Size Matters

[Islander55]

I have NEVER heard a man say that---, yeah...ok, I'm lying

(just felt like I hadda chime in with something)

There is an old saying that I heard when younger. "Men would fuck a woodpile if they thought there was a snake in there." I am not sure it makes a lot of sense but I rather liked the sentiment.

 

[oneblueye]

There is an old saying that I heard when younger. "Men would fuck a woodpile if they thought there was a snake in there." I am not sure it makes a lot of sense but I rather liked the sentiment.

Ok thats the first time I've EVER heard that particular saying and I'm not sure what it means either-- but most those old timers were off their nut with the shine' and bath tub gin so-- it could be most any thing.

 

[Islander55]

Ok thats the first time I've EVER heard that particular saying and I'm not sure what it means either-- but most those old timers were off their nut with the shine' and bath tub gin so-- it could be most any thing.

This was when I was a kid many moons ago and it was an older lady. Her meaning was clear even if her words were a bit unusual. I believe that she was intimating that men would fuck anything that did not move too quick. I am pretty sure that does not apply to any women or at least not too many.

 

[oneblueye]

This was when I was a kid many moons ago and it was an older lady. Her meaning was clear even if her words were a bit unusual. I believe that she was intimating that men would fuck anything that did not move too quick. I am pretty sure that does not apply to any women or at least not too many.

it could be and that old woman wouldn't have been off the mark if by much.
As far as women being like that, for sure I've never run into any but I would always hear about them from other guys, o this girl---, this and that--, she would fuck anything with pants. Maybe the reason I got passed over was I wore jeans not pants or slacks.

 

[HoldYouDown]

But if what draws me is a big cock, some guys get immediately defensive or hostile.

Some people are just insecure or negative...I try to tune them out and avoid people who aren't supportive. The way I see it, some people will complain no matter what so you might as well live life the way you want!

 

[policywank]

Some people are just insecure or negative...I try to tune them out and avoid people who aren't supportive. The way I see it, some people will complain no matter what so you might as well live life the way you want!

I agree with that in principal and I can honestly say that individual guys who are insecure about the size of their penis are not a meaningful factor in my life, However, respectfully I think that we need to be careful with the "just tune them out" argument. Male sexual insecurity is a significant contributor to toxic masculinity and misogynist behaviour that has real and tangible negative consequences for women that do not go away if ignored.

 

[NorthernVAM]

I agree with that in principal and I can honestly say that individual guys who are insecure about the size of their penis are not a meaningful factor in my life, However, respectfully I think that we need to be careful with the "just tune them out" argument. Male sexual insecurity is a significant contributor to toxic masculinity and misogynist behaviour that has real and tangible negative consequences for women that do not go away if ignored.

Given your handle here -- policywank -- I just can't help wondering if you think women should have a stated penis policy, such as:

We don't necessarily discriminate based upon penis size, but we reserve the right to choose the penis that satisfies our needs at any given time, with the understanding that sometimes I'm like Goldilocks, looking for the one that is "just right" .

Maybe everyone woman should have a penis policy statement ...

 

[Stillrandy]

Maybe everyone woman should have a penis policy statement ...

She would probably need a solid 'rider' for that policy....

 

[HoldYouDown]

I agree with that in principal and I can honestly say that individual guys who are insecure about the size of their penis are not a meaningful factor in my life, However, respectfully I think that we need to be careful with the "just tune them out" argument. Male sexual insecurity is a significant contributor to toxic masculinity and misogynist behaviour that has real and tangible negative consequences for women that do not go away if ignored.

Yes. Well, IME ignoring toxic people might not be 100% effective, but it's a lot more effective than engaging them, which is guaranteed to invite more of the same. Learned it the hard way.

 

[emme8]

Am I the only woman that sees the pictures of giant cock in porn and can only think "OUCH, NO WAY COULD I TAKE THAT THING"


I haven't measured Bob, I don't know what percentile his penis falls into, it is relatively big, but I don't have a lot of experience to compare. But I can tell you it's a hell of a lot easier to please a smaller cock. Not just anal sex,but even vaginal sex, is painful with a big cock.

 

[Islander55]

it could be and that old woman wouldn't have been off the mark if by much.
As far as women being like that, for sure I've never run into any but I would always hear about them from other guys, o this girl---, this and that--, she would fuck anything with pants. Maybe the reason I got passed over was I wore jeans not pants or slacks.

As long as you were not wearing shorts with suspenders. Jeans are the norm around here. Of course you do need the cowboy hat to go with them.

 

[oneblueye]

As long as you were not wearing shorts with suspenders. Jeans are the norm around here. Of course you do need the cowboy hat to go with them.

Yea but the difference being I was 'here' and not 'there' and that was then and this is now

 

[policywank]

Yes. Well, IME ignoring toxic people might not be 100% effective, but it's a lot more effective than engaging them, which is guaranteed to invite more of the same. Learned it the hard way.

Generally speaking I agree that engaging with toxic people invites more of the same. On the level of individual interactions it makes a lot more sense to just walk away. Who needs it right?

But sometimes that toxic behaviour has consequences beyond the immediate interaction. Many toxic male behaviours have real consequences for women that are too serious to ignore. Many men still feel that it is acceptable to be hostile towards women simply because we express sexual preferences that they don't like. That hostility isn't innocuous and it isn't limited to a few unpleasant interactions. If we ignore it we allow it to thrive. If we tip-toe around it we validate it. On some level and at some point it needs to be challenged.

Of course how we challenge it is also a delicate question. Fighting with every narrow-minded insecure Incel probably isn't going to achieve much. But surely in open forums like this it is useful to be honest and able to address toxic behaviour.

 

[Islander55]

Yea but the difference being I was 'here' and not 'there' and that was then and this is now

That might be a good title for a country and western song.

 

[oneblueye]

That might be a good title for a country and western song.

Come on--, I have personally wrote over two hundred songs and I been racking my brain on how you could make that a shit-kicker song... and I still got nuttn except a POSSIBLE album title but that would sure be a long title.

 

[policywank]

Given your handle here -- policywank -- I just can't help wondering if you think women should have a stated penis policy, such as:

We don't necessarily discriminate based upon penis size, but we reserve the right to choose the penis that satisfies our needs at any given time, with the understanding that sometimes I'm like Goldilocks, looking for the one that is "just right" .

Maybe everyone woman should have a penis policy statement ...

I agree with the sentiment but I expect my drafting might be a little more along the lines of "I will make my own choices for my own reasons. I don't owe anybody any explanations. But if you do want to know the truth, I might tell you as long as you agree not to be a little bitch about it if you don't like the answer."

 

[Islander55]

Come on--, I have personally wrote over two hundred songs and I been racking my brain on how you could make that a shit-kicker song... and I still got nuttn except a POSSIBLE album title but that would sure be a long title.

You have written a lot more songs than I have so I will bow to your expertise. I have not written any yet but I might some day. Still it does have a certain ring to it. Maybe Hank Williams could do something with it. Wherever he might be.

 

[Islander55]

Come on--, I have personally wrote over two hundred songs and I been racking my brain on how you could make that a shit-kicker song... and I still got nuttn except a POSSIBLE album title but that would sure be a long title.

I have not written any songs so I will bow to your expertise. I do think it has a certain ring to it. Perhaps Hank Williams could do something with it. Wherever he might be.

 

[oneblueye]

I have not written any songs so I will bow to your expertise. I do think it has a certain ring to it. Perhaps Hank Williams could do something with it. Wherever he might be.

you must mean Hank jr, because Hank sr has been dead for a loooooooooooooooooooooong time.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Many men still feel that it is acceptable to be hostile towards women simply because we express sexual preferences that they don't like.

I hear you. I have encountered exactly this with toxic females, and some males, both in person and on the forum. What worked best for me was to block them. I don't agree that it needs to be challenged, I simply don't have time or inclination to train a grown woman (or man) how to be sexually open minded or tolerant, or generally non-toxic. I think arguing is a real time-waster, but I do my best to lead by example. IME it's impossible to "win" an argument or get someone like this to see things my way. If they ask for help, I'll help.

The way I see it, my mental well-being comes first, and engaging with toxic women or men is a fool's errand. I dated a toxic and verbally abusive woman for a few years, stupid me...she is 100% blocked from my life now and doesn't even get the privilege of my platonic friendship. You're right, she is probably someone else's problem now, that sucks for him, but I can't be a super hero and save everyone from themselves, and most people like that don't want to change, sadly. I shudder to think of what kind of shit she would have attempted had I stayed with her. Scary stuff.

Anyway I don't mean to derail the thread with my war stories perhaps we disagree a bit on execution, and that's cool. Here's hoping your happiness stays intact and you avoid people like that. Back to big penises...lol

 

[Islander55]

you must mean Hank jr, because Hank sr has been dead for a loooooooooooooooooooooong time.

No I meant Hank senior. It seems the sort of title that he could do something with. And yes I know he is no longer on our plane of existence but he must be strumming away somewhere.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I hear you. I have encountered exactly this with toxic females, and some males, both in person and on the forum. What worked best for me was to block them. I don't agree that it needs to be challenged, I simply don't have time or inclination to train a grown woman (or man) how to be sexually open minded or tolerant, or generally non-toxic. I think arguing is a real time-waster, but I do my best to lead by example. IME it's impossible to "win" an argument or get someone like this to see things my way. If they ask for help, I'll help.

The way I see it, my mental well-being comes first, and engaging with toxic women or men is a fool's errand. I dated a toxic and verbally abusive woman for a few years, stupid me...she is 100% blocked from my life now and doesn't even get the privilege of my platonic friendship. You're right, she is probably someone else's problem now, that sucks for him, but I can't be a super hero and save everyone from themselves, and most people like that don't want to change, sadly. I shudder to think of what kind of shit she would have attempted had I stayed with her. Scary stuff.

Anyway I don't mean to derail the thread with my war stories perhaps we disagree a bit on execution, and that's cool. Here's hoping your happiness stays intact and you avoid people like that. Back to big penises...lol

It seems to me that women have a unique and uniquely relevant perspective on toxic masculinity because they are the ones who bear the brunt of it up to and including violence against women. So for a woman to simply ignore toxic masculinity is a bit like a racial minority simply ignoring racism. Sometimes there is a bigger issue at stake and a principal that one must stand up for that goes beyond the immediate interaction.

I generally try to avoid toxic people and make my own mental well-being a priority, but that doesn't mean accepting unlimited bad behaviour so that I don't have to endure the discomfort of standing on principal.

 

[HoldYouDown]

It seems to me that women have a unique and uniquely relevant perspective on toxic masculinity because they are the ones who bear the brunt of it up to and including violence against women. So for a woman to simply ignore toxic masculinity is a bit like a racial minority simply ignoring racism. Sometimes there is a bigger issue at stake and a principal that one must stand up for that goes beyond the immediate interaction.

I generally try to avoid toxic people and make my own mental well-being a priority, but that doesn't mean accepting unlimited bad behaviour so that I don't have to endure the discomfort of standing on principal.

If one is in a violent situation, you're right, one can't just ignore it. Anyway I'll leave it there, I have my own unique experiences with abuse and toxicity that transcend gender and I'm going to avoid digging any deeper into them. This thread is about big penises and body preferences, after all.

 

[oneblueye]

No I meant Hank senior. It seems the sort of title that he could do something with. And yes I know he is no longer on our plane of existence but he must be strumming away somewhere.

hmmmm, now all i gotta do is find a channeler...

 

[policywank]

It seems to me that women have a unique and uniquely relevant perspective on toxic masculinity because they are the ones who bear the brunt of it up to and including violence against women. So for a woman to simply ignore toxic masculinity is a bit like a racial minority simply ignoring racism. Sometimes there is a bigger issue at stake and a principal that one must stand up for that goes beyond the immediate interaction.

I generally try to avoid toxic people and make my own mental well-being a priority, but that doesn't mean accepting unlimited bad behaviour so that I don't have to endure the discomfort of standing on principal.

Exactly. Even if violence is not imminent there is a time and place to stand up against toxic behaviour.