Size Matters

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In that context I would say that yes it does matter. My rambling analogy was just meant to say that perhaps the manner and degree to which it matters is misunderstood. It isn’t all or nothing unless we make it that way.

It is the monogamy paradigm that seems to compel us to come up with silly irrelevant comparisons and rationalizations.

To me the only way to make it not matter is to have choice. If I am compelled to limit my options in any way then size will be a criteria in how I choose a man. It won’t be the most important criteria and I won’t seek the largest. But if he is below average I’m sorry but no that is not gonna do it for me as the one man for the rest of my life.

The one thing that I disagree with in your posted contention is that somehow monogamy is responsible for the way people feel about size. Or maybe there is a problem in the way my head is translating, what you posted.
Me, myself don't demonize or talk bad about people who are sporting a bigger tool that I do just because they are bigger than me. Damn, glad that they are out there, because every now and then--, I do enjoy sucking a BIG hard one.
My ire comes from being continuously being passed over consideration based merely on size.
And yes, I know that I am not OWED sex, I'm not owed even an opportunity to get
sex. I know that being able to secure sex for myself is a numbers game, the more attempts made WILL translate into more encounters. It's the number that the voices inside play on ya during the wait in between.
 
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I was blessed or cursed depends on how you look at it.? 8" I'm a grower not a shower. This being said, i have fulfilled a lot of women's needs and gave them great pleasure as they did me. But there are and were times it's a curse.. I love to be deep throated. Got spoiled by a early girlfriend that could swallow every inch of me and i would cum and she never flinched. I can still remember her. Miss her !! Only about two women in my life could do that. So in my mind in some ways its a curse cause i thrive to find that pleasure of being deep throated. Then there were women that i hit bottom with as i buried my self in there pussy. That hurts them and me. So finding a happy medium? Had an affair years ago cause of my sexless marriage. Never forget, the first time she reached into my pants and i was hard as a rock. She looked at me and said " what am i supposed to do with this thing? i dont think its going to fit. ? " Well need less to say she couldn't take me orally but her pussy and ass opened up to me just fine. Ahh those memories are making me stirr..... Wish i could find another to swallow me.... So Blessed or a curse??? Thoughts? Have to remember to come back and check this thread.

All I can or will say is I have spent MANY lonely fucking dry nights wishing I could be so cursed as you bigger dick guys.
 
The one thing that I disagree with in your posted contention is that somehow monogamy is responsible for the way people feel about size. Or maybe there is a problem in the way my head is translating, what you posted.
Me, myself don't demonize or talk bad about people who are sporting a bigger tool that I do just because they are bigger than me. Damn, glad that they are out there, because every now and then--, I do enjoy sucking a BIG hard one.
My ire comes from being continuously being passed over consideration based merely on size.
And yes, I know that I am not OWED sex, I'm not owed even an opportunity to get
sex. I know that being able to secured sex for myself is a numbers game, the more attempts made WILL translate into more encounters. It's the number that the voices inside play on ya during the wait in between.

I think Policywank is correct about monogamy. If a woman is forced to choose size will always be a criteria. If she has multiple lovers then there is no need to get fixated on one special criteria. Some guys are great lovers and well-endowed and get to nail a lot of women. At least some of these women would never consider them for long-term relationships.
 
If I were to introduce my wife to two men. #1 is a man who she has interests in common, he makes her laugh and there’s an attraction there. But he has a smaller cock. #2 is handsome but kind of an ass. Nothing in common and no real connection. But he’s hung like a horse! And of course she knows what each guy is packing. She’s going to go for guy #1 every time.

But if I were to present two pictures of naked men to her. One has an average cock. The other is huge. The huge cock is going to get her attention.
 
From a womans point of view (at least this one) the whole size thing has been way overblown. Now I am blessed on one hand to have a husband who is about 8" in length and thick. However he is nearly on the top end of why my pussy can take. Much more than that and no way is it going in me. I have been with extremely endowed men before (over 9") and unless the guy understands something about the female anatomy he can actually do physical damage. I have gone so far as to piss a few off by refusing their advances. I have also been with smaller men 5"to 7" and found it very pleasureful. Some women do like very hung males. I have friends that do and others that feel similarly to as I do. It also has to do with the shape and depth of a womans vagina. No two pussies are alike. Some accept more, some less. But NO man should ever be ridiculed or feel bad about himself because of his size. You have what you have..accept it. And for you smaller men, if there is a worry, my sweet boys, there is nothing that usually cannot be overcome by a well talented tongue. Again, I am fortunate to have a guy who knows how to use both of his sexual devices very well:kiss::heart:
 
I think the size of a man's cock has more of a psychological effect on me than a physical effect. Penises are a rather unusual, and most often hidden, appendage on a human. The fact that they can transform from something relatively small and uninteresting into something so large and exotic protruding from the body is still a subject of fascination for me. There is always a "wow" factor when I see a big one in the flesh, not to mention the sense of primal potency. If the chemistry is right I will always find a way to have satisfying sex with any penis, big or small. I have yet to encounter one that was too big for penetrative sex, but if that happened I would be up for the challenge of finding a workaround.
 
From a womans point of view (at least this one) the whole size thing has been way overblown. Now I am blessed on one hand to have a husband who is about 8" in length and thick. However he is nearly on the top end of why my pussy can take. Much more than that and no way is it going in me. I have been with extremely endowed men before (over 9") and unless the guy understands something about the female anatomy he can actually do physical damage. I have gone so far as to piss a few off by refusing their advances. I have also been with smaller men 5"to 7" and found it very pleasureful. Some women do like very hung males. I have friends that do and others that feel similarly to as I do. It also has to do with the shape and depth of a womans vagina. No two pussies are alike. Some accept more, some less. But NO man should ever be ridiculed or feel bad about himself because of his size. You have what you have..accept it. And for you smaller men, if there is a worry, my sweet boys, there is nothing that usually cannot be overcome by a well talented tongue. Again, I am fortunate to have a guy who knows how to use both of his sexual devices very well:kiss::heart:


My wife told me that she was with a number of huge guys in her 20s just to see what they were like. They hurt she says. Somehow I imagine she had some fun anyway
 
I think the size of a man's cock has more of a psychological effect on me than a physical effect. Penises are a rather unusual, and most often hidden, appendage on a human. The fact that they can transform from something relatively small and uninteresting into something so large and exotic protruding from the body is still a subject of fascination for me. There is always a "wow" factor when I see a big one in the flesh, not to mention the sense of primal potency. If the chemistry is right I will always find a way to have satisfying sex with any penis, big or small. I have yet to encounter one that was too big for penetrative sex, but if that happened I would be up for the challenge of finding a workaround.

I am medium (7") but most girls I know have a fascination with cocks -- which is only natural I suppose
 
From my prospective I don't care about size but I don't get as involved as a woman would get ;)
There was one time that I was quite taken back by the size of a guy, Was spending a few days at a nudist resort in our RV. After hooking up I was setting the patio up and the then GF went for a walk. When she got back she was all excited about this guy she had seen that "did not have a cock he had an elephant trunk" We laughed and carried on. That night she and I were sitting around the fire when 2 couples walked by and stopped to talk. One of them was the elephant trunk and sure enough it was mesmerizing. We invited them to sit and have a drink and an hour or two and a few drinks later I was feeling pretty relaxed so asked his wife how in the world she dealt with her hubby's "trunk". She replied that she had learned to be very careful and to keep him well leashed. LMAO The other wife made a comment to the affect of it was quite a monster when hard to which my GF replied how much she would like to see that. lol ha ha a could of jokes later his wife was going to town on it with her hand. It truely was very impressive and extended well beyond his belly button when his legs werer stretched out. I could not resist and asked if I could feel it and my God it was like holding a musculure snake on my hand. His girth was not extreme but his length and strength was really impressive. Some day I would like to play for a while with a similiar
 
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From a womans point of view (at least this one) the whole size thing has been way overblown. Now I am blessed on one hand to have a husband who is about 8" in length and thick. However he is nearly on the top end of why my pussy can take. Much more than that and no way is it going in me. I have been with extremely endowed men before (over 9") and unless the guy understands something about the female anatomy he can actually do physical damage. I have gone so far as to piss a few off by refusing their advances. I have also been with smaller men 5"to 7" and found it very pleasureful. Some women do like very hung males. I have friends that do and others that feel similarly to as I do. It also has to do with the shape and depth of a womans vagina. No two pussies are alike. Some accept more, some less. But NO man should ever be ridiculed or feel bad about himself because of his size. You have what you have..accept it. And for you smaller men, if there is a worry, my sweet boys, there is nothing that usually cannot be overcome by a well talented tongue. Again, I am fortunate to have a guy who knows how to use both of his sexual devices very well:kiss::heart:

I like most of what you had to say and it has been a long time since I first accepted my short-commings and how fortunate I was to learn the things I did when I did. Because I was learning how to use my tongue to pleasure a woman while most of those big dick boys were learning how to jack off and that just because you cum, it doesn't mean you gonna die...
But when you out with all everyone else and you standing in the gallery with everyone naked, ya know what you can't see?? Someone's level of experience.
All you see is six donkey dick muthafucka's and then me.
And usually the closest they come to licking pussy is accidentally licking the same finger they stuck in her for a second to get her 'hot'.
Ah well, everything works out though, most of those girls are haggard and not worth talking to let alone think about having sex with and those big dick fellas are either dead, dying, on their way to prison or trying to get out of prison.
So after a fashion I did come betta than them.
 
The one thing that I disagree with in your posted contention is that somehow monogamy is responsible for the way people feel about size. Or maybe there is a problem in the way my head is translating, what you posted.
Me, myself don't demonize or talk bad about people who are sporting a bigger tool that I do just because they are bigger than me. Damn, glad that they are out there, because every now and then--, I do enjoy sucking a BIG hard one.
My ire comes from being continuously being passed over consideration based merely on size.
And yes, I know that I am not OWED sex, I'm not owed even an opportunity to get
sex. I know that being able to secure sex for myself is a numbers game, the more attempts made WILL translate into more encounters. It's the number that the voices inside play on ya during the wait in between.


I don't think monogamy is responsible for the way people feel about size. I think that the imperative to limit your partners in any way magnifies the way we feel about size.

Reality is that most women feel somewhat constrained in the number of partners we can or will have due to society's judgment. So every choice of a partner notionally has a sort of opportunity cost.

Back to my food analogy. If you told me that I could only ever eat 20 dishes, I would not have chosen Indian food for any of them. No offence to Indian food but it just didn't resonate with me when I was younger. As it turns out Indian food is fucking delicious and that was a bad judgment on my part. But the only reason I found that out was because no such constraint exists. I don't have to limit myself to 20 dishes, much less decide which ones they will be before trying them. So the first time someone took me out for Indian food there were really no negative consequences to giving it a try. If I didn't like it the worst that could happen was one bad experience (it was the opposite) and I certainly hadn't used up an opportunity to try something else.

Likewise if I found you attractive and appealing I see no reasons why I wouldn't be willing to have sex with you. If I decide later that I want a guy with a bigger cock I can have that too. One doesn't preclude the other.

So while monogamy or limiting sexual partners doesn't change my feelings about cock size, it makes those feelings less relevant. Maybe you will be the metaphorical sexual equivalent of Indian food and I will be pleasantly surprised. The absence of limitation is what liberates me to give it a try.
 
If I were to introduce my wife to two men. #1 is a man who she has interests in common, he makes her laugh and there’s an attraction there. But he has a smaller cock. #2 is handsome but kind of an ass. Nothing in common and no real connection. But he’s hung like a horse! And of course she knows what each guy is packing. She’s going to go for guy #1 every time.

But if I were to present two pictures of naked men to her. One has an average cock. The other is huge. The huge cock is going to get her attention.


I think that the latter example gets to the "all other things being equal" point.

The former example is frequently used but, respectfully, is contrived to the point of being meaningless. Just to torture my food metaphor a little more the first example is like saying an overcooked cheap cut of steak is inferior to a chef prepared chicken parmesan. Of course it is. But that doesn't say anything about the relative merits of chicken and steak because the example is loaded with other more important factors.
 
From a womans point of view (at least this one) the whole size thing has been way overblown. Now I am blessed on one hand to have a husband who is about 8" in length and thick. However he is nearly on the top end of why my pussy can take. Much more than that and no way is it going in me. I have been with extremely endowed men before (over 9") and unless the guy understands something about the female anatomy he can actually do physical damage. I have gone so far as to piss a few off by refusing their advances. I have also been with smaller men 5"to 7" and found it very pleasureful. Some women do like very hung males. I have friends that do and others that feel similarly to as I do. It also has to do with the shape and depth of a womans vagina. No two pussies are alike. Some accept more, some less. But NO man should ever be ridiculed or feel bad about himself because of his size. You have what you have..accept it. And for you smaller men, if there is a worry, my sweet boys, there is nothing that usually cannot be overcome by a well talented tongue. Again, I am fortunate to have a guy who knows how to use both of his sexual devices very well:kiss::heart:


I think the challenge is that when the topic comes up it seems as though we are presented with two extreme scenarios. Either cock size doesn't matter even a little bit or it is all important and the bigger the better. Both scenarios are ridiculous.

If it doesn't matter then 1" will do just fine. Otherwise it does matter, it is just a question of how much. Personally I love a talented tongue but not enough to live with no dick at all. So it is just a question of degrees.
 
I think the challenge is that when the topic comes up it seems as though we are presented with two extreme scenarios. Either cock size doesn't matter even a little bit or it is all important and the bigger the better. Both scenarios are ridiculous.

If it doesn't matter then 1" will do just fine. Otherwise it does matter, it is just a question of how much. Personally I love a talented tongue but not enough to live with no dick at all. So it is just a question of degrees.
Your honesty and articulation around this is very sexy.
 
I think the size of a man's cock has more of a psychological effect on me than a physical effect. Penises are a rather unusual, and most often hidden, appendage on a human. The fact that they can transform from something relatively small and uninteresting into something so large and exotic protruding from the body is still a subject of fascination for me. There is always a "wow" factor when I see a big one in the flesh, not to mention the sense of primal potency. If the chemistry is right I will always find a way to have satisfying sex with any penis, big or small. I have yet to encounter one that was too big for penetrative sex, but if that happened I would be up for the challenge of finding a workaround.

Psychology has a lot to do with it from a guy's perspective, too. Just talking about it with a guy is enough to provoke a lot of emotions. Like a lot of guys, I like the subject to be brought up, whether it's positive ("You're huge/thick/whatever") or not nearly as positive ("You're not the biggest") or whatever.
 
From my experience, size appreciation depends on the person and holds true for the size of breasts and penis.' As far as cock, some women need the feel of a large cock when getting fucked. Women have told me that size is aesthetically exciting before sex but as long as the cock falls within normal parameters size isn't necessary to make them cum.

The same thing, I believe holds true for breast size. A big set will get my attention but once sex starts, I no longer care about breast size. Firmness is more attractive to me than size. Of course, I am an assman so, ya know, there's that. A great ass makes me crazy.

To your point, I would have to add that it doesn't necessarily have to be limited to size, but can also include shape and other aspects as far as appreciation goes (for breasts and penis). I used to date this girl who would see/feel my erect penis and would make a big deal about how hard it always was or how quickly it went from soft to hard, which was also a turn-on.
 
Have read this entire thread a few times. Some of the psychological comments make my head hurt.
How about a different type of male perspective?
I do not consider myself extra large but am realistic enough to know that I am above average size.
I’ve searched my memory and jotted down some comments that stick in my mind from previous times.
As with men, women also come in different sizes, shapes and experiences. I have tried to match the woman’s experience level with her comments.
Except for the one guys comment, they were all women with varied sexual experiences. Experience or lack thereof seemed to have no influence on the comments.

In no particular order:

“You are going to have a hard time finding a girl that can take that thing”. From a guy in the locker room.
“You have a big cock”. Experienced.
“You are quite large in me”. Limited experience.
“Be careful, you’re very big”. Very experienced.
“I don’t think you should put that in me”. Extremely experienced.
“That’s a big fella”. Experienced.
“You are the largest man I have ever been with”. Very experienced.
“oh wow!”. Experienced.
“oh, fuck! Hope I don’t hurt her”. Me, as I watched rear view of new GF as she dropped her panties the first time we went to bed. All 89 pounds of her.

I fit just fine in all of them and made sure they were completely satisfied.
Size is not everything. Knowing a woman’s body, how to use lips, tongue, fingers and especially eyes is much more relevant to pleasing a partner IMHO anyway.
 
Matter of Size

After reading these posts I have decided to chime in.. I was also born a lucky man, in a couple of different ways. First, of all, yes I developed an above average cock in both length (8+) and girth (6 3/4). Yes I have been ogled at by others in the locker room and in the business world of having a substantial bulge that must make my wife shudder. My other fortunate gift was having parents that recognized that gift and explained to me the care I must take with women. If it was not for this love, I more than likely would have been on of those large dicked men who think because I have a big dick I need no skill. Having a large dick, I imagine is like have huge tits, yes they are great to look at but no so great to haul around daily. My wife is very pleased with my blessing and eagerly has sex with me whenever she and I desire. I also have developed my oral skills to where she have never not gotten hers as well. So what are your thoughts about this?
 
After reading these posts I have decided to chime in.. I was also born a lucky man, in a couple of different ways. First, of all, yes I developed an above average cock in both length (8+) and girth (6 3/4). Yes I have been ogled at by others in the locker room and in the business world of having a substantial bulge that must make my wife shudder. My other fortunate gift was having parents that recognized that gift and explained to me the care I must take with women. If it was not for this love, I more than likely would have been on of those large dicked men who think because I have a big dick I need no skill. Having a large dick, I imagine is like have huge tits, yes they are great to look at but no so great to haul around daily. My wife is very pleased with my blessing and eagerly has sex with me whenever she and I desire. I also have developed my oral skills to where she have never not gotten hers as well. So what are your thoughts about this?

My wife is looking for you.
 
After reading these posts I have decided to chime in.. I was also born a lucky man, in a couple of different ways. First, of all, yes I developed an above average cock in both length (8+) and girth (6 3/4). Yes I have been ogled at by others in the locker room and in the business world of having a substantial bulge that must make my wife shudder. My other fortunate gift was having parents that recognized that gift and explained to me the care I must take with women. If it was not for this love, I more than likely would have been on of those large dicked men who think because I have a big dick I need no skill. Having a large dick, I imagine is like have huge tits, yes they are great to look at but no so great to haul around daily. My wife is very pleased with my blessing and eagerly has sex with me whenever she and I desire. I also have developed my oral skills to where she have never not gotten hers as well. So what are your thoughts about this?

O wow, you described me to a tee, there were a couple guys in the locker room that were larger so thought I was just average. Like you my parents taught me to respect & show kindness to females, pleasure them & they would want more, they were right.
 
Fellas, this is a silly topic to get wrapped up in. And I say this with a clearly ridiculous avatar photo. It's just a waste of time and mental energy, so I'll keep this brief and it'll be all I say on the subject here.

Eight inch plus penises are in an extremely small minority. Anything more than 8 is a statistical anomaly, though they do exist. The fact is that most people will not encounter one that is 8 or more inches, because they are rare. Remember, just because s/he says s/he has doesn't mean it's true. A lot of people either lie or are just bad with measurements, or were lied to and believe it. Also remember that a current boyfriend who's good in bed is "huge" while a hated ex was "tiny."

Porn contributes to dysmorphia. Keep in mind that directors use camera angles and tricks and sometimes, fake penises. A dick also looks bigger in a female hand on average. Most male porn actors are not as big as you think. Your own dick looks smaller from your vantage point (looking down and in your male hand) than hers (looking up or sideways).

Though size queens exist, most women experience pleasure from a wide range of sizes. There is no scientific correlation between ethnicity and size.

Most dildos look big but a woman grips a third of it anyway just to get it in.

And on and on and on. Bottom line is you can't control it, so it's not worth obsessing over. There's no point in listening to what other people say about it IMO. If you've attracted someone and can give pleasure to that person, that's what matters. Penis size as a subject is just a mind game for advertisers and immature people who think they can mess with you. Your choice, don't let them.
 
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I hear what you're saying but I'm also thinking that for people who have an issue, male and female, this is a safe place for them to talk out their issues and maybe get good advice from someone like you. I saw women too because I think that some women with small breasts are as bothered by deeply

From a female point of view I think that it is a useful and healthy discussion because men living in denial is a problem for women.

The simple truth is that size does not matter nearly as much as some men seem to think it does but most women do have some preference and it should not be incumbent upon women to pretend otherwise.

I am unsure of the breast comparison but let's go with that as it seems to resonate. Imagine if women were constantly putting forward arguments as to why men don't prefer a given size of breast or telling men that they are wrong to have a preference. Arguments like how statistically rare are tits larger than DD or why large breasts can be a burden or how some men prefer tiny tits or how some men are ass men anyways or how so many other aspects of a woman's physique and personality are so much more important.

Those things are all true.....but that doesn't mean men don't have a preference.

How about if a small breasted woman asks her husband under her watchful eye how much breast size matters to him? When he says not at all (as if he had any choice) does that mean that we can now say all men feel that way? Nope.

How about if enough men agree that caring about breast size is shallow? Does that mean all men will cease to appreciate a great rack? Nope.

What if a man says he'd prefer breasts that are small over ones the size of weather balloons? Ya, so. That is a stupid comparison as if there is no midpoint between A and GG cup sizes.

The key difference between the cock size discussion and the breast size discussion is that women don't try to convince ourselves that men don't care or shouldn't care. It can be a source of insecurity but we don't insist on self-delusion.

In my mind the truth should be comforting. It isn't that big of a deal. It isn't all bigger is better. Porn is completely misleading. And we put much more value on other aspects of a partner. But if you just have to believe it is of no consequence whatsoever - sorry that isn't true.
 
I have absolutely no interest in large breasted women. Zero. I love women with small breasts.
 
From My Perspective

Size.........

Most of us guys have average sized cocks. Some larger than others. Same with balls.

In a woman's body, I look to her eyes for the passionate fire of lust accompanied with an energetic attitude. Then it's the body parts. Almost any set of boobs will do. Better yet if they are displayed in a nice bra. Held up for display is the driving force here from AA to DDD.

As for the fire down below, I don't care either way about pubes other than if the shaved route is chosen stubble is not good. Laser is expensive and I'm sure many women don't like to present themselves to a stranger to be zapped by a laser. Then we come to labia and the elusive clitoris. Response to gentle kisses and lips being pulled on. Gentle tongue lashes on the clit. Make a woman cum hard with a mouth and she really won't care how big or small the cock is that plunges into her plump, engorged pussy!.
 
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From a female point of view I think that it is a useful and healthy discussion because men living in denial is a problem for women.

The simple truth is that size does not matter nearly as much as some men seem to think it does but most women do have some preference and it should not be incumbent upon women to pretend otherwise.

I am unsure of the breast comparison but let's go with that as it seems to resonate. Imagine if women were constantly putting forward arguments as to why men don't prefer a given size of breast or telling men that they are wrong to have a preference. Arguments like how statistically rare are tits larger than DD or why large breasts can be a burden or how some men prefer tiny tits or how some men are ass men anyways or how so many other aspects of a woman's physique and personality are so much more important.

Those things are all true.....but that doesn't mean men don't have a preference.

How about if a small breasted woman asks her husband under her watchful eye how much breast size matters to him? When he says not at all (as if he had any choice) does that mean that we can now say all men feel that way? Nope.

How about if enough men agree that caring about breast size is shallow? Does that mean all men will cease to appreciate a great rack? Nope.

What if a man says he'd prefer breasts that are small over ones the size of weather balloons? Ya, so. That is a stupid comparison as if there is no midpoint between A and GG cup sizes.

The key difference between the cock size discussion and the breast size discussion is that women don't try to convince ourselves that men don't care or shouldn't care. It can be a source of insecurity but we don't insist on self-delusion.

In my mind the truth should be comforting. It isn't that big of a deal. It isn't all bigger is better. Porn is completely misleading. And we put much more value on other aspects of a partner. But if you just have to believe it is of no consequence whatsoever - sorry that isn't true.

As it is in your mind, about how comforting the 'truth' about any given subject should be and how that EVERYONE has the same level joy embracing this truth and give it the same weight as everyone else, I would also like to believe in-, but that ISN'T how people are and that was my only point in this whole discussion.

I also don't believe that ALL women, MOST women or any disproportionate amount of women BELIEVE that ALL bigger is better.

Only that it had been my experience that that is the way it was made to appear...well that and the fact people are prone to NOT telling the truth, especially in forums such as this one provided by this site.
 
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