Size Matters

[KarlMartinK]

From someone short but decently thick— thank you.

This has always been the case with me - I'm short, but thick.

 

[Rockymtnman]

These results are pretty surprising..

RESULTS:
Popular sex toy distributers offer a variety of product sizes. The length of many vibrators and dildos was sized between 4 and 6 in, and circumference was between 4 and 5 in. However, some companies featured products of a considerably larger size than others.

http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/s...2/16/dimensions-average-sex-toy/#.XFRPfKRMHYU

Now that’s just one site.. I also measured my current favorite. I don’t use a dildo often. I’m in love with the Palm Power, and my Womanizer.

My current favorite dildo is 9”x 5” round. So larger than average..I don’t know if being with an above average man for 18 years had anything to do with my preference. Or having two children has anything to do with it.

So that’s one site.. let’s take a look at another. I mean it’s Seriously Science. That’s sounds so official!! Once again the average seem smaller than I would think.


http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/s...2/16/dimensions-average-sex-toy/#.XFRQfqRMHYV

I also found this handy penis size chart. Once again the results surprised me.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/penis-size-preference-cha_n_107433

Well that’s what the internet has to offer.

My thoughts are: the best size dildo is the one like the most..

I don’t find it surprising as most women experience average cocks I would think... and are probably intimidated by the bigger ones or they honestly don’t like being stuffed and stretched as much as porn would have you believe. Like men and their preferences for tit size, etc... I assume there’s woman that love small dicks, medium dicks and monsters.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife agrees that bigger is better if skills are equal. She doesn't remember much about the "average" size cocks she has enjoyed, but she can vividly recall how good it felt to have a really thick cock inside her. She doesn't care about length, but girth is important.

 

[Scareltt]

Interesting..

I don’t find it surprising as most women experience average cocks I would think... and are probably intimidated by the bigger ones or they honestly don’t like being stuffed and stretched as much as porn would have you believe. Like men and their preferences for tit size, etc... I assume there’s woman that love small dicks, medium dicks and monsters.

Diversity! I like it..

 

[Loveitdady]

Not trying to argue but I am not sure of your meaning. Do you think that I really prefer a big cock but will not say so? I do not mean to imply that a little extra size might not be appreciated but like many of the ladies here, I think girth is more important that length. Now I have not tested that many cocks that I would say that I am an expert but I have never not been able to have fun with a guy that I found interesting. Now I admit that I like a guy to be enthusiastic when fucking so I really prefer an average sized man that allows me just relax and not worry about him going to deep.

I would ha e to agree with you.. I have a thick cock and most of the ladies who take it seems to enjoy it so much..I can hit bottom in some of the ladies and they moan a lots as they cum

 

[Atl69]

I am what I always thought was an average size guy at almost exactly 6 inches, but lately, all the porn I watch makes me feel as though I am small. I have always been a pretty good lover by being vey good with my fingers, tongue etc., but unfortunately my wife wants none of that. If she wants sex at all, it is just straight up missionary and she acts as though I am not big enough for her to feel me.

Before my wife I was with a woman whose only other partner had a big dick but she said he was a bad lover. He thought his size was enough and he would just put it in and pump away. She and I would have passionate love making sessions that lasted for more than an hour and she would cum multiple times. She said he was never able to make her cum like I could.

So to me, the moral of the story is, it depends on your partner and what he/she is looking for.

Ps, I am not saying my size is better, I honestly wish I had a bigger dick.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I can’t tell you what average is. I don’t hang out at the public bath houses with my ruler or do side by side comparisons. I think what matters is if she likes it.

 

[sterculius]

I assume the original poster directed this question to the women on this panel and I see that most of the responses reflect this premise. I'm male, and because my own penis happens to be abnormally small, I have always admired and envied the genitals of men more abundantly endowed than myself. At a young age, I was introduced to the joys of performing fellatio on my best friend Larry, who happened to be the proud owner of an exceptionally large penis which through hard work on my part and diligent perseverance on his, he was eventually able to force completely down my throat! I found the accompanying sensation to be extremely erotic and the experience highly enjoyable and he, not surprisingly felt the same. We would engage in this activity whenever we possibly could, usually several times a week. Although he and I eventually drifted apart, I have remained, in spite of being happily married, an obsessive and compulsive Cocksucker, and routinely meet with men to suck their cocks, preferably, of ample dimensions. I'm proud of my oral abilities, and I particularly enjoy challenging myself to swallow bigger and larger sized cocks.

 

[SubmissiveMom]

I didn't even bother reading all of this x I've experienced guys from 4" to 11" but satisfied all and satisfied me too that they enjoyed my mouth snd pussy x I'm best orally and vaginally with a 6"-9", anything below or above is a challenge to satisfy x x x

 

[Rockymtnman]

Diversity! I like it..

A rainbow coalition of dongs... one might say.

 

[SquidProQuo]

I've been with multiple guys and I don't care about size. I'm not a size queen. I also do not care about height. Height and race also have no relation to cock size.

 

[imagreal]

I watched my wife take a big cock and she was in heaven, she was obsessed with having him cum deep inside her even though she was not on the pill. He owned her

 

[J_Bone]

Some women prefer size physically and subscribe to the bigger is better, whether length, girth or both. And not all, but for some women it's more of a visual and/or mental thing. Some enjoy just the visual stimulation of a larger one, whether rock hard and at attention or flaccid and hanging low between his legs as he gets out of the shower or laying against his thigh or stomach. And some just enjoy the mental stimulation of knowing their lover is very well hung and aren't shy sharing such information with their friends in "girl talk" and even with former lovers. Seen quite a few examples of the latter.

 

[Marty Fisher]

https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/11465553/411767144

 

[Marty Fisher]

I watched my wife take a big cock and she was in heaven, she was obsessed with having him cum deep inside her even though she was not on the pill. He owned her

And I bet you were right along side of her in heaven - right?!?

 

[Marty Fisher]

https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/11465553/411767135
https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/11465553/411766944
https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/11465553/267554184
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[policywank]

I think that the relevance of many male characteristics is magnified and distorted by the monogamy paradigm.

For women sexual experiences are sort of regarded as a finite number of opportunities. There is and has always been an implicit limit on how many pre-marital sexual partners is acceptable to society and a future husband. Whether we think about it that way or not, some of the sentiment lingers.

I think of sex a bit like food. I like variety. I am open to trying new things. And if a meal doesn't work out I don't see it as a failure or something to lament. So let's say fucking a guy with a big cock is analogous to having a steak dinner.

First of all I like steak. But it isn't a blind commitment to any slab of meat. It needs to be a good cut, prepared properly and accompanied with the right side dishes, a nice wine pairing, good company and a nice atmosphere. Comparing a poorly prepared steak to wonderfully prepared chicken is stupid and pointless. Offering me a delicious chicken dinner may be a perfectly reasonable substitute but it doesn't change the fact that at that moment I would have preferred steak.

Second, just because I like steak doesn't mean it is all I ever want. Nor does it mean I like it better than other meals. When I am eating a delicious meal that doesn't involve steak I am not wishing (at all) that it was steak. I don't prefer steak. I just happen to like it to be one of the many options available to me.

When it comes to cuisine I don't really think much at all about what I like the most or ranking my favourite dishes because there are no artificial constraints. I am free to enjoy what I want, when I want it and I am free to experiment so that my mind can be fully open to new things.

Now if you told me that I could only ever have 20 dishes and I have to decide what they are before I sample them that would affect my behaviour in a huge way. I wouldn't use up any of those 20 opportunities without thorough and sometimes unfair or unkind vetting. I wouldn't be able to explore and indulge my tastes nearly as much.

And if after sampling 20 I had to choose just one for the rest of my life it is a certainty that the choice I make would involve a compromise. That isn't because there is anything at all wrong with the one I choose, it is because I don't want to be restricted to just one. I might choose steak and that doesn't make me a bad person. I might choose something else and that doesn't mean I won't crave a steak now and then.

So does cock size matter? Yes sure about as much as it matters how much I like steak. It isn't a choice that rules my life. It isn't a necessity or even a high priority. It isn't better than the alternatives. But yes if I can have a big cock sometimes I will absolutely enjoy that option.

Further, the idea that I can choose one man and he will represent every single thing in a sexual partner I could ever want AND I only ever want that one man is silly. He may be so wonderful that being with him is far preferable to being single or being with any other man. His cock may be so magical that I would never trade it in for another. But the fact remains that if I could have all that AND variety I would take it.

The paradigm that limits our our choices and opportunities to explore then insists that we choose one and pretend as though that is all we could ever want or need is what distorts the picture.

My husband has a slightly above average sized cock. I adore him and if we were monogamous I would have no problem limiting myself only to him and not feeling short changed in any way. But as long as I am non-monogamous, yes I do have lovers with big cocks. And yes I do choose them for that reason just like I occasionally choose to go to a steak house to eat steak.

 

[Mtnmike]

I think that the relevance of many male characteristics is magnified and distorted by the monogamy paradigm.

For women sexual experiences are sort of regarded as a finite number of opportunities. There is and has always been an implicit limit on how many pre-marital sexual partners is acceptable to society and a future husband. Whether we think about it that way or not, some of the sentiment lingers.

I think of sex a bit like food. I like variety. I am open to trying new things. And if a meal doesn't work out I don't see it as a failure or something to lament. So let's say fucking a guy with a big cock is analogous to having a steak dinner.

First of all I like steak. But it isn't a blind commitment to any slab of meat. It needs to be a good cut, prepared properly and accompanied with the right side dishes, a nice wine pairing, good company and a nice atmosphere. Comparing a poorly prepared steak to wonderfully prepared chicken is stupid and pointless. Offering me a delicious chicken dinner may be a perfectly reasonable substitute but it doesn't change the fact that at that moment I would have preferred steak.

Second, just because I like steak doesn't mean it is all I ever want. Nor does it mean I like it better than other meals. When I am eating a delicious meal that doesn't involve steak I am not wishing (at all) that it was steak. I don't prefer steak. I just happen to like it to be one of the many options available to me.

When it comes to cuisine I don't really think much at all about what I like the most or ranking my favourite dishes because there are no artificial constraints. I am free to enjoy what I want, when I want it and I am free to experiment so that my mind can be fully open to new things.

Now if you told me that I could only ever have 20 dishes and I have to decide what they are before I sample them that would affect my behaviour in a huge way. I wouldn't use up any of those 20 opportunities without thorough and sometimes unfair or unkind vetting. I wouldn't be able to explore and indulge my tastes nearly as much.

And if after sampling 20 I had to choose just one for the rest of my life it is a certainty that the choice I make would involve a compromise. That isn't because there is anything at all wrong with the one I choose, it is because I don't want to be restricted to just one. I might choose steak and that doesn't make me a bad person. I might choose something else and that doesn't mean I won't crave a steak now and then.

So does cock size matter? Yes sure about as much as it matters how much I like steak. It isn't a choice that rules my life. It isn't a necessity or even a high priority. It isn't better than the alternatives. But yes if I can have a big cock sometimes I will absolutely enjoy that option.

Further, the idea that I can choose one man and he will represent every single thing in a sexual partner I could ever want AND I only ever want that one man is silly. He may be so wonderful that being with him is far preferable to being single or being with any other man. His cock may be so magical that I would never trade it in for another. But the fact remains that if I could have all that AND variety I would take it.

The paradigm that limits our our choices and opportunities to explore then insists that we choose one and pretend as though that is all we could ever want or need is what distorts the picture.

My husband has a slightly above average sized cock. I adore him and if we were monogamous I would have no problem limiting myself only to him and not feeling short changed in any way. But as long as I am non-monogamous, yes I do have lovers with big cocks. And yes I do choose them for that reason just like I occasionally choose to go to a steak house to eat steak.

Well said, I personally have never looked at this way. Thank you for your insight.

 

[Scareltt]

Now I’m hungry... we’ll be grilling steak tonight!

I think that the relevance of many male characteristics is magnified and distorted by the monogamy paradigm.

For women sexual experiences are sort of regarded as a finite number of opportunities. There is and has always been an implicit limit on how many pre-marital sexual partners is acceptable to society and a future husband. Whether we think about it that way or not, some of the sentiment lingers.

I think of sex a bit like food. I like variety. I am open to trying new things. And if a meal doesn't work out I don't see it as a failure or something to lament. So let's say fucking a guy with a big cock is analogous to having a steak dinner.

First of all I like steak. But it isn't a blind commitment to any slab of meat. It needs to be a good cut, prepared properly and accompanied with the right side dishes, a nice wine pairing, good company and a nice atmosphere. Comparing a poorly prepared steak to wonderfully prepared chicken is stupid and pointless. Offering me a delicious chicken dinner may be a perfectly reasonable substitute but it doesn't change the fact that at that moment I would have preferred steak.

Second, just because I like steak doesn't mean it is all I ever want. Nor does it mean I like it better than other meals. When I am eating a delicious meal that doesn't involve steak I am not wishing (at all) that it was steak. I don't prefer steak. I just happen to like it to be one of the many options available to me.

When it comes to cuisine I don't really think much at all about what I like the most or ranking my favourite dishes because there are no artificial constraints. I am free to enjoy what I want, when I want it and I am free to experiment so that my mind can be fully open to new things.

Now if you told me that I could only ever have 20 dishes and I have to decide what they are before I sample them that would affect my behaviour in a huge way. I wouldn't use up any of those 20 opportunities without thorough and sometimes unfair or unkind vetting. I wouldn't be able to explore and indulge my tastes nearly as much.

And if after sampling 20 I had to choose just one for the rest of my life it is a certainty that the choice I make would involve a compromise. That isn't because there is anything at all wrong with the one I choose, it is because I don't want to be restricted to just one. I might choose steak and that doesn't make me a bad person. I might choose something else and that doesn't mean I won't crave a steak now and then.

So does cock size matter? Yes sure about as much as it matters how much I like steak. It isn't a choice that rules my life. It isn't a necessity or even a high priority. It isn't better than the alternatives. But yes if I can have a big cock sometimes I will absolutely enjoy that option.

Further, the idea that I can choose one man and he will represent every single thing in a sexual partner I could ever want AND I only ever want that one man is silly. He may be so wonderful that being with him is far preferable to being single or being with any other man. His cock may be so magical that I would never trade it in for another. But the fact remains that if I could have all that AND variety I would take it.

The paradigm that limits our our choices and opportunities to explore then insists that we choose one and pretend as though that is all we could ever want or need is what distorts the picture.

My husband has a slightly above average sized cock. I adore him and if we were monogamous I would have no problem limiting myself only to him and not feeling short changed in any way. But as long as I am non-monogamous, yes I do have lovers with big cocks. And yes I do choose them for that reason just like I occasionally choose to go to a steak house to eat steak.

I love the food analogy, I love almost all your posts, and we’ve both posted on this in the past... I prefer the roller coaster analogy. I love roller coasters everything about them. The waiting, the thrill of strapping in, the anticipation as you slowly go up the hill. Then as potential energy turns to kinetic energy and your scenes are bombarded. There’s almost nothing like it... okay maybe a Sea Doo, or really good sex...

The first roller coaster I ever rode still exists. I rode it last December and there’s always a sense of nostalgia associated with it. When that ride is over I don’t feel bad about walking to the other side of the park and riding the newest coaster.

If someone said you had to pike just one roller coaster to ride forever I’d get board even if it’s the newest of the new in that moment..

Riding the newest of the new isn’t better in my mind than riding the oldest roller coaster. It’s different, and I crave variety.. maybe if everyone took a different approach to monogamy our divorce rate wouldn’t be so high...

 

[Mtnmike]

I love the food analogy, I love almost all your posts, and we’ve both posted on this in the past... I prefer the roller coaster analogy. I love roller coasters everything about them. The waiting, the thrill of strapping in, the anticipation as you slowly go up the hill. Then as potential energy turns to kinetic energy and your scenes are bombarded. There’s almost nothing like it... okay maybe a Sea Doo, or really good sex...

The first roller coaster I ever rode still exists. I rode it last December and there’s always a sense of nostalgia associated with it. When that ride is over I don’t feel bad about walking to the other side of the park and riding the newest coaster.

If someone said you had to pike just one roller coaster to ride forever I’d get board even if it’s the newest of the new in that moment..

Riding the newest of the new isn’t better in my mind than riding the oldest roller coaster. It’s different, and I crave variety.. maybe if everyone took a different approach to monogamy our divorce rate wouldn’t be so high...

I see what you're saying & you may have hit on solution for divorce, not all but a large part of them.

 

[KarlMartinK]

I see what you're saying & you may have hit on solution for divorce, not all but a large part of them.

I also get what a lot of people are saying here about the "size doesn't matter" aspect and the "size isn't the only thing" aspect, but I think what others are trying to say is how they kind of want to focus on how size DOES matter, like the OP said, "I am generally of the opinion that it matters if u make it matter."

To me, I like to make it matter. Even though I'm aware that size isn't necessary the biggest factor or even always an important factor, I know there are time when it's a huge turn-on for someone to say you're "big" or "small," depending on the case. I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in that.

 

[whenagain]

I think that the relevance of many male characteristics is magnified and distorted by the monogamy paradigm.

For women sexual experiences are sort of regarded as a finite number of opportunities. There is and has always been an implicit limit on how many pre-marital sexual partners is acceptable to society and a future husband. Whether we think about it that way or not, some of the sentiment lingers.

I think of sex a bit like food. I like variety. I am open to trying new things. And if a meal doesn't work out I don't see it as a failure or something to lament. So let's say fucking a guy with a big cock is analogous to having a steak dinner.

First of all I like steak. But it isn't a blind commitment to any slab of meat. It needs to be a good cut, prepared properly and accompanied with the right side dishes, a nice wine pairing, good company and a nice atmosphere. Comparing a poorly prepared steak to wonderfully prepared chicken is stupid and pointless. Offering me a delicious chicken dinner may be a perfectly reasonable substitute but it doesn't change the fact that at that moment I would have preferred steak.

Second, just because I like steak doesn't mean it is all I ever want. Nor does it mean I like it better than other meals. When I am eating a delicious meal that doesn't involve steak I am not wishing (at all) that it was steak. I don't prefer steak. I just happen to like it to be one of the many options available to me.

When it comes to cuisine I don't really think much at all about what I like the most or ranking my favourite dishes because there are no artificial constraints. I am free to enjoy what I want, when I want it and I am free to experiment so that my mind can be fully open to new things.

Now if you told me that I could only ever have 20 dishes and I have to decide what they are before I sample them that would affect my behaviour in a huge way. I wouldn't use up any of those 20 opportunities without thorough and sometimes unfair or unkind vetting. I wouldn't be able to explore and indulge my tastes nearly as much.

And if after sampling 20 I had to choose just one for the rest of my life it is a certainty that the choice I make would involve a compromise. That isn't because there is anything at all wrong with the one I choose, it is because I don't want to be restricted to just one. I might choose steak and that doesn't make me a bad person. I might choose something else and that doesn't mean I won't crave a steak now and then.

So does cock size matter? Yes sure about as much as it matters how much I like steak. It isn't a choice that rules my life. It isn't a necessity or even a high priority. It isn't better than the alternatives. But yes if I can have a big cock sometimes I will absolutely enjoy that option.

Further, the idea that I can choose one man and he will represent every single thing in a sexual partner I could ever want AND I only ever want that one man is silly. He may be so wonderful that being with him is far preferable to being single or being with any other man. His cock may be so magical that I would never trade it in for another. But the fact remains that if I could have all that AND variety I would take it.

The paradigm that limits our our choices and opportunities to explore then insists that we choose one and pretend as though that is all we could ever want or need is what distorts the picture.

My husband has a slightly above average sized cock. I adore him and if we were monogamous I would have no problem limiting myself only to him and not feeling short changed in any way. But as long as I am non-monogamous, yes I do have lovers with big cocks. And yes I do choose them for that reason just like I occasionally choose to go to a steak house to eat steak.

This is a really good analogy.
That said, I don’t think most people would opt for cocktail wieners over steak. If we want to torture the metaphor.

 

[policywank]

This is a really good analogy.
That said, I don’t think most people would opt for cocktail wieners over steak. If we want to torture the metaphor.

Lol. You are quite right. But the comparison comes into play largely because we are compelled to opt at all. If we didn’t have to choose one or the other I would still prefer the steak but I would feel free to enjoy both so my preference would be less relevant to the meat (lol).

 

[policywank]

I also get what a lot of people are saying here about the "size doesn't matter" aspect and the "size isn't the only thing" aspect, but I think what others are trying to say is how they kind of want to focus on how size DOES matter, like the OP said, "I am generally of the opinion that it matters if u make it matter."

To me, I like to make it matter. Even though I'm aware that size isn't necessary the biggest factor or even always an important factor, I know there are time when it's a huge turn-on for someone to say you're "big" or "small," depending on the case. I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in that.

In that context I would say that yes it does matter. My rambling analogy was just meant to say that perhaps the manner and degree to which it matters is misunderstood. It isn’t all or nothing unless we make it that way.

It is the monogamy paradigm that seems to compel us to come up with silly irrelevant comparisons and rationalizations.

To me the only way to make it not matter is to have choice. If I am compelled to limit my options in any way then size will be a criteria in how I choose a man. It won’t be the most important criteria and I won’t seek the largest. But if he is below average I’m sorry but no that is not gonna do it for me as the one man for the rest of my life.

 

[hulmule]

I was blessed or cursed depends on how you look at it.? 8" I'm a grower not a shower. This being said, i have fulfilled a lot of women's needs and gave them great pleasure as they did me. But there are and were times it's a curse.. I love to be deep throated. Got spoiled by a early girlfriend that could swallow every inch of me and i would cum and she never flinched. I can still remember her. Miss her !! Only about two women in my life could do that. So in my mind in some ways its a curse cause i thrive to find that pleasure of being deep throated. Then there were women that i hit bottom with as i buried my self in there pussy. That hurts them and me. So finding a happy medium? Had an affair years ago cause of my sexless marriage. Never forget, the first time she reached into my pants and i was hard as a rock. She looked at me and said " what am i supposed to do with this thing? i dont think its going to fit. ? " Well need less to say she couldn't take me orally but her pussy and ass opened up to me just fine. Ahh those memories are making me stirr..... Wish i could find another to swallow me.... So Blessed or a curse??? Thoughts? Have to remember to come back and check this thread.