suggestions, pretty please...

[JustSkye]

Skye Hon, it`s been a long time since you needed this thread, but I think now might be a good time for you to have another look.

We can look back at the past.
We can dream about the future.
But it is the now that we live in.
Now is where our answers lie.
Now is the time to face our fears.

Don`t be afraid to let loose your tears.
Look deep inside to who hides there.
This is were your love lies.
You are the most important thing in your life

when I have a best friend like you, the hurt is easy to deal with.

 

[MercyMia]

hi skye,

when i feel myself on the verge of fatigue, if i have the luxury of privacy, i lie down and do relaxation meditation. it's a lot easier that it sounds. if i tell myself i'm going to take a nap, then i feel pressured to fall asleep and a lot of times, i can't. relaxation meditation for me means lying down in as dark a room as possible and making sure my entire body is relaxed. i check for points of tension and release them. then i let my mind go blank. at first, random thoughts and worries will pop up but instead of trying to shut them out, i watch them float away and let them just go...

this evening, i took a 10 minute meditation and felt really recharged...as if i had just dipped into a cool pool of refreshing water after a long, hot day.

hugs to you,
mia

 

[RedIntense]

This happens to me regularly, and I fear my solution is not plausible to most.

When I get overwhelmed by life, which happens every year or year and a half, I have to uproot myself and start fresh. New place, new life. I simply cannot stay in one place very long or I get dangerously depressed.

I don't always do a complete geographical change, although I'd like to. But its obviously not entirely realistic. Sometimes I'll just move into a new apartment.

I've actually lived in DC now for 4 years, which both terrifies and amazes me. Although I did leave for 6 months to live in Chile. And I moved around within DC.

I need constant change, which is why I am looking for a solid job with a lot of traveling. It definately gets harder as I am getting old and it is not as easy to just up and leave. Sometimes just a 2 or 3 day roadtrip to nowhere will also refresh me. Just to get away.

Just goes to show how uncomfortable I am getting too attached to anything or anyone.

 

[Guest]

Have you ever been tired? I mean just tired. Not physically tired, but tired of it all? I'm struggling more and more to get through every day. I was on an antidepressant for over a year and went off it. That was almost 4 years ago.
I have since left my husband and moved on on my own. My entire life has been a struggle. And it seems to be catching up to me to the point I feel like I'm drowning and can't swim anymore and just feel like slipping away.
My children are the only things in life that keep me going.

I have a career that is slowly taking off. And I like it alot. My predicament is this...

I want to do something about it. I don't want to be this way. But I cannot afford the cost of a doctor or the meds right now and need to know if anyone out here in Lit land can suggest something they have tried with some success and pass it my way. I cannot keep going like this.


Please.


Any help would be greatly appreciated.

This made me very sad to read. Without going through my own personal story, I would advice anyone to be very careful taking anti-depressants. It can make your situation worse, and it seems that many skrinks are just throwing these types of drugs to people who really just need to talk to someone, to learn how to cope, relax, and how to live life stress free.

My heart goes out to you.

(((hugs)))

 

[JustSkye]

hi skye,

when i feel myself on the verge of fatigue, if i have the luxury of privacy, i lie down and do relaxation meditation. it's a lot easier that it sounds. if i tell myself i'm going to take a nap, then i feel pressured to fall asleep and a lot of times, i can't. relaxation meditation for me means lying down in as dark a room as possible and making sure my entire body is relaxed. i check for points of tension and release them. then i let my mind go blank. at first, random thoughts and worries will pop up but instead of trying to shut them out, i watch them float away and let them just go...

this evening, i took a 10 minute meditation and felt really recharged...as if i had just dipped into a cool pool of refreshing water after a long, hot day.

hugs to you,
mia

Wow, Mia. I really like the way you described this. I may have to give it a try. But I have a feeling at the end of the day when I am stressed and tired, I may lay down and try relaxing and just fall asleep. Hard. I have been coming home these last few days and my body has wanted to sleep so bad but it's too early. And I find if I don't let it happen, I develope a headache or become nauseous.
I would love learn a good form of meditation.
I hope things are better for you. I know life is not easy for you as well.

 

[JustSkye]

This happens to me regularly, and I fear my solution is not plausible to most.

When I get overwhelmed by life, which happens every year or year and a half, I have to uproot myself and start fresh. New place, new life. I simply cannot stay in one place very long or I get dangerously depressed.

I don't always do a complete geographical change, although I'd like to. But its obviously not entirely realistic. Sometimes I'll just move into a new apartment.

I've actually lived in DC now for 4 years, which both terrifies and amazes me. Although I did leave for 6 months to live in Chile. And I moved around within DC.

I need constant change, which is why I am looking for a solid job with a lot of traveling. It definately gets harder as I am getting old and it is not as easy to just up and leave. Sometimes just a 2 or 3 day roadtrip to nowhere will also refresh me. Just to get away.

Just goes to show how uncomfortable I am getting too attached to anything or anyone.

I hope someday you find peace in your life where your heart and soul can rest in one place for a long time and truly enjoy it. I know it can be very hard. How you work in a relationship into all that?

 

[JustSkye]

This made me very sad to read. Without going through my own personal story, I would advice anyone to be very careful taking anti-depressants. It can make your situation worse, and it seems that many skrinks are just throwing these types of drugs to people who really just need to talk to someone, to learn how to cope, relax, and how to live life stress free.

My heart goes out to you.

(((hugs)))

Thank you for being here and writing to me. The friendships I have made here with regards to this has been simply wonderful. My best friend lifts me up even when I don't realize I need it. He's always there for me when I need it the most and even when we just need to 'be'.
I couldn't have made it I don't think in the last few months without him. He's walked me through some very bad nights.
I have been trying to stay away from medication. But my thyroid is messed up as well. And I think that has been a huge factor in my depression. I have a prescrip now and hopefully it will start to right things for me. But if it comes to be that I need the medication for my depression, that will be there too. I don't want to take it if I don't have to.
If you ever feel the need to talk or rant and rave, please stop by and do it here or in Quoll's thread in the HT cafe. There are so many wonderful, caring people here. More than many realize.

 

[Quoll]

 

[JustSkye]

wow, that feels wonderful

 

[gators1usa]

Ok, I get it...

 

[Guest]

Thank you for being here and writing to me. The friendships I have made here with regards to this has been simply wonderful. My best friend lifts me up even when I don't realize I need it. He's always there for me when I need it the most and even when we just need to 'be'.
I couldn't have made it I don't think in the last few months without him. He's walked me through some very bad nights.
I have been trying to stay away from medication. But my thyroid is messed up as well. And I think that has been a huge factor in my depression. I have a prescrip now and hopefully it will start to right things for me. But if it comes to be that I need the medication for my depression, that will be there too. I don't want to take it if I don't have to.
If you ever feel the need to talk or rant and rave, please stop by and do it here or in Quoll's thread in the HT cafe. There are so many wonderful, caring people here. More than many realize.

You're very welcome.

I have heard about thyroid problems messing with the emotions. I just hope the doctor doesn't over-prescribe. That stuff scares me the most.

Hey, I've gotta comment about your "sig". I absolutely love it!
Hoot, hoot!

Take care of yourself!
sal~

 

[JustSkye]

You're very welcome.

I have heard about thyroid problems messing with the emotions. I just hope the doctor doesn't over-prescribe. That stuff scares me the most.

Hey, I've gotta comment about your "sig". I absolutely love it!
Hoot, hoot!

Take care of yourself!
sal~

With regards to thyroid, in most cases lots of docs underprescribe and the patients don't always get the results they should. But the thyroid effects everything. Short term memory, the way your brain and most other organ metabolize things. It effects your hair, skin, weight. Causes mood swings, fatigue, insomnia, and depression. Soooo many things. That's why I want to wait it out and see if the thyroid pills will help level things out. I don't wish to take depression prescrips if not necessary.

And thank you for the compliment. You're so very sweet.

 

[miss_kate]

Sweety, you have to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about the person you are.

Remind yourself that you are a beautiful person on the inside and out.

We all go through hardships- and those of us who make it through the otherside are better people for it.

Just take the time to step back and... breath

 

[Quoll]

Sweety, you have to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about the person you are.

Remind yourself that you are a beautiful person on the inside and out. We all go through hardships- and those of us who make it through the otherside are better people for it. Just take the time to step back and... breath

*Ahem* Oh Skye Hon^^^^^ Now were have we heard this before.

Thank you miss_kate

 

[MercyMia]

Wow, Mia. I really like the way you described this. I may have to give it a try. But I have a feeling at the end of the day when I am stressed and tired, I may lay down and try relaxing and just fall asleep. Hard. I have been coming home these last few days and my body has wanted to sleep so bad but it's too early. And I find if I don't let it happen, I develope a headache or become nauseous.
I would love learn a good form of meditation.
I hope things are better for you. I know life is not easy for you as well.

Hi Skye,

Ugh, I understand that falling asleep at the wrong time can upset your circadian cycle. So, yeah, you'd have to use the relaxation pretty carefully, especially near the end of the day.

For me, meditation means getting my mind off the circular track of worries. One form is that slow, gentle breathing, the other is letting my mind slowly shut down. Another is to do stretches while simultaneously banishing thought. I've learned to shut down my mind (not really that hard to do), sometimes by focusing on one single visual point like a spot on the wall or a toy on the floor. Meditation for me is about steadying my inner self. I'll look up my notes and see if I can find other ways to meditate. They're really pretty simple.

Thanks for your warm sympathy, Skye. You're the bestl.


Mia

 

[kendo1]

Hi Skye
I've been reading your thread.You sound like a really nice person.
I found that the dancing bananas cheered me up.
Have a great day.

 

[JustSkye]

Hi Skye
I've been reading your thread.You sound like a really nice person.
I found that the dancing bananas cheered me up.
Have a great day.

thank you, kendo! stop by any time

 

[Dhalgren150]

If I may offer something that helps me..
I am simple man.. so this is simple thing.

I take off my shoes and plant my feet on the mother earth.. and look up at the sky or at the stars and know how mighty this life is to me.. but also know how i am in the total scheme of things just a piece.. connected to more pieces.... making a whole.

this brings me back to the feeling that all things matter.

so speaks the humble Druid.

 

[kendo1]

Still dancing

 

[JustSkye]

........

 

[kendo1]

Hello again

 

[JustSkye]

Hello again

hello to you, too! I hope you're doing well.

 

[kendo1]

Still here
Still dancing
Hey! I'm experienced. I didn't know
We seem to have a time problem : I'm BST
Goodnight!

 

[JustSkye]

Still here
Still dancing
Hey! I'm experienced. I didn't know
We seem to have a time problem : I'm BST
Goodnight!

Hello to you! Nice to see a face with the nick. And no worries about the time problem. Hope you are well!

 

[hornygirl]

I've felt the same way so many times. I really dont have an answer to make it go away. I still feel "overwhelmed by life" often.

I've never tried the medication route. If it did help you, maybe where you are from there are some type of programs that can assist you or pay for the cost.

I hope you can find more peace than stress in your life. I dont know you other than from the boards, but if you ever feel desperate feel free to PM me to just chat through it.

Everytime I feel overwhelmed it does usually lessen with a little time, and Delurker helps alot by just being there. Talking me through it and just listening to me vent.

I guess just focus on the good things in your life. Your kids, your new career, your new independence, any hobbies you might have. I know for me usually when I am busy and my focus is my job (I am very good at it) and my relationship with Delurker it helps me get past the low points to see things in a different perspective.

I hope by this post you are finding yourself in a better place. Good luck and take care of yourself.