was way too long ago. What other interests?

 

[gamer9643]

i have done nothing in my life bu tplay on the computer and play video games most my life. after my accident you could say my mother soddled me so i never really felt the need to do anything everything was done for me. i only made one real friend in my whole life and he moved away over 10 years ago when his parents got a divorce. the only thing i have going for me is im ver sensitive to others needs and thats let me get pushed around a lot.

 

[entitled]

i have done nothing in my life bu tplay on the computer and play video games most my life. after my accident you could say my mother soddled me so i never really felt the need to do anything everything was done for me. i only made one real friend in my whole life and he moved away over 10 years ago when his parents got a divorce. the only thing i have going for me is im ver sensitive to others needs and thats let me get pushed around a lot.

You're thinking negative again. Knock it off.

Step one: Get off your tuches and do something!
Step two: Meet people as a result of doing step one.
Step three: Find new interests (also result of step one).
Step four: Refuse to let everything be done for you. Very important step!
Step five: Revel in the knowledge that you did something for yourself.
Step six: Lather, rinse, repeat. Without the lather and rinse parts.

Tongue firmly in cheek, yes, but coming from somebody who used to be the shy one in the corner that did nothing but read books and dream about being the perfect little mommy? i did it. Now there's almost too many friends coming and going in and out of the house all the time, too much to do to promote my interests to allow me to do it all, and more suitors than i'll admit to.

 

[Weepingguitar]

This is totally off topic, but every time I see this thread title out of the corner of my eye...I keep thinking it says "Vikings?" My brain immediately goes VIKINGS?!?! Where? Where?! Hurrah for vikings ^_^

 

[BlackShanglan]

i have done nothing in my life bu tplay on the computer and play video games most my life.

I agree with Entitled. The above is a killer - not to how others feel about you, but to how you feel about yourself. Now and then I fall back into the pit of frittering away my time on computer games (or, heaven forfend, posting on Internet porn boards), and I inevitably end up depressed. Why? I've done nothing productive with my time, and I know it. It's not just what I think others will think of me; it's what I think of myself.

Fortunately, you're in the right place for this. Write a story instead of playing a video game. It's amazing how much better you'll feel. Or work out a really good idea for a better video game. Take an evening class in something you're never heard of. Spend a few hours a week volunteering at the local animal shelter. It doesn't much matter what it is; just demand of yourself that at the end of the week, you have something tangible you can point to and say "I did that!" (And don't make it the high score on a video game!)

Inertia is the most dangerous of all forces in the universe. It's very difficult to overcome. Even things that at heart we know we will enjoy, we may resist because remaining inert seems so safe and gentle and comfortable. Just remember: "comfortable" is the enemy of all beauty and joy in the world.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

My brain immediately goes VIKINGS?!?! Where? Where?! Hurrah for vikings ^_^

*SNORT*

!!!!!!

oooooo green tea up the nose, ouch! damnyou!

 

[BlackShanglan]

This is totally off topic, but every time I see this thread title out of the corner of my eye...I keep thinking it says "Vikings?" My brain immediately goes VIKINGS?!?! Where? Where?! Hurrah for vikings ^_^

There you go! Assemble a really good viking costume. Then you'll be ready for next Halloween.

 

[Weepingguitar]

*SNORT*

!!!!!!

oooooo green tea up the nose, ouch! damnyou!

Huzzah! Vikings strike again!

 

[Weepingguitar]

There you go! Assemble a really good viking costume. Then you'll be ready for next Halloween.

I'd make such a puny viking though. I'd much rather be ravished by a viking...the beard with bits of food in it is a problem for me though...

 

[entitled]

Hey! Vikings are hot! (Trust me. i know a few. er... sorta.)

On a side note: Bliss! The equine agreed with me. Be still my beating heart. *sah-woon*

 

[BlackShanglan]

Hey! Vikings are hot! (Trust me. i know a few. er... sorta.)

On a side note: Bliss! The equine agreed with me. Be still my beating heart. *sah-woon*

*laugh* Don't be silly. I'm a fool. My rare moments of lucidity are clearly when *I* agree with *you*.

(And this all reminds me that I should go work on my long-left-waiting Geats-and-Scyldings erotic novel thingy.)

 

[Weepingguitar]

Hey! Vikings are hot! (Trust me. i know a few. er... sorta.)

On a side note: Bliss! The equine agreed with me. Be still my beating heart. *sah-woon*

Oh yes, Vikings can be extremely hot. mmm...Vikings...okay my mind is gone now...

 

[entitled]

*laugh* Don't be silly. I'm a fool. My rare moments of lucidity are clearly when *I* agree with *you*.

(And this all reminds me that I should go work on my long-left-waiting Geats-and-Scyldings erotic novel thingy.)

How absurd! You're the clearest-thinking animal i know. Now quit disagreeing with me or we'll end up chasing each other's tails.

Wait... That might nto be a bad thing...

 

[Weepingguitar]

*laugh* Don't be silly. I'm a fool. My rare moments of lucidity are clearly when *I* agree with *you*.

(And this all reminds me that I should go work on my long-left-waiting Geats-and-Scyldings erotic novel thingy.)

It might be that time of year again for me to whip out Grettir's Saga. Gotta love those epics, hee hee

 

[entitled]

Oh yes, Vikings can be extremely hot. mmm...Vikings...okay my mind is gone now...

Indeedy. There IS a reason i claim to be a slav, after all.

 

[Boxlicker101]

Hey! Vikings are hot! (Trust me. i know a few. er... sorta.)

On a side note: Bliss! The equine agreed with me. Be still my beating heart. *sah-woon*

You have to be kidding. The Minnesota football team has lost every super bowl they have played and their record this year sucked.

 

[entitled]

You have to be kidding. The Minnesota football team has lost every super bowl they have played and their record this year sucked.

Nobody ever said anything about their being GOOD.

 

[Weepingguitar]

Nobody ever said anything about their being GOOD.

At least at football...

 

[gamer9643]

i have been trying to get out more but it's been hard my last attempted relationship didnt work and my life went in the shitter. my parents got so upset they almsot had me commited. since then i've been a little scepticle to try anything new afraid of getting hurt again.

 

[entitled]

i have been trying to get out more but it's been hard my last attempted relationship didnt work and my life went in the shitter. my parents got so upset they almsot had me commited. since then i've been a little scepticle to try anything new afraid of getting hurt again.

Suggestion: Get away from the parents.

You're 22, a big boy, and don't need them to run your life.

Fear of getting hurt again is normal. However, there's those two types of people: those that run from it, and those that go 'gee, that was kinda fun while it lasted, let's try again' and take a running leap right back into the middle of things. It's entirely up to you which one you will be.

Now quit whining about it and do something about it.

 

[entitled]

At least at football...

*whistles all innocent-ish*

 

[gamer9643]

didnt you see attempted relationship it never got to be kinda fun, getting kicked in the nuts is more fun then what i went through.

 

[entitled]

didnt you see attempted relationship it never got to be kinda fun, getting kicked in the nuts is more fun then what i went through.

Whining. Stop. Really, at this point, if i were physically there, you would get smacked on the back of the head and called a good number of less than flattering things.

i saw. Been there, done that, did it again.

You're not going to get babied forever. Wake up and smell the hummus. If there hadn't been something nice about it you wouldn't have attempted.

Now quit feeling sorry for yourself, quit acting like a little baby, stop the whining and crying, and try doing some of the things that you've been told will help.

 

[zeb1094]

Well the old man is gonna weigh in here with a little bit of a life story.

Back when I was 22, which was a long time ago, I was so in love with this young lady. She had sat next to me in high school home room for two years. We knew each other very well. I had taken her to the junior prom.

Anyway we went out for quite some time after graduation. I kinda knew she was almost engaged to this guy who had graduated a year before us and was stationed oversea, he was in the Air Force.

Well anyway, to make a long story longer, he finished his tour overseas and bam they were married. Only thing I got was a phone call telling me not to call her anymore. Talk about stunned.

I was over at a friends house about a week later, his girl and her cousin were there. I was so distraut and pissed and heartbroke I couldn't see two feet in front of me. If I had I would have seen this lovely little blond who was crying along with me.

Looking back I could kick myself in the ass for being such a jerk, she would have been fun to go out with.

What I'm trying to say is:

Don't obsess on the past, learn from it and move on.
If I had done that I wouldn't have spent the next three years alone.