Tallulah's Thread. Fuck yeah.

This reminds me of the other day in the shop. A man and woman were walking together passed a big crate of Baileys and the guy slowed down and said something along the line of "Oh, Baileys, do you want some?" and she didn't slow down at all as she replied "No, I don't like it."

I hope they haven't been together long for him to not know this. :oops: :ROFLMAO:
 
Review of Christmas Day 2025:

Overall score 5/10

Good points:
The young people slept well, woke well, coped well, being happy with their gifts, and enjoying the dinner.
The dinner was good, plenty for everyone, served hot and mostly well received. No food items forgotten!
I managed a couple of hours reading in the morning.

Not so good points:
I slept badly (of course! Too excited haha).
Grandson (ADHD) struggled with the dinner and some of the socialising with the others. Only one moment of tears. Well done. :heart:
Less relaxing time than hoped. I'm not sure why. Time just poofed.
Husband had a bad day - impatient and irritable and overall moody. We had a talk once everyone left/dispersed, but the day is done so he can't take it back/make today better again.

I'm exhausted. Verging on teary - but I know this is just tiredness. So, I'm off to bed and hopefully will get a full night's sleep and feel my usual feisty self tomorrow.
 
Review of Christmas Day 2025:

Overall score 5/10

Good points:
The young people slept well, woke well, coped well, being happy with their gifts, and enjoying the dinner.
The dinner was good, plenty for everyone, served hot and mostly well received. No food items forgotten!
I managed a couple of hours reading in the morning.

Not so good points:
I slept badly (of course! Too excited haha).
Grandson (ADHD) struggled with the dinner and some of the socialising with the others. Only one moment of tears. Well done. :heart:
Less relaxing time than hoped. I'm not sure why. Time just poofed.
Husband had a bad day - impatient and irritable and overall moody. We had a talk once everyone left/dispersed, but the day is done so he can't take it back/make today better again.

I'm exhausted. Verging on teary - but I know this is just tiredness. So, I'm off to bed and hopefully will get a full night's sleep and feel my usual feisty self tomorrow.
Hoping for some quality rest
 
Review of Christmas Day 2025:

Overall score 5/10

Good points:
The young people slept well, woke well, coped well, being happy with their gifts, and enjoying the dinner.
The dinner was good, plenty for everyone, served hot and mostly well received. No food items forgotten!
I managed a couple of hours reading in the morning.

Not so good points:
I slept badly (of course! Too excited haha).
Grandson (ADHD) struggled with the dinner and some of the socialising with the others. Only one moment of tears. Well done. :heart:
Less relaxing time than hoped. I'm not sure why. Time just poofed.
Husband had a bad day - impatient and irritable and overall moody. We had a talk once everyone left/dispersed, but the day is done so he can't take it back/make today better again.

I'm exhausted. Verging on teary - but I know this is just tiredness. So, I'm off to bed and hopefully will get a full night's sleep and feel my usual feisty self tomorrow.
🫂🫂🫂🫂
 
Thank you 😘

On reflection, I should have probably rated it 6/10. Tiredness makes things feel worse than they are.

Whilst my husband has never been this way before (certainly not on Christmas Day or other important events), after the discussion we figured out where it stemmed from... two days before he'd visited his dad and let's just say that it's not a healthy relationship. We are low or no contact with most of his family. Christmas is one long-standing reason why.

I get frustrated at my husband not being able to self-reflect and identify what makes him act the way he does, it's only when we talk it through and I can tentatively suggest potential triggers that things become clearer for him.

Yesterday was super tiring for me as I spent the entire day trying to balance his mood out and counteract the impact. He's not a bad man at all, I feel like I need to stress this.

This is just another reason why I am strongly against people who try to force the notion that Christmas is a good enough excuse to 'ignore' the behaviours of toxic family members. People go no-contact or low-contact for good reasons that are good enough for themselves without having to justify it to others.

Today has been much better, he is back to his normal self. We've spent the day together reading. Quiet, peaceful, and comfortable. :heart:
 
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Thank you 😘

On reflection, I should have probably rated it 6/10. Tiredness makes things feel worse than they are.

Whilst my husband has never been this way before (certainly not on Christmas Day or other important events), after the discussion we figured out where it stemmed from... two days before he'd visited his dad and let's just say that it's not a healthy relationship. We are low or no contact with most of his family. Christmas is one long-standing reason why.

I get frustrated at my husband not being able to self-reflect and identify what makes him act the way he does, it's only when we talk it through and I can tentatively suggest potential triggers that things become clearer for him.

Yesterday was super tiring for me as I spent the entire day trying to balance his mood out and counteract the impact. He's not a bad man at all, I feel like I need to stress this.

This is just another reason why I am strongly against people who try to force the notion that Christmas is a good enough excuse to 'ignore' toxic family members. People go no-contact or low-contact for good reasons that are good enough for themselves without having to justify it to others.

Today has been much better, he is back to his normal self. We've spent the day together reading. Quiet, peaceful, and comfortable. :heart:
🫂🫂🫂
 
Thank you 😘

On reflection, I should have probably rated it 6/10. Tiredness makes things feel worse than they are.

Whilst my husband has never been this way before (certainly not on Christmas Day or other important events), after the discussion we figured out where it stemmed from... two days before he'd visited his dad and let's just say that it's not a healthy relationship. We are low or no contact with most of his family. Christmas is one long-standing reason why.

I get frustrated at my husband not being able to self-reflect and identify what makes him act the way he does, it's only when we talk it through and I can tentatively suggest potential triggers that things become clearer for him.

Yesterday was super tiring for me as I spent the entire day trying to balance his mood out and counteract the impact. He's not a bad man at all, I feel like I need to stress this.

This is just another reason why I am strongly against people who try to force the notion that Christmas is a good enough excuse to 'ignore' toxic family members. People go no-contact or low-contact for good reasons that are good enough for themselves without having to justify it to others.

Today has been much better, he is back to his normal self. We've spent the day together reading. Quiet, peaceful, and comfortable. :heart:
🫂
Glad you're working through some difficult times.
 
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Glad you're working through some difficult times.
Thank you.

He was in therapy a couple of years ago due to his family. He mentioned that maybe he shouldn't have stopped it. We'll be looking at this again.

Some of the worst moments in our marriage has been when he's acted like his dad... but I can see it, I can say it, and once past the initial upset/anger of such an accusation, he does reflect and work on it. It's his greatest fear that sometimes seems inevitable but I know he won't stop fighting it.
 
Thank you.

He was in therapy a couple of years ago due to his family. He mentioned that maybe he shouldn't have stopped it. We'll be looking at this again.

Some of the worst moments in our marriage has been when he's acted like his dad... but I can see it, I can say it, and once past the initial upset/anger of such an accusation, he does reflect and work on it. It's his greatest fear that sometimes seems inevitable but I know he won't stop fighting it.
🫂🫂🫂🫂
 
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