Torment/Punishment

[ABX]

Torment/Light Play Punishment - without pain!

My girlfriend and I are only getting started in the D/s world, and we're experimenting with new things. Last night we had quite a bit of fun - tying her up in awkward ways, and setting her tasks. A particularly good one was putting a feather duster in her mouth and telling her to dust - all the while... shall we say... distracting her.

Watching her try to pick up the dropped duster in her mouth with her hands and ankles tied was just beautiful. I recommend that one!

However... I need some more ways to punish her when she fails. We've used getting her extremely turned on and denying her relief, which is always fun, as well as letting her touch herself for short periods then telling her to stop, which absolutely kills her.

Unfortunately, we also tried light spanking - with bad results. Pain is now out.

So... further suggestions welcomed!

 

[CutieMouse]

Might I politely suggest finding scenerios/tasks you both enjoy, and saving punishment for actual missbehaviour?

I realize many people look for reasons to "punish" their partner; however, IMO this can set up an emotional minefield... if one gets used to punishment equaling pleasure and play, what happens when one decides *actual punishment* is in order?

 

[ABX]

Thanks for your concern, but I can't think of any situation were we'd need to apply "actual punishment". But play punishment gives a sense of achievement and heightens her pleasure when it comes to time for her reward.

 

[myinnerslut]

try this thread.. it was sort of recent and the same topic.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=469885&highlight=punishment

 

[ABX]

There's some good ideas there, but more centred around real punishment than play punishment. And for us, real punishment just isn't part of the fun. We use some fairly strong D/s elements during play, but outside the bedroom we're equals.

Personally, I'm up for trying out a little pain for punishment, but it brings up some fairly nasty personal issues for her, so I'm not going to actually try it just yet.

So what I need are particularly torturous ways to sexually tease, or alternately non-painful punishments that I can apply during play, that won't impact our non-play lives.

Quite specific, I know...

 

[CutieMouse]

What you are looking for is examples of sensual, erotic BDSM- in which the point of doing all the kinky things, is for both of you to enjoy it.

Assign tasks, play naughty chamber maid, experiment with physical sensations, create scenerios for discipline, etc, but please understand that a lot of people view punishment as anything but "play", so asking for ideas to "punish" your partner will probably result in suggestions that involve punishing your partner.

I realize it probably seems like semantics, but (speaking for myself) I can't wrap my mind around punishment as a pleasureable thing, so the question makes me crash into a language barrier. Asking for ideas that are more sensualist inspired, might get a wider variety of responses, but I'm not sure I'd have many helpful ideas, as I'm rather masochistic in my proclivities, and pain is apparently out of the equation...

 

[JMohegan]

My girlfriend and I are only getting started in the D/s world, and we're experimenting with new things. Last night we had quite a bit of fun - tying her up in awkward ways, and setting her tasks. A particularly good one was putting a feather duster in her mouth and telling her to dust - all the while... shall we say... distracting her.

Watching her try to pick up the dropped duster in her mouth with her hands and ankles tied was just beautiful. I recommend that one!

However... I need some more ways to punish her when she fails. We've used getting her extremely turned on and denying her relief, which is always fun, as well as letting her touch herself for short periods then telling her to stop, which absolutely kills her.

Unfortunately, we also tried light spanking - with bad results. Pain is now out.

So... further suggestions welcomed!

You're playing with fire with your language here, man.

My suggestion is that you heed Cutiemouse's post. "Emotional minefield" is a very real concern.

When I play games with a partner, I talk about "consequences for slipping up". Here's why:

I actually object to him calling fun spankings 'punishment', cause if I haven't done something bad I don't want to even pretend that I have. Then I feel guilty, even though I didn't do anything.

I'm not trying to tell you what to do here. I'm just giving you a heads up about a very common view among submissive women.

 

[ABX]

Yeah, I should have thought this through a little better - I tried to re-name the thread, but sadly that didn't work.

And yes, the point is most definitely for us both to enjoy it - I couldn't enjoy myself if she wasn't enjoying it too, and if I'm honest, I can't really understand why anyone would. Funny, really.


JMohegan - sorry, my wording has been pretty poor. Blame inexperience? >.>

I am looking for PURELY play, sensual punishments. I'd avoid using the word 'punishment' altogether from now, in favour of 'consequences' - thanks for that.

I would not give her serious punishments, and she would not WANT serious punishments. But playful consequences, she is up for. We have discussed it in some depth, and I understand what it is she wants - though apparently I have some difficulty in getting it across to others.

 

[myinnerslut]

there is a thread currently called whimsical domination or something like that that may have some ideas for you.

you can try binding her by your will. telling her to stay put in a certain position for a period of time without moving. it can be very difficult, both physically and emotionally.

 

[mcgill82ferret]

I have found this to be quite a fun erotic torture.

Tie the female submissive standing with legs some what spread. Insert a set of vibra balls (or similar) into pussy and a string of anal beads into her backside. Using a very tiny soft paint brush tease her clit until near climax. (Note that as she wiggles with pleasure the vibra balls will be shaking inside her.) Then continue by resting a vibrator between the loop of the ball and bead strings that are hanging out of her. This will cause her to tighten her muscles to keep the balls insider her while the weight of the vibrator tuggs on them. This in turn will increase the contact for her to feel more of the vibrations traveling up the strings and into her. Of course you can shut off the vibrator and start/stop the paint brush stroking as you see fit.

Of course a crotch rope could be added after the insertions are made also.

But most of all play SS&C and have fun!

Incase you are not familiar with vibra balls they are a string of balls, usually 2 or 4 ()but if the strings are linked together as many as you like, sightly smaller than a golf ball. Each visable ball is a hollow shell with a heavier and smaller ball inside of it. When the outer ball is moved the inner ball rolls around inside and vibrates or shakes. They are available at most reasonably good adult toy stores.

 

[JMohegan]

JMohegan - sorry, my wording has been pretty poor. Blame inexperience? >.>

I am looking for PURELY play, sensual punishments. I'd avoid using the word 'punishment' altogether from now, in favour of 'consequences' - thanks for that.

No need to apologize, and you're welcome. Have fun.