Size Matters

[Medicalman13152]

I would agree with this. Speaking purely for myself… let’s go with a scenario, okay? Let’s say I get fucked by three men, all of whom have the exact same diameter cock, but who are three different lengths: 4”, 6” and 9”. The 4” and 6” cocks are going to feel basically identical because I’ve got a cunt, not a graduated cylinder, so I can’t really measure exactly how deep something is. There are only three levels: not inside me, inside me, too far inside me. This last level? That’s where the 9” cock would be. Someone mentioned elsewhere in the thread that they had been able to induce powerful orgasms in their partners by hitting the partner’s cervix during penetration. I’m very happy for those women, and I’m sure they had a great time, but any contact with my cervix is a hard no for me. It feels very painful. I’ve had to refuse specific positions in the past because penetration was too deep and I couldn’t handle that contact with my cervix.
I suppose the moral of the story is to just find partners whose preferences match what you’re working with. If you have a big cock, go for one of the lovely ladies in this thread who have expressed a preference for that. If you have a smaller cock, go for someone like me who prefers that.

Hi Kitty, sounds like I would be "just right" for you.

 

[policywank]

Hello everyone, I would like to participate in this discussion too.

I think size matters in particular when we are referring to width and not so much to length. For normal reasons the length beyond a certain limit is useless and offers no advantage while the width can offer a woman a pleasure that otherwise she could not feel and be really happy.

I also think that the most important thing is the passion and erotic strength of the man and his love for the woman, dedicating totally! This is actually the real secret.

In Italy there is a proverb that says:
drink like an Irish, kiss like a italian.

I would agree with this. Speaking purely for myself… let’s go with a scenario, okay? Let’s say I get fucked by three men, all of whom have the exact same diameter cock, but who are three different lengths: 4”, 6” and 9”. The 4” and 6” cocks are going to feel basically identical because I’ve got a cunt, not a graduated cylinder, so I can’t really measure exactly how deep something is. There are only three levels: not inside me, inside me, too far inside me. This last level? That’s where the 9” cock would be. Someone mentioned elsewhere in the thread that they had been able to induce powerful orgasms in their partners by hitting the partner’s cervix during penetration. I’m very happy for those women, and I’m sure they had a great time, but any contact with my cervix is a hard no for me. It feels very painful. I’ve had to refuse specific positions in the past because penetration was too deep and I couldn’t handle that contact with my cervix.
I suppose the moral of the story is to just find partners whose preferences match what you’re working with. If you have a big cock, go for one of the lovely ladies in this thread who have expressed a preference for that. If you have a smaller cock, go for someone like me who prefers that.

I will typically choose girth over length and I would agree that beyond a certain length the benefits diminish. But the nerve endings in my vaginal canal aren't limited to the first few inches. For me personally, I can absolutely feel the difference between 4" inside and 8" inside - not only are twice as many nerve endings involved, but some of my favourite spots are deeper inside. I will also take a hard pass on the cervix punch but that is easily addressed if the man is careful and attentive.

For me it is more like how would a guy enjoy my blowjobs or handjobs if I only touched the bottom or top half of his cock? No doubt I can get him off and he will enjoy it and the passion and attention I bring to the experience are the most important factors. But the other 1/2 of his dick is sensitive so it is hard to imagine that it wouldn't appreciate some attention as well. That doesn't mean that incremental stimulation is all important, only that it has some incremental benefit as opposed to none at all.

 

[policywank]

There’s a considerable amount of women out there who do like guys with average to smaller dicks, but they’re not as vocal as women who say they like guys with those big swinging dicks. This is somewhat refreshing to hear tbh.

I think it is important to realize that acknowledging that women have some size preference is not synonymous with bigger is better. Once we open up the conversation everyone gets more perspective and ultimately I think it is healthier for everyone. In my observation based on discussions with men, the tendency to obfuscate and deny are a big reason why this is such a sensitive topic - the absolute denials and avoidance aren't credible so men automatically assume the worst. The reality is in fact more comforting and innocuous than many men imagine. The truth is that yes size matters but only insofar as we acknowledge that some women have a preference - it is more important to some than others and it certainly is not universally bigger is better. But we are allowed to have that preference without being disparaged. There is no need to announce it, but you shouldn't ask the question unless you want an honest answer. If a man is insecure on the topic compelling women to deny it is not productive or fair.

 

[Mtnmike]

I’ve had the conversation about size with my wife. She’s a bit of a size queen and says that anything under 7 inches to her is a small dick. I myself am about 5 inches erect or just slight over and somewhat girthy but I’m on the smaller end of average length wise. However she says that when you’re madly in love with a guy 5 inches can feel like 7 inches.

Whew just made it, 8 & pretty thick.

 

[lindasuebt]

I'm on the larger side (No brag, honest) and I would say knowing what to do with it is the most important thing, then size comes into play. Because If you know what you're doing and you're larger then it certainly is a very favorable situation to be in...

Totally agree with this post. As my mother told me when I was a teenager, 'It's not how big it is, but what the guy does with it that counts". Over the years I have been with many men and been pleasured by small cocks, while larger ones have sometimes left me unsatisfied. Guys often cum too soon for us girls, so longer staying power is important, or better still, a guy with quick recovery keeps everyone satisfied.

 

[littlecordelera]

I've told this story before out here, but I will tell it again...

My husband and I met in college at an obnoxious frat party. I am sarcastic and blunt, and he could respond in kind, so we hit it off right away. But even on that first night, he had this weird tendency to compare himself unfavorably to other guys in the area of sex. It was only a comment or two, and while it made me uneasy, I am sarcastic and blunt, so that's how I responded. He implied that he probably wasn't as good in bed as certain guys at the party, so I agreed. I thought it would run him off, but little did I know, it was exactly what he wanted.

Fast forward about a year. He and I were very close friends by now, and we were sitting in the cafeteria discussing the fact that I never wanted to be monogamous. My sex life was his favorite topic.

"So you don't want to get married?" he said.

"Sure I want to get married, if I can find a guy who's okay with me dating other guys."

"I already told you," he replied, "that's me!"

"I can't marry you."

"Why not?"

"You're no good in bed, remember? You keep telling me that."

"What difference does it make? You can fuck other guys!"

Honestly, in those days, that whole side of him just made me uneasy and I really didn't like it. My retorts would be mean, but that only seemed to urge him on. Strange as it may sound, we started dating, and one night we were sitting on the couch in my apartment, and things began to get hot and heavy. He was groping me and kissing me, and I began to undo his pants and suddenly be became completely passive. I expected him to take over and do it for me, but he just sat there. I got this weird feeling that he didn't want me to open his pants. Well, that just made me all the more determined, and I continued in a more aggressive manner, eventually making him lift his butt while I forcefully pulled down his khakis.

I instantly learned why he had been so reluctant. He had the smallest penis I had ever seen, and it was standing erect like a little sprout in the springtime. I looked up at him, and he averted his eyes.

"Oh sweetie," I said, as if to offer my condolences, "it's like a little baby gherkin."

With a look of shame, he raised his eyes to mine. "So now you know. I have a really small cock."

"I'm sorry, but that's not a cock," I told him, "that's a tiny, little penis."

He looked me dead in the eye, hesitated for a moment, and then very cautiously nodded. I had been operating on gut feel, and I knew then that I was getting it right.

I started to stroke his little standing penis, while I told him how small and inadequate it was.

"Can it cum like a real cock?" I asked.

It didn't take two minutes before he began to ejaculate, and I let go to deny him full release. His little sprout lifted and spurted and lifted and spurted all by its lonesome.

"It looks so cute when it cums," I said.

After he was done and feeling shameful about himself, I did not clean him up. I pulled his pants up, buttoned, zipped, and buckled his belt. His little erection was now captured in his own little puddle of cum, and I gave it a little pat.

I had learned exactly how to treat him. It was all I needed to know.

We've been together ever since.

 

[littlecordelera]

If I might add...whenever this topic comes up, it seems to always revolve around penetrative sex as the determining factor. But for me, and I'm just being honest, I don't really want to perform oral sex on a small cock. I can put all of my husband's erect little penis in my mouth with no problem. It's like putting your thumb in your mouth, and that's just not exactly arousing. And besides, he, or anyone looking on, can't even see anything. His little erection simply disappears into my mouth, so it doesn't even have a visual appeal to it. That doesn't exactly scream, RAUNCHY, DIRTY SEX!

On the other hand, there are guys with whom I can barely get half of their cock in my mouth or maybe only an inch or two past the thick head. That "challenge" has a huge (excuse the pun) physical and visual appeal to it. And guys with big cocks invariably have big balls, and I like holding on to those big masculine hangers like a strap on a subway train while I struggle to fit more meat into my mouth.

Do we even need to discuss handjobs? I mean, what sounds like a more sexually appealing situation? One hand or two? Thick and heavy or thin and light? A bludgeon of hard meat or a cute sprout?

For me, considerations about cock size need to take into account all the varieties of good and very pornographic sex, not just penetrative. I can play with either and I have become quite adept at pleasing a guy who has turned his small size into a source of eroticism. I actually find that very appealing. But if I want dirty, raunchy sex, which is usually my choice, I would prefer a big cock for my obscene play.

As for you small guys, you're always welcome to watch.

 

[nicechat]

I would agree with this. Speaking purely for myself… let’s go with a scenario, okay? Let’s say I get fucked by three men, all of whom have the exact same diameter cock, but who are three different lengths: 4”, 6” and 9”. The 4” and 6” cocks are going to feel basically identical because I’ve got a cunt, not a graduated cylinder, so I can’t really measure exactly how deep something is. There are only three levels: not inside me, inside me, too far inside me. This last level? That’s where the 9” cock would be. Someone mentioned elsewhere in the thread that they had been able to induce powerful orgasms in their partners by hitting the partner’s cervix during penetration. I’m very happy for those women, and I’m sure they had a great time, but any contact with my cervix is a hard no for me. It feels very painful. I’ve had to refuse specific positions in the past because penetration was too deep and I couldn’t handle that contact with my cervix.
I suppose the moral of the story is to just find partners whose preferences match what you’re working with. If you have a big cock, go for one of the lovely ladies in this thread who have expressed a preference for that. If you have a smaller cock, go for someone like me who prefers that.

I think you are spot on and for the reasons you describe.

 

[dontneedone]

If I might add...whenever this topic comes up, it seems to always revolve around penetrative sex as the determining factor. But for me, and I'm just being honest, I don't really want to perform oral sex on a small cock. I can put all of my husband's erect little penis in my mouth with no problem. It's like putting your thumb in your mouth, and that's just not exactly arousing. And besides, he, or anyone looking on, can't even see anything. His little erection simply disappears into my mouth, so it doesn't even have a visual appeal to it. That doesn't exactly scream, RAUNCHY, DIRTY SEX!

On the other hand, there are guys with whom I can barely get half of their cock in my mouth or maybe only an inch or two past the thick head. That "challenge" has a huge (excuse the pun) physical and visual appeal to it. And guys with big cocks invariably have big balls, and I like holding on to those big masculine hangers like a strap on a subway train while I struggle to fit more meat into my mouth.

Do we even need to discuss handjobs? I mean, what sounds like a more sexually appealing situation? One hand or two? Thick and heavy or thin and light? A bludgeon of hard meat or a cute sprout?

For me, considerations about cock size need to take into account all the varieties of good and very pornographic sex, not just penetrative. I can play with either and I have become quite adept at pleasing a guy who has turned his small size into a source of eroticism. I actually find that very appealing. But if I want dirty, raunchy sex, which is usually my choice, I would prefer a big cock for my obscene play.

As for you small guys, you're always welcome to watch.

I feel like Lit needs to have a better option than the "Like" button on here, because I "Love" all of Little Cordelera's posts.

Excellent work, sexy lady.

 

[policywank]

If I might add...whenever this topic comes up, it seems to always revolve around penetrative sex as the determining factor. But for me, and I'm just being honest, I don't really want to perform oral sex on a small cock. I can put all of my husband's erect little penis in my mouth with no problem. It's like putting your thumb in your mouth, and that's just not exactly arousing. And besides, he, or anyone looking on, can't even see anything. His little erection simply disappears into my mouth, so it doesn't even have a visual appeal to it. That doesn't exactly scream, RAUNCHY, DIRTY SEX!

On the other hand, there are guys with whom I can barely get half of their cock in my mouth or maybe only an inch or two past the thick head. That "challenge" has a huge (excuse the pun) physical and visual appeal to it. And guys with big cocks invariably have big balls, and I like holding on to those big masculine hangers like a strap on a subway train while I struggle to fit more meat into my mouth.

Do we even need to discuss handjobs? I mean, what sounds like a more sexually appealing situation? One hand or two? Thick and heavy or thin and light? A bludgeon of hard meat or a cute sprout?

For me, considerations about cock size need to take into account all the varieties of good and very pornographic sex, not just penetrative. I can play with either and I have become quite adept at pleasing a guy who has turned his small size into a source of eroticism. I actually find that very appealing. But if I want dirty, raunchy sex, which is usually my choice, I would prefer a big cock for my obscene play.

As for you small guys, you're always welcome to watch.

My answer to "what size is ideal?" varies somewhat depending on whether vagina, anal or oral penetration or simply aesthetics is the key factor. But in all cases average or smaller is not the answer.

 

[littlecordelera]

I feel like Lit needs to have a better option than the "Like" button on here, because I "Love" all of Little Cordelera's posts.

Excellent work, sexy lady.

Thank you, dontneedone. That is very kind of you.

 

[littlecordelera]

My answer to "what size is ideal?" varies somewhat depending on whether vagina, anal or oral penetration or simply aesthetics is the key factor. But in all cases average or smaller is not the answer.

Seems to me "ideal" is a range.

 

[sterculius]

If I might add...whenever this topic comes up, it seems to always revolve around penetrative sex as the determining factor. But for me, and I'm just being honest, I don't really want to perform oral sex on a small cock. I can put all of my husband's erect little penis in my mouth with no problem. It's like putting your thumb in your mouth, and that's just not exactly arousing. And besides, he, or anyone looking on, can't even see anything. His little erection simply disappears into my mouth, so it doesn't even have a visual appeal to it. That doesn't exactly scream, RAUNCHY, DIRTY SEX!

On the other hand, there are guys with whom I can barely get half of their cock in my mouth or maybe only an inch or two past the thick head. That "challenge" has a huge (excuse the pun) physical and visual appeal to it. And guys with big cocks invariably have big balls, and I like holding on to those big masculine hangers like a strap on a subway train while I struggle to fit more meat into my mouth.

Do we even need to discuss handjobs? I mean, what sounds like a more sexually appealing situation? One hand or two? Thick and heavy or thin and light? A bludgeon of hard meat or a cute sprout?

For me, considerations about cock size need to take into account all the varieties of good and very pornographic sex, not just penetrative. I can play with either and I have become quite adept at pleasing a guy who has turned his small size into a source of eroticism. I actually find that very appealing. But if I want dirty, raunchy sex, which is usually my choice, I would prefer a big cock for my obscene play.

As for you small guys, you're always welcome to watch.

I can count on the fingers of one hand and have fingers left over, the number of times my wife has given me a blowjob. She says that it makes her feel like a child abuser sucking off one of the toddlers she used to babysit as a teen. I really can't blame her because I too love sucking big cocks. I also would refuse to suck the cock of any man whose cock was the same size as mine

 

[whenagain]

If I might add...whenever this topic comes up, it seems to always revolve around penetrative sex as the determining factor. But for me, and I'm just being honest, I don't really want to perform oral sex on a small cock. I can put all of my husband's erect little penis in my mouth with no problem. It's like putting your thumb in your mouth, and that's just not exactly arousing. And besides, he, or anyone looking on, can't even see anything. His little erection simply disappears into my mouth, so it doesn't even have a visual appeal to it. That doesn't exactly scream, RAUNCHY, DIRTY SEX!

On the other hand, there are guys with whom I can barely get half of their cock in my mouth or maybe only an inch or two past the thick head. That "challenge" has a huge (excuse the pun) physical and visual appeal to it. And guys with big cocks invariably have big balls, and I like holding on to those big masculine hangers like a strap on a subway train while I struggle to fit more meat into my mouth.

Do we even need to discuss handjobs? I mean, what sounds like a more sexually appealing situation? One hand or two? Thick and heavy or thin and light? A bludgeon of hard meat or a cute sprout?

For me, considerations about cock size need to take into account all the varieties of good and very pornographic sex, not just penetrative. I can play with either and I have become quite adept at pleasing a guy who has turned his small size into a source of eroticism. I actually find that very appealing. But if I want dirty, raunchy sex, which is usually my choice, I would prefer a big cock for my obscene play.

As for you small guys, you're always welcome to watch.

I dated/was a sub/pet/toy/whatever to a gal who had a lot of partners for a while. We had a lot of fun, great conversations, really intense role play and making out but she never went down on me for this reason. She said she just was only interested in blowing big dicks, and mine just didn't meet (meat?) the criteria.

 

[savmitch1038]

I've told this story before out here, but I will tell it again...

My husband and I met in college at an obnoxious frat party. I am sarcastic and blunt, and he could respond in kind, so we hit it off right away. But even on that first night, he had this weird tendency to compare himself unfavorably to other guys in the area of sex. It was only a comment or two, and while it made me uneasy, I am sarcastic and blunt, so that's how I responded. He implied that he probably wasn't as good in bed as certain guys at the party, so I agreed. I thought it would run him off, but little did I know, it was exactly what he wanted.

Fast forward about a year. He and I were very close friends by now, and we were sitting in the cafeteria discussing the fact that I never wanted to be monogamous. My sex life was his favorite topic.

"So you don't want to get married?" he said.

"Sure I want to get married, if I can find a guy who's okay with me dating other guys."

"I already told you," he replied, "that's me!"

"I can't marry you."

"Why not?"

"You're no good in bed, remember? You keep telling me that."

"What difference does it make? You can fuck other guys!"

Honestly, in those days, that whole side of him just made me uneasy and I really didn't like it. My retorts would be mean, but that only seemed to urge him on. Strange as it may sound, we started dating, and one night we were sitting on the couch in my apartment, and things began to get hot and heavy. He was groping me and kissing me, and I began to undo his pants and suddenly be became completely passive. I expected him to take over and do it for me, but he just sat there. I got this weird feeling that he didn't want me to open his pants. Well, that just made me all the more determined, and I continued in a more aggressive manner, eventually making him lift his butt while I forcefully pulled down his khakis.

I instantly learned why he had been so reluctant. He had the smallest penis I had ever seen, and it was standing erect like a little sprout in the springtime. I looked up at him, and he averted his eyes.

"Oh sweetie," I said, as if to offer my condolences, "it's like a little baby gherkin."

With a look of shame, he raised his eyes to mine. "So now you know. I have a really small cock."

"I'm sorry, but that's not a cock," I told him, "that's a tiny, little penis."

He looked me dead in the eye, hesitated for a moment, and then very cautiously nodded. I had been operating on gut feel, and I knew then that I was getting it right.

I started to stroke his little standing penis, while I told him how small and inadequate it was.

"Can it cum like a real cock?" I asked.

It didn't take two minutes before he began to ejaculate, and I let go to deny him full release. His little sprout lifted and spurted and lifted and spurted all by its lonesome.

"It looks so cute when it cums," I said.

After he was done and feeling shameful about himself, I did not clean him up. I pulled his pants up, buttoned, zipped, and buckled his belt. His little erection was now captured in his own little puddle of cum, and I gave it a little pat.

I had learned exactly how to treat him. It was all I needed to know.

We've been together ever since.

Very blunt, but if it works for the both of you then that is great!

 

[policywank]

Seems to me "ideal" is a range.

Yes it is a range and generally speaking the low end of my preferred range(s) is what most consider moderately above average.

 

[Minx78]

For me I don’t really like too much length I have a sensitive cervix but would love a nice girth one…. Mmmm

 

[whenagain]

For me I don’t really like too much length I have a sensitive cervix but would love a nice girth one…. Mmmm

How much is too much?

 

[Minx78]

I would say an average size of 6 inches is the absolute most I’d have if it was choice for me but would be more than happy with 4/5 inches if girth makes up for it…

 

[whenagain]

I would say an average size of 6 inches is the absolute most I’d have if it was choice for me but would be more than happy with 4/5 inches if girth makes up for it…

I love to hear a woman say that.

 

[Mtnmike]

I would say an average size of 6 inches is the absolute most I’d have if it was choice for me but would be more than happy with 4/5 inches if girth makes up for it…

Well darn, missed it by that much

 

[Shark9000]

For me I don’t really like too much length I have a sensitive cervix but would love a nice girth one…. Mmmm

My ex-wife was the same way. I just had to be careful with her. I learned how to do it right not bottom out and cause her pain.

 

[Minx78]

Out of curiosity, would you say that about any hole? Asking for a friend

Ouchy is about all I can say there.. whilst I love girth in some areas I’m relatively new to the party in others so I’ll stick to average although I’m sure over time this can be something you grow used to…!!

 

[Riverboy72]

Surely what you can’t get in is wasted??.
What about girth?. That must make more of a difference?.
I thought most of the feelings for a woman are near the entrance and G spot?.
I love to go balls deep!.

 

[ebpts]

The question for the ladies should be, what is the point of even considering or engaging with a size that doesn’t fulfill your needs, wants or desires? When it comes to satisfaction, size does matter…..period! No amount of other stuff can take the place of a well endowed guy.