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SoulAssasin247
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No change here.
Tell Us! How has Lit changed you?
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Leigh81
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I've had one women here tell me that they thought I'd want to engage in something. My best friendship on here was with a gal who was completely 100% straight. Then poof....gone. I guess in real life I've been lucky to never have been screwed over or have someone just not be there anymore. I just don't let people in on here anymore
glad to know I wasn’t the only one...fucking asshole liars...
I really don't want to think about that anymore. I felt stupid, humiliated & embarrassed. I've moved on & don't go down that road again. I do enjoy some fun flirty banter on the boards with either sex, just no playing.
done_got_old
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Leaving without a word leaves people wondering. Then there are the people who tell us they're leaving every few months and never do. I've taken extended breaks, but there was always someone who knew how to contact me. Right now there are 3 lit people who are facebook friends.
People are weird and Lit is not exempt. One woman went ballistic on me because she thought I wanted her "online boyfriend". She and the guy were married. I told her that if I wanted a pretend boyfriend I pick a better man.
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islandjoe2
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I don't know if it is accurate to say Lit has changed me, per se, but I think it has helped me become much more self aware.
Coming here, I had vague notions of what I liked and didn't like but reading and participating in the threads has clarified a lot of things for me. No, I'm not gay. Not that there is anything wrong with that.
The personal relationships I've developed here, both those that stayed here and those that have moved to real life, have exposed me to so many things I probably would not have partaken in otherwise. I'm not even speaking of things only of a sexual nature, either. Different foods, discussions on world views, hell I even was given a walk through over Skype on how to stain and varnish a music box I was making.....
I don't suppose this is making a whole lot of sense but perhaps you'll get the gist.
Coming here, I had vague notions of what I liked and didn't like but reading and participating in the threads has clarified a lot of things for me. No, I'm not gay. Not that there is anything wrong with that.
The personal relationships I've developed here, both those that stayed here and those that have moved to real life, have exposed me to so many things I probably would not have partaken in otherwise. I'm not even speaking of things only of a sexual nature, either. Different foods, discussions on world views, hell I even was given a walk through over Skype on how to stain and varnish a music box I was making.....
I don't suppose this is making a whole lot of sense but perhaps you'll get the gist.
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Violetvixen1
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This all makes perfect sense to me. I think overall it has definitely enriched my life.
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BadAmy
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Coming here has only enhanced my self awareness..that I have some fucking issues.
Smoothshavendad
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I love you! You are one twisted little mind.
Smoothshavendad
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I have met some very cool and very sexy people. I have also had the chance to explore some hidden desires. Only problem is that I spend too damned much time here. It can be a bit distracti.. Brb. Got a hot pm coming in!
tnman03
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I don't know about that, so far your looking just as kinky and twisted as anyone else here already is. You look good and seem to be fitting in so if anything maybe your still testing your kink boundaries
lakesailer_mi
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I’ll start! This place was the beginning of me becoming the person i was meant to be. It gave me courage to change things I thought would never change. It gave me community when I had none. Friends that I could say ANYTHING to! I came here as a place to escape and it truly gave me a reason to believe I could be myself (my true self not the fake cupcake/PTA mommy/wife that others expected me to be) in my real life and that changed EVERYTHING! I now have a job where I talk about sex in positive and (mostly) healthy ways all day long. I’ve changed and expanded my marriage to include things I never thought possible. I have long lasting g friendships that span continents as well as genders. This little corner of the world has truly and greatly changed so many aspects of my life and I can never be thankful enough for all of you who helped shape me into the grownup I finally grew into!
This is beautiful.
I think it has made me more tolerant and open minded. I think it has offered me insights into my own needs and desires.
I've also made some friends here that have become incredibly important to me in my life. People who, basically, family.
People who have helped me through tough times...and vice versa.
People I've shared my inner soul with.
I think that it has made me a better human being.
Delightfuldeviant90
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I'm even more easily distracted
bunny4med
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My story is a lot like Leigh81. Started off with reading stories aloud to hubby. Got on Forums and it exposed me to people like me and not like me. Gave me the courage to talk with my hubby and pursue my bi curiosity. My girlfriend moved in with us 16 months ago and we have a great poly relationship that i know wouldn't have had experienced had i not been on here.
i've met great people along the way who come in and out of Lit. Some are who they say they are, some aren't (M/F). This place lets me continue to get interested in things sexually that i never knew existed or talk to people about different kinks. As opposed to most i don't play on here and stick with the female side so that i don't get a million weiner Skype or Kik proposals.
By the way Leigh81 has great taste in music.
i've met great people along the way who come in and out of Lit. Some are who they say they are, some aren't (M/F). This place lets me continue to get interested in things sexually that i never knew existed or talk to people about different kinks. As opposed to most i don't play on here and stick with the female side so that i don't get a million weiner Skype or Kik proposals.
By the way Leigh81 has great taste in music.
done_got_old
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Really?
Matt_Next_Door
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I read stories forever before I realized there was an interactive board. The playground was my first stop even though it was a strange pathway through the personals to find it.
I was welcomed by some right off the bat when I first came to lit (under the first nic I used way back when) but found I had to earn my stripes as I went along to join in and have fun. That's not a bad thing, it's just the nature of finding my own way around. The first way it changed me was understanding my poor transition into a new nic, leaving the otherone behind and then creating a wake of issues as time went on from not exposing that fact. It wasn't out of deceit...but if felt that way to others...so...it made me change my thinking that something I perceived as being simple...was made more complex in the way I handled the transition and the process has now allowed me to admit and fully see the mistake I made. That is a change.
The greatest thing I found here was a community of like-minded people. That of course was meant in a sexual way but also there were many other positive things about being online and sharing friendships too. I have always been a sexually explorative person...have had multiple partners in real life and enjoyed multi-person relationships over the years as well.
But the way all this has changed me is that I can be me. Not everyone has to like that and not everyone has to be my friend, I was just free to enjoy myself and that was partly due to the atmosphere of the board and partly to do with my divorce and finding a way out of that void where I could freely express myself without looking over my shoulder to see who, if anyone, was watching.
I found my voice again, became more expressive and realizing my opinion was just that...an opinion of one....no more important than anyone else's but no less important to me than theirs is to them as well. It's what's fucked up in this country. No one can express their opinion these days without others willing and ready to jump because it doesn't match their own viewpoint. I don't have to agree with others...they don't have to agree with my opinion...but we should at least be able to respect the right's of us all to form our own opinions.
That isn't a sexual aspect of the board but for the most part, most playgrounders have been respectful. That has challenged me to do the same, open up my eyes and understand and accept others a little more. That's a good change. There is one Audrey Hepburn-like soul on here that I have never heard a cross word from and examples how a few kind words from her can just make the day better for all. That spirit in itself has to change you/me to be a better person and change my response to always try to be positive and not take myself too seriously.
Now the creator of this thread is a prime example of just how delicious the ladies of the playground really are. There, in her, you will find a warm, fun loving girl that takes me back to when the board was filled with flirty laughter non-stop. It's always good to see her return because she's one of the all-time special ones that keep us coming back. That doesn't mean it isn't fun now...it just examples that the longer you are here, you will witness evolutionary board changes in the people that come and go and those kinds of changes change us as well. We become adaptive even when we miss those that have gone away but we adjust and find new people that come in and fill in the spaces.
The board has changed me to open boundaries and explore with others. It has allowed me to see endless pleasures within the people I have met and yet it has taught me too that all these people are real, they do have feelings and there will always be unavoidable hurt when things go terribly wrong. And, it will go wrong. It taught me I can cause real hurt even if it is an unintentional circumstance. I have also learn others can be reactive to that hurt even though they have no full understanding of the private situation behind that hurt. I have changed to where I don't dwell on the drama aspect or it's pull it has on some. I try to avoid it at all costs and yet I have changed enough to realize I can create drama unintentionally too.
I have learned even recently to be a better listener than I am a talker and I think that's a most important lesson whether that has sexual meaning, online communication meaning or something I can take to life outside of here...That new listening ability is being formed and shaped by my time here and I am thankful from the very first day I met the person that has opened my eyes and made me realize that I truly needed the change of becoming the best listener to be a better partner.
So....yeah that and all the naughty stuff that goes...don't change that part.... on..carry on!
I was welcomed by some right off the bat when I first came to lit (under the first nic I used way back when) but found I had to earn my stripes as I went along to join in and have fun. That's not a bad thing, it's just the nature of finding my own way around. The first way it changed me was understanding my poor transition into a new nic, leaving the otherone behind and then creating a wake of issues as time went on from not exposing that fact. It wasn't out of deceit...but if felt that way to others...so...it made me change my thinking that something I perceived as being simple...was made more complex in the way I handled the transition and the process has now allowed me to admit and fully see the mistake I made. That is a change.
The greatest thing I found here was a community of like-minded people. That of course was meant in a sexual way but also there were many other positive things about being online and sharing friendships too. I have always been a sexually explorative person...have had multiple partners in real life and enjoyed multi-person relationships over the years as well.
But the way all this has changed me is that I can be me. Not everyone has to like that and not everyone has to be my friend, I was just free to enjoy myself and that was partly due to the atmosphere of the board and partly to do with my divorce and finding a way out of that void where I could freely express myself without looking over my shoulder to see who, if anyone, was watching.
I found my voice again, became more expressive and realizing my opinion was just that...an opinion of one....no more important than anyone else's but no less important to me than theirs is to them as well. It's what's fucked up in this country. No one can express their opinion these days without others willing and ready to jump because it doesn't match their own viewpoint. I don't have to agree with others...they don't have to agree with my opinion...but we should at least be able to respect the right's of us all to form our own opinions.
That isn't a sexual aspect of the board but for the most part, most playgrounders have been respectful. That has challenged me to do the same, open up my eyes and understand and accept others a little more. That's a good change. There is one Audrey Hepburn-like soul on here that I have never heard a cross word from and examples how a few kind words from her can just make the day better for all. That spirit in itself has to change you/me to be a better person and change my response to always try to be positive and not take myself too seriously.
Now the creator of this thread is a prime example of just how delicious the ladies of the playground really are. There, in her, you will find a warm, fun loving girl that takes me back to when the board was filled with flirty laughter non-stop. It's always good to see her return because she's one of the all-time special ones that keep us coming back. That doesn't mean it isn't fun now...it just examples that the longer you are here, you will witness evolutionary board changes in the people that come and go and those kinds of changes change us as well. We become adaptive even when we miss those that have gone away but we adjust and find new people that come in and fill in the spaces.
The board has changed me to open boundaries and explore with others. It has allowed me to see endless pleasures within the people I have met and yet it has taught me too that all these people are real, they do have feelings and there will always be unavoidable hurt when things go terribly wrong. And, it will go wrong. It taught me I can cause real hurt even if it is an unintentional circumstance. I have also learn others can be reactive to that hurt even though they have no full understanding of the private situation behind that hurt. I have changed to where I don't dwell on the drama aspect or it's pull it has on some. I try to avoid it at all costs and yet I have changed enough to realize I can create drama unintentionally too.
I have learned even recently to be a better listener than I am a talker and I think that's a most important lesson whether that has sexual meaning, online communication meaning or something I can take to life outside of here...That new listening ability is being formed and shaped by my time here and I am thankful from the very first day I met the person that has opened my eyes and made me realize that I truly needed the change of becoming the best listener to be a better partner.
So....yeah that and all the naughty stuff that goes...don't change that part.... on..carry on!
RubenesqueAphrodite
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Let's see... the good...
1. Met quite a few nice people.
2. Early on there was real discussion on sexual topics, not just sexually charged banter. There are still a few areas you can go to for asking questions and expect a real answer instead of a devolution into a "Who cums first " version of the great Abbott and Costello skit....
3. I got the courage to leave my abusive marriage and cast off the shame that had kept me in silence and denial.
4. I tried out a few things sexually that I might not have otherwise had I not joined Lit.
Now, the bad...
1. I've met some real douchebag low-life, scum-eating motherfuckers whose mothers should have figured out how to straighten that clotheshanger.. or at the very least tried to hit the local vet up for a shot of bovine pitocin..
2. My tolerance for stupidity has dwindled to a hair fracture, and I'm constantly chanting the Serenity Prayer to myself when I see it.. because...truth be told, I can not change anything about anyone other than myself. (headline for the day is my superpower, should I ever be lucky enough to get one, would be that when I tell you you are an idiot, you will simply acknowledge it as fact, and move along.)
3. I lost what little Pollyanna I had left. I used to believe in happily ever after, and people doing right by each other. That loss is not necessarily Lit's fault, though. More like a sign of the times simply amplified by the anonymity afforded by the internet.
Lit is neither a good place nor a bad place. It's a community , and like any other, you have good and bad people.
Now, let's all bow our heads and give thanks that I'm not the Sheriff..
done_got_old
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Let's see... the good...
1. Met quite a few nice people.
2. Early on there was real discussion on sexual topics, not just sexually charged banter. There are still a few areas you can go to for asking questions and expect a real answer instead of a devolution into a "Who cums first " version of the great Abbott and Costello skit....
3. I got the courage to leave my abusive marriage and cast off the shame that had kept me in silence and denial.
4. I tried out a few things sexually that I might not have otherwise had I not joined Lit.
Now, the bad...
1. I've met some real douchebag low-life, scum-eating motherfuckers whose mothers should have figured out how to straighten that clotheshanger.. or at the very least tried to hit the local vet up for a shot of bovine pitocin..
2. My tolerance for stupidity has dwindled to a hair fracture, and I'm constantly chanting the Serenity Prayer to myself when I see it.. because...truth be told, I can not change anything about anyone other than myself. (headline for the day is my superpower, should I ever be lucky enough to get one, would be that when I tell you you are an idiot, you will simply acknowledge it as fact, and move along.)
3. I lost what little Pollyanna I had left. I used to believe in happily ever after, and people doing right by each other. That loss is not necessarily Lit's fault, though. More like a sign of the times simply amplified by the anonymity afforded by the internet.
Lit is neither a good place nor a bad place. It's a community , and like any other, you have good and bad people.
Now, let's all bow our heads and give thanks that I'm not the Sheriff..
I can barely type. I'm still laughing at the clothes hanger! I agree with you about the 'good ol days'.
Violetvixen1
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So do I. It was really fun informative and interesting.
RubenesqueAphrodite
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AnalCreampieGiver
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Hmmm..
Well, it has brought a lot of people into my life that I probably wouldn't have ever met any other way since I never leave the state and most of those people are great friends, caring people and people I couldn't live without.
Also, it's a place I can come to and not be judged (If I am judged.. I can always block them, that's how most people get on my ignore list anyways. That or they are assholes/cunts)
I could never repay Literotica for my friends and the freedom to be myself and not water myself down ❤
Well, it has brought a lot of people into my life that I probably wouldn't have ever met any other way since I never leave the state and most of those people are great friends, caring people and people I couldn't live without.
Also, it's a place I can come to and not be judged (If I am judged.. I can always block them, that's how most people get on my ignore list anyways. That or they are assholes/cunts)
I could never repay Literotica for my friends and the freedom to be myself and not water myself down ❤
Violetvixen1
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You were a damn fine human being to start with, so any improvement was hard won my friend!!
Violetvixen1
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Let's see... the good...
1. Met quite a few nice people.
2. Early on there was real discussion on sexual topics, not just sexually charged banter. There are still a few areas you can go to for asking questions and expect a real answer instead of a devolution into a "Who cums first " version of the great Abbott and Costello skit....
3. I got the courage to leave my abusive marriage and cast off the shame that had kept me in silence and denial.
4. I tried out a few things sexually that I might not have otherwise had I not joined Lit.
Now, the bad...
1. I've met some real douchebag low-life, scum-eating motherfuckers whose mothers should have figured out how to straighten that clotheshanger.. or at the very least tried to hit the local vet up for a shot of bovine pitocin..
2. My tolerance for stupidity has dwindled to a hair fracture, and I'm constantly chanting the Serenity Prayer to myself when I see it.. because...truth be told, I can not change anything about anyone other than myself. (headline for the day is my superpower, should I ever be lucky enough to get one, would be that when I tell you you are an idiot, you will simply acknowledge it as fact, and move along.)
3. I lost what little Pollyanna I had left. I used to believe in happily ever after, and people doing right by each other. That loss is not necessarily Lit's fault, though. More like a sign of the times simply amplified by the anonymity afforded by the internet.
Lit is neither a good place nor a bad place. It's a community , and like any other, you have good and bad people.
Now, let's all bow our heads and give thanks that I'm not the Sheriff..
Love if you were the sheriff, I’d be asking to be your deputy!
