virgins?

[JamesSD]

Well, he IS asking about individual opinions, and that does vary based on personal experience. Most people of a certain age HAVe lost their virginity, buy presumably most have not screwed -- I'm sorry, boned -- a close personal relative.

There's another issue here. I believe the original poster wrote on another board and thread that a girl is not a virgin unless her hymen is intact. It made me think there are a lot of pre-teen girls who are, by his standards, not virgins due to sports injuries. Girls who horseride (in the purest sense of the word ) or slip off their bike seats often tear their hymens, and are clearly -- in any meaningful sense of the word -- virgins. The insistence of really "popping a cherry" is fetishy. And, can only happen once per person, making it something you can't fixate on in a longterm relationship.

The first time is sometimes wonderful, but often painful and awkward. It isn't always a good idea to romanticize it. Just like Christmas Day, it's over all too soon, and not always what you'd anticipated or expected.

I pretty much agree with everything Michelle has written on this thread.

I've been two women's firsts. Neither had an intact hymen due to dance and horseback riding.

A well written first time story is hot, but any well written sex story can be hot. It's not a specific fetish of mine, nor a turnoff.

 

[Pure]

alice said, in part,

[on responses to a hypothetical inquiry about incest stories]

Alice: while others expressed the equivalent of: "Good god. I hope no one leaves you alone with your little sister."

Response: exactly.

odd how the 'other world' is reflected within literotica. the 'other world,' the mainstream, think that people who read about boning the neighbor lady and her 18yr old niece are depraved and dangerous, and we say, 'of course not--dont you understand this isn't actual, it's about fantasy?'

yet within literotica, many have the suspicion that enjoyers of certain categories, e.g., incest, are in fact depraved and dangerous; and the issue of fantasy is dropped and most talk about the actual events (which may in fact often suggest depravity).

 

[Mercurius]

My 1st experience wasn't terribly memorable, and then I had experiences with several girls who were virgins. Not the greatest experiences ever. There weren't pain issues, but general inexperience on their parts made them less than ideal lovers. Not a big deal at the time, and two of them were long-term girlfriends, so we quickly got past the inexperience phase, but since then I have come to appreciate the wonders of an experienced woman. Therefore, virgin stories are not particularly erotic for me.

 

[angela146]

My future husband and I were 18 and mostly naked in my college dorm room. We were both virgins and it was extremely difficult for him to hold off his orgasm long enough to get the condom on and get it inside of me.

First attempt: he came before he got close enough for it to hurt.

Second attempt (another night): several thrusts caused a lot of pain and no penetration.

Third attempt (yet another night): I got him off first and then we waited an hour or two. He was able to last longer and stay hard enough to break through. It hurt like hell but I was finally able to feel him inside of me. I cried in his arms.

After thirteen years, I don't really remember the pain, but I do treasure the fact that we struggled through it together.

Also, I am incredibly glad that we did not wait for our wedding night. That would have been a horrific anti-climax... so to speak.

 

[BlackSnake]

Not...IMO

 

[lil_elvis]

who here thinks reading about a virgin getting pounded for the first time is one of the most erotic things in the world?

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For me it's rammin her poop chute for the first time.

 

[gamer9643]

okay

so maybe i didnt qite phrase it right, maybe it can be quite painful for the girl. but as a 22 year old virgin i just want my first time to be special and fantasize about being with a virgin. mainly so there will be no criticsm, i may have studied the act of sex since 5th grade but as of yet i've never even had a girlfriend. and before you ask i talk much different in public.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

so maybe i didnt qite phrase it right, maybe it can be quite painful for the girl. but as a 22 year old virgin i just want my first time to be special and fantasize about being with a virgin. mainly so there will be no criticsm, i may have studied the act of sex since 5th grade but as of yet i've never even had a girlfriend. and before you ask i talk much different in public.

What you'll find here is the difference between writing stroke material and writing erotica. Just like the difference between making love and having sex.

You will learn grasshopper, now snatch the pebble from my hand.

 

[zeb1094]

What you'll find here is the difference between writing stroke material and writing erotica. Just like the difference between making love and having sex.

You will learn grasshopper, now snatch the pebble from my hand.

Don't try it grasshopper, she'll just grab your hand and ABSorb you.

 

[Boxlicker101]

What you'll find here is the difference between writing stroke material and writing erotica. Just like the difference between making love and having sex.

You will learn grasshopper, now snatch the pebble from my hand.

Actually, you will find stroke material AND erotica here. Deciding which is which is up to you.

Usually neither includes pebbles but the former often includes snatches.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Actually, you will find stroke material AND erotica here. Deciding which is which is up to you.

Usually neither includes pebbles but the former often includes snatches.

don't make me come over there.

 

[gamer9643]

yeah

id love to learn and trust me i have but while in my room secluded im as confident as any virgin man can be but when out in public i become so shy i sink into the shadows of despair.

 

[BlackShanglan]

id love to learn and trust me i have but while in my room secluded im as confident as any virgin man can be but when out in public i become so shy i sink into the shadows of despair.

Accept that it's all right to be inexperienced. If you are a virgin, trust me in this: you'll have much better luck with women if you approach them as shy, a little hesitant, and honest about your lack of experience than if you try to mask your nervousness by being pushy or hurried. Given the relative ratios of cocksure assholes and gentle, uncertain virgins out there, you're likely to do well presenting yourself as the latter. It's a novelty, if nothing else.

 

[entitled]

Dropping in my couple of cents here, and trying not to burst a bubble too horribly, but...

i'm just DAMNED glad the first person i had sex with was experienced. It hurt, but not as much as i thought it would, and i'm fully confident that he had a lot to do with that. After a rather extensive relationship with him (that i would NOT mind repeating), i started going out with somebody that had lost their virginity the year before, and was rather inexperienced. It was less than pleasant.

The thought of two virgins honestly makes me wince because of those couple of experiences.

 

[imalickin]

i don't know what the fansination is with spinning yarns about nymphomaniac virgins, they don't exist.

the taking of a young ladies virginity is a painful process that leaves you sore and bleeding. doing it again right after the first time is still too painful to really enjoy.

 

[Norajane]

Accept that it's all right to be inexperienced. If you are a virgin, trust me in this: you'll have much better luck with women if you approach them as shy, a little hesitant, and honest about your lack of experience than if you try to mask your nervousness by being pushy or hurried. Given the relative ratios of cocksure assholes and gentle, uncertain virgins out there, you're likely to do well presenting yourself as the latter. It's a novelty, if nothing else.

A guy always has the best chance with women by approaching them with his real self. We can tell when a guy is pretending to be something he's not, and we're not attracted to that. Not only does it reek of insecurity, but we know we're not getting to know who he really is. So, thumbs up on the honest approach.

However (and I know you probably didn't mean this, Shang) but the "Hi, I'm Joe and I'm a virgin" presentation isn't going to be effective either.

What I'm getting at, gamer, is don't go out there thinking of yourself as a virgin man. Go out there thinking of yourself as a man. Don't let your current virgin status define you. Don't put so much emphasis on it. It's not the most important or most interesting thing about you, is it?

 

[gamer9643]

well

being a virgin, a geek, knowlegable on the female anatomy and my accident are the only things i really have going for me.

 

[entitled]

being a virgin, a geek, knowlegable on the female anatomy and my accident are the only things i really have going for me.

You're a geek. What kind of geek? What sort of geek stuff is your forte?

 

[Selena_Kitt]

I guess I don't get the association with the actual event and the fantasy... there are things I fantasize about that I wouldn't want to ACTUALLY happen... lots of them... and things I haven't had good experiences with either, too, that are still hot as fantasies...

I enjoy a good first-time fantasy... but then again, I can't remember my first time hurting at all... and unlike the other girls I talked to about their first times, I didn't have any bleeding... leading me to believe my hymen was gone (although when it disappeared is beyond me, haven't a clue!)

There is definitely a turn-on about her first experience, the anticipation, the willingness and surrender... I particularly like first time fantasies about older men and younger girls (the teacher aspect) ... yes yes of course, 18 years old at least for me, period pieces (like, set in long-ago days, not menstruation *smile*) are best... and I like the approach of his being careful, gentle, kind... but finally having to simply thrust into her and take her, quick like pulling off a band-aid... that there's virtually no pleasure in it her first time is almost irrelevant to me... it's more about the psychological barrier that gets crossed, the threshhold she passes into another realm... that's what appeals to me most, I think...

 

[BlackShanglan]

However (and I know you probably didn't mean this, Shang) but the "Hi, I'm Joe and I'm a virgin" presentation isn't going to be effective either.

What I'm getting at, gamer, is don't go out there thinking of yourself as a virgin man. Go out there thinking of yourself as a man. Don't let your current virgin status define you. Don't put so much emphasis on it. It's not the most important or most interesting thing about you, is it?

*laugh* Not what I meant, indeed, but you put it a great deal better than I did.

 

[English Lady]

Well, I lost my virginity in a highly pleasureable way, I remember not a single moment of pain (which indicates I must have broken my hymen and not realised sometime before) and lots and lots of pleasure. I was 19, he was 19 but he was more experienced than me and I think that possibly has connections with it being such a pleasureable experience for me.

I have written 2 first time stories and I am concentrating on writing another at the moment.

An Unorthodox Excercise is about a female erotica writing virgin and her first time experience with her physio and he definitely takes charge.

Christmas Spirit Warms The Heart is about two society misfits, both virgins who fall in love and enjoy thier first time after a romantic sleigh ride through the sky with Santa, it's a very romantic story,it's focus isn't really the sex at all.

Why did I use a virgin or multiple virgins? In each case it's because I wanted to explore the feelings of a person who was just discovering the joys of sexual attraction as I feel it gives an extra dimension you wouldn't get from a story where the people involved are both sexually experienced.

 

[gamer9643]

ok

you want to know details. ok, i know basically every computer program made, i own over 150 video games for over seven entertainment systems, my idea of exersize is walking out to get the mail. and before any of you ask about my accident i'll just fill you in, i broke my neck when i was four.

 

[entitled]

you want to know details. ok, i know basically every computer program made, i own over 150 video games for over seven entertainment systems, my idea of exersize is walking out to get the mail. and before any of you ask about my accident i'll just fill you in, i broke my neck when i was four.

You're not a geek. You're a guru.

Now what you do is go advertise yourself. Local colleges, workplaces, yadda yadda... Make up a flier saying you know this and this and this, offer your services for a reasonable price for those that are having problems with their computer programs, and leave a way to get ahold of you. Then, when you start getting those desperate 'i don't know what's happening to my computer!' calls, go be yourself while you're fixing things. Something will come of it eventually.

 

[gamer9643]

what

i said i know how to use almost all computer programs i dont know how to repair the internal parts of computers i could never get enough scratch to pay all the bills and take a college course at the same time.

 

[entitled]

i said i know how to use almost all computer programs i dont know how to repair the internal parts of computers i could never get enough scratch to pay all the bills and take a college course at the same time.

OK, i misunderstood. My fault.

Still, the concept is a basic thing. Just figure out the one thing that could be a draw and let people know you've got it.