Tell Us! How has Lit changed you?

[ydahecnot]

Serious answers:

Learned to be a switch, because being a male sub will draw crickets as a rule.

Found an outlet for my warped humor

Found comfort and laughs during some tough times

 

[EmpressJosephine]

It hasn't.

I've tried to change it!

 

[THX1138_X]

Too new to be changed. Yet. Or at all.

Pleasantly surprised at how active the board is.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Serious answers:

Learned to be a switch, because being a male sub will draw crickets as a rule.

Found an outlet for my warped humor

Found comfort and laughs during some tough times

*crickets*

 

[ydahecnot]

Now, Roo, that was low-hanging fruit

 

[Violetvixen1]

Now, Roo, that was low-hanging fruit

You expect us not to grab at low hanging fruit darlin?!?

Seriously though... make subs can be all kinds of delicious.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Kung Fu Tze say...
"When it comes to comedic relief, Get it where you can, when you can. "

 

[Violetvixen1]

Still curious. Anyone care to share?

 

[Sundayschild]

I'm much more shy and retiring now....

 

[Violetvixen1]

I'm much more shy and retiring now....

Bwahahaha-*deep breath*- Hahahaha *snort*

 

[julybaby04]

I am more mature (which has come with age....been here a very long time), much more capable to see and deal with those who are not truthful, have learned that men will say anything, and thankful for the friends I have made here.

 

[papadoc19]

It has made me more skeptical and jaded (which is surprising because I was pretty cynical to begin with)

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

It has made me more skeptical and jaded (which is surprising because I was pretty cynical to begin with)

Fyp.....

 

[PNWKitten]

It has made me a lot more cautious and far less trusting then I ever thought I'd be. Which is sad, but it is what it is.

On the flip side I've made some great female friends.

 

[LWulf]

Not really at all. Everything I came here with, is pretty much the same. My mind is as far expanded as it always was. I've met different people, but I've always done that daily.

 

[Eva_Starry]

It really hasn't changed me. I am the same everywhere. Some days flirty and fun...other days fuck it and gloom. Shrugs.

I enjoy lit for the interesting, cool people. I hate it that even here there are some judgemental people.

I have had good experiences. I have had bad experiences...and I got nobody to blame but me.

 

[Farawyn]

My life has changed so much outside of Lit, but I’ll try to narrow down Lit influenced...

Well, I met, and am now with the man I love. Talking about Lemmy in a BDSM music thread!!! Don’t knock the small stuff, for it can develop into your life.

I met my best friend, cookie. Her husband was dying of ALS as my cousin was diagnosed. They are both now gone, and cookie and I are wallowing in sadness. We both know all we have to do is reach out a hand and we will be there.

All the other friends I met. Not limited to just my girls. The generosity of people reaching out to me after my dad died, my cousin died, my dog died. Incredible.

I knew all about ghosting from past boards. Lit is no different. Yes. It hurts. But I’ll get over you.

Sexually, it helped me feel I’m not alone. That I can be a feminist and a submissive. And that being perverted is okay.

 

[Farawyn]

Oh, and it also taught me boundaries.

If I say I don’t want you, friendship or otherwise, and you push that?
I will tell you... but if you persist? Then I’m gone.

 

[Violetvixen1]

Oh, and it also taught me boundaries.

If I say I don’t want you, friendship or otherwise, and you push that?
I will tell you... but if you persist? Then I’m gone.

I deeply appreciate this statement right here. Lit has taught me a lot about having good boundaries!

 

[Farawyn]

It has made me a lot more cautious and far less trusting then I ever thought I'd be. Which is sad, but it is what it is.

On the flip side I've made some great female friends.

That was fast. You just got here!

 

[ydahecnot]

She’s a start-anewer

 

[Farawyn]

She’s a start-anewer

A lot of that, lately.

 

[ydahecnot]

Really. I should return as a diaper boy

 

[greeneyedvirgin]

I made and lost a really good friend.

I don't really think I should go into details, they pretty much were expressed on his passing thread.

And if it wasn't for this place, he never would have came into my life.

I am stronger because of him and more confident.

 

[DarkSimian]

I have a love/hate relationship with Lit. I’ve never felt I “fit” and that is still the case but there is something that keeps me coming back.

Lit has brought me two beautiful, strong and real friendships that I take with me when I close the laptop or turn off the phone. That I KNOW will be forever.

It has made me less trusting than I was. I used to take people at their word but I now question almost every word. That’s not who I am at all and I have found it to be an incredibly challenging and draining way to spend ones time on Lit. I now (mostly) stay well within my walls and keep emotion, connections and people in check and at a distance.

It has also brought great joy and laughter and love and lots of fun.

Sexually it hasn’t really changed me, I am what I am.

It has touched my heart in both good and bad ways and I am incredibly thankful for both.

I do love this place but I’ve often wished I’d never stumbled in here that fateful day.

I know I don't interact with you all that much, but ^^^^^THIS sums up my feelings almost to a T.

Lit has brought me Kat73, and BFG, SSD, SB, MMW, and few others that are now a part of my "real world" life. I also have a few "Lit friends" that I know I can always count on, even when life is at it's darkest. For that, I will always be grateful.

Lit has opened my eyes, to new kinks and ideas that I thought would brand me a "freak". I've learned that sometimes the hardest part is asking the "right" question, and that with the right people, you can get the right answer.

But I've also learned that the attitudes and behaviors of high school never really leave some people. That there are still cliques, and "popular" kids, and bullies. And that my tolerance for such bullshit is growing much smaller. It makes lurking, and walking away, that much easier at times.