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Scalywag said:Hi, this is what I posted in silverwhisper's poll thread about favorite musical act and pretty much sums it up.:
I don't listen to music as much as I would prefer...there always seems to be a TV on here somewhere (and I'm getting tired of all the so called reality shows) and I usually can't sit down long enough to put on a set of headphones and listen.
But I do strongly agree that music can be a mood changer. The week has been well and the weather has been great. Thanks for asking.
you're most welcome.
You should always try and make time for you. Even with little things. Music, if it soothes you, should be something you should try to set aside time for. Even just a few minutes.
I have to have it. It plays on my desk at work. In the sound system in the building, here on my pc and in my car. I don't know what I'd do without it.
I hope you had a great day!
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I'm in my blue period.VermilionSkye said:I missed you today.
I like yours, too.AND the av.
http://www.nightclubcity.com/forum/images/smilies/Hug3.gif
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awww I like that gif, baby.quoll said:
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VermilionSkye said:awww I like that gif, baby.
Almost too cute though.http://www.nightclubcity.com/forum/images/smilies/buddies.gif
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Thank you for this... it made me cry.
I looked in the mirror
and what did I see?
I saw a shadow
of who I used to be.
Someone who was cheerful
and happy to live,
love overflowing,
with so much to give.
Maybe not pretty,
but a bit fair of face,
Who loved to seize life,
within her embrace.
She loved to be singing,
and so loved to dance,
head in the clouds,
and full of romance.
Things happened in life,
that had caused her much grief,
and so in return,
it had caused disbelief.
But there always remained
a small flicker of hope,
and that flicker in turn,
is what helped her to cope.
The flicker grew brighter
with each passing day,
the light it put forth
kept the darkness at bay.
She began to crawl out
of the shell she was in,
and in towards the light
where she should have been.
I cleaned off the mirror,
and I took one more peek,
and see now the future
isn't really so bleak.
I'll keep looking in it,
til the day that I see,
that the shadow is gone,
and I'm finally free.
I looked in the mirror
and what did I see?
I saw a shadow
of who I used to be.
Someone who was cheerful
and happy to live,
love overflowing,
with so much to give.
Maybe not pretty,
but a bit fair of face,
Who loved to seize life,
within her embrace.
She loved to be singing,
and so loved to dance,
head in the clouds,
and full of romance.
Things happened in life,
that had caused her much grief,
and so in return,
it had caused disbelief.
But there always remained
a small flicker of hope,
and that flicker in turn,
is what helped her to cope.
The flicker grew brighter
with each passing day,
the light it put forth
kept the darkness at bay.
She began to crawl out
of the shell she was in,
and in towards the light
where she should have been.
I cleaned off the mirror,
and I took one more peek,
and see now the future
isn't really so bleak.
I'll keep looking in it,
til the day that I see,
that the shadow is gone,
and I'm finally free.
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Why is it that those most important to you are some times the hardest to speak to or mend things with?
Do you ever get to a point in your life with the ones who have wronged you, that you just completely stopped talking to them, cut them out of your life? I mean after you've just taken all you wish to take and they just kill any kind of feelings you may have for them.
I'm not talking about just s/o's or spouses, but close family and what would seem to be friends.
Has anyone ever done this as a way of self preservation?
Did you ever come to a point in life where you felt you might be able to let them in again?
Do you ever get to a point in your life with the ones who have wronged you, that you just completely stopped talking to them, cut them out of your life? I mean after you've just taken all you wish to take and they just kill any kind of feelings you may have for them.
I'm not talking about just s/o's or spouses, but close family and what would seem to be friends.
Has anyone ever done this as a way of self preservation?
Did you ever come to a point in life where you felt you might be able to let them in again?
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VermilionSkye said:
I actually find this very easy to do. If someone has wronged me repeatedly, even after I have made efforts at reconciliation I can just cut them from my life without another thought. I don't see a need to try and be friends with everyone I have ever known or being involved with, or whatever the circumstance. On the other hand, the friends I do have, are lifelong, and I will go out of my way to see their point of view and work out any disagreements.
I think the start of any friendship/relationship gives you your best clues as to whether it will be a longterm friendship or not. There are no guarantees of course, but I know with my friends, that even if I only see them once or twice a year, some even less the bond is still there. Those that I don't have in my life anymore were people who I generally felt some unease with right from the start.
Family, yep done that too, haven't completety wiped them, but I don't keep in touch with most of them and the longer it has been the better I feel about it.
Sort of wandered off a bit there hon.The way I look at it is that if someone is repeatedly causing you harm in any form (not talking minor disagreements or misunderstandings) then you need to cut them out of your life, otherwise you are giving them permission to continue hurting you. For me to forgive someone who has repeatedly hurt me I would need to see a huge difference in that person, you trust your friends to care for you and violation of trust is one of the hardest things to forgive.
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It's sad to me at how easily I am letting people go in my life. I've just gotten to a place in my life where I just can't take it or want it ( hurt, humiliation) anymore.quoll said:I actually find this very easy to do. If someone has wronged me repeatedly, even after I have made efforts at reconciliation I can just cut them from my life without another thought. I don't see a need to try and be friends with everyone I have ever known or being involved with, or whatever the circumstance. On the other hand, the friends I do have, are lifelong, and I will go out of my way to see their point of view and work out any disagreements.
I think the start of any friendship/relationship gives you your best clues as to whether it will be a longterm friendship or not. There are no guarantees of course, but I know with my friends, that even if I only see them once or twice a year, some even less the bond is still there. Those that I don't have in my life anymore where people who I generally felt some unease with right from the start.
Family, yep done that too, haven't completety wiped them, but I don't keep in touch with most of them and the longer it has been the better I feel about it.
The way I look at it is that if someone is repeatedly causing you harm in any form (not talking minor disagreements or misunderstandings) then you need to cut them out of your life, otherwise you are giving them permission to continue hurting you. For me to forgive someone who has repeatedly hurt me I would need to see a huge difference in that person, you trust your friends to care for you and violation of trust is one of the hardest things to forgive.
And I realize even more, how much they really DON'T care, even family because I never hear from them. Even after I have made contact. You get this fake look and loose hug and fake "Oh, I've missed you! I love you!" and then nothing. So I just stop. Cut them loose. I'm done.
I've gotten tired of promises ( and you know who I'm talking about ) and not getting even common courtesy back.
So, I'm kind of in this 'fuck it' mode.
>feisty<
People wonder why there is so much violence, depression, hate, and anger and anxiety. Because no one out there seems to actually give a fuck. Even those that are supposed to be family. I hate fake ' I love yous " and fake shows of caring. Kids are so screwed up because no one has time or makes the time to show what love and caring is. What is right or wrong. Or even spend a few moments and talk at the end of the day.
People, it only takes 5 minutes to show someone you care.
Hello Skye,
I can relate to how you're feeling. I'm letting relationships become more distant alot lately. I skipped my family reunion this year. I just wasn't up for the same old routine. I have been in a funky mood for years and the longer I go the worse it seems to get. I'm looking for a relationship and need to make new friends but I never seem to have the energy. Or maybe I just don't care. Or I do care but don't take action.
I have tried therapy and have taken most of the anti-depression meds available and nothing has changed. I read all the posts by people here and can relate to so many of them. I just don't know anymore. I could rant on and on but its just frustrating. I really don't know what it takes to recover.
I play the when/then game constantly. When I feel better then I'll take action. The problem is the feeling better only comes after the action. And when I do take action for some reason I don't allow myself to experience the joy. It is like I am emotionally numb. I stay isolated so people don't see what's really going on. We only have some much time in life and it is sad to let so much go by without appreciating what we have. I really don't know anymore. Something needs to change soon. I hope.
I can relate to how you're feeling. I'm letting relationships become more distant alot lately. I skipped my family reunion this year. I just wasn't up for the same old routine. I have been in a funky mood for years and the longer I go the worse it seems to get. I'm looking for a relationship and need to make new friends but I never seem to have the energy. Or maybe I just don't care. Or I do care but don't take action.
I have tried therapy and have taken most of the anti-depression meds available and nothing has changed. I read all the posts by people here and can relate to so many of them. I just don't know anymore. I could rant on and on but its just frustrating. I really don't know what it takes to recover.
I play the when/then game constantly. When I feel better then I'll take action. The problem is the feeling better only comes after the action. And when I do take action for some reason I don't allow myself to experience the joy. It is like I am emotionally numb. I stay isolated so people don't see what's really going on. We only have some much time in life and it is sad to let so much go by without appreciating what we have. I really don't know anymore. Something needs to change soon. I hope.
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It's so good seeing you here, sweetheart. So good.hook848 said:
Do you ever feel hurt at all? Sadness? It's when you don't that you should really really worry. Please don't let it get to where you feel absolutely nothing at all. I will always be a PM or IM away.
Thank you Skye.VermilionSkye said:It's so good seeing you here, sweetheart. So good.
Do you ever feel hurt at all? Sadness? It's when you don't that you should really really worry. Please don't let it get to where you feel absolutely nothing at all. I will always be a PM or IM away.
I still have strong feelings for many things in life. Sometimes my emotions are closer to the surface than a lot of people show. Seeing people I love in pain, physically or emotionally, can really bother me. The irony is it must bother them to see me in pain and not living life to the fullest as well.
I think my biggest problem is social anxiety. I have been through several traumatic separations from close friends growing up and as a younger man. So I stopped putting myself out socially. I can't get hurt if I don't get close. My self-confidence took a hit and I just haven't bounced back yet.
I have a good life and a lot going for me. When I work or get involved with something that interests me I can be a real go-getter. I do well in a structured environment or a professional setting. It is the down times and the social aspect where I struggle. Unfortunately those times can last for years and I've been that way for some time now. Much of that time has been spent here at Lit. Not exactly productive but it fills a void.
Like so many others here I just haven't broken out of the depression. I think people can relate to the fact that knowing what is good for us and actually doing something about it isn't always easy. No magic answers here but it helps to let it out. Thanks for being here.
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you are so welcome, Hook.hook848 said:Thank you Skye.
I still have strong feelings for many things in life. Sometimes my emotions are closer to the surface than a lot of people show. Seeing people I love in pain, physically or emotionally, can really bother me. The irony is it must bother them to see me in pain and not living life to the fullest as well.
I think my biggest problem is social anxiety. I have been through several traumatic separations from close friends growing up and as a younger man. So I stopped putting myself out socially. I can't get hurt if I don't get close. My self-confidence took a hit and I just haven't bounced back yet.
I have a good life and a lot going for me. When I work or get involved with something that interests me I can be a real go-getter. I do well in a structured environment or a professional setting. It is the down times and the social aspect where I struggle. Unfortunately those times can last for years and I've been that way for some time now. Much of that time has been spent here at Lit. Not exactly productive but it fills a void.
Like so many others here I just haven't broken out of the depression. I think people can relate to the fact that knowing what is good for us and actually doing something about it isn't always easy. No magic answers here but it helps to let it out. Thanks for being here.
And yes, there are many here like you. Myself included. And as you can see by my last few posts, I feel it's easier just staying here than trying to get closer to anyone. It's nice being cheerful and friendly. But lately, I can't seem to give much more than that. Just I dunno, getting used to things that I shouldn't.
I'm thankful for my job as well. It's the only way I interact with most. And not a soul sees anything wrong. I'm kind of glad.
I hope you come here often or even visit Quoll's thread. I'm just happy to have you here.
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Thank you for posting that, Scalywag.
I'm doing ok. I have my moments.
But I wanted to make this post to some of my friends here who are worrying.
Just because you see me posting and writing does not always mean I am in the mood to talk. It's not anything anyone has done. But don't you go through times when you just wish to be alone or not always wish gab or talk?
Well, now is one of those times for me.
And my friends should know I would come to you if I was truly dire and in need.
So please stop worrying. But thank you for caring and asking and being there when I need you.
this is my 20,000th post wooohoo!
I'm doing ok. I have my moments.
But I wanted to make this post to some of my friends here who are worrying.
Just because you see me posting and writing does not always mean I am in the mood to talk. It's not anything anyone has done. But don't you go through times when you just wish to be alone or not always wish gab or talk?
Well, now is one of those times for me.
And my friends should know I would come to you if I was truly dire and in need.
So please stop worrying. But thank you for caring and asking and being there when I need you.
this is my 20,000th post wooohoo!
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