suggestions, pretty please...

[JustSkye]

I knew that.

And now you do too.

Thanks to you and lots of eye openers!

 

[plasticman33]

you know...


I have learned the hard way who friends can be. A total stranger took me by the hand so to speak and walked me through such sad time. And friends that I worry about, care for, love, etc; can't ever be found.

And when no one else is ever around is the only time some of them come to me anymore. And it hurts. I deserve better.


I have been cutting loose those who are fairweather. It fucking hurts. And when I do, I feel guilty as hell. But do they feel guilty for treating others the way they do? Being a last minute replacement for someone else? Wanting to talk when ( god forbid ) they have absolutely nothing better do or better to speak to? I'm tired of it.

And god forbid someone feel sad or down... folks run for the fucking hills and don't want to be bothered.

For those of you who have gone through this or live with it everyday, I'm sorry. YOU deserve better.
Fuck'em all.

You deserve nothing but the best. I hope to be able to give you that.

 

[JustSkye]

I have decided to start using St.John's Wort soon. Going to the doc for a check-up soon, too.

Lots of stuff today. Made my mind up on a lot of things that need to be done.

I'm getting this mindset, that once a decision is in place, I don't think I'll be changing my mind about it. Too much stuff has shone through and been made clear. LOTS of emotions and stuff. But change is always something that brings us out of our comfort zones. And in the end, for the most part, it's always good.

 

[JustSkye]

She came calling
One early morning
She showed her crown of thorns
She whispered softly
To tell her story
About how she had been wronged
As she lay lifeless
He stole her innocence
And this is how she carried on
this is how she carried on
Well I guess she closed her eyes
And just imagined everything's alright
But she could not hide her tears
'Cause they were sent to wash away those years
They were sent to wash away those years
My anger's violent
But still I'm silent
When tradegy strikes at home
I know this decadence
Is shared by millions
Remember you're not alone
Remember you're not alone

Well if you'll just close your eyes
And just imagine everythings alright
But do not hide your tears
'Cause they were sent to wash away those years
Well if you'll just close your eyes
And just imagine everythings alright
But do not hide your tears
'Cause they were sent to wash away those years
They were sent to wash away those years
Maybe we can wash away those years

For we have crossed many oceans
And we've labored in between
In life there are many quotients
An I hope I find the mean

Well if you'll just close your eyes
And just imagine everythings alright
But do not hide your tears
'Cause they were sent to wash away those years
Well if you'll just close your eyes
And just imagine everythings alright
But do not hide your tears
'Cause they were sent to wash away those years

Maybe we can wash away those years
I hope that you can wash away those years

 

[Winemaster]

the vitamins

Hey, St. John's wort...it will only be a crutch....start doing some of the suggestions...I believe "doing" is more important than sitting and waiting for something to happen.

 

[Quoll]

Skye Hon,
What can I say, once again you have proven yourself a woman of your word.

Thank you seems so inadequate.

 

[JustSkye]

Re: the vitamins

Hey, St. John's wort...it will only be a crutch....start doing some of the suggestions...I believe "doing" is more important than sitting and waiting for something to happen.

I am doing... making changes in my life and getting rid of things that bring me down.

 

[JustSkye]

Skye Hon,
What can I say, once again you have proved yourself a woman of your word.

Thank you seems so inadequate.

hmmm what did I do??

 

[Quoll]

hmmm what did I do??

More than you were ever asked.

More than I ever expected.

So much strength.

So much more.

 

[Quoll]

Unsung Hero
Tina Arena
(In Deep)

You sit in silence in the shadows
You don't complain or citicise
And while the world may see me as a fool
They're not looking through your eyes
No questions asked
You're there
When I need you
With a love that inspires
Me to be
Everything you deserve
Cause you're my
Unsung hero
And I know it's not easy
To walk in your shoes
Day after day
You continue to amaze me
Now I sing this song of love
For you
While other long to steal the spotlight
You work your magic quietly
Cause you're not in it for the glory
The love you give comes naturally
I may not have much
What I have
I give it to you
This song that I sing
Is my gift
And I swear that I mean every word
Cause you're my
Unsung hero
And I know it's not easy
To walk in your shoes
Day after day
You continue to amaze me
Now I sing this song of love
For you
My unsung hero
And I know it's not easy
To walk in your shoes
Day after day
You continue to amaze me
Now I sing this song of love
For you
Now I sing this song of love
For you
Sing this song of love
Sing this song of love
I'll sing it for you baby
Sing it for you
You are my hero

 

[JustSkye]

Unsung Hero
Tina Arena
(In Deep)

You sit in silence in the shadows
You don't complain or citicise
And while the world may see me as a fool
They're not looking through your eyes
No questions asked
You're there
When I need you
With a love that inspires
Me to be
Everything you deserve
Cause you're my
Unsung hero
And I know it's not easy
To walk in your shoes
Day after day
You continue to amaze me
Now I sing this song of love
For you
While other long to steal the spotlight
You work your magic quietly
Cause you're not in it for the glory
The love you give comes naturally
I may not have much
What I have
I give it to you
This song that I sing
Is my gift
And I swear that I mean every word
Cause you're my
Unsung hero
And I know it's not easy
To walk in your shoes
Day after day
You continue to amaze me
Now I sing this song of love
For you
My unsung hero
And I know it's not easy
To walk in your shoes
Day after day
You continue to amaze me
Now I sing this song of love
For you
Now I sing this song of love
For you
Sing this song of love
Sing this song of love
I'll sing it for you baby
Sing it for you
You are my hero

Omgoodness! Wow. *blushing profusely!* Thank you thank you thank you.....

 

[smy3th]

Bibliotherapy

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[Lynxie]

Re: Bibliotherapy

Dying is more expensive and even less convenient.

I don't mean this to be insulting at all - smy3th's post is really great advice. But at 4:45am when I'm having one of my insomniac moments, this quote looks pretty funny in isolation. Dying - life's biggest inconvenience! I'll say.

I really need to find the motivation to go see my doctor...this whole anxiety-inspired insomnia thing is going to get me in trouble one of these days. *sigh*

 

[Quoll]

Re: Re: Bibliotherapy

I don't mean this to be insulting at all - smy3th's post is really great advice. But at 4:45am when I'm having one of my insomniac moments, this quote looks pretty funny in isolation. Dying - life's biggest inconvenience! I'll say.

I really need to find the motivation to go see my doctor...this whole anxiety-inspired insomnia thing is going to get me in trouble one of these days. *sigh*

Perhaps if it stops you making terrible jokes at 4.45 am ,. Surely that is good inspiration. Terrible jokes should be made after 6.am.

How are you coping Lynxie.

 

[Lynxie]

Re: Re: Re: Bibliotherapy

Perhaps if it stops you making terrible jokes at 4.45 am ,. Surely that is good inspiration. Terrible jokes should be made after 6.am.

How are you coping Lynxie.

6am. Got it. My apologies

I'm coping well enough. Starting to come to terms with the fact that things aren't going to get much better unless I see a doc and get back on some form of medication...hopefully I'll work up the nerve to call and get an appointment this week.

 

[Quoll]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Bibliotherapy

6am. Got it. My apologies

I'm coping well enough. Starting to come to terms with the fact that things aren't going to get much better unless I see a doc and get back on some form of medication...hopefully I'll work up the nerve to call and get an appointment this week.

{{{{{{Lynxie}}}}}} At least the meds can give you a break from feeling this way. Can you get your SO to make the appointment for you? I often found I could put it out of my mind then, for a while anyway.
Hope it goes well for you.

 

[Lynxie]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Bibliotherapy

{{{{{{Lynxie}}}}}} At least the meds can give you a break from feeling this way. Can you get your SO to make the appointment for you? I often found I could put it out of my mind then, for a while anyway.
Hope it goes well for you.

Yeah, I was actually thinking it might be easiest to ask him to call for me. If the appointment's already booked, I'll go. After I went off prozac the last time, I swore I'd never go back on meds. But I'm coming to terms with the fact that I'm not going to get through this without them. I just need to find a non-SSRI that will work for me - I can't deal with the side effects that paxil and prozac give me. But I've done my homework, and I know there are lots of other types of meds out there for anxiety and depression. I'm willing to give it another try and see if I can find one that helps me.

 

[Quoll]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Bibliotherapy

Yeah, I was actually thinking it might be easiest to ask him to call for me. If the appointment's already booked, I'll go. After I went off prozac the last time, I swore I'd never go back on meds. But I'm coming to terms with the fact that I'm not going to get through this without them. I just need to find a non-SSRI that will work for me - I can't deal with the side effects that paxil and prozac give me. But I've done my homework, and I know there are lots of other types of meds out there for anxiety and depression. I'm willing to give it another try and see if I can find one that helps me.

I really hope there is something that works for you, this thing is bad enough without the added hassles of meds not working.
Hang in there Hon.

 

[smy3th]

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[Quoll]

Hey, St. John's wort...it will only be a crutch....start doing some of the suggestions...I believe "doing" is more important than sitting and waiting for something to happen.

Yep, St Johns Wort or any other med is a crutch, but then again would you try to walk on a broken leg witout one.

For some, positive thinking and all the self help tricks work great.
But...there are those who simply cannot function without some form of medication, it may not be an ideal situation, then again locking yourself away from everyone and everything, or potentoal suicide is not either.
If taking something can get you back out into the light then it should not be discounted just because of some stigma around anti-depressants.

 

[MercyMia]

Hello,

Apologies if this has been covered in a previous post. I haven't read the entire thread. When I find myself feeling so worn out spiritually that it affects my body (dragging feet, drooping shoulders, aching back), I sit in my favorite armchair (in a quiet corner) with my feet up on the ottoman and take six very deep SLOW breaths. While I'm doing the breathing, I monitor my body from head to toe for any tightness (tensed muscles) and release the tension. It doesn't fix anything permanently but it really ease the feeling of deep ingrained tiredness for a few moments and often, that is just enough to get me through. I learned this technique from a book by a Vietnamese Buddhist monk (The Miracle of Mindfulness). It has gotten me through many tough times. It's simple and you can do it (with some adjustment) while in public places (like at work, as long as you're not a brain surgeon during an operation, ha ha ha!) or even standing in line at the grocery checkout.

Tiredness can color the way we feel and distort our perception of reality.


Mia

 

[Quoll]

Hello,

Apologies if this has been covered in a previous post. I haven't read the entire thread. When I find myself feeling so worn out spiritually that it affects my body (dragging feet, drooping shoulders, aching back), I sit in my favorite armchair (in a quiet corner) with my feet up on the ottoman and take six very deep SLOW breaths. While I'm doing the breathing, I monitor my body from head to toe for any tightness (tensed muscles) and release the tension. It doesn't fix anything permanently but it really ease the feeling of deep ingrained tiredness for a few moments and often, that is just enough to get me through. I learned this technique from a book by a Vietnamese Buddhist monk (The Miracle of Mindfulness). It has gotten me through many tough times. It's simple and you can do it (with some adjustment) while in public places (like at work, as long as you're not a brain surgeon during an operation, ha ha ha!) or even standing in line at the grocery checkout.

Tiredness can color the way we feel and distort our perception of reality.


Mia

I need to learn this, everytime one of the kids comes into our bed I wake up with every muscle in my back locked tight, it takes about two hours for them to come back to normal, not to mention the accompanying headache.
Thanks Mia

 

[toto11]

I, like many others have lived through these down times. Treatment can cost a lot and I have never been a fan of drugs. There are in most cities and towns support groups. These groups let you know that you are not alone. Sitting and talking with others that have gone through depression can be very helpful.

It has helped me through difficult times.

 

[Quoll]

Skye Hon, it`s been a long time since you needed this thread, but I think now might be a good time for you to have another look.

We can look back at the past.
We can dream about the future.
But it is the now that we live in.
Now is where our answers lie.
Now is the time to face our fears.

Don`t be afraid to let loose your tears.
Look deep inside to who hides there.
This is were your love lies.
You are the most important thing in your life

 

[coolr]

exercise is free, and it's always helped me get away from things, nothing can touch you when you're out there running, sound of the wind and trees in your ears, the sun in your face, your feet on the ground, nothing better