Sexual gratification in a relationship. How important is it?

[HeavyStick]

Hypothetically speaking, if you were in a relationship with someone and one of the partners couldn't perform... how troubled would you be?

Here's something’s to keep in mind.

There are no major distractions, no kids, no room mates; you don't have any neighbors that you share a wall with.

How important is sex to you?

What would you give up as far as your sexual appetite?

Anal... Oral... some other fetish?


Guys, how would you feel if she knitted while you were giving her your "Big Daddy Long Stroke"?

Gals, how would you feel if he wasn't able to "live up to the task"? You know a guy trying to shoot pool with a rope.


IMHO, love for me. How much do I love her before I find out our interests aren't compatible? What are we able to do sexually and enhance upon that?

I'd give it sometime before making a final decision; it just matters where my heart is.

 

[peachykeen]

Well it's pretty important if your partner is capable but not willing. But what if your partner was, say, on antidepressant meds, or was permanently injured, or something?

 

[cowgirl heaven]

voted other

To me at different moments in the relationship sexual gratification means a lot and at times nothing. It ebbs and flows like a river......twists and turns, and is never the same. It's about communication and being able to navigate through the water.

 

[honeylick]

How important is sex to you?

in a relationship, it's not just a physical joining, but in some ways re-linking to a persons essence. it's very much a part of a healthy relationship.

it would be an issue, one that could be dealt with, but an issue nonetheless.

 

[Boreal_Dork]

Having a great sex life is a wonderful part of life.

But, a great fuck is far easier to find than a true soulmate. Sex is what gets a relationship going, but I don't think it could hold any relationship together by itself for even five years, let alone ten or twenty years. So, it is important, but not the most important thing.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Having a satisfying sex life is extremely important to me. I believe that sex is good for people, mind, body and spirit, and it brings couples closer together and more intimate, understanding and willing to compromise on every level in their lives.

Plus, I'm cranky when I don't get fucked enough.

Sex. It's a good thing.

 

[Guest]

Maybe this is where sex and love need to combine. A loving act would be gratifying for both.

I am asssuming that the non-participant is injured or otherwise rendered incapable.

Raunchy, horny fucking is good but so,is tender, gentle pewrsuasion.

 

[ozraven]

Hypothetically speaking, if you were in a relationship with someone and one of the partners couldn't perform... how troubled would you be?

I voted a 9-10 on this because I am an extremely sexual person, always have been......
I would without a doubt be very troubled, probably try and figure out what I was doing wrong etc etc.....

Here's something’s to keep in mind.

There are no major distractions, no kids, no room mates; you don't have any neighbors that you share a wall with.

That's us, and we have a LOT of fun.
We also spend a lot of time on the couch just being close.....it's probably more important than the sex actually, but that's because of who I am with, and not becasue of who I am.

How important is sex to you?

What would you give up as far as your sexual appetite?

Anal... Oral... some other fetish?

For her, pretty much everything but the ability to please and be pleased in some way.......although it's unlikely to be an issue.

Guys, how would you feel if she knitted while you were giving her your "Big Daddy Long Stroke"?

Gals, how would you feel if he wasn't able to "live up to the task"? You know a guy trying to shoot pool with a rope.

Devastated.

IMHO, love for me. How much do I love her before I find out our interests aren't compatible? What are we able to do sexually and enhance upon that?

Me too. I loved her for 2 years before I laid a hand on her.

I'd give it sometime before making a final decision; it just matters where my heart is.

If it meant the absolute certianty of a long and happy life with her I would cut off my cock......(or at least my left nut! )

 

[marksgirl]

We'd come to a compromise.

Life is full of compromise.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Having a satisfying sex life is extremely important to me. I believe that sex is good for people, mind, body and spirit, and it brings couples closer together and more intimate, understanding and willing to compromise on every level in their lives.

Plus, I'm cranky when I don't get fucked enough.

Sex. It's a good thing.

Took the words right out of my mouth....

 

[juicylips]

I need a whore/slut/gigolo in bed.


That pretty well sums it up.

 

[ozraven]

I need a whore/slut/gigolo in bed.


That pretty well sums it up.

I am available Wednesday between 1 and 3......

 

[juicylips]

I am available Wednesday between 1 and 3......

*Penciling in ozraven for Wed. 1-3*

 

[amsubone]

i didn't vote because i have mixed feelings. Having gone through a relationship where my partner had an extended illness and passed on has made me look at relationship much, much differently.

There would have been a time i would have said that good sex is a very important part of a good relationship; in some ways even making the bad times better. Yes, i missed sex during that period but i signed on for better or worse and in sickness and in health.

Now i simply say, i miss my friend. Relationship is, really, about more than sex or love making or whatever it is that we call it. It is really about becoming good friends.

Yep, still tender, still sappy. sorry

 

[ozraven]

*Penciling in ozraven for Wed. 1-3*

Yeah! a date......

Can I bring a friend? If I don't and she finds out I will be damaged!

 

[ozraven]

i didn't vote because i have mixed feelings. Having gone through a relationship where my partner had an extended illness and passed on has made me look at relationship much, much differently.

There would have been a time i would have said that good sex is a very important part of a good relationship; in some ways even making the bad times better. Yes, i missed sex during that period but i signed on for better or worse and in sickness and in health.

Now i simply say, i miss my friend. Relationship is, really, about more than sex or love making or whatever it is that we call it. It is really about becoming good friends.

Yep, still tender, still sappy. sorry

Why sorry?
Honesty is a good thing.
Hope things get better for you real quick......
When you say you missed the sex, how much? Could/would you have strayed.....have you had sex since?
If I can think of any more really personal questions I'll get back to you....

 

[amsubone]

Why sorry?
Honesty is a good thing.
Hope things get better for you real quick......
When you say you missed the sex, how much? Could/would you have strayed.....have you had sex since?
If I can think of any more really personal questions I'll get back to you....

Missed sex more than i wanted to, if that makes sense.

No, didn't stray and felt guilty because i wanted to. i did develop, however, a pretty good relationship with Variations magazine and both hands. LOL

I've had sex since but not with any regularity. And i'm hoping things get better quickly as well. Thanks for your thoughts.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

okay, if we've ventured into the world of sex with each other, than there is a lot of feeling for each other there. but, what's the reason why the other catn perfrom? is it just that's how they are and there is no changing it, lack of willingness, etc? that makes a difference to me in how I'd answer this question.

 

[ozraven]

Missed sex more than i wanted to, if that makes sense.

No, didn't stray and felt guilty because i wanted to. i did develop, however, a pretty good relationship with Variations magazine and both hands. LOL

I've had sex since but not with any regularity. And i'm hoping things get better quickly as well. Thanks for your thoughts.

You are obviously a very strong person........

Good luck!

okay, if we've ventured into the world of sex with each other, than there is a lot of feeling for each other there. but, what's the reason why the other catn perfrom? is it just that's how they are and there is no changing it, lack of willingness, etc? that makes a difference to me in how I'd answer this question.

Me too, but given how much a part of me my "sexuality" is, it is hard to believe I could enter a relationship where it was likely to play little or no part......

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Me too, but given how much a part of me my "sexuality" is, it is hard to believe I could enter a relationship where it was likely to play little or no part......

I know exactly what you mean. I'm the same way. I dated a guy once though that wasnt very secure with his sexuality and refused to do a lot of things that would really excite me and made the whole sexual experience (when we got to that point) all about him. And there was no reason behind it other than him being unwilling. That reason in itself made any and all sexual encounters that we had few and far between (not to mention didnt last very long). It's totally different if he's just not able to keep it up long enough to make the experience worthwhile to me, but is willing to try to make it enjoyable in other ways or at least not just about him all the time. but quite honestly, I would opt for no sex over an unwilling partner anyday.

 

[Purrde Flower]

I need a whore/slut/gigolo in bed

Sexual gratification is important in a relationship. I was in a relationship for 7 years with not much sexual gratification and it is one of the reasons we had as many problems as we did.

 

[Guest]

I need a whore in bed.
If the sex isnt there, I'll move on to someone else. Sex is 90% of any intimate relationship.

 

[ozraven]

I know exactly what you mean. I'm the same way. I dated a guy once though that wasnt very secure with his sexuality and refused to do a lot of things that would really excite me and made the whole sexual experience (when we got to that point) all about him. And there was no reason behind it other than him being unwilling. That reason in itself made any and all sexual encounters that we had few and far between (not to mention didnt last very long). It's totally different if he's just not able to keep it up long enough to make the experience worthwhile to me, but is willing to try to make it enjoyable in other ways or at least not just about him all the time. but quite honestly, I would opt for no sex over an unwilling partner anyday.

Well put.

I take it then that the sweet and innocent tag is firmly tongue in cheek......so to speak.....

 

[k¡tty]

It's important but it isn't all encompassing either.

If I loved the person and they had difficulties sexually I'd be worried about why.. and I'd suggest that they see a doctor about the problem.

It isn't all just about the orgasm, it's those moments of intimacy before and after that I love as well, but if someone is willing they can help in the other persons climax.. in some way, shape or form.

 

[intrigued]

I see sex as a physical and emotional expression of everything we share, so it is very important to me. It is beautiful, it strengthens the bond and deepens the intimacy, and I can't imagine not sharing this. However, if there were a physical reason that he could not enter me, it would hurt me deeply but I know that we would compensate in other ways so that we both would experience the fulfillment we crave. If the reasons are of some other cause, thats easy to address because anything else can be resolved.