Trust issues

[GimpyIntellect]

https://youtu.be/ScabBZgOSME

That's funny, because I was actually listening to The Doors a little earlier.

Anyway, to answer your question, I definitely have trust issues. I'm pretty reserved and have a very difficult time talking about myself in a serious manner. I wish things were different, but changing isn't easy.

 

[ydahecnot]

I've never gotten to the point of closing off my heart. That's giving a scoundrel, a psycho or an indifferent power that is undeserved. You just have to learn and move on and get back into's life's great, nervy adventure.

 

[IhateClowns]

Early on? Yes. Absolutely. Now? Not at all. The main reason being, I come here for totally different reasons than when I first arrived. When I first got here, I was looking for something to help fill a void. Now I come here for an outlet from every day life. Sure, I got burned pretty bad, but it wasn't a trust thing. It was just that our relationship ran its course. I get out of the PG what I put into it. I have made some close friends from here. I trust them implicitly.

 

[Aquagal]

Ok, that, is awesome.

I feel for you. I'm more surprised at the odds of two people from that area running into each other Lit...but long winters lead to idle hands....

I'm very VERY happy to be back, thank you.

You rock!

I'd like to think I've gotten better at not being gullible, but by the same token I don't want to be so bitter that I think everyone is an asshole.
I don't want to miss the good people on here.. Like Aquagal

 

[jameslewis]

A lot of magic really is just smoke and mirrors.

 

[DarkSimian]

I have a lot of trust issues; I have been burned ALOT, and yet I still keep putting myself out there. And lately, I have a tendency to overshare You want my name, phone number, e-mail, home address, shoe size, brand of underwear I buy.....sure, I'll tell you. I don't really worry about identity theft; I don't want to be me, why would anyone else? And as for stalking....if you want to come to my town, and follow me around, go ahead. I'm boring, my town is boring, my life is boring.

Either that, or I'm just a manho, craving attention....

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

((((hugs))) to everyone from someone who is a real person and would give really hugs if it were logistically possible.

 

[Eisranac]

I know that this thread is more than two years old, but I also believe that this topic is still as relevant as ever, based on what I have read on Literotica recently.

I was duped by a man pretending to be a woman.
That ended my cybering & yes caused me to go into a shell. Luckily real life in the love/sex dept. is going beyond anything I could dream of so I don't really get involved with people here except in a friendly way. I'm here for the banter & to learn. I'm opening up more recently but will never play on here with either sex.

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I understand that this still happens today, according to what some of the women of Literotica told me. It is one of the main reasons why I prefer voice chat over text.

Shame that someone who has no respect for the feelings of others and is myopically selfish about his own wants and needs ruined for you what could have been a potentially positive experience with others.

I am sceptical about almost everything I am told online. If it can't translate to real life, it'll show itself pretty quickly. Trust your gut, it's always right.

As you should be skeptical.

Trust usually does not happen between two people until both parties are willing to be vulnerable with each other, and it can take time to develop. That is an extremely difficult risk to undertake in a forum where participants can remain anonymous; but thankfully, not impossible to achieve.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

My Facebook and social media are under different names, I don't use my real name or birthday on the Internet. I don't even want a birthday thread on here, I don't trust these crazy bitches I used to deal with lmao

 

[LostGirlTink]

My Facebook and social media are under different names, I don't use my real name or birthday on the Internet. I don't even want a birthday thread on here, I don't trust these crazy bitches I used to deal with lmao

Lmao huh?That strikes me all as sketchy af. But you do you and good luck to those you mingle with.

I’m sensitive on this subject. Truth and trust are important.

Lies create a falsehood. I don’t do superficial very well, if you get to know me, you get me. Discretion is one thing, lies are another. But hiding things leads to faulty expectations, feelings based on half truths that maybe would have been a hard no if someone had all the facts.

There’s a real person on the other side of the keyboard... many would do well to remember that.

 

[*Twisted*]

This thread is always relevant in some ways. Internet safety is important to remember. Fortunately these days there are lots of ways to do voice over IP without compromising your personal safety. At least using that you get to figure out if the woman or man you are talking to is actually a man or a woman.
I used to be trusting online, now I'm a fan of trust but verify.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I trust too easily. No matter how many times I've been burned, I'd rather be myself and be honest. I've tried to hold back, but it always comes flying out like diarrhea of the mouth

 

[Farawyn]

Lots of names here not here anymore.

Wondering about Denny and Dollie.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Lmao huh?That strikes me all as sketchy af. But you do you and good luck to those you mingle with.

I’m sensitive on this subject. Truth and trust are important.

Lies create a falsehood. I don’t do superficial very well, if you get to know me, you get me. Discretion is one thing, lies are another. But hiding things leads to faulty expectations, feelings based on half truths that maybe would have been a hard no if someone had all the facts.

There’s a real person on the other side of the keyboard... many would do well to remember that.

There's a lot of misconceptions about the mingling.



It's not lies and these women are way in the past, but they were obsessed. My Facebook username is not a name like Charles Mason, it's obviously not a real name and I put a fake birthday on there. I do that for protection, I don't know if you ever had a stalker, but I have. I choose to keep these ladies away, instead of catching a case.



Whatever your message says may make sense for men you have dealt with, but that is not accurate about me.

 

[LostGirlTink]

There's a lot of misconceptions about the mingling.



It's not lies and these women are way in the past, but they were obsessed. My Facebook username is not a name like Charles Mason, it's obviously not a real name and I put a fake birthday on there. I do that for protection, I don't know if you ever had a stalker, but I have. I choose to keep these ladies away, instead of catching a case.



Whatever your message says may make sense for men you have dealt with, but that is not accurate about me.

I’m just going to say this...
there’s an awful lot of men claiming that “I had a stalker so...” theory so either men see stalking way differently than women or a lot of restraining orders need issued to keep y’all safe.

It makes sense for everyone. If you lie about the little stuff you’ll lie about the important stuff. Next thing you know you’re involved with someone and the truth is they’re someone made up of smoke and mirrors.
You do things your way. I hope it works for you and anyone close to you. No salt or shade intended... seriously good luck.
I’ll stick with honest and forthright and remove those that can’t do the same from all but my most casual of circles.

 

[pvt_addiction]

Can’t we all just get along?

 

[LostGirlTink]

Can’t we all just get along?

Lol we have differing opinions and that’s fine.
I assumed (perhaps naively) that one of the nice things about lit was the way men and women shared their perceptions of things in a way they might not on other platforms and might actually get feedback that could be valuable to them.
Silly me

 

[pvt_addiction]

Lol we have differing opinions and that’s fine.
I assumed (perhaps naively) that one of the nice things about lit was the way men and women shared their perceptions of things in a way they might not on other platforms and might actually get feedback that could be valuable to them.
Silly me

Not for nothing, but this is the internet. Both guys and girls are targets. I’ve been in a few situations because people here didn’t exactly tell the full story.

 

[LostGirlTink]

Not for nothing, but this is the internet. Both guys and girls are targets. I’ve been in a few situations because people here didn’t exactly tell the full story.

I think that was the point of the thread....

 

[pvt_addiction]

I think that was the point of the thread....

Oops, my bad. I was just saying, I’ll go back into my corner now.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I’m just going to say this...
there’s an awful lot of men claiming that “I had a stalker so...” theory so either men see stalking way differently than women or a lot of restraining orders need issued to keep y’all safe.

It makes sense for everyone. If you lie about the little stuff you’ll lie about the important stuff. Next thing you know you’re involved with someone and the truth is they’re someone made up of smoke and mirrors.
You do things your way. I hope it works for you and anyone close to you. No salt or shade intended... seriously good luck.
I’ll stick with honest and forthright and remove those that can’t do the same from all but my most casual of circles.

Whoooooaaaaaa! Whoever fucked you over, did a number on you. I am sorry you got hurt, but that shit has nothing to do with me. I am one of the most honest mfers you'll ever know. Women aren't the only ones that get hurt and go through shit. Men and women get broken hearted and deal with bs. the If you feel I am lying, then so be it, I don't owe you a thing, I have never spoken to you on that level.



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[LostGirlTink]

Whoooooaaaaaa! Whoever fucked you over, did a number on you. I am sorry you got hurt, but that shit has nothing to do with me. I am one of the most honest mfers you'll ever know. Women aren't the only ones that get hurt and go through shit. Men and women get broken hearted and deal with bs. the If you feel I am lying, then so be it, I don't owe you a thing, I have never spoken to you on that level.



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Yeah.... he did, because he withheld information that turned out to be vital.

And I don’t care if you’re lying or not. Irrelevant to me... but I wasn’t nasty to you above, I was straightforward and didn’t sugar coat anything. I don’t have to be nice just because I’m a nice person. This isn’t a nice topic. Sometimes I call bullshit when I see bullshit.

My point was that if anyone (not meaning you necessarily but the behaviors you describe) is unverifiable in any way they probably are hiding things and people should in fact be cautious
YMMV

 

[Babylon_Ishtar]

I've never gotten to the point of closing off my heart. That's giving a scoundrel, a psycho or an indifferent power that is undeserved. You just have to learn and move on and get back into's life's great, nervy adventure.

I so admire and respect your attitude I aspire to this, but it's a real work in progress for me.

 

[HBergeron]

Since my divorce, I'm un-burnable. I don't do background checks because all I'm looking for anymore are good friends, some of whom have benefits. I'm just too happy on my own...

 

[lacandy]

Yeah.... he did, because he withheld information that turned out to be vital.

And I don’t care if you’re lying or not. Irrelevant to me... but I wasn’t nasty to you above, I was straightforward and didn’t sugar coat anything. I don’t have to be nice just because I’m a nice person. This isn’t a nice topic. Sometimes I call bullshit when I see bullshit.

My point was that if anyone (not meaning you necessarily but the behaviors you describe) is unverifiable in any way you probably are hiding things and people should in fact be cautious
YMMV

Preach SISTA!!

I've been here a pretty good while...and have been ghosted so many times I have forgotten some of them. And that's surely an issue, but the most cruel thing that someone has done was out and out lie about something that was important and changed the way that I viewed them and how much I shared with them. He STOLE my trust. (And now flaunts it all over the place).

Sharing with someone here is scary for most. There are very few people who know much about me. There are maybe 5 in all the years that I've been here who know my full name. I keep things close to the chest (well, everything is usually close to the chest for me )... and I pride myself on being a good judge of character, so I feel stupid and hurt because I was duped...

That one act has changed how I interact and completely destroyed my ability to trust...people here often think that it's all fun and games, but there are real people on the other side of the screen, and a broken heart is one thing, but fearing that your life could be affected is always worrying...and takes a toll.