Size Matters

[Goldenfinger]

Long time ago I knew this lady, she would sometimes go out to the bars with me and a couple guys I was stationed with. She said “I don’t care what size your dick is! If it hits the spot and can last long enough to make me cum. That’s all I need”.

 

[Islander55]

I have a saying when ladies pontificate about size does not matter. I would rather have it and not need it, then To need it and not have it. Question for the ladies, how many of you have craved a small, no offense meant to anyone just making a point, white/black/ cock?

I can not speak for all women but I think most of us crave a man not just his cock. I have not had that many men in my life but I have been around the block a few times. I would say I have had two men that were exceptionally hung. One was a dud and the other is quite good. I have not had any tiny men and I think most were in the average range. A few duds but mostly good.

 

[HoldYouDown]

I can not speak for all women but I think most of us crave a man not just his cock.

It's refreshing to see someone say they don't speak for everyone. The biggest problem with topics like this is too many solipsistic viewpoints.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I can not speak for all women but I think most of us crave a man not just his cock. I have not had that many men in my life but I have been around the block a few times. I would say I have had two men that were exceptionally hung. One was a dud and the other is quite good. I have not had any tiny men and I think most were in the average range. A few duds but mostly good.

I believe that good sex is more about two people truly wanting to please each other... period.

 

[cathyk1980]

I have a saying when ladies pontificate about size does not matter. I would rather have it and not need it, then To need it and not have it. Question for the ladies, how many of you have craved a small, no offense meant to anyone just making a point, white/black/ cock?

It is more about the man. I love oral sex, and have had cocks of all sizes. Some delicious and some not so much. It’s about the moment, the mood, the man.

However, I will say when I watch porno of guys masturbating a big cock is always nice to watch. So it’s the difference between reality and fantasy I suppose.

 

[hanban24]

I have a saying when ladies pontificate about size does not matter. I would rather have it and not need it, then To need it and not have it. Question for the ladies, how many of you have craved a small, no offense meant to anyone just making a point, white/black/ cock?

Too much can definitely still be a problem, at least for some. Sure, not enough is a bigger problem, most of the time. You can always find things to do with either. Personally I’m not a fan of either extreme, but like I said, I have friends who are fans of both extremes.

 

[hanban24]

It is more about the man. I love oral sex, and have had cocks of all sizes. Some delicious and some not so much. It’s about the moment, the mood, the man.

However, I will say when I watch porno of guys masturbating a big cock is always nice to watch. So it’s the difference between reality and fantasy I suppose.

Likewise. Oral sex is a lot harder on a massive cock. Gets your mouth sore quicker. I like to deepthroat some and once you get to a certain length and girth that just isn’t realistic. Plus it can get uncomfortable vaginally.

A big cock is always better to look at. I’m just not sure it always plays out being better when the play starts.

 

[policywank]

I know lots of women who would say 'take it slowly and treat me right. But 'oh no please stop it just too much'? I don't know many who would say that.

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[crashD]

In my kind of work, before retiring as well as personal experience for me average size aand maybe slighly above average is a perfect length. Now I will say I do have a preference for the thicker ones as they tend to hit more of the right spots in me. The link showing sizes and what is average I feel is correct. In all the men I have been with the average I would say of 5 to 6 inches long is what about 85-90 percent have been. But yes I have been with bigger and a few much bigger! The biggest was a Greek gentleman and he would make porn stars envious. Fortunately he also knew how to use it as he knew it could hurt me by bruising me internally if thrusting to hard and deep. I have also been with a number of black gentlemen and often truly enjoy them, not so much for size, but other reasons like lack or limited inhibitions.

As far as size being hard to judge, I know for a fact that is true. I am small, 4'11" and around 98-100 lbs on average. I hold a penis in my hand and even an average sized guy can look big in a picture or in person. When modeling I was rarely photographed with anything close to me that could give you an idea of how small I actually was. Fortunate for me my body proportions are close to what photographers and artist consider as perfect. My bust is larger than average but the type of modeling I did that was a plus and I need to mentio being as small as I am overall make my bust look even larger than it is. Same would apply to penis size estimates. Easy to make a mistake in size. Just luck of the draw in the gene pool. I do have some photos taken of me from lower perspectives and the pose that make me look tall. (I love those LOL!)

So guys stop worrying learn technique and learn how to read your partners body language and reactions.

love to have pics with you holding my cock..

 

[Stillrandy]

Seems to be about the right size...

https://cdn07.reblogme.com/uploads/photos/2022/02/1568/reblogme-1568-2wuuu3UlTc.jpeg

 

[agedmac]

I really relate to your point about variety. I don't want a big cock all the time. But it is a unique experience which I enjoy.

To me sex is a bit like cuisine. I enjoy variety. I enjoy trying new things. That doesn't mean I am not discriminating. But I know you can't find and enjoy new things if you won't try. Furthermore, sexual experiences are diverse. They do not fit into simple notions of best to worst and there are a multitude of factors that factor into the quality of a meal. A big dick is a bit like medium rare prime rib. I don't want it all the time - I wouldn't want any one meal all the time. But when I want it I want it. It it isn't on the menu I'll have something else but you aren't going to convince me that chicken is a substitute.

Agree about variety and like your analogy to a meal. A woman in college many years ago was also a tennis player and a solid scholarship player. We were discussing sex and she admitted to loving variety and used tennis to illustrate. She noted that playing different styles of players (base line vs rush the net types as an example) made tennis fun. It was NOT fun if her opponent wasn't good 'at the basics', especially lasting more than the ''five minutes'. She admitted that we almost didn't have a second date after my 'too quick on the trigger' on our first date (in my defense, I had pursued her too long!). But when I spent a good half hour diving down low and sending her into multiple orgasms, she revised her opinion. Oh and btw, I was a lousy tennis player which made the relationship not work cuz I needed to play tennis well.

 

[Islander55]

Agree about variety and like your analogy to a meal. A woman in college many years ago was also a tennis player and a solid scholarship player. We were discussing sex and she admitted to loving variety and used tennis to illustrate. She noted that playing different styles of players (base line vs rush the net types as an example) made tennis fun. It was NOT fun if her opponent wasn't good 'at the basics', especially lasting more than the ''five minutes'. She admitted that we almost didn't have a second date after my 'too quick on the trigger' on our first date (in my defense, I had pursued her too long!). But when I spent a good half hour diving down low and sending her into multiple orgasms, she revised her opinion. Oh and btw, I was a lousy tennis player which made the relationship not work cuz I needed to play tennis well.

I guess the tennis was the foreplay?

 

[agedmac]

eh....... my point was that what she was saying was that sex with the same person tends to get monotonous and that playing different guys was like different lovers........the fact that they are 'different' is generally good enough. Or as a friend once told me that exploring different women sexually was the point....different

 

[policywank]

eh....... my point was that what she was saying was that sex with the same person tends to get monotonous and that playing different guys was like different lovers........the fact that they are 'different' is generally good enough. Or as a friend once told me that exploring different women sexually was the point....different

Yes, I think that variety is key and it is the motivation for many women. Of course we all want to optimize our pleasure so no matter how good the sex is with one person there is always appeal to the possibility that it will be even better with another. But fundamentally it isn't a competition and I don't think of men on a linear scale. I think that is something that men do on their own because of their own insecurities and/or competitiveness (different sides of the same coin in this context).

 

[Crownvic]

Seems to be about the right size...

https://cdn07.reblogme.com/uploads/photos/2022/02/1568/reblogme-1568-2wuuu3UlTc.jpeg

A perfect fit...love it...

 

[LaFrosting]

There has always been arguments about the importance/unimportance of penis size. There are valid points on all sides of the discussion. It all depends on a variety of different factors. I am generally of the opinion that it matters if u make it matter. I have a very small erect penis (a slim 4") and tiny flaccid size of 1.5" My unimpressive erect status has sometimes been a buzz kill for some women but my tiny flaccid size is more damning. Even though most people are aware that flaccid size does not necessarily indicate erect size my soft member is so pathetic it is hard to envision it improving that much. Most times in the public arena be it public showers change rooms urinals where men size themselves up against the competition u gain a rep for being particularly large or small. This can affect your status amongst other males and worse filters out into the female members of work school or social group. Not good if you are in the tiny dick category. I know for certain it has caused more than a few women to have no interest in me sexually. That may seem rather shallow of them but if you line up a group of guys who have equally attractive personalities equally attractive clothed physiques etc etc for the most part The guy who is known to have a tiny cock is probably at a disadvantage.

Like you said there are so many things that contribute to size and how effective it is in the bedroom.

1.) The size of the people playing together. A bigger guy with a smaller woman and your member could seem plenty large. A smaller man and a bigger woman and things might be falling a little short.

2.) Confidence is a huge issue. Men confident in what they are doing and enjoying the moment are going to always out perform those wondering how they are doing and doubting themselves. Over-thinking it or having too much ego are going to be problems as well so being in a good head space will be so important.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Like you said there are so many things that contribute to size and how effective it is in the bedroom.

1.) The size of the people playing together. A bigger guy with a smaller woman and your member could seem plenty large. A smaller man and a bigger woman and things might be falling a little short.

2.) Confidence is a huge issue. Men confident in what they are doing and enjoying the moment are going to always out perform those wondering how they are doing and doubting themselves. Over-thinking it or having too much ego are going to be problems as well so being in a good head space will be so important.

All valid, but I don't think it helps men to be delusional. For lots of women a thin 4" dick just isn't gonna get it done. And I'm sorry but I think that the whole "that's superficial" argument is kinda bullshit. We all have physical preferences that might be regarded as superficial, but liking a guy's piercing blue eyes or full head of hair isn't intrinsically any more or less superficial than liking his big dick. And it is hard not to notice that attractive people who talk about other people's superficiality are not themselves dating fat ugly guys with little dicks but a heart of gold.

 

[LaFrosting]

All valid, but I don't think it helps men to be delusional. For lots of women a thin 4" dick just isn't gonna get it done. And I'm sorry but I think that the whole "that's superficial" argument is kinda bullshit. We all have physical preferences that might be regarded as superficial, but liking a guy's piercing blue eyes or full head of hair isn't intrinsically any more or less superficial than liking his big dick. And it is hard not to notice that attractive people who talk about other people's superficiality are not themselves dating fat ugly guys with little dicks but a heart of gold.

Delusional absolutely not. However a man can realize he's small in size and still have fun and be confident. The whole reason they make toys, games, and other things to help get our partners off besides what God gave them. Being delusional is a problem that I would put hand in hand with having too much ego. Thinking you are the solution to all women's sex problems with no evidence to back it up or leaving women wanting and unsatisfied but because you got off and look good you're an ace. So there is a fine line between being confident and not having to ask was it good for you or did you cum and being an egotistical ass.

We all are superficial to a point. Personality and a heart of gold can make us love someone and connect with someone but often looks and sex appeal bring in the attention and open the door. We all have likes and dislikes and preferences when it comes to love and sex. To deny so is pretty ignorant.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Delusional absolutely not. However a man can realize he's small in size and still have fun and be confident. The whole reason they make toys, games, and other things to help get our partners off besides what God gave them. Being delusional is a problem that I would put hand in hand with having too much ego. Thinking you are the solution to all women's sex problems with no evidence to back it up or leaving women wanting and unsatisfied but because you got off and look good you're an ace. So there is a fine line between being confident and not having to ask was it good for you or did you cum and being an egotistical ass.

We all are superficial to a point. Personality and a heart of gold can make us love someone and connect with someone but often looks and sex appeal bring in the attention and open the door. We all have likes and dislikes and preferences when it comes to love and sex. To deny so is pretty ignorant.

Exactly. We each have to work with what we have. And we can still be confident in ourselves as people regardless of physical characteristics. But sometimes guys want to believe that size just doesn't matter at all or there is something we can do to fully compensate for lack of size and completely neutralize it as a factor. As a result we can be sensitive or even hostile to the notion that a woman might want a bigger cock. I think the healthier approach is to have confidence in what we do offering accept what we don't offer.

Nobody has everything and is good at everything. That is just life. Pretending that the things we do have are all important and the things we don't have are not important at all is an unnecessary delusion.

 

[Islander55]

I admit that I can really enjoy a bigger cock but it is not something I want every day. Variety is the spice that makes sex fun. I know there are people that believe that monogamy is the way to go but for many of us, there is no one man that does it all for us. I am pretty sure it is the same with men.

 

[LaFrosting]

Exactly. We each have to work with what we have. And we can still be confident in ourselves as people regardless of physical characteristics. But sometimes guys want to believe that size just doesn't matter at all or there is something we can do to fully compensate for lack of size and completely neutralize it as a factor. As a result we can be sensitive or even hostile to the notion that a woman might want a bigger cock. I think the healthier approach is to have confidence in what we do offering accept what we don't offer.

Nobody has everything and is good at everything. That is just life. Pretending that the things we do have are all important and the things we don't have are not important at all is an unnecessary delusion.

My argument for most men getting upset because we want to enjoy a bigger cock is that how many of them have been with women who they want to have bigger breast, bigger butts, or shaved versus trimmed. We all have that ideal preference and that goes for men as well so to get upset at someone having a desire for that is pretty ignorant in my opinion.

 

[KyleR215]

It's all about having a great personality. Right?

It's funny because there are "game" or "reality" shows about naked dating, blind dating, dating in the dark.... where people choose based on physical attributes or personality.

However, it seems that they never end well.

So is it better to be average in all aspects? Or is it better physical over personality? Or Personality over Physical?

 

[crashD]

My argument for most men getting upset because we want to enjoy a bigger cock is that how many of them have been with women who they want to have bigger breast, bigger butts, or shaved versus trimmed. We all have that ideal preference and that goes for men as well so to get upset at someone having a desire for that is pretty ignorant in my opinion.

Well said.

And very true.

 

[policywank]

My argument for most men getting upset because we want to enjoy a bigger cock is that how many of them have been with women who they want to have bigger breast, bigger butts, or shaved versus trimmed. We all have that ideal preference and that goes for men as well so to get upset at someone having a desire for that is pretty ignorant in my opinion.

It is pretty silly, but it is a topic on which some men simply can't seem to just accept who they are. I can be drawn to various physical characteristics in a man and other men who don't have those characteristics will just think, "oh well I have other things that appeal to other women". But if what draws me is a big cock, some guys get immediately defensive or hostile.

 

[oneblueye]

I admit that I can really enjoy a bigger cock but it is not something I want every day. Variety is the spice that makes sex fun. I know there are people that believe that monogamy is the way to go but for many of us, there is no one man that does it all for us. I am pretty sure it is the same with men.

I have NEVER heard a man say that---, yeah...ok, I'm lying

(just felt like I hadda chime in with something)